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 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
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I'm past middle age, but will answer that as I put that in my original profile.

What a man thinks is: What's legal...therefore 18 and what are my limits...how old is too old?

It never occured to me young women would get angry like you have, but some obviously do and some older women chastised me for wanting young women.

I actually date and prefer women my age, but was just filling out a profile at the time.

Women are much more hung up on age then men. The older ones are disgusted by men young enough to be their sons and the younger ones think older are dirty old men.

Hell...we're just guys who like gals and wanted to keep our options open while looking.
 swfl_dan
Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2008 10:52:48 AM

Most women would not even consider dating a man 20 years younger.


Yeah, so few women would even consider doing that we had to recently add a word to the English language to cover it : "cougar".

You really should have thought about that one before you typed it lol
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2008 2:24:46 PM
They can dream, can't they?
 Boomstrike
Joined: 12/1/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2008 4:07:19 PM

A 58 year old man at work just married his 21 year old GF. You should hear how much b1tching goes on about it. That really p1sses off most women.
They seem very happy together. What's the big deal?

The big deal is that she will spend longer as a nurse than as a wife

You're right, she's only a dumb girl incapable of coming to that conclusion herself. She's far too dumb (because she's female) to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of her situation and make an intelligent decision. Maybe she's a gold digger and is very happy with her decision, or maybe she truly is in love and very happy with this man. Who cares?
Why is it a big deal to YOU?
 YourDarkAngel
Joined: 6/14/2005
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:32:42 AM

jwa
Men who say they're open to women much younger than themselves are not necessarily looking for or seeking any one age range----they're simply letting it be known IF someone "much younger" is interested they're welcome to make contact, etc. We don't know and don't relly (LOL) care how this openness or preference is viewed by women closer to our own age----we've already mostly eliminated that range due whatever reasons or experiences. I'm guessing a guy who does look for younger is hoping and wishing they don't have the same bitter, jaded and know-it-all attitudes so many of the "older women" exhibit. Why some women have become this way is not our concern and almost certainly never our individual doing so we don't want to "suffer" being the fall guy for past injuries some women have experienced.


Yep. And this is coming from a guy, when 22, I was dating a women nearly 40.


Most women would not even consider dating a man 20 years younger


Well, I was almost 18 years younger. Close enough.
 cedar77
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:35:18 AM

If you are a middle aged man, and your profile says " man age 45 looking for women between the ages of 18 and 45", do you relly think woman your age, or around your age would want to date a man looking for women that young? And do you relly think women that young would want to date a man your age? Come on, show some class. That is one of the first things I look for in a man's profile.

I don't think that it is men who are being unrealistic about age .

I'm 42 and I've talked to other middle aged guys and we all agree that it is most common that we get interest from women who are older.
It's amazing that even mid to late thirties women seem to think we're too old.
In real life younger women are more interested.
Atleast in my case , and from what I have been told by others ,on the internet it is certainly not that most 40's guys are looking for women 20 years younger .....it's that we are just looking for women who are within five years and who don't look like they are an elder relative.
Honestly , I'd say about half the women who contact me look like they could be my great aunt Bertha.

I could check my viewed me list at any given time ... I'll guarantee that 75% or more are older than I am.
 pet_tech
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:37:42 AM
Some 18 - 22 year olds LOOK 30.
 YourDarkAngel
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:44:31 AM

It's amazing that even mid to late thirties women seem to think we're too old.


I've noticed that, too. This is indicated that these women have "priced themselves out of the market" and not satisfied with their peer group at all, still adhering that those men aren't good enough for them.
 FescheLola
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:54:14 AM
Meow!!!

I date men your age.

But never fear....They are usually dissapointed i'm not an airhead, So have hope
 FescheLola
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:56:42 AM

The big deal is that she will spend longer as a nurse than as a wife



Wow. You sure have a sunny future planned out.

If its a good match who cares? I wouldnt. If he was meant for me i'd gladly "nurse" him.

