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 Masked_Hero
Joined: 12/14/2003
Msg: 262
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?Page 3 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
I feel where your come'n from Height... Ofcourse you can never use the word "ALL" but this is defenatly a huge difference between male and female (AS A WHOLE ) yes there are exceptions !!! But a guy can have sex with a woman and have absolutly NO feelings about it.. Where as in most cases the woman needs some type of emotional connectoin.. Which COULD be not saying it is... Coud be a big reason why if a man cheats on a woman or sleeps around its pretty much swept under a rug.. Where as if a woman does it.. She's a .... Clinton get's his Dyck sucked we laugh we joke about it he's the cool dude.. If his wife was fuk'n a a guy in the secret service.. I don't think it would have been viewed the same way.. Now that I think about it... There's a movie with Michael Douglas Where he's a member of the secret service and fuk'n the First Lady.. Yeah that didn't go over very well LOL
 pathwalker49
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 263
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/14/2008 1:21:11 PM
Kristie,
Don't know who he is but by what you said I expect that he has just been using u as a convenience. Obvoiusly he knows you loved him and has simply been exploiting you, I'm glad u never got any diseases from him because he's probably using other women to.
It hasn't anything to do with when you gave it up, but more about his inability to be a committed lover in your life.
Have to admit that sex with a one night stand I like doesn't engender a lot of feeling outside of sexual pleasure and once it's over I occassionally think about her but any feelings are very superficial.
Sex with a woman I love includes a lot of good feelings both emotionally and physically.
That's why it's so much more satisfying than transitorial physical enjoyments.
 chwhite2007
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 270
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/23/2008 2:20:06 PM
why do women come on here already seeing someone else???????
 redneckI
Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 271
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:35:03 PM
I can only speak from my on experiences. When I have had sex with no emotional attachment, it was good, but when there was an emotional attachment it was fanastic. I look for the emotional attachment now before I look for sex, it is that much more satisfying for me. When the lady also had an emotional attachment to me the sex was out of this world.
 JWork25
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 273
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:10:41 PM
I'm VERY emotional. It has gotten me hurt really bad in the past. So, this is definitely not a gender issue.
 hearttwoheart
Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 281
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:44:12 AM
You've got to be kidding. You have a pic with your boobs on public display & want to know why men only want you for sex??? Men are visual creatures so unfortunately the boob pic is going to only draw the physical attraction(s). Your guy friend is doing what the average guy would do if a woman gave up the goods on the first date. The first thing any man would think is "Easy & who else had it?" No one who gets to go home & meet mom. I'm shocked he stayed around for 2 yrs. No strings attached or not. If you dont have any respect for yourself, dont expect anyone else to either. Good luck!
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 290
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/26/2008 9:13:01 AM

Not just something that happens to women. Nowadays men get used too.

Being inconsiderate is not restricted to either gender. We all can "use" people and many of us do it every day. I had a relationship that I thought was "going somewhere," but like the OP, my "friend" could never come to calling me "boy friend." She reminded me time and time again that "we are not a couple."

I didn't listen and got hurt.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 291
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/26/2008 9:34:40 AM
Sex and love are two different things. Even when I have had sex with a man I loved I am not thinking all sorts of emotional lovy dovy things while we are having sex. Honestly not thinking about much of anything other than what is at hand. How did sex get so mixed up with love?

If you are seeing each other everyday and going on holidays together, he might not call you his girlfriend, but you are his girlfriend. If it was just sex, he would just be having sex with you and then take his real girlfriend for holidays.
 oc_jon1965
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 292
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:11:40 AM
thats a REALLY good question . . .

and a really good point that he can't accept ,
and crown you with a "Girlfriend" title . . .

is he feeling something? yes . . 2 years hanging out
together , there is something about you he
doesn't want to give up (not talking about sex)

but really...after 2 years . .somebody has to get serious
here and define the relationship more formally
(as in BF/GF . . or end it)

that....would be your task..



 Yuckmowth
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 300
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:05:09 AM
Depends how good the sex is.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 318
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Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:36:09 AM
Of course they do! Good romp stirs them on the inside and makes them lovingly perspire on the outside. How joyful and enjoyable?! Some might come across as hiding their emotions, some give them away when coming back for more. Magic of subtlety and perplexity.
 grapevine
Joined: 10/2/2005
Msg: 320
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:12:15 AM
$#%#$^#^%#!!! GRRRRR!!!!!

I can't believe it's 2008 and we're still admonishing women that she "gave it away too easily."

Well, guess what? He "gave it away too easily" too. How freaking SEXIST can you get? Women don't always feel emotion (that is, fall in love or have feelings of love) when having sex with a guy, but we're EXPECTED to, or at least expected to say we do because, if we don't, we end up getting insipid comments like the one above.

If we have sex on the first date (or "soon"), then get dumped by the guy, or it's obvious he doesn't "care," what's the first thing people think:

1. That she gave it away "too easily."

and/or

2. That she's a whore.

and/or

3. That's she gullible and naive.

I don't believe for one second that all men don't have any emotions when making love/having sex with a woman any more than I believe that all women fall madly in love with every man she sleeps with and dreams of a "happily ever after" with him. Bullshit. I have only been in love with three men in my entire life, and I've had sex with a lot more than that. But did I feel emotions? Of course I did! I'm a human being and, as such, there is no separating the emotional from the physicial, the psychological from the spiritual. They are separate, yes, but equal. It's a package deal.

Men, from the time they are boys, are conditioned to be "emotionless." Well, in quotes because obviously they can't be "without emotion," short of being a sociopath. (And some, I've wondered about) but men very much have emotions and I've become convinced that, although women do wear their heart on their sleeve a lot more than men do, men are far more ill-equipped to deal with their feelings than women are. So, rather than admit any kind of "weakness" on their part, they'll just deny that it "meant anything to them" at all.

Anyone who says there is no emotion involved whatsoever during sex (or anything else, for that matter) is a liar. But don't confuse "emotion" and "feelings" with "being in love," necessarily.

If there was any "mistake" made by sleeping with the guy "too soon," and he judged you for that and abandoned you for that, he's a player and a jerk and a hypocrite and obviously wasn't right for you to begin with.

On the other hand, he could be a good guy who also made the mistake of sleeping with you too soon. If people are going to blame, then let's put blame where blame is due -- on BOTH parties, not just on the woman.

If sex is the emotional "deal sealer" (and for some it is; usually women) then the woman needs to get a grip and realize that having sex with someone is not necessarily a precursor to walking down the aisle. And men who are just playing women emotionally in order to get laid should be ashamed of themselves. There are too many women available for "just sex" that you don't need to go around hurting women who might be easily influenced by your false charm.

Bottom line? If two people have sex with each other on the first date, and a relationship doesn't ensue from it, and there are guilt or hurt feelings about that, BOTH of you slept together too soon BEFORE you gave the relationship time to grow and for real feelings of love, etc., to develop.


As far as the "FWB" thing...if you've been seeing this guy for two years, you ARE his girlfriend. I don't give a damn what he says. And if he's not willing to consider you as such, you should give him an ultimatum: either admit to some level of commitment/emotion on his part, or you'll walk. And then do that. He's stringing you along BECAUSE YOU'RE LETTING HIM!

Friends with benefits? Ha!

Well, guess what? He's the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) and you're BENEFIT!!!
 JohnieTheWiseGuy
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 321
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:40:39 AM
I think we need a translation here as to probably what really happened more down at street level!

You met a guy 2 years ago on a different dating website...got drunk like most people who have sex on the first date because they're not thinking straight or are either loose or openly/dishonestly seeking that since most don't even have any concerns about STD's...you got on great because you were both buzzed and went back to his place to do the Nookie Wookie.After he got what he wanted he said that he was not looking for a relationship just "friends with benefits" as I doubt he was in the long-term category and you believe the problem is based on emotionless sex...dah...you probably spend more time buying a car or deciding what fruits you're going to buy than the men you pick...you never even asked for the terms or took time to know what you were getting yourself into and now years later you're still wondering why he won't call you his girlfriend...he's getting free Nookie Wookie,seeing you every day without having to deal with a real relationship (as I'm assuming you don't live together),just going on holidays together for fun where you now admit you made a mistake sleeping with him in the first place and I hate to tell you this but you just answered your own question and gave yourself a solution also...take responsibility for your own life/actions instead of trying to find ridiculous reasons for your own mistakes.

In short,forget the psycho-babble people are giving you...both men/women are just the same...some have emotions...some don't.....fact is you had sex on the first night,you had a good time and you get along...still...he told you you're just a friend with benefits with no interest of making you his girlfriend and you feel used...what does that tell you...has nothing to do with emotionless sex...if you want to be called a girlfriend go find yourself a boyfriend that cares by being smarter next time or quit complaining if you decide to stay because you allowed this to happen.

