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 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 26
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The women who lower their expectations the fastest will be the ones who will find themselves in relationships that last. Women should understand that their assets are rapadily depreciateing while the guys assets are rapidly appreciating. Your husbands have willingly sacrificed half their assets for the opportunity to replace you with a younger female. Women obviously settle or they remain alone. I was asking how you deal with the embarrassment and depression that obviously accompanies having to settle for a guy you wouldnt even look at when you were under 30.
 Indigo rose
Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:04:07 PM
mio the voices in my head tell me that your melon needs a good thumping. what a funny little person... you are really trying to get the old ladies stirred up around here huh? I blame the Mother... if only he had been breastfed...
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:16:24 PM
If you love your former hubby so much you should be happy that he landed a younger female. A lot of 50 yr old guys land twenty something females. Life is beautiful.
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 1/15/2008 10:26:51 PM
mio310 said: "Some women just give up and go to the Caribbean and hire black gigalo."


Hmmm.. Do they hire white gigalo's too??
 Indigo rose
Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/16/2008 6:55:59 AM

If you love your former hubby so much you should be happy that he landed a younger female. A lot of 50 yr old guys land twenty something females. Life is beautiful.
I just want everybody to be happy ...even you ...life is beautiful.I am lovin' every minute of it... too bad you rarely get out from under that bridge
 southernlass
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/16/2008 11:25:51 PM

Divorced men seem to always trade up to a younger and prettier wife with each divorce. Men become better looking as they age. Women under 30 seem to be able to get any man they want but after 30 a women who is a doctor is lucky to get a janitor for a boyfriend. Isnt it depressing to get a lower quality mate with each successive divorce? Isnt it embarrassing when your ex, friends, and family see the loser you had to settle for. Some women just give up and go to the Caribbean and hire black gigalo.


This is hysterical! Really.

I honestly got a good laugh out of it. Thanks! But seriously, men have just as many er.. "challenges" if we're being politically correct, as women do, as we all age. Viagra really doesn't solve everything and it doesn't make men young again. Women these days are quite capable of supporting themselves and managing very well with or without men, so younger women are not looking for that rich, older provider anymore because they can provide quite well for themselves. I don't believe older men in their fifties and beyond find it as easy as you seem to think to date women under thirty.

Personally, I think your opinion above is really skewed and is obviously erroneous. It's full of stereotypes and generalizations and I think you must know some rather pitiful women in your life, if this is the opinion you've arrived at. Maybe you need to get out a little more. -pats-
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/16/2008 11:45:46 PM

Those who say they prefer to be alone rather to live with the donkey, lies



Very true. It is quite startling how rapidly women will adjust their standards downward to reflect their lowered market value as they age. ie 35 yr old female doctor might last 2 months of lonelines before she grabs a janitor because women are desperate to be validated as women above all else. Its sad and pathetic. The level of denial in this thread is almost criminal. Before these women settle for some janitor, they should think about how embarrassing it is for their kids and former spouse.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 1/17/2008 12:13:46 AM
Dayum... I forgot all about living my life out of maintaining appearances for my former spouse.
How in the world did I possibly become so inconsiderate?????
... this OP is a hoot!
 southernlass
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/17/2008 6:04:55 AM
Mio310 said:


It is quite startling how rapidly women will adjust their standards downward to reflect their lowered market value as they age. ie 35 yr old female doctor might last 2 months of lonelines before she grabs a janitor because women are desperate to be validated as women above all else. Its sad and pathetic. The level of denial in this thread is almost criminal. Before these women settle for some janitor, they should think about how embarrassing it is for their kids and former spouse.


You know there's actual therapy out there for what ails you, bud. You don't have to continue to suffer with this "issue." Deluding yourself that women are desperate and can't find a suitable date/mate isn't going to help your own situation. Get into counseling and maybe things will improve for you and you can stop taking out your mad on everybody else.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 1/17/2008 6:16:42 AM
I checked the OP's history and he is consistent in all forums. southernlass has given you some good advice OP.
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:38:47 AM
This sounds more like wishful thinking on the part of the OP.


