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Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 14
Please define feeling the magicPage 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)

In other words, it's like a High Octane Fuel required to run your romantic love engine. When you kiss, you either get all goose bumpily with fireworks going off inside your head ... or it makes your nipples explode with delight ...

Ya. Been there. Got the wet T-shirt, lol!

What I AM curious about is: does anyone *really* expect that to *last*?

What I'm in just now doesn't have that 4th of July aspect that I have felt with others in the past, but which shows every sign of becoming a 12 magnitude on the Richter Scale. And I'm ready and willing to wait as that happens. And enjoying every minute of it. . . .

Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:55:06 PM

"the magic" is when you can't wait to get home. I have been in relationships where I would rather be at work...magic seems to be present in many relationships in the beginning then fizzle when your ideals fade when you realize what you wanted was not in that person or ever could be. You can`t really change someone so you have to find the magic, or special connection.
Yeah that pretty much sums up one of the huge problems with dating today (I'm blathering about it in other threads too, but whatever).

The "magic" is never going to be a permanent state - you might be giddy every time you see your new partner, but eventually that'll fade. If you assume there's something wrong with that (and subsequently wrong with them), you're going to be at it forever. If you toss them aside to look again for "the magic", you'll just end up repeating the cycle later.

Expecting to find a person who can keep you in a permanent state of utter euphoria is ridiculous. Finding someone who makes you happy however, isn't.
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:52:34 AM
I think that magic shows up in your face. It shines ... and you bet that everybody notices it.
Face is the reflection of your inner happiness.
Joined: 8/2/2005
Msg: 18
Please define feeling the magic
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:30:13 AM
They are looking for chemisty that doesn't exist
Joined: 10/30/2003
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:51:44 AM

It CAN mean to some, just meeting someone you find very physically attracted to [and them to you] and both are willing to hit the sheets sooner rather than later. Or it can be REAL Chemistry - pheromones - telling us that this person is a great GENETIC match for you [and has ZERO to do with likes, morals, compatibility or anything else] and that IF you have offspring [kids] with this peson, they [offspring] would have a great chance to survive. It is simply EVOLUTION telling you to "get" with this person. [And hopefully have babies] This is a good match for you. Real Chemistry is not necessarily Electricity or spark or smacked in the face although it often is! It can be quite subtle at times [at least for me] and your "mind" just gives you a feeling that there is "something" different or better about THIS person and I really would Like to see THIS person again. Once you have had this happen to you, it is almost impossible to pursue any other relationships without that "feeling". Hope that helps

Very inspiring SLAFFA
Joined: 8/12/2007
Msg: 20
Please define feeling the magic
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:26:21 AM
Probably what already has been said, another word for chemistry, the butterflies,...just not in love with you. You were probably perfect on paper, a "catch", but there was still something missing. For a while that seems ok, you wait for it to grow, and then you realize you want "more". It seems so hard, I'm with a guy who "on paper" isn't right for me, but the magic is there. I believe in magic.
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