Affectionately yours,
RatzoRico
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 330
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Posted: 8/8/2008 12:24:00 PM
Please give us more credit than believing and thinking that all men are just lust buckets, with tiny brains located between their legs.......

This is the same old thinking and attitude that so needs to go away and allow 2008 to actually move into our lives and our brains.

This is the kind of attitude that thinks women give it up to fast, and men can not do anything but screw everyone and everything around them.

It is the same antiquated attitude that comes up that all women want money and security, and men will give it to them if they lay down and spread their legs.......

We ALL feel......we all try......and most of us do care, even if our thought processes are not the same, and the roads we travel somewhat different.....we do end up in the same place and happy about it.

OT......I am a man that seeks a woman to enjoy as an equal in my life, walking by my side, and sharing what share, feeling what I feel, and happy to be there with me.

I cringe at the attitudes so many have when it comes to what they believe is the make up of a man or woman today, when it is just not the case.

Just my opinion.......
 JohnieTheWiseGuy
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 335
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/8/2008 10:13:21 PM

Please give us more credit than believing and thinking that all men are just lust buckets, with tiny brains located between their legs.......


YEAH,I AGREE...WHAT HE SAID...and we won't even discuss the men who are scumbags,with no brains or balls between their legs...that would be going too far and it wouldn't be nice...

RatzoRico.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 337
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:16:34 AM

2 years is a long time to be with someone and don't know what it is all about...

Two years is a "relationship" that didn't work out. No big deal. Many marriages don't last that long.

And the topic question is silly. Of course men feel something. Nobody is "emotionless." It sounds like the OP isn't willing to take responsibility for her own choices - choices made over and over - in the matter.
 bocaguy3
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 347
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 9/30/2008 2:35:47 PM
Not all men .. You need to get know someone 1st
 knees999
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 358
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Posted: 3/20/2009 9:37:23 AM
Yes, I believe that is what men so lovingly like to call "friends with benefits" which covers all their physcial needs and disregards a woman's emotional needs if there are any. Don't stick around because women usually change often, men are happy usually the way they are and do NOT change. A lot of women think they can change a man. Ladies, if he is not the way you want him when you find him, either take him the way he is or MOVE ON!
 knees999
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 359
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Posted: 3/20/2009 9:38:24 AM
The things is sometimes women think the man's feeling will change and go along with the FWB thing and they don't so don't fool yourself.
 observer902
Joined: 1/13/2009
Msg: 361
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:52:11 AM
Men don't neccessarily require emotion to have sex. as long as they can find something attractive about the person, they can go for it. Lots of women claim they can also do the same, but experience hasn't shown that to be the case.
 BrianMc777
Joined: 12/24/2008
Msg: 373
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Posted: 3/27/2009 11:35:58 PM
Dump this emotionless dirt ball and find somebody else. If you aren't his "girlfriend", what are you?
 Go Rin No Sho
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 374
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Posted: 3/27/2009 11:55:23 PM
Let's see...he's your best friend , you see each other every day, go on holidays together, but you still want the coveted title of "G (with a capital G)irlfriend, because you gave it up two years ago?

File this one under the "Uses Sex to Better Imaginary Position" folder....
 BrianMc777
Joined: 12/24/2008
Msg: 377
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Posted: 3/28/2009 6:47:54 AM
He is still getting what he wants, but you're not getting what you want anymore. Move on!
 fetish4u
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 382
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Posted: 3/28/2009 11:37:42 AM
Of course men feel emotionally when they have sex.I love my girlfriend so for me it's not
just physical.Every man is different just like every woman is different.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 3/28/2009 11:45:16 AM
We feel.......and we feel a lot, just not the way most women might feel when it comes to sex.

I think men view and feel more that sex is an "act" that happens because you enjoy it, and most women have the tendency to view sex much more as the end result of their emotions.

We end up in the same place, just via different paths of getting there.......nothing right or wrong with it, just how we overall are wired.

You see.......I can feel much and enjoy much with a woman and still not feel the "in love" thing that so many seem to be searching for. I can be caring, giving, concerned, and overall very pleased with the one I am with, in and out of bed, and yet not feel with my heart to the point that it is controlled by the "L" word.

The difference now, for me at least, is that even though the act of sex is still very very important to me, waking up and wanting that person to still be there is just as important as getting them in bed, in the first place.

Maybe this is one of the best maturing parts of experience and aging, and the one I am with can tell in many ways that I am far from emotionless, and show it many times, and in many ways, and it does not have to be tied to love at all, but much more that ever illusive compatibility and chemistry.

Just my opinion........
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