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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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^^^ Awww I don't take you the wrong way...


I admire you for being up front and honest about your condition


I never tell them I am NUTS...I tell them it's just BAD BEHAVIOUR

VVV Package: This condition is more like good days and bad days...and yes times where even touch hurts.
I am more thinking that on bad days instead of saying no...why couldn't one enjoy to lay there and have their partner be the giver...on good days the gift can be returned...
I just wonder if one can enjoy...as one poster put in a way of being tied up.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:30:20 PM
If you want information on this, you need to explain your condition better. I know that sometimes with fibro it can hurt to touch or is it just the moving? I would also assume that you would want to enjoy it but if you are experiencing pain, I would think that would not really be great on your end whether you are moving or not.

Also, is it movement at all that hurts or is uncomfortable or movement that is fast or jerky? I would think on top you would have more control of just how much you move.

French Guy, one of the women at my church is still a very pretty woman in her 40s with two grown children and a husband that appears to be very happy. The only thing that even hinted that she had a problem was her son asking after her while I was volunteering with the marathon they hold here every year. She works for the non-profit that hosts it and the weeks leading up to it are grueling for the paid staff. Her son was worried that she was overdoing it but she is one of those petite women that looks like she could single-handedly run, well pretty much anything that needed management while simultaneously doing a dozen other things.
 idahosun
Joined: 4/26/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:35:49 PM
As French Guy stated, there is soooo much more to fibro than just physical pain. Have you heard of the new drug lyrica which has just come out to help with the pain? I tried several supplements (the one that seemed to work is called devil's claw ) and I am not kidding. But I always wondered was it really working or did the flare up just pass. Are you also experiencing the cognitive dysfunction and other probs? I have no idea why sex can't be wonderful -there are many, many ways to be very intimate with each other without acrobatics. I am only hoping your partner is understanding. I have fibro as a secondary problem to chronic fatigue immune dysfunciton and consider myself lucky to not have the daily pain anymore. But I have heard that many more docs are now up to speed on this illness and I have found that walking everyday has helped me significantly, I hope you are being persistent in looking for treatment. I am more likely to just doze off because I am soooo exhausted all the time, so guess I would really be considered a dead f..k Good luck to you and don't try the acrobatics, there are other ways to please and be pleased. There's a chronic fatigue and fibro website with lots of helpful info, hope you get better.
 Cynderella
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Posted: 1/14/2008 8:03:32 AM
Remember that the mind is still the most amazing sex organ you have


Very true!!!

At this point in my life and being single for 3 years...I would be happy even in pain (bad day). Now my mind is working over time!!!
 idahosun
Joined: 4/26/2006
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Posted: 1/14/2008 6:12:51 PM
rose, I'm hoping for much better partners in the future for you, what you say is just terrible to read. I do hope you have had counseling to get over the trauma associated with the rape. My gawd, that would turn any woman into someone who could not respond, let alone having really terrible lovers along with that-I hope all the women in this thread who are dealing with lousy lovers and/or painfull sex the best of luck. Please don't ever let yourselves be used by a man who has no respect for your mental and physical pain - they are not worth it.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
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Posted: 1/15/2008 1:42:26 PM
I had a guy say to me once, "Stop moving, it's better." Even at the moment I was sort of , like, "Better for whom?!"
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Joined: 2/14/2008
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Posted: 2/21/2008 1:53:26 AM
i like ****ing chix when they're sleeping sometimes because i always wake up in the middle of the night horny as hell. so yes i would consider that a dead **** because shes sleeping...unless she yawns and move her legs...lol
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 2/21/2008 7:12:30 AM
I always thought the term meant someone who just isn't really there...as in into it. More like they are just laying there as a duty..you know, "okay then...just get it over with". Not very sexy and I couldn't understand how either person could enjoy that.

Just my impression
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 2/21/2008 9:06:51 AM
cindy relley me doll if you show interest in any way you are not a dead ___ the words ...I WANT YOU ... have been known to get me off ... dont sweat it baby ..the right guy will help you make the best of your situation


I knew a guy once that said his g/f would start playing with the cat while he was messing with her.

here kity kitty kitty ,,meow meow meow meow !!! ...i got no problem with a gal playing with the kitty
 Theonly1!
Joined: 5/1/2007
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:10:03 AM

What I really care about is the intimacy after the orgasm, not the buildup to it, or even the orgasm itself.