Another thing, My grandfather lived to be 92...He never needed "Nursing".
 pet_tech
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:59:38 AM
I could use a good "Nursing" right about now.

*dials up two 18 year olds*
 FescheLola
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:14:56 AM

*dials up two 18 year olds*


That adds up to 36. Two years older than you.
 cedar77
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:19:38 AM

I've noticed that, too. This is indicated that these women have "priced themselves out of the market" and not satisfied with their peer group at all, still adhering that those men aren't good enough for them.


I agree .
It's kind of hard to take when women bash guys for doing exactly what women do themselves and as far as I can tell , guys are actually much less guilty . Namely ....being way too age conscious and often unrealistic.

But , we're used to it . haha
 pet_tech
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:24:04 AM

That adds up to 36. Two years older than you.


Damn you and yer "logic" !!!!!!
 FescheLola
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:39:42 AM

Damn you and yer "logic" !!!!!!


Yes, it hurts at times and is underappraciated (re forums)

*Sob*
 pet_tech
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:50:06 AM
I find it refreshing.
 Srohack
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Posted: 1/15/2008 11:32:52 AM
Why are you getting so upset over this? There's plenty of women dating men much older. Maybe it's just his preference? Seriously, people on this site are sooooooooooooo insecure with themselves.
 Double Cabin
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Posted: 1/15/2008 2:22:32 PM
Prescient, you are hilarious! you made my afternoon with the last one.

Any man, middle aged or ancient, that says he would rule out an indulgence in young, nubile flesh simply because it comes with a younger woman is in all liklihood a bit less than honest IMHO. IT IS NATURAL!
 Sauder
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:36:17 PM
Check out some profiles of young 21 year old women... some of them ask for 27-50 year old man. Yeah, it happens. There are problems with that but it's not my problem and when I have a daughter to look out for, I also have a shot gun and a spoon too.

As a woman you may want to avoid these men so that you don't get traded in for a newer model but other than that, why does it irritate you when people like differnt things?

Frankly, I am 30 and I can not stand the idea of a woman less than a minimum of 23 if she is mature. The reason is that, I figure that by 23 she has not have that many adventures and she needs to see the world some more.

At the same time, an older lady is just fine with me. Whatever floats one's boat.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:51:56 PM
Dear OP,
a 45 year old man with an age range of 18 to 45 would most likely prefer the 18 year old over the 45 year old so you're really doing him a favour by not wasting his time. Even though, as a male, time IS on his side.

and
What could possibly be classier than a 45 year old man hanging around with a bevy of younger ladies? I can't think of anything classier than that.


Hugh Hefner is a god amongst men!
 toyl76
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:13:25 PM
I agree there probably is a "too young" and "too old" however I think it really depends on the life style each individual wants to lead and what they are looking for. If both are looking for each other to get out of life what they want and need, so be it. Young, exciting, motivated versus older, boring and set in their ways. Could very well be the opposite e.g. older, exciting and motivated. Whatever works for each individual.
 strollinbella
Joined: 6/30/2007
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Posted: 1/16/2008 5:14:00 AM
On another dating site I often see profiles of men in their 50s and 60s who say they are looking for a woman between the ages of 18 and 35. Would I contact them, not on your life! Why? The answer, for me, is a simple one. They are looking for a playmate," not a committedrelationship. In my eyes these men are trying to find something that they missed out on when they were that age themselves. Supposedly wisdom comes with maturity. In the case of these men their "wisdom" comes from between their legs!!

And a side note to the poster who said most of the women who look at his profile look like his Great Aunt Bertha. I don't, and I'm in my 50s!!!!!

