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 ohellyes
Joined: 1/25/2008
Msg: 131
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?Page 7 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
it means forget it,, hang her up.... good guy.. nice guy,, friend,,,,,,, you ani't gett'n any,,,, she thinks your gay ..........................................
 toooldtoplay
Joined: 1/27/2013
Msg: 133
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/9/2013 11:37:19 AM
That's a good question op. I want to know the answer myself. This girl told me exactly that and I never really thought about it till you started this thread. I am tall and I am nice, lol. It's gotta be more than that. I ended up getting frustrated with this woman because she wouldn't have sex with me and she wasn't trying to get other boyfriends. I guess she was just going through a rough time in her life, she had gone to prison for murder and I did help her as much as I could, but I was young and she is probably gone forever. I've been in at least 3 other relationships since then and none of these women have what I need. Money, gold, black gold, Texas Tea.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 134
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/9/2013 4:45:57 PM
He probably in their friend zone . Basically he has been domesticated . Same as a good pet dog then .
 the_biggavell
Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 135
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/9/2013 5:19:13 PM
I feel safe with him= he's the boss of me
(And he puts me in my place)
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 136
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Posted: 2/9/2013 5:23:26 PM
When I say that, it means that I don't feel he is going to hurt me or break my heart. It means I trust him in every way. I met a guy on POF I felt that way about. Different women mean it in different ways I guess, but for me it had nothing to do with money or anything like that. I don't know what made me feel like that about him. I just did from the moment I met him.
The men answering your question are either joking or don't have a clue. I felt this guy was a "keeper" and it had nothing to do with money, looks, or anything like that. It also didn't mean I just wanted him for a friend. I really liked him quite a bit.
I don't recall ever having that "safe" feeling before.

 Jerilyn
Joined: 1/13/2012
Msg: 137
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/9/2013 5:23:53 PM
If she feels safe it means she trusts him with her heart. This is what all women are looking for and very few women find it, so if a woman actually says this out loud you can bet she won't be letting him go.
 IL_Capitano
Joined: 11/23/2012
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Posted: 2/9/2013 6:01:29 PM

If she feels safe it means she trusts him with her heart. This is what all women are looking for and very few women find it, so if a woman actually says this out loud you can bet she won't be letting him go.


.. nah... this guy VVVVVVVVVVVV has it correct....


" I feel safe with him " means that he's a good guy to hang out with until a bad boy who REALLY turns her on shows up or the bad boy she had kids with decides to show up again. The " safe guy " is a temporary guy who she can do things with, who is always there for her, listens and talks with her.

" Safe guy " and " nice guy " are often interchangeable terms but " safe guy " may end up in her bed for a while.


The safe guy is in the same group as the woman's gay male friends.

 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 2/9/2013 7:33:39 PM
As I said: the men are either joking or don't have a clue.

il capitano proves my point.
 IL_Capitano
Joined: 11/23/2012
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Posted: 2/9/2013 7:52:12 PM

As I said: the men are either joking or don't have a clue.

il capitano proves my point.


Yah-but, did you bang him, or put him in with the gay friends?

Besides.... you speak for all the rest of your sistahs? Nah, don't think so.... feeling safe doesn't equate to wanting to bang the guy. I'd say it's likely NOT much of a real turn on.

 Bbooooom
Joined: 5/8/2011
Msg: 141
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/9/2013 7:54:22 PM
They are relating to their daddy issues.
 domainfullduplex100
Joined: 12/21/2012
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Posted: 2/9/2013 8:26:47 PM
It sounds like a compliment when a gorgeous lady says to you.."I feel safe with you".
Two points of concern. She finds you predictable and unattractive. Not physically attracted to you. You could also be a "provider". So basically you are in for a headache. You could be the safe house and provider whiles she finds someone exciting, and if you are lucky, she will dump you and move on with the new fella...If unlucky then you will be sharing her fine assets with someone else ..not that this is rare. lol..Most do share without knowing..ignorance is truly bliss.
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 143
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 2/10/2013 6:07:17 AM
I think what they mean is that his Koq is so big they can stand under it and not worry about the rain or lightning....
;-)
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 2/10/2013 3:49:40 PM
he has your back when out in public, even though you might disagree on things. he doesn't loose it too often and when he does, no physical overtures. yes, there is a physical component as well, but it is secondary in my world to the first. if i was in the wild west, maybe it would be different. he is trustworthy, stable, reliable and kind. not a flake or liar.
 Bryan31337
Joined: 8/20/2012
Msg: 145
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 12/2/2013 11:03:15 PM
This is it. I know its kind of dated, but i just seen this. This is a beautiful parable to what "it" really means to woman to be safe.
 trinity818
Joined: 9/1/2006
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Posted: 12/3/2013 11:42:19 AM
The meaning is dependent on the context.

I've said it, and meant that I literally felt safer in his presence. It was a good thing. I felt that he could protect me from physical harm.

It can also mean that she feels safe from sexual temptation. Clearly that would not normally be a good thing.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 12/3/2013 3:14:45 PM

What makes a woman feel safe around a guy?
For me it has mostly to do with trust. I doubt any woman wants to think she's out with a potential rapist or murderer ... so that is always a concern.

I feel very safe around men I know ... men I know enough about that if they tried anything awful with me, it would be difficult for them to escape my telling on them.

If I don't "feel safe" around a man or don't know him well enough to trust him, I don't meet him alone, don't invite him to my home, don't get in a car with him.

Are the women saying that the man resemble a bodyguard while out in public?
For me it has nothing to do with "bodyguard" while out in public. I don't generally frequent places that I'd need a bodyguard at.

Or are they stating that he has money and she longer have to worry about that?

I don't need money to be happy ... don't need a man with money in order to feel secure.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 12/3/2013 3:26:27 PM
... last time I said that to a man ... "we're safe together" ... I meant neither of
us would ever pressure the other to do something we didn't want to do ... in
that one specific case, I knew he was completely commitment phobic ... so he
wouldn't start pressuring me to get more deeply involved (i.e., MARRIAGE)
than I was comfortable with doing ...

I knew that whatever we did, it would be a MUTUAL decision with no one being
pushed, forced or otherwise intimidated to do ... so I thought "we're safe
together" ...

he, of course, was insulted and thought I didn't find him a temptation sexually ...
he thought I didn't consider him "dangerous" or "exciting" ... and he thought
I considered him incapable of fighting off all predators like lions, dragons, tigers
or whatever medieval threat came our way ... so I explained ...

when a woman says that, it's pretty-much whatever SHE means ... not generically
... so ... ASK HER ...
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