You sir need to go into sales and stop tutoring!
 jd28spot
Joined: 6/22/2006
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:23:19 AM
Cynderella......I wouldn't perceive this to be a problem for any man that was understanding, loving and caring!
 Leeanne
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:28:44 AM
There is way more to love making than penetration!!! If you and your partner don't discover that - there are more problems beyond the medical condition you suffer from. Penetration is but a moment in time - love making is the other 23 hours and 55 minutes!
 missbehavingkristi
Joined: 2/18/2008
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Posted: 2/21/2008 1:51:58 PM
well i think anyone who is grown and has experienced passion knows thier dont even have to be penatration, you can be verbal,and get the job done,oral, there is so much more to offer than to see how many positions a person can be put in,honestly the typical man last after 4play tops 45 min.. guys need to realize,,its not tv,,the lights are not on anyone,enjoy,relax,and get the job done.
Sex can be so much more than keeping track of how many positions i can be flipped into,I would rather see my man and hear my man than do arobics.lol
 tailpipe
Joined: 9/2/2005
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Posted: 2/25/2008 11:42:10 AM
remember there could be a few diferent reasons too if she is just laying there because she has to to get it over with i wouldn't bother but if she isn't moving because she is so wound up that she can't well thats different lol no starfish girls for me pls "NEXT"
 et1000rr
Joined: 12/23/2007
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Posted: 3/1/2008 6:48:42 AM
depends on the person...some people have "sleep" fetishes (you pretend like you're sleeping, so you don't move) To answer your question, yes, it is possible for someone to like motionlessness. Some people may not like it at all regardless of how much they love you. Accepting something doesn't mean you'll always like it or enjoy it. If they even accept it. If it's only the Olympic positions you're worried about you shouldn't have a problem. All men don't fantasize that they are porn stars. Wait...some men don't fantasize that they are porn stars.
 guyforfun2007
Joined: 9/11/2007
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Posted: 3/1/2008 10:41:10 AM
I hate when girls just lay there. Its just so boring. If a girl is not whilling to put some effort in to making it enjoyable I will just blow as fast as I can, and if she gets mad and wants me to last longer she will have to do more than just lay there.
 et1000rr
Joined: 12/23/2007
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Posted: 3/1/2008 10:59:20 AM
Is the ability to read really that far gone?
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Posted: 3/12/2008 12:09:19 PM
i've had a few dead ****s in my time, if you don't like to move or know how to move i just hump her til i cum. some women not that talented
 dontmakecookies
Joined: 11/1/2006
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Posted: 3/12/2008 12:43:11 PM
Cyn, from your description you have nothing to worry about.

As even most of the dead fuck abhorrent have confirmed they don't want to feel like they're doing you a favour or like you're not there. You stated that you are not emotionless and you respond to the person you are having sex with. If you can touch with your hands and speak that's better than a lot of girls. In fact, speaking is often the best part.

Sometimes I just like to lean in and say, "don't move, just feel me inside you." And then I might encourage her to describe it with the occasional... hmmm (that's enough info for you all). In short, to me, and I think most guys, being motionless wouldn't be a big deal at all. It's being absent, silent, or appearing to be uninvolved in the event that really describes a dead fuck.

I mean, seriously, some of the best positions you've got the girl pinned so she can't move much at all anyway.
 dportrait
Joined: 2/27/2008
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Posted: 4/22/2008 11:29:01 PM
I think the right partner will understand that you have days when you are more mobile and times when you are less active, and it shouldn't stop you both enjoying sex.

This type of issue faces all couples, libido and abilities are never a perfect match. Provided there is some give and take you will be fine... you don't need Olympics all the time ;)
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 10/6/2008 12:22:55 PM

I don't think a "motionless" intimate act is possible


I pretty much agree. I'm one of those interactive games, and if you don't move, to show me I'm moving you, I will probably not be much fun for you.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 10/6/2008 12:48:12 PM

I don't think a "motionless" intimate act is possible

I pretty much agree. I'm one of those interactive games, and if you don't move, to show me I'm moving you, I will probably not be much fun for you.
You went back 6 months to revive a thread in order to say you are a bad f/ck; and attempt to make someone suffering from a debilitating disease feel bad. That is truly pathetic. My bet is that when your lovers are naming their three best sexual partners; your name doesn't make the list.
 Cynderella
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Posted: 10/6/2008 9:39:05 PM

However, you don't have to do that Olympic, hanging from the ceiling, monkey sex...for it to be good.


Those are good days...

I know you can make a lady scream with just a gentle caress...without even having intercourse/sex. So it seems there are all kinds of ways to be intimate...I think we all have been there when it's nice to lay there (such as one when receiving oral sex) and have your partner pamper you...I never once said...show no emotion I only wondered if one could relate to the not hanging from the ceiling every time...


There are positions, where little effort is required on your part, but makes sex a lot better.


This is so true!

Thanks for all your input...
 Darkangel25
Joined: 2/2/2007
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Posted: 10/6/2008 9:50:52 PM
the best way to make sure your not in that section of a guy going to his friends and saying that is to show your enjoying it and just change postions,,you dont have to be doing the splitz..lol,,get on top,, doggy,, standing up,,touching and noise help as well
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