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 TEXASBANDIT
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 459
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!Page 7 of 45    (5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45)
If you can be trick into having sex, then there need to be a law against you,
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 461
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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/15/2008 4:26:37 PM
Who tricks you into having sex? Either you both want it or you don't. Stop jumping into bed with every guy you meet. Be selective and go slow and these problems will go away.
 Ivie36605
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 464
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Posted: 1/15/2008 5:50:26 PM
[He was a pretty dumb hypnotist. That or he developed a God complex]

I hadn't thought about the idea of his possible "God complex". I think that's very possible since he tried to convince me that he was my "MASTER" by saying it repeatedly. He makes a major part of his living as a hypnotist and obviously is doing well financially.
I think that there should be laws against trying to use a technique such as hypnosis for his own sexual entertainment or pleasure.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 466
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:34:51 PM
They used to have chastity laws like this, where sex by false promise (the promise of marriage) was in fact illegal. Then, women realized it was patronizing for the state to insist that women were so naïve and week minded that they needed state interference in their lives.

Soon after, we women even got the right to vote! These days, we have our own jobs, we can open our own bank accounts, we're even allowed out late at night Without a male escort.

You should probably start accepting the responsibilities that go along with these rights. They might get taken away, if you're that willing to give them up.
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 468
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:54:26 PM

hey asyndneymale....I know it sounded cruel on the forums, but lets be real eh? Thanks for the compliment on my uniform..the firegirl inside is pretty good too...you are fun...write to me if you wish..have a safe trip!
Warm smiles,
Tamara -jeanieweeman


Thanks for the kind reply Tamara, although it seems there are others that have made it their business to have my original post to you deleted.

I'm just wondering why that's so because I can't recall saying anything particularly offensive.
 SwampHunter
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 474
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:06:29 AM
Folks, as usual, people as SO caught up in criticizing the OP that we're failing to address the real issue here.

If someone lures you into a relationship, and you later learn almost everything about them, and who they represented themselves to be, is a total lie, and you are damaged as a result, should they be held accountable for it? I think yes, they should. I think that is FRAUD.

I'm not talking about two people who are honest with one another but the relationship just doesn't work out. That's the breaks. I'm talking about people like my ex who claimed to have a Phd in Clinical Neuropharmacology - but didn't - and claimed to be divorced - but wasn't. I'm talking about people who will tell ANY lie to get what they want, and usually what they want is either sex or money, or both.

Mark
 SwampHunter
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 478
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 11:42:59 AM
Thanks Amber_eyes4u. I tried to email you privately to thank you for your kind words but can't cause I'm too far away! :)

Mark
 huronbraxx
Joined: 9/18/2007
Msg: 481
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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 1:19:02 PM
indeed i believe this kind of violation of trust should be the same as rape but the problem is trying to press charges on a concensual sexual encounter, really you ned a foolproof way of getting the absolute truth on the matter i order to be able to adress it with a laws and i damn well hope that happens, i mean a lie detector test isn't 100%


b@stard:"hey babe i'll marry you if you give me some right now"
sincere beautiful victim:"okay i love you"

*behind closed doors night of hot sex*

sincere beautiful victim"*wakes up* huh where is h....*looks at the pillow beside her to find a note thanking her for the hot sex and saying goodbye*"

come now seriously, how many women get pregnant by these..... okay i must stop i'm about to get vulgar enough to be banned i've said my piece.
 ExplosiveSheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 488
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:28:59 PM

Next thing you'll want is a Constitutional Amendment to keep your feelings from being hurt.
That kind of crap is already in the works, that's the essense of Political Correctness I'd say.

We had Conana O'Brien come up to Canada about a year or 2 ago, I like that show the man is one of the greats, anyway they had triumph the insult comic dog go to Quebec at some point, half of them can't speak english, he said "This is North America learn to speak the language." and I'm not kidding you, they were trying to ban Conan from ever coming back because of that. Canada gets made fun of plenty in American Television, we do our fair share back, but literally they were talking about giving Conan a Fine because he insulted french "culture."

