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 LoveBeautifulDays
Joined: 2/21/2013
Msg: 76
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Yep alot of married people on here!!
Their spouse is probaly on here too and they dont know it, now wouldnt that be a trip!!
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:24:35 PM
DD don't twist my words to suit yourself....by the statement 'having your cake and eating it too' I was referring to you having your wife and all her positive attributes that YOU proclaimed ( companionship, financial contribution) AND your prostitute for your sexual gratifcation.

Yer still selfish for not giving your wife an informed choice in the matter.

BTW congratulations for smooth talkin yerself into a BOGO sale.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 78
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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:05:38 PM
some are upfront about it and use the word "discreet" relationship etc. Some just let you know once you have met and they want a bit on the side. If they dont want you to call them on a landline, often dont want to talk on the phone or use Skype, then the red flags are waving. I have had only one married guy, as far as I know when I bothered to meet anyone from online, years ago, but was not interested enough to care. The "separated" are often just living in the same house and not getting the sex very often. You do need to be picky and watch for the signals if you dont want to encounter them. Some people are happy to have the extra marital but I wouldnt bother unless both of us were married and the spouses didnt care. The problems arise when one is single and the other is not.
 Bellacate
Joined: 9/26/2012
Msg: 79
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Posted: 4/3/2013 12:18:18 AM
DD, just because your wife doesn't want a divorce doesn't mean you have to go along with her point of view.

I am not sure who gets the companionship and financial security from your marriage, but it seems to me that you would be happier not being married to your wife.

Doesn't matter what colour you paint your relationship with your 'girlfriend', you are paying for sex. Don't be surprised if her male flatmate is her boyfriend.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 80
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Posted: 4/3/2013 7:59:52 AM
DD

Granted, people will find her morals questionable but where was/is society to help young women like that?


Quit trying to justify yourself as being some kind of charitable sap. Charities expect nothing in return for their help. You expect sex and you get it.



I asked if I could come there and we could talk rather than go to a motel just for two hours as we were meeting later than usual. She said OK. I picked up a few beers and ordered a pizza when I arrived. It was lunch time.

The “deal” had been I would give her $100 each time we meet. I had set the price. We have started to bond (please, keep the laughter down) so I asked her about our frequency of meeting.

“Obviously I want to see you more often”, I said, “but I can only afford to contribute $300/mth. What I’m asking is how many times can I visit you for $300? Can I see you more than three times per month?”


You are even squirreling your way into getting it cheaper.- Now it's sex at her apartment and you can only afford $300 a month- pathetic
 dishearteneddave
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 81
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Posted: 4/3/2013 11:31:42 AM

(Msg. #92. Ladywyatt) BTW congratulations for smooth talkin yerself into a BOGO sale.


LOL! I had to google that acronym.

You may be right. The gal I’m seeing can appear to be sooooo delicate, vulnerable and angelic, however, yesterday she told me about her childhood growing up in a somewhat isolated northern Canadian community. (She is not a native. Her mother emigrated from Europe when she was a child.) Her mother was a free spirit, shall we say, so by age 11 the gal I’m seeing knew if she didn’t have a plan for dinner she may not get any. She realized she had to look after herself.

Due to that upbringing she ended up being wild before she settled down, assuming she has “settled down”. My point is she’s not delicate or naive. On the other hand after experiencing the dark side of life maybe she really does appreciate a guy who treats her well and respects her. Who knows?

When we talk and I mention something about helping her she replies she is helping me, too. “While I am getting financial help you are getting the sex and affection you need and I am not after you to divorce your wife or disrupt your life. If I didn’t like you I wouldn’t be here. There are men who would be interested in me but I am not with anyone else now. You are the only person with whom I’m having sex.”

She continued with, “Have you ever eaten so much chocolate or something else you really like and then couldn’t stand to look at it for a while? That’s how I am with sex. I had lots of sex with different guys when I was younger. Fortunately, I never got sick but I now realize the risk.”

Just another polished sales pitch? In any case, again, what does it matter? We are both getting what we want, we both feel we’re helping each other and we are both happy.


(Msg. #94. Bellacate) I am not sure who gets the companionship and financial security from your marriage, but it seems to me that you would be happier not being married to your wife.


My wife is well educated and has a very good job. I am comfortably retired. Neither of us is dependent on the other financially. As for companionship she has frequently said we are very much alike.

When people talk about marriage they always say similar activities and views are important. I’ve never heard anyone say one should marry for sex so according to society we have a very good marriage. My wife is now happier I do not “hound” her for sex and I am happy I am getting my sexual/intimacy needs met.


Doesn't matter what colour you paint your relationship with your 'girlfriend', you are paying for sex. Don't be surprised if her male flatmate is her boyfriend.


I met her flatmate and, yes, he is interested in her. I told the lady he was interested and suggested I should bow out. She said it wasn’t his place to make me feel uncomfortable and that she knows he is interested in her but she is not interested in him.

Again, it doesn’t really matter. If she is only telling me what she thinks I want to hear what difference does it make? I don’t want her to become attached to me to the extent it disrupts my life. Giving her $100 to spend 4 hours with me is not the going rate of a prostitute. Plus, she is available virtually any time I ask her.

What I’m saying is she doesn’t fit the “profile” of a prostitute. She could earn a lot more money by going with someone else and from what I understand prostitutes are very time conscious. Alternative/underground newspapers carry ADS for “companions” and “escorts”. They are not cheap.

I am under no illusion this is going to be a long term thing. Sooner or later she is going to cross paths with someone her own age and it’s good-bye Dave. However, considering my age maybe my sex drive will dry up by then and match my wife’s and this will all become a distant memory.

Whether sincere or just an illusion it feels like the real thing and that’s all I can ask for. Maybe we’ll remain friends for a long time. There’s that saying, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Maybe one day I’ll look back and realize she saved my marriage by giving me what I needed at the time without causing disruption and divorce.


(Msg. #95 L:adywyatt) Quit trying to justify yourself as being some kind of charitable sap. Charities expect nothing in return for their help. You expect sex and you get it.


I’m not surprised you use the expression “charitable sap”. I’m sure you’re one of those who believe you worked harder than anyone else and anyone less fortunate is lazy.


You are even squirreling your way into getting it cheaper.- Now it's sex at her apartment and you can only afford $300 a month- pathetic


I’m beginning to understand the reason for your belligerent attitude. It’s probably due to your illiteracy. I mentioned in Msg. #90 I went there to talk. We do not have sex in her apartment. Do try to read for comprehension before leaving silly remarks. You’re only making yourself look foolish.
 4ms4me
Joined: 4/24/2010
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Posted: 4/3/2013 12:08:22 PM
Dave, thanks for being so open about your motivations. I can say I understand, but honestly I think there are better ways to deal with your situation. First of all, if you and your wife are not financially dependent in any way, then that should be irrelevant to you remaining married.

Secondly, how much actual "time" do you and your wife spend together? Is that you share the same house, and say hi to each other once or twice a day? Are you mistaking familiarity and inertia for companionship? Or do you actually spend signficant time together, and would you consider the two of you intimate emotionally, if not physically?

Have you and your wife gone to counseling? Have you ever discussed with your wife the possibility of having your sexual needs met elsewhere? If she doesn't want a divorce, maybe she'd be open to either, or both, of those scenarios.

Personally, I don't think sex outside of marriage is such a big deal. However, deliberately deceiving someone over a long period of time, who loves and trusts you is a big deal, for me. It is, at it's core, pure disrespect to the other person. And I think you should fix that; if she won't divorce you, won't attend couseling, won't allow you to seek satisfaction elