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 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 26
What age does female sexual urge die down?Page 5 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)

As a man, if you'd read, study & educate yourself on a woman's biological features and how they operate, you'd be sure to keep any woman's sex drive up. If you can give a woman the same feelings you get in sex regularily, you'll have no problem keeping in need. You can't take a pill for this like most men think. Few men take these extra steps in life but those who do usually have a happy woman. I'd reccommend; "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner PhD.. Read it till you know it thoroughly.


They sure do grow them smart and CUTE in Texas, don't they Not to mention it looks like we have former firefighter here as well. Steps away to wipe drool from chin

OK, back to the topic. Nick, what am I going to do with you? Here is the the thing, the OP is nothing more than a self proclaimed good ole boy who wants to have sex, right?

He complains about dropping cash on dinner and getting the cold shoulder at the door and sent home unsatisfied, right? I merely suggested that if OP's goal for the evening was to have sex that he should cut out the middle man, or in this case middle woman and take a more direct route to obtaining his goal.

Nick, I know you won't be able to identify with this but the ladies here will, there is nothing worse than a man taking you out for a nice evening where you as a woman are thinking "what a nice guy, he likes me, he is trying to get to know me" only to find out later he bought you that piece of meat, so he could treat you like a piece of meat later. How do you think that feels?
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 27
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:54:07 AM
Simply put, I am tired of wasting efforts on woman who have simply lost interest, & have sex classified as something they USED to enjoy.


This is from OP's original post. To me, this indicates that OP's main goal is sex, not friendship, not dating, but sex.

Perhaps before taking the woman to dinner he should have asked, "if I buy you dinner will you have sex with me?" Maybe he is the one who should be honest before he parts with his cash. Was he honest?

Maybe, the woman lied because OP lacks finesse in courtships skills. Maybe she does enjoy sex, just did not want to have it with him.

As far as my comments about the gentleman from Texas, he is a cute, smart man from Texas who appears to be a former firefigher, that is not sterotypeing, that is paying a compliment to a man who seems to understand women.
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:54:44 PM
Women like sex? Wow!

Reminds me of the old joke "Why is the bride always smiling @ her wedding? - Because she knows shes given her last BJ"

Anyways, just for reference, Jane Fonda is 70 & she openly admits sex is still great.

http://www.laweekly.com/film+tv/film/do-the-jane-fonda/16266/
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 1/1/2008 3:15:14 PM
TOM, go hire a dating expert with the money you feel you are wasting...OR better yet decide what it is EXACTLY that you want, so Nick will not feel so inclined to defend you...

Do ya just wanna get laid, hire a cheap escort... You get laid, she gets paid, everybody is happy and no time wasted...

You want a relationship, then HELLO just like the rest of us you get to jump through hoops, many times they are hoops that feel like one hell of a big waste...

Those of us single and STILL looking wouldn't be here, if we could by pass this perverbial middle step of getting to know the other person, hoping like hell there is a spark....

I have to admit, I have chatted with a rather intriguing fellow... However the thing that is taking away from the whole experiences is his MAJOR hinting of how he wants to get with me.... Yeah, I love the fact that he isn't interested in me as a person, as someone that is funny, educated, talented, kind, NOT... NO he is interested in me as a piece of tail... Then what, on to the next cute piece of tail?

Now the question is, do I play hard to get, and see if he gets a clue and realizes that behind the cute pictures is a real person, one worth while to get to know, or do I just tell him to spend his 100Bucks on a 1900 #, since frankly my impression is he's just looking to get laid...

I can tell ya, I have NOT IN THE LEAST lost my interest in sex... However I have NO INTEREST in being a one nite conquest, and having to fight an octopus off all nite... Makes me tired just thinking about it....
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/1/2008 3:22:57 PM

when does it go up? ...when is exactly the peak?


I think it's different for all women but I would guess the peak starts about 35... not sure when it ends though!
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 31
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/1/2008 4:47:36 PM
Re: post 90: Let me bottom line this for you. There is no set age that women lose their sexual desire, that is why so few posters addressed the question. Furthermore, even if a woman does lose her sexual desire, you can bet the farm that the right man can reawaken her desire.

I am not sure how this woman lied (you know the one who got the free meal), but I think the better question is and really this is for OP, "What might I being doing wrong that I am unable to stir the sexual desires of a woman?"

Sounds like this is not the first time he has been disappointed at the end of the night, what do you think the common denominator for his disappointment might be? No, not the woman's age. His behavior perhaps?

So once again - from the OP's original post:

Simply put, I am tired of wasting efforts on woman who have simply lost interest, & have sex classified as something they USED to enjoy


Translation: If she won't have sex with me, I am not interested in her.
 sarasotagal76
Joined: 6/24/2007
Msg: 32
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:54:19 AM
I totally agree taht there are a lot of women 50-60+ who have a quite drive in that department and enjoy their sexual lives. Despite possible biolgical reasons that may affect a sex drive in different age (for example as some people stated above menopause may shift the drive in either direction) there are some other reasons of more psychological nature that can affect it.

If a woman has some trust issues, strong negative experience with men, not a healthy family environment in a childhood her ability to express her sexual needs may be significantly diminished. Such women have a tendency either jump in a sack right away or make a guy wait for ever. Some women as a protection mechanism believe that all men are dogs and all they want is sex. No matter what a man does and says. They make a man wait endlessly for an access to the golden mine. After he finally leaves they believe that he is just another dog who wants sex...
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 33
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:11:14 PM
Tom, dude, I hate to tell you this, but sexual desire in women does not always "depend" on the "natural urges" of the woman, but on the man who wants to have sex with her.

When a man whom I find desirable makes it known that he is interested sexually in me, my urge is quite strong; when a man whom I do not find desirable makes it known, my desire is zero, zilch, nada, nonexistent, nothing, nowhere.

Perhaps the seemingly multitude of women whom you have dated who have no sexual urges just felt nothing for you. If so, would you have preferred them to say, "Sorry, Tom, you don't turn me on, but Dick does?" You might have felt sexual proclivities toward them, but it doesn't mean that the feeling was reciprocated.

A woman can have an avid interest in sex, but that doesn't mean that every man tickles her fancy, and vice-versa.
 Mosey_Burns
Joined: 6/6/2007
Msg: 34
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/3/2008 10:45:31 AM


Simply put, I am tired of wasting efforts on woman who have simply lost interest, & have sex classified as something they USED to enjoy



Translation: If she won't have sex with me, I am not interested in her.


Well, sex is sort of an important aspect to a romantic relationship. Otherwise it's known as "friendship". ;)
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/4/2008 3:49:03 AM

Well, sex is sort of an important aspect to a romantic relationship. Otherwise it's known as "friendship". ;)


Well DBA, while there is truth to your statement, anyone going on a first date with the expectation that it will end with sex will more than likely be disappointed.

Happy New Year.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 36
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:41:50 PM

Tom, dude, I hate to tell you this, but sexual desire in women does not always "depend" on the "natural urges" of the woman, but on the man who wants to have sex with her.

When a man whom I find desirable makes it known that he is interested sexually in me, my urge is quite strong; when a man whom I do not find desirable makes it known, my desire is zero, zilch, nada, nonexistent, nothing, nowhere


If this be the case, is not this woman playing games for the free entertainment & meals, to ever accept the date invite, in the first place? The point many of you seem to be missing is this New Years Eve date was NOT with a newly met 'fish', but rather a local woman I had known for some time. There is no way I am foolish enuf to invest a hundred buck meal on a newly met `fish'.

To answer the "am I just looking for sex" query, No, not JUST sex, I would like to feel a little something for the woman as a person, too. But, to rephrase it, am I interested in a date, without involving sex, my honest answer is an emphatic NO! I see no point in spending my money on doing things my 'date' wants to do and being on my politest behavior all nite, just for her to tell me "thanks, I had a nice time, bye" at the end of the evening. Well, thanks but I could have had more fun at the stripclub with my hundred.

As for the suggestions that I should just hire a pro for sex, I've tried that and no doubt will again, because it not only takes the gamble out of the evening, it is also, usually, cheaper in the long run. The only fault I find in it, is I am a fellow very much into kissing and oral sex, and anything more than a short peck type kissing is just not done with or by the pro's. Licking the kitty of a pro? I don't think so!

Alas, it seems to me, I am doomed to continue the traditional 'dating' the local women, `using' the pros & occasionally lucking onto a `fish' honest enuf to admit she is looking for a fast f_ck, too. Yes, there are fish like that in these waters. Not nearly enuf, but enuf to keep me here, at least. Tom42149
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/5/2008 2:07:46 PM

To answer the "am I just looking for sex" query, No, not JUST sex, I would like to feel a little something for the woman as a person, too. But, to rephrase it, am I interested in a date, without involving sex, my honest answer is an emphatic NO! I see no point in spending my money on doing things my 'date' wants to do and being on my politest behavior all nite, just for her to tell me "thanks, I had a nice time, bye" at the end of the evening. Well, thanks but I could have had more fun at the stripclub with my hundred.


my dream man!!! a fount of sensitivity, romance, engaging wit, depth, and companionship!
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 38
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:16:44 PM
OP, it would have been useful if you would have stated that this was not your first date with the woman in question. Here's the thing, sex has a different level of importance to different people, I myself will be interested until I go to my grave. However, I think as people get older, important issues come into play much quicker, in my mind sex is an important issue, had the two of you never discussed it before?
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 39
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:09:34 PM
Mizbex, It was the first 'date' date with this lady, however I had spent the last two weeks taking her shopping, to church, & various errands a woman without a car needs to do. Hell, I had even taken her to a family Christmas dinner in a different city, upon her request. (her family) No. sex had not been discussed, as the time had never been right for such a discussion. Right or wrong, I feel this woman played me, only to use the old 'I don't do that no more' line, when the big move time came. Lesson learned is all I can say! Tom the OP
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 40
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:24:28 PM

my dream man!!! a fount of sensitivity, romance, engaging wit, depth, and companionship!


And, besides those endearing qualities, even a fair lay, for an old geezer! However, as I have learnt my lesson, before I take you on the wine/dine tour, we must have the sex discussion. Do you put out? If the answer is NO, please remove yourself from the line!
Tom42149
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 41
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:02:34 AM

Mizbex, It was the first 'date' date with this lady, however I had spent the last two weeks taking her shopping, to church, & various errands a woman without a car needs to do. Hell, I had even taken her to a family Christmas dinner in a different city, upon her request. (her family) No. sex had not been discussed, as the time had never been right for such a discussion. Right or wrong, I feel this woman played me, only to use the old 'I don't do that no more' line, when the big move time came. Lesson learned is all I can say! Tom the OP


Well Tom, I guess the question now that begs to be asked is this, did you do all these good deeds because in the end you thought it would get you laid? I mean what was your agenda going into this? To me it sounds like this started as a friendship, not a romantic relationship and now it sounds like you feel as if you are "Owed" am I getting this right?
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:18:37 AM
Mixbex; No, you are close, but not right on. I made it very plain to this woman, from the first, that I was looking for a 'girlfriend'. Heck, I flat out told her the very first "date". But, did I do the good deeds, hoping to get laid? Hell, yeah! Why else would I have? I did not find it especially enjoyable transporting this woman around to do her errands. Do women really not realize that because they have the kitty, is the only reason men tolerate wasting an afternoon doing this sort of thing? We certainly don't find it 'fun'.

YES, I felt like I was `owed'! If she didn't want to up the kitty, then she should have offered to kick in some gas money, for my running her all over to do her errands. I did not do that because I enjoyed it! In essence, if women can make men jump thro hoops just cause they got the kitty and we don't, why should it be different when we got a car and she don't? Paybacks are a b*tch, huh?
Tom42149
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 43
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 10:41:37 AM

Mixbex; No, you are close, but not right on. I made it very plain to this woman, from the first, that I was looking for a 'girlfriend'. Heck, I flat out told her the very first "date". But, did I do the good deeds, hoping to get laid? Hell, yeah! Why else would I have? I did not find it especially enjoyable transporting this woman around to do her errands. Do women really not realize that because they have the kitty, is the only reason men tolerate wasting an afternoon doing this sort of thing? We certainly don't find it 'fun'.

YES, I felt like I was `owed'! If she didn't want to up the kitty, then she should have offered to kick in some gas money, for my running her all over to do her errands. I did not do that because I enjoyed it! In essence, if women can make men jump thro hoops just cause they got the kitty and we don't, why should it be different when we got a car and she don't? Paybacks are a b*tch, huh?
Tom42149


Shocking the ladies aren't lining up at your door. Was the first date an errand mission or the dinner? How did she respond to your "girlfriend mission?" Was she interested? Certainly she gave you some inclination from the get go what her intentions were, come on Tom, a studly guy like you, can't you read the ladies? So let me see if I have it right this time. She needed some favors, she asked you, you complied on the condition she would have sex with you and then she said no? Something is not right here, there was some mis-communication between the two of you somewhere.


Do women really not realize that because they have the kitty, is the only reason men tolerate wasting an afternoon doing this sort of thing?


No, women do not realize this, because there are a lot of men that I will refer to as gentlmen who are truly interested in having a relationship with a woman for other reasons than just sex. I realize this is not in your "good old boy" way of thinking, but believe or not some men actually like women. Now more than ever I stand by my original suggest to you, get out the wallet and dial up.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 44
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:34:30 AM
Mizbex; One last reply to you, because we are obviously on different wavelengths. The first (and last!) 'date' date was the dinner, the errands all came before that, as my foolish way of showing her, I was interested in more than just sex with her. So, she promptly put this information to use, by considering a thank you at the door, enough in return for a date to the best resturant around?

No, I did not state that I would do the favors in exchange for sex. Are you implying that I need to carry around contracts with me, to get this commitment in writing, each time? Granted, that might not be a bad idea, but I hardly think it will work.

You would make a very convincing advertising agent, for the Professional' ladies of the evening'. Just conversing with you on this matter has me thinking you are probably right, & a pro would be my best option. At least, it would eliminate all the BS, and also ensure getting one who would make it worth the doing. And, I just happen to have the local pimps cell phone number, right here. I must go now, I have things to do. And, don't expect to need the contract, this time! Tom
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 45
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 1:09:06 PM
No Tom, we are not on different wavelengths at all. I totally get your number but that doesn't really matter seeing that you have the only number you will be needing for a very long time. Cheers.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 46
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:45:20 PM
My sexual urge would die the second I met someone like the OP, or with that type of attitude towards women. Sheesh!

Good thing is it'd only die down temporarily. It'd be fired back up on meeting someone like my SO, who actually likes women (and people in general, men, too) and doesn't do things for me or treat me to a lovely evening for any other purpose than enjoying being with me. Not for the sole purpose of anteing up the kitty, as was so crudely put. Sounds like a closet misogynist. *shiver*

Funny thing I enjoy doing things for him and with him because I so enjoy being with him. Just one of the things that makes us so incredibly compatible.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 47
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:41:16 PM
And, us poor cretins on a dating site need to hear how wonderful your relationship is, why? Are we all supposed to fall to our knees, begging to hear how it's done? Come back after your 50th anniversry and MAYBE some will! Still not very likely, though. Tom
 mizbex
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 48
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 4:31:57 PM

And, I just happen to have the local pimps cell phone number, right here. I must go now, I have things to do. And, don't expect to need the contract, this time! Tom


I guess no one answered and now someone is very cranky.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 49
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/6/2008 4:50:10 PM
Damn pimp never paid his phone bill, and got it shut off I have the worst luck in the world!! Poor Tom:
I can't even buy it, it seems.
 Mosey_Burns
Joined: 6/6/2007
Msg: 50
What age does female sexual urge die down?
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:47:36 AM
Same to you Mizbex. Hope to see you around the forums more often.
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