You literally can't make a joke these days without offending someone, believe me, they can find a way to claim they're only offended because of sexism, ageism, racism, culture bashing... We aren't allowed to dissagree anymore.
 flowerforce
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 490
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:50:36 PM
I have never seen an indicator on a persons forehead that says trixter. None of us know when we come across a person who will us us in a way we do not want. The only thing we can do is watch for the red flags and be suspicious if we see them. There are lots of people who have their own agenda regarding sex and relationships. Having sex with someone does not guarantee a loving relationship. Just remember there are a lot of really great fellows out here who are sincere about wanting to be in relationship. Also remember we participate in having sex with someone and must take responsibility for our choice to do so even if we get dropped soon after the event. When we discover we have made a mistake (mis-take) ie. we have taken a situation the wrong way we have the choice to do a re-take. This may mean feeling the hurt and anger and then move on. There will always be people who will be hurtful
and/or misleading out there.That does not mean we need to remain hurt angry and mistrustful. So if it were me I would be saying NEXT! and getting on with my purpose in being here which is to find my Mr Wonderful.
 fixer 1234
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 492
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 5:09:07 PM
well it takes 2 to tango and there's no trick - here's something to think about - every person weather male or female wears camouflage you are the one who has to see thru it
 gonzofanmel
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 496
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Posted: 1/17/2008 8:26:16 AM
I'd like to know how this would even stand up in the court of law, if such a silly law existed. Basically it would be a "he said/she said" situation. What kind of evidence could you present to show that you were "tricked?" Honestly!

 WHYBUYA
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 503
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Posted: 1/17/2008 10:30:15 AM
Can you spell fornication? What is more 'doggish' than that? When in doubt...GET MARRIED!!!
 AceOfSpace
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 518
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Posted: 1/18/2008 8:35:32 AM

to me, when a man does the disappearing act after sex.. all he is a COWARD


This is much closer to the truth. Sigh ...

Can't legislate against that!
 smileee4u
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 524
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Posted: 1/18/2008 6:31:41 PM
I let a police officer in my home once. We was an instructor at a Defensive Driving Course... you know, traffic school. My husband had left me, after a twenty-year military career marriage. It had been only seven weeks since my X left me. During traffic school, this cop (instructor), asked if anyone wanted to have lunch with him. Of course, I volunteered. I poured my heart out to him over lunch, exchanged cards, and he called over the next few days. He ended up raping me at my house a week later.
 Born2bewild62
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 532
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Posted: 1/18/2008 7:59:18 PM
That's all we need- another law or regulation to have to worry about. If we're going to punish guys for tricking a girl into an intimate encounter- then why not laws to punish girls for leading someone on with the promise of sex or anyone stringing someone along for the remote hope of a relationship? Where would it end. As frustrating as this is now, it would not be worth the loss of freedom in exchange for an elusive promise to make the world a better place.

Now on the other hand, a law to hold politicians responsible for keeping their promises. as another contributer suggested- sounds rather appealing!

JF
 mybestfriends
Joined: 12/15/2007
Msg: 538
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:56:44 PM
I personally had a friend who committed suicide because she was tricked into giving her emotions and sex. To hell to him who did it to her. But I personally think that women should understand the nature of men before playing with online dating. God helps those who help themselves. men will say anything to get a woan to bed. They may even sincerely mean it that moment and then ask themselves after the act "What have I done?" Hence my view is that laws do not really work.Woman just have to be more prudent.
 PurpleCrayon~
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 542
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:17:57 PM
I have to confess that I did not read all 22 (or however many) pages of this thread. The title, in and of itself, is explanatory enough to warrant my thoughts.

Is this for real????????????

