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 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?Page 16 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
Please give us more credit than believing and thinking that all men are just lust buckets, with tiny brains located between their legs.......

This is the same old thinking and attitude that so needs to go away and allow 2008 to actually move into our lives and our brains.

This is the kind of attitude that thinks women give it up to fast, and men can not do anything but screw everyone and everything around them.

It is the same antiquated attitude that comes up that all women want money and security, and men will give it to them if they lay down and spread their legs.......

We ALL feel......we all try......and most of us do care, even if our thought processes are not the same, and the roads we travel somewhat different.....we do end up in the same place and happy about it.

OT......I am a man that seeks a woman to enjoy as an equal in my life, walking by my side, and sharing what share, feeling what I feel, and happy to be there with me.

I cringe at the attitudes so many have when it comes to what they believe is the make up of a man or woman today, when it is just not the case.

Just my opinion.......
 JohnieTheWiseGuy
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 335
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/8/2008 10:13:21 PM

Please give us more credit than believing and thinking that all men are just lust buckets, with tiny brains located between their legs.......


YEAH,I AGREE...WHAT HE SAID...and we won't even discuss the men who are scumbags,with no brains or balls between their legs...that would be going too far and it wouldn't be nice...

RatzoRico.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 337
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:16:34 AM

2 years is a long time to be with someone and don't know what it is all about...

Two years is a "relationship" that didn't work out. No big deal. Many marriages don't last that long.

And the topic question is silly. Of course men feel something. Nobody is "emotionless." It sounds like the OP isn't willing to take responsibility for her own choices - choices made over and over - in the matter.
 bocaguy3
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 347
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 9/30/2008 2:35:47 PM
Not all men .. You need to get know someone 1st
 knees999
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:37:23 AM
Yes, I believe that is what men so lovingly like to call "friends with benefits" which covers all their physcial needs and disregards a woman's emotional needs if there are any. Don't stick around because women usually change often, men are happy usually the way they are and do NOT change. A lot of women think they can change a man. Ladies, if he is not the way you want him when you find him, either take him the way he is or MOVE ON!
 knees999
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:38:24 AM
The things is sometimes women think the man's feeling will change and go along with the FWB thing and they don't so don't fool yourself.
 observer902
Joined: 1/13/2009
Msg: 361
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:52:11 AM
Men don't neccessarily require emotion to have sex. as long as they can find something attractive about the person, they can go for it. Lots of women claim they can also do the same, but experience hasn't shown that to be the case.
 BrianMc777
Joined: 12/24/2008
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/27/2009 11:35:58 PM
Dump this emotionless dirt ball and find somebody else. If you aren't his "girlfriend", what are you?
 Go Rin No Sho
Joined: 1/9/2009
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/27/2009 11:55:23 PM
Let's see...he's your best friend , you see each other every day, go on holidays together, but you still want the coveted title of "G (with a capital G)irlfriend, because you gave it up two years ago?

File this one under the "Uses Sex to Better Imaginary Position" folder....
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 376
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/28/2009 1:39:54 AM
By the sound of your first post OP, you knew you were FWB material, he told you this flat out. I suspect you were bargaining, and hoping that he will become more of true boyfriend/partner over time and that he develops some feeling for you. I also suspect that you were hoping to receive all that by continuing sleeping with him. But I believe this cannot happen this way. There must be genuine interest, and desire at the very beginning of the relationship. You think of yourself as less. I suggest to pick up your pieces and end the affair going to nowhere and then do some real work on yourself.
 BrianMc777
Joined: 12/24/2008
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/28/2009 6:47:54 AM
He is still getting what he wants, but you're not getting what you want anymore. Move on!
 fetish4u
Joined: 4/18/2007
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/28/2009 11:37:42 AM
Of course men feel emotionally when they have sex.I love my girlfriend so for me it's not
just physical.Every man is different just like every woman is different.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/28/2009 11:45:16 AM
We feel.......and we feel a lot, just not the way most women might feel when it comes to sex.

I think men view and feel more that sex is an "act" that happens because you enjoy it, and most women have the tendency to view sex much more as the end result of their emotions.

We end up in the same place, just via different paths of getting there.......nothing right or wrong with it, just how we overall are wired.

You see.......I can feel much and enjoy much with a woman and still not feel the "in love" thing that so many seem to be searching for. I can be caring, giving, concerned, and overall very pleased with the one I am with, in and out of bed, and yet not feel with my heart to the point that it is controlled by the "L" word.

The difference now, for me at least, is that even though the act of sex is still very very important to me, waking up and wanting that person to still be there is just as important as getting them in bed, in the first place.

