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 Mellow Red
Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 56
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If you are prepared to "settle" then what can you expect, the 'good ones', will not give you a second glance, not because of your age but because you are taken.

If i met a guy who i really liked and he was with someone who was a 'loser', i would be wondering why he would be in a relationship like that. What is wrong with him, and i would probably make the judgment that he cannot be alone, among other baggage.....deal breakers for me.
 Mellow Red
Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/18/2008 3:16:51 PM
wow mio

just read some of your previous posts...

You have such a low opinion of women, i wonder if you have only had experiences with women who lack values.... your attitudes could not possibly attract anything more.
 SueCat51
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 1/18/2008 4:29:57 PM
HELL NO!!! I don't care if I'm widowed, divorced, or never married. Young or old, fat or thin, broke, or rich, beautiful or ugly, I simply REFUSE to settle. To "settle" basically says that you don't want this person (in the long run).I'd rather be alone, rejected, or passed up, than to settle. To be desired and wanted by someone, for ME, just the WAY I AM, is truly a gift.

Now, about the Caribbean, I'd go there anyway, it's a great vacation spot and you never know you'll you meet! Gotta travel through life with an open heart and an open mind!
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 1/18/2008 5:47:21 PM
your husbands have dumped you because it is impossible for a man to be attracted to a female over 35. It is biologically impossible. No matter how much Viagra you force him to consume he cant be attracted. He has moved on to be with a female he can be attracted to. Just part of the life cycle.
 SWSpice
Joined: 8/23/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 1/18/2008 5:56:07 PM
Lol! Anyone who posts in their profile that they have been "screwed aroun alll my lifeeeeeee." obviously has spelling & other issues.

Most of the guys I know my age are overweight, losing their hair, stuck in a rut, unwilling to step out of their comfort zone, lonely and far from wealthy. So OP, please introduce me to those hot guys you seem that think are abundant.
 mio310
Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 1/18/2008 6:44:40 PM
I dont want to supply false hope but maybe Retin A or alpha hydrox is part of the solution? Certainly, women should be using spf protection when outside. 16 yr old girls know why they have power and they know why older women dont have this power. we have all been 16 so we all know the truth.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
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Posted: 1/18/2008 7:03:35 PM
I know mio...you really have a secret fantasy about older women, and are upset by it?..lol...

Hogwash....age has nothing to do with anything. My ex didn't divorce me, I divorced him, and his new wife is my age..so that shoots your theory all to heck...(and she still managed to have two children when she was in her late thirties, somehow...)..

And....I not only don't have tough or leathery skin..I have very few wrinkles too..

Sheesh..why am I bothering?... Shame on me...
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 1/18/2008 7:30:27 PM
Why not secretly go to the Caribbean? No one will know.
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I think that there was a post about such a woman recently.
She divorced, over somthing trivial, and then thought hundreds of handsome princes would ome charging out of the woodwork. when that didn't happen she did go to the Carribeen. And yes she found her black stud. Three weeks of glorious happiness. All at her expense of course but that didn't bother her. Even if it was the first time she had paid for any dates.

She had arranged to bring him back to New York with her but there were some problems as he had no passport. So she bought him an air ticket for a month in advance when he would have a passport.

As they embraced at the airport he gave her a sealed envelope and made her promise not to open it till she touched down in New York as it would spoil the magic.

She did so and didn't open it till on the tarmac in New York. Ir rread, "By the time you read this I will have sold your air ticket for cash. Welcome to the world of AIDS beech".

Divorced women would be well advised to skip thier fantasies and to settle for any good man who will take them. A clean living janitor would be more than adequate.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Posted: 2/22/2008 8:49:43 AM
mio310

Rubbish Rubbish. Any of my exes would have me back with just a phone call. They were lucky to have me in their life at all, seeing that I always was fair, honest and loyal, even when they were out doing their thing, with women, buddies.
sorry, some, (a lot of them) men do not get better looking as they age. some age nicely, most are overweight, bald or too lazy to shave or have forgotten to take any care with their personal hygiene. few and far between are the ones who take care of themselves. Kudos to those who do, but most do not.

hmmmmmm lower status with each divorce? Do you know of one person like this, that you assume its happening all over the world? Was your girl embarrassed when she introduced you to her family?
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 65
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Posted: 2/22/2008 11:06:10 AM
OK I realize that whatever mio310 was it's gone. But I have to make an observation here...


older women dont have this power


No, this is an erroneous and downright DUMBASS statement. Older women, unless they have seriously mismanaged their lives somehow, do not NEED to have a man in their life to the degree where "power" becomes an issue.

Smart women these days are learning to look out for themselves and not allow marriage to lull them into a false sense of security as far as socioeconomic matters.