Guess our court system isn't already bogged down with things which should be COMMON SENSE action/reaction matters.
 Peekamoose
Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 546
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/19/2008 7:50:08 AM
Of course there should be laws!
Oh,and lets have laws that protect people when they pay to much for a car.What about a blanket law that protects anybody anytime they ever make a mistake or bad decision or used bad judgment or "tricked' into anything? What a concept!Just think-a person dates a woman (humor me here of course because EVERYONE knows it's only men that misrepresent,right?) and she really wants just sex and the guy wants a relationship.He feels fooled!
So,off you go to the local courthouse and file your papers.In the section where you would provide a description of the incident,you write: " I really wanted a relationship.She also said she did.I really liked here and we had sex.Then she stopped answering my calls.She was just in it for sex and I feel so stupid and used".Wow!
Even in a contract ie: marriage,there's no law that says you have to stay together.That's what divorce is for.
So perhaps of singing the old worn out song about guys being players (because,we know,women NEVER are...) why don't you start empowering yourself and other women by stopping this victim role.How about using better judgment?The problem is YOUR judgment,not the men.YOU'RE letting yourself get fooled.
How about a law that bans the incessant,droning ,whining , complaining , male bashing that goes on every time a woman is disappointed.We'll call it First Degree Stupidity.
 Peekamoose
Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 548
Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:52:05 PM
Thank you thank you Amber....I knew there were plenty of intelligent women out there that would see my point.No one (even guys!) likes to feel taken advantage of but suggesting that having sex under a false pretense ie "being talked into it' can be considered some sort of rape is absurd of course.And someone who commits suicide because of a relationship is tragic of course,but speaks to a troubled,vulnerable soul who needed help well before someone " talked' her out of her panties.The simple truth is players come in BOTH genders and CANNOT exist without people who can be played.And as long as women keep up the bashing and see themselves as victims they continue to dis-empower themselves.
I admit to be conned a few times in my life by women.Who do I blame? No one.I was hurt,angry,but hopefully learned and moved on and don't lump all women into one category.
Just look at how many women's profiles say "no players' and 'tired of the games"!
Hey,we ALL are but as long as a person keeps identifying themselves as a victim these types of profiles will always be out there.I challenge women (and men) to keep "players' out of their lives by getting SMARTER.
Thanks again,Amber!
 BlahGrim
Joined: 1/29/2004
Msg: 550
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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:23:11 PM
No. I don't think it should be. How about talking someone into buying something not in their best interest? I certainly think this kind of behavior is low, but where would you stop with this kinda rational for criminality? And how could a country as over-legalized and full of rampant crime possibly deal with this issue? Could your local police force handle this volume of "Crime"? How would you even prove it? Promises of the heart cannot be reviewed later to see if the person was lying. They could have been sincere at the time.
 Peekamoose
Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 551
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Posted: 1/19/2008 8:00:40 PM
Are we going to compare being "tricked" into spending/giving money to a private relationship between two people?
Actually,there aren't laws to protect the former unless it's a breach of contract .What i would suggest is next time you're ready to drop trousers,draw up a contract,perhaps stating something like "You will never leave me after we have sex.Having sex this one time binds you to me forever". Then,have both parties sign on the dotted line.
My prediction is the next pathetic unrealistic thread will read something like "Why won't anyone have sex with me?".
Read what people are saying: If you let yourself get tricked into things-weather sex or giving to a phony charity-it is YOU that hasn't done homework.I say it again: Empower yourself and stop being a victim.If you're grown up enough to voluntarily take off your panties then be grown up enough to take the good-and bad-that may result-and not look to your government to regulate morality.
I'd like laws that would hold Bush accountable for his lies,but that isn't very realistic is it? The people swallowed his garbage and VOTED for him.
Drop your panties and enjoy yourself because you've made good judgment about the person with whom you're having sex.If it's a mistake,get angry,get hurt,but for god's sake grow up and move on and don't compare having sex with paying too much for a washing machine at Home Depot.
 justme1124
Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 562
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Posted: 1/19/2008 11:50:34 PM
it depends ,did he have erection insurance?
 this_is_my_stupid_name
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 575
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:08:55 AM
There is a law for it, it's called the underage sex law. If you are an adult and still stupid enough to fall for things like that then blame yourself not the other person. I myself am always blunt and don't lie to get what I want and therefore I am not fond of those that do lie or even embellish the truth. But let's face it, you should be smart enough to make these judgments or live with the consequences, not whine about it and think of it as being "tricked" ..... at least call it outsmarted, because you would be the dumb one for falling for it.
 dogs rule
Joined: 10/12/2007
Msg: 576
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:37:27 AM

you missing my point karla and totally overlooking what im on about! what if a guy strings a woman along for months on the belief he loves her and she falls in love with him also and feels ok and ready to have a sexual encounter with him...but all along shes just a sexual conquest to him and nothing more! then dumps her when he,s had what he wanted!? i have many female friends who have been soul destroyed by this,, they wasnt forced into sex...the vital point is they were (TRICKED)


Ok, I don't get it. If he strung her along for months, he was working awful hard just for sex. It would seem to me he has done plenty of things for her in the months. Most guys that just want sex can go out and find it that night. But to make it a law to trick someone in to sex? How many broken hearted lovers would be claiming they were tricked. My ex lived off me till she saved up enough money for her own house, I guess she tricked me in to all that sex we had darn the luck!
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