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 littlemermaidhere
Joined: 10/12/2007
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the guy tells the girl, "you deserve better".
what does he mean?


I'll try in put this in words you'll understand.

It means:
you deserve better.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 52
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:26:25 PM

BUT the guy tells the girl, "you deserve better".
what does he mean?


It means it was fun talking, be my chat buddy,holding my hand when needed and just a good old tree to lean on and now I have found someone else who seems to be even more to my liking, are you getting my drift?
What the dude is saying in a bailout way (aka-chicken-sh*t) you weren't the problem
but him ,without saying he has another squease in the fold.

Most of the folks here,cough&%$$ *&% are very up front here,well ...ahhh,
what was your question?
 Urs Truly
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 53
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what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 2:45:23 PM
Be easy on her everyone . She is in china and her man was somewhere in another country... it could have been she was too far for him to connect with her... so he let her go .. no sense carrying on if they weren't going to see each other anyway ... he might have not had the money to sent for her.. most likely or go see her.... ease on her she is heart broken after all it was an online relationship for over a year.
 Zeanah59
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 54
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 2:54:51 PM
I think it means "I want out and this is the nice way to do it!" ...but in all reality...you probably do deserve better. Why be with a man who does not want you...you DO deserve better than that!
 rlb51778
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 55
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:02:24 PM
It means "just friends," or "internet buddies" in this case.

Even if he had the balls to come out say it bluntly, he obviously cares enough about the woman's feelings enough to throw out a few subtle hints first.

zeanah59 hit the nail right on the head. Some women would still follow this guy around, and not be fully appreciated like they deserve.
 steve217
Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 56
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:30:41 PM
He could have a hidden problem such as alcohol or who knows.
If it's an online thing, and you've never even met the person, relax!
There are more out there that would be willing to be with you.
 smile98765
Joined: 5/17/2007
Msg: 57
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:32:01 PM
It means he's not interested in you in a romantic way.
 Bethlett
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 58
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:34:09 PM
If he was DATING her, that would mean "I'm already screwing someone else".

But if he is only a penpal, then he means "I don't have the money to make you a real part of my life."
 sunnyshari
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 59
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:34:45 PM
this is what i've said to a guy when i wanted to end it without hurting his feelings....
 hongchina
Joined: 12/12/2007
Msg: 60
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:39:40 PM
thank you for all your replies.
here i add some details:

1. the purpose of the two person's online chatting is long-time relationship and marriage. si nce they met on dating site and they have made it clear at the beginning of chatting.

2. the time span of thei r chatting is not only 1 year, to be exat, it's almost 2 years. from april 2006 till now.

3. the boy is 12 years older than the girl.the boy said he would go to the girls' country and meet her maybe in 2009.. it will be 3 years after their first talk..do you think it reasonable to take 3 years talking before meeting in person?
 hongchina
Joined: 12/12/2007
Msg: 61
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:23:38 PM
and despite all his promise to go to meet the girl,
the boy told the girl "you deserve better"
isn't it confusing?
 IWishItWasSummer
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 62
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 12:24:57 AM
He doesn't want to meet you or can't see it happening and is trying to tell you that. Don't wait for him, he won't come. He cares for you and is saying you deserve better than an on=line relationship that's going nowhere.
 EastSideEddie
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 63
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 6:29:45 AM

do you think it reasonable to take 3 years talking before meeting in person?


Unless he is an heir to the Microsoft fortune, I have an idea why it's taken three years.

Do YOU have thousands of dollars to possibly WASTE going to meet someone with whom a relationship is a long longshot to begin with? Distance, culture.....

You need to wear reality glasses when you do this kind of thing. I absolutely ADORE one woman here who I would consider in the context of long term if things were different. However, things are NOT different. Things are what they are, and they aren't likely to change so it isn't going to happen.

Sometimes you just have to face the fact that it isn't going to be possible.
 MrTwistedPersonality
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/27/2008 9:07:22 AM
Personally, I think the culture and nation distance is possibly playing a key factor here if you are trying to interact with someone outside of your country. It also depends on the person as well.

If he's a fellow who is still in college or having a hard time making bills, he may have decided to break it off, as he will never have the chance to meet you. If he is successful enough that he could afford a ticket to beijing, he has probably lost interest in you do to your profile listing you as a "long term" relationship (marriage).

Maybe he thought you were indeed too good for him. You are, from what I have seen in your posts and profile, an attractive, warm, successful, sincere woman. As such, some men have a hard time approaching people such as yourself as they feel outclassed.

It could also be a way of ending the relationship in the least amount of pain for one or both parties. Maybe he found someone better/closer/short-term/more attractive/had more common ground with than you.

Personally, I would just ask why he is ending the relationship. He will either state what he has said before (saying that you are too good for him), or he will actually admit to why.

Good luck in your travels and future relationship.
 jayne doe
Joined: 11/29/2007
Msg: 65
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:20:52 AM
could be he got all he needed from the relationship with you.. emotionally or physically, some like their ego stroked by having many "dates" .. its a kick for them.
or he could seriously find flaw within himself and consider that you will not be with him long , and is saving himself a lot of hurt in the future.
 kayfay
Joined: 11/19/2007
Msg: 66
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:27:23 AM
Not to be mean, but in my opinion it means that he found someone that he *thinks* is better, and is now pursuing her.
 jupitorsmoon
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 67
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:34:09 AM
First of all, how much do you know about this guys backround? He could either be a really nice guy who has low self esteem... or he could be a into trouble that he doesn't want you to get involved with. Either way I think it reflects low self esteem, or that he might hurt you. Either way, take it as a fore warning.
 leeanna50
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 68
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:36:24 AM
maybe it means with you both worlds apart he dont want you setting there living life alone and you need to find someone closer to be with,
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 69
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 10:43:15 AM
I will admit, something can be lost in the translation...but I think this post keeps going on b/c of the number of people in this culture who still don't get it--guys aren't honest about their inability to keep a relationship going b/c they think it will attract the female.

Guys are honest about this, so they can later refute all arguments by explaining, "but I told you this about me a long time ago."

Ladies, when a guy says something negative about the relationship...LISTEN.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 70
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 10:46:20 AM
it could mean that either he wants reassurance that she thinks he's wonderful or that he's trying to get out of the relationship... depends on the context within which it's said...
 Politically INCORRECT
Joined: 8/14/2007
Msg: 71
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 10:47:00 AM
It means. PFO.
Please F*** Off.
 angeloflite
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 72
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:27:59 AM
I would think maybe he is hidding something from you......Angel
 galaxyquest
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 73
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 4:30:42 PM
Yes I believe it is just a gutless way of getting out of a situation they don't want to be in...let me guess - he added that you are a very special person blah blah blah but I just can't give you want you want right now??!! The ironic thing here is, he is right and you probably do deserve better...
 Mellow Red
Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 74
what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 1/27/2008 4:34:40 PM
It means he doesn't want you.

there are any number of possible reasons, many already listed by the wise folk of POF

does it matter what it is.

When you love someone and want them, you do not send them off to meet someone else.

Plain and simple.
 vbxtc
Joined: 3/31/2006
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Posted: 1/27/2008 4:47:58 PM
Since he lives in a different country he's probably thinking that there's no practical way for this to continue, and when relationships don't move forward they die. Having never met in person it may be that she's been his fun little fantasy girl, but he's met someone in real life and wants to move on. But whether or not his decision involves anyone else, what he's really saying is "goodbye".
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