So, should they become divorced or widowed, they don't have to "settle". They have sufficient income and sufficient smarts to be able to manage their lives adequately without a male provider/protector, and you can find all kinds of neat toys if you need them. Unless she is one of those pathetic creatures who feels invalid unless she's in a "couple", which is a matter of self esteem that has NOTHING to do with age, having a husband or bf is purely an option which can be suspended until something worth having shows up.
Frankly, after the biological clock has stopped, many women get much more in control of their sexual urges. This is not to say they stop liking it ,but the reproductive urge/ hormones are no longer running the show. Many of them are realizing that they don't have to "settle" for jack sh*t.
Now that, my friend, is true power.
Cindy O
 wonwascallywabbit
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 67
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Posted: 2/22/2008 2:57:18 PM
You should never settle for someone you don't want. Seems to me you'd just be putting yourself on the path to divorce 3, 4 , 5...., or at the very least a life of thinking you could have done better. Remember what you have to offer and set your sights on someone worthy of who and what you are. I think the generalization about wanting younger could fit some from either sex.
 Suju
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 68
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Posted: 2/22/2008 3:29:13 PM
A question like the one posed in the subject line seems to imply that a woman is a commodity, which devalue with time. Women are not things. We are human beings. With age we can, if we choose to do so, become smarter, wiser and evolve.

Men can also become smarter, wiser and evolve, if they choose to do so. Somehow though, I doubt that it is going to be so if when one continues to view women as a commodity.
 StrangerInTheHouse
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:04:57 PM
This thread's ridiculous... Maybe the person who started it is trying to convince a divorcee that she has to settle for him!
 AAuroraAA
Joined: 8/18/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:27:23 PM
My ex-mother-in-law was a very sweet & wise woman. She told me, "It's better to be alone than in bad company." In my mind I have added "wrong company" to that as well. Just because someone is whatever they are, doesn't mean they are the right company. I'm comfortable with who I am alone or otherwise. I don't need a man to feel good about myself. So I'm not ever going to settle. I did that once & I will Never, Never, Never do that again. It was not worth the lack of happiness. I don't even know what I was thinking when I did that... Nice guy & all, but not the right guy. Don't do it!!! It's a trap!
 chrylann
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:40:55 PM
I, like a lot of you, will gladly live alone for the remainder of my life before I settle. I am picky and have always been picky.

Some men do get better with age, but some go bald, lose their teeth and widen in the rear.

My ex's new girlfriend is my age. He's not stupid. Well, not all the time
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 72
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:44:10 PM
Men love divorced women, they seem to not want to date the ones who have not been marrried and act as if their is something wrong with us.
 sunflower2nd
Joined: 2/7/2008
Msg: 73
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:55:48 PM
OMG... I just had to respond to that! How can you resist? I am NOT a firebreathing feminist... and yes, you don't shoot the messenger, in fact I applaude your ability to speak the truth. None of us write the rules, we just abide by them or not. Depends on our personal strength.

Some of us will stand by and say, "this doesn't affect me in anyway", and others, will speak THEIR truth and say, "yes, that is not an arguement, it is truth". Depends on how we all view it I suppose. Some are tough, some are not.....

As for the Carribean option, I have a tale to tell, but perhaps for another time!

Kudos for the truthes, Warrior, no matter how ugly they may be!
 sunflower2nd
Joined: 2/7/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 2/22/2008 4:57:21 PM
Now this is the kind of response that I can respect. Thank you for not beating up the OP, whatever that *&^% that is! Still haven't figured it out, but I think it has something to do with the Author?????
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2008 5:13:14 PM

Still haven't figured it out, but I think it has something to do with the Author?????


OP: Original Poster..you are correct...author of the thread...could also mean Original Point
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Posted: 2/26/2008 10:13:02 PM
Is this another one of those "low male ego threads"? I thougth they were against the rules.
 catman40
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 2/27/2008 4:34:28 AM
I see woman who have been married 4 or 5 times and STILL they are choosy ? give it a rest . IF , you are choosy and pass up nice guys like me . You been married 4 times . that tells the guys SHE IS BAD NEWS . BUT yet , we fall for the line " I have not met the right one "
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:33:59 AM
ummmmmmmmmm..... .........no
 URLOVEY
Joined: 12/23/2007
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:40:19 AM
My ex still loves me. If I can't get better than I don't want anything!
 GiGi046
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 2/27/2008 9:00:13 AM
Okay so I guess I'm unusual cause I look 10 years younger most of the time. I attract younger men..........So no I won't be settling for anything I don't want........both my ex's are older than me and the first married someone closer to his age(7 years older than me) and the second is living with a woman 5 years older than us............Go figure......guess that means women age well too........and the sex was definitely better after 39......
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