Hmmm.. Do they hire white gigalo's too??


Demon, I will “settle” for a white gigolo, are you for hire?
 southernlass
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/17/2008 12:51:20 PM
mrvitamiz said:


if they are overweight, unattractive, have small kids, no job skills..... they can't be too picky


If men are already married and have "prefer not to say" under marital status in their profile, they can't be too picky either, can they? -snicker-
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/17/2008 1:27:30 PM

Deluding yourself that women are desperate and can't find a suitable date/mate isn't going to help your own situation.

Actually he's trying to delude women. If he can get them all to believe his premise, then maybe he'll have a chance to get a date with something other than a crack whore. But I'd say it's a long shot even so.
Cindy O
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/17/2008 2:55:51 PM
ok...i don't make a habit of responding to troll-created threads, but i couldn't resist this one


I was asking how you deal with the embarrassment and depression that obviously accompanies having to settle for a guy you wouldnt even look at when you were under 30.


in my 20s, i dated people much like the op. not until after i divorced 11 years ago, did i realize i could date a much higher quality of man. before my marriage at 28, i experienced embarrassment and depression because i felt that i had to settle for losers.

since i divorced, my s/os have included: a neurosurgeon, a psychology professor, an executive chef, a real estate developer and a thoroughbred trainer. with the exception of the last one, none of them truly measured up to the standards i need in a relationship. each lacked something ~ either a sense of humor, creativity, or the intellectual stimulation i can't live without. but i had no problem introducing them to friends and family. i couldn't say that before i turned 30.

in fact, i find myself holding out for a man who has primitive living skills. i have my own reasons for this and i see no reason to entertain thoughts of a romance with anyone who can't contribute to the kind of life i want to build.

anyway, do i look like i have to 'settle?'
 migivadamsbusted
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/17/2008 2:58:11 PM
are you kidding me???!!! NO I don't have to settle for any man!
 Zeanah59
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/17/2008 3:14:38 PM
It appears to me, that those men who are insulting the women in this forum, are nothing but $hit stirrers, trolls or insecure about their own divorce or relationships. Those who feel they must down grade others, only do so to make themselves feel better about their own pathetic lives. Those who brag about trading up or think they are superior to experience, age or certain professions, are apparently suffering from their own inner self worthlessness that they feel. There is no other explanation for being nasty, crude and judgemental.

The mouth is an easy weapon to use when you have no true inner strength or self respect. It's easy and cowardly to sit at a computer, splash your inflated male ego on the screen to only insult people and especially women, in general.

Go ahead and trade up...who really cares? Get over yourself! Probably the women you date feel they are trading down, so don't get to full of yourself. An older man who lands a young woman, usually only does so because of what he can do for her monetarily. All women know that and are not impressed by your victory. As to say you have had many younger, better women than your wife...why is it you cannot keep one? Obviously, she got what she wanted and dumped you. I find that very humorous.

So, in closing....no one truly believes you mean this, nor do we care if you do. I just thought it would be interesting to give another perspective on the flip side. To each his own and I for one, will not have to settle and don't. If you have ever been in a bad relationship or abused, you would see that it really is an option to be single, not settle and be fine with it. It is also called, self respect....something you have not quite obtained yet.

May the Mid-Life Viagra God of men have mercy on your soul....it is a fact, you will be right in the place you are saying older ,divorced women are....you will be begging for the exact thing you despise!...lol
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/17/2008 4:48:39 PM
"H a l l e l u j a h B r o t h e r "

That's the attitude. Sadly, women abuse their sexual power in their twenties sleeping around with guys way out of their league. Suddenly they are thirty and want to find some good guy for a long-term relationship. Sorry, but the good guy cant be attracted to an older female even if he wanted to. Guys shouldnt rub it in women's faces but they should take a moment to be thankful they are men and dont have an expiration date. Take your twenty year old girl friend around town so everyone can share in your joy.
 Ignoble
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/17/2008 5:20:27 PM
RE: First post.