I have had men as young as 23 and as "old" as 79 look at my profile recently. I don't want to date someone who hasn't got any life experience - but there are some things that I can tutor him in that would be fun for both of us! The 79 year-old, though an honorable and caring man, is the same age as my mother would have been if she was still here with us. Wouldn't mind being friends with him, but dating would seem odd, to say the least.
 platypus_man
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Posted: 1/16/2008 5:25:20 AM
O.P, what's the problem with what other people want? Why are you concerned? Try focusing on what you want, and leave the rest of us alone. To answer the question of why a guy might be interested in younger women, besides the obvious physical advantages of being in better condition, younger women are usually less pissed off about life in general. I find most middle aged women to be angry about something, whether it's about choosing the wrong guys in the past (and blaming them for not living up to her standards), not getting the job they always wanted, not getting the 'prince charming' that they always wanted, not getting the lifestyle they always wanted, not getting the perfect family life they always wanted, not having the body they always wanted (or are upset that they don't look as good as they used to, and aren't getting the attention they were accustomed to), I can go on and on, and have had to listen to those complaints at work on a frequent basis coming from women middle aged and older. Anger and a chip on the shoulder are never attractive, no matter what your age.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
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Posted: 1/16/2008 9:37:50 AM
OMG Stellar by Star Light! That is exactly it!

younger women are usually less pissed off about life in general.

I remember now! Younger women see beauty in things and are less jaded. They have far less emotional Baggage. THERE! I said the B word. And better yet, Most of them don't have kids yet.

Plus, they're a lot more easy to impress.

Who cares if they're not in their sexual prime (as the 40 year olds like to go on and on about)? There's so much more to life than Sex.
 AManofAdventure
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Posted: 1/16/2008 1:28:26 PM
In response to JWA (message #15)...

Men who say they're open to women much younger than themselves are not necessarily looking for or seeking any one age range----they're simply letting it be known IF someone "much younger" is interested they're welcome to make contact, etc. We don't know and don't relly (LOL) care how this openness or preference is viewed by women closer to our own age----we've already mostly eliminated that range due whatever reasons or experiences. I'm guessing a guy who does look for younger is hoping and wishing they don't have the same bitter, jaded and know-it-all attitudes so many of the "older women" exhibit. Why some women have become this way is not our concern and almost certainly never our individual doing so we don't want to "suffer" being the fall guy for past injuries some women have experienced.

Well said! I simply do not want to rule someone out of court in advance for the "crime" of being a particular age -as long as that age is one of majority of course. But I say this as someone quite a ways from being "middle aged" myself -indeed if I did not reveal my age and avoided using one half to four fifths of my vocabulary, I could easily pass for early to late 20's depending on the given day. (Some days I look older than others.)

I fail to see how an age preference in a man's profile that doesn't suit YOU isn't showing class-----do we assume the same thing with women as well now too?

Yes we do...with women it is height though, not age. Few things are more amusing to me than a woman who tries to rationally justify only dating taller men[1] who then bi*ches about men who would even consider a woman in her early 20's or younger. At least the younger woman can develop into a fully rounded person intellectually and the like whereas the shorter guy is not gonna grow in height. But it is the "middle aged man" who would be the one not showing "class" in the above examples presumably. Uh huh, whatever.

Being open to something means just that------we'd be willing to at least consider someone based upon more than their birthdays. FWIW I am somewhat recently out of a 6 year LTR where she was 22 years younger---and it was HER who picked me up!

I have not dated a woman more than ten years younger myself so you have trumped me there.

Of course, I've always been open to women of ANY age and have dated from 17 years older to various ages of younger.

The oldest woman I have been with was an ex who was fourteen years older than me so you have trumped me there too. Impressive! One question though: were any of the older women also taller than you?

I never sought any one particular age but being willing to see how it would go has always served me well.

Agreed. It is not as if someone goes out checking ID's but sometimes it happens that you find someone whom "conventional wisdom" would say you should not consider (for whatever reason) but there is some appealing element to them that makes you give the appropriate middle finger to "conventional wisdom" and move ahead anyway.

Again, people can change how they look, how they feel, their intelligence, their quality of character, indeed most things about themselves. They cannot however change their chronological age or their height so is it really a lack of "class" to not rule people out on factors they can change or on factors which they cannot change? Inquiring minds wanna know.

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[1] In fairness, I have heard exactly one moderately persuasive argument made for this preference by a woman once but I will not reiterate it here.
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