Maybe this is one of the best maturing parts of experience and aging, and the one I am with can tell in many ways that I am far from emotionless, and show it many times, and in many ways, and it does not have to be tied to love at all, but much more that ever illusive compatibility and chemistry.

Just my opinion........
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 385
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/28/2009 1:41:07 PM
I think what you are describing above m church and what the other poster is referring to derives from numbness. This numbness comes from disassociation, not allowing ourselves to feel good, because we are afraid to feel joy and pleasure. We believe if we feel that (pleasure and joy) we will get hurt. The conclusion is it comes from fear. But ego is very clever, because it will project onto others, - blaming previous experiences for it- so we don't have to take responsibility for ourselves. What's the end result? More suffering and unhappy feelings. 2 cents, La Gioconda
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:29:02 PM
I've never thought men had no emotions...they are human, most humans ( barring anti social psychopaths) have emotions..

But...I think it is fair to say that there are often differences in how men and women process or express emotions...and this is where the disconnects often happen...
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 410
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Posted: 4/14/2009 12:11:43 PM
Men? emotions? feelings? A real man don't feel pain or emotion. A real man can cure cancer with his own tears - but a real man would never cry, either.

Real men don't feel anything when having sex. A real man doesn't 'cum.' He finishes up and leaves.

A real man will bang a broad while reading the newspaper.

Real men don't care.

Real men.

Real.

Baby powder.
 Verissa
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 411
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 4/14/2009 12:19:40 PM

So men dont fall in love when they have sex over a long period of time...?

I think its different for women... its harder not to get emotionally involved.


It is different if you want it to be different. I have had a few "friends" over the years that I adore and have had sex with but do not love romantically in the least. Yet my husband, whom I had no intention at first of falling in love with at first, I fell for fast and it hit me like a ton of bricks to the point that I cannot see my life without him. Now what makes him different from the other men I honestly do not know..he is no sweeter, no kinder, no better looking..he is just different in the fact that I fell head over heels in love with him.
 Slip_Kid
Joined: 3/9/2009
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 4/14/2009 7:59:02 PM
My advice to you:

Cut him off and see if he gets emotional then!
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 4/20/2009 9:59:06 PM
I do not differentiate sex/intercourse from love/emotional bonding. That apparently makes me an odd duck. From so many of the comments in this thread there seems to be a prevailing thought that women and fleshlights are equivalent. Ick.

I am not, never have been, never will be a sexual satyr (not necessarily redundant). I do not view sex as a mechanical function void of emotion. It is a bonding / joyful act between (and with this next phrase I'm realize I'm way out in right field) a married man and woman. To me sex is special and should be treated and affirmed as something almost sacred; not to be casually tossed around like a virgin condom. Yeah, I know, I'm an odd duck.

TK; quack, quack
 Romantic man here
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 432
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Posted: 7/2/2011 4:44:20 PM
There has to be romantic feelings for sex to be good for me. One can't generalize a gender men or women that broadly.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/3/2011 6:26:40 PM
Post #436


Well said.... an ideal lover practices Tantric like methods
 bayliner1102
Joined: 11/26/2007
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Posted: 7/3/2011 9:59:07 PM
I will be honest, I don't have sex with a lady unless I feel something with her. I guess I am old fashion
 CharWebb
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 8/14/2011 8:00:38 AM
It's all just physical for men. They can sleep with someone and feel absolutely NO EMOTIONAL attachment whatsoever. Women on the other hand...fall 'in love' far too quickly - assuming that the man is actually interested in them!
Having been on the receiving end of just such a relationship..I would advocate any woman to simply WAIT and test the emotional waters first. It's really nasty to think someone is emotionally mature enough to want more...and realize after you've been physical...that he simply is not there.

Oh...and ladies...just cuz you sleep with a guy...doesn't mean he won't suddenly have an EX pop back into the picture. Or keep looking for another woman. Or keep dating other women. Wake up....
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/14/2011 8:51:38 AM

They can sleep with someone and feel absolutely NO EMOTIONAL attachment whatsoever.


Thank you for sleeping with all of the men on the planet. I must have been out that week, thankfully.

You paint with a very broad brush, your man picker must be broken.


Oh...and ladies...just cuz you sleep with a guy...doesn't mean he won't suddenly have an EX pop back into the picture. Or keep looking for another woman. Or keep dating other women. Wake up....


See..told you your man picker was broken. Experience speaking?
 yourstillhere
Joined: 7/30/2008
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Seriously!
Posted: 12/3/2011 6:16:59 PM
of course we feel something.

you wont find too many men who fake their orgasms.
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