If a woman cant get a man after a divorce dont place it on the men. Im not saying thats what you said in your post, but I heard an echo of it. Either you let yourself go or your taste in men is bad. Woman constantly go for these men who generally just look good or ones who just flatter or ones who just spend money on them and they always expect it to end well. It seriously makes me doubt the intelligence of the gender as a rule. I know plenty of men who'd date a divorced woman(Id turn my head and cough for a female doctor any day), who's date a woman with kids, who'd date a woman with a terminal disease! Its not our fault you're looking in the wrong place. Jesus Christ take some responsibility and then learn to go after GOOD men. Its not our fault you "settle".

***NOTE

You seriously think 30s is when woman are looked at as less attractive? Thats ridiculous. I find the 30s as equally as stimulating as the 20s, if not more.
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
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Posted: 1/17/2008 5:39:16 PM

Sorry, but the good guy cant be attracted to an older female even if he wanted to.


sorry, but i attract good guys of all ages.

the problem i have is that they all want a long-term relationship. and few have the skills i hope to find.

but i don't have problems attracting men. and i doubt the women who posted here do either.
 shellibean17
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 1/17/2008 6:09:20 PM
Settle - why and who sez????????????
 Smilin_bob
Joined: 8/7/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/17/2008 6:28:08 PM
OP, I have read your post. It appears as if you have made several false assumptions and incorrect conclusions. (I think Msg #8 covered pretty much everything.)

I have run across many profiles of women over 40 years of age on here who refuse to settle. They are very smart women. I have also run across some profiles of women who are extremely intelligent, visually attractive, are very sensual, and really know what they want out of life. They also refuse to put up with people with negative attitude, or, who are judgmental.

OP, I am not sure what your intention of this post is, other than to convince women using false assumptions that they need to pick 'someone' for the sake of being married! Just make sure you are not in that 'someone' pool.

Your statement of 'trading up' in a marriage sounds more like the way you treat a vehicle. After years go by, do you look for a newer model yourself? I believe you will doom yourself to a life of loneliness if you take that approach. Any woman who reads this post would surely be fearful of being 'traded in' in a few years after being with you.

(sigh) There are a few males in the human population (of which I am a member) that truly embarrass the rest of us.
 silentwhisper2u
Joined: 9/3/2005
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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:04:00 PM
No person should ever settle for someone. Life is way to short not to find a true love. I see people every day in my work who choice to settle and not just in relationship but in their jobs and choices. We are in control of our own destiny...does that mean we are going to find a prince charming probably not but we should determine for ourselves things we can accept and things we can't and not rob ourselves of these desire and values out of the fear of being alone.
When one loves themselves they tend to open the mind to the right person.....find that love and belief that you desire to be happy and in love and you will find people are attracted to you more.
Be good to yourself......
 Ignoble
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 48
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Posted: 1/17/2008 10:47:54 PM
crabstuffing: You ever see those documentaries of scientists going to primitive tribal villages and how to the villagers the scientists ideas are "dumb and silly and make no sense"?

Women remind of those villagers when they say we're dumb. Generally I just pat their heads and give them something sweet to eat. Works like a charm. ^_^
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/18/2008 12:24:35 AM
Marriage is a very artificial arrangement. As women lose their sexual power and men become more wealthy and handsome as they age, a huge power gap is created. Men unfortunately become so contemptuous of their spouse that violence is inevitable. Unequal power in any relationship creates a very ugly situation. Especially if the female is unwilling or unable to adjust her behaviour and expectations.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 50
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Posted: 1/18/2008 10:02:59 AM

Men unfortunately become so contemptuous of their spouse that violence is inevitable. Unequal power in any relationship creates a very ugly situation. Especially if the female is unwilling or unable to adjust her behaviour and expectations.

Sweetie, you are seriously effed up in the head. Please get some counseling before you start dating again.
On topic...
In most modern western cultures, women, whether divorced, single, widowed or even gay do NOT have to settle for any man if all they are finding is pompous d*ckheads like the creator of this thread.
And how about all the women who divorced a loser to be with a better man? ( I wonder if this isn't what happened to the OP??)
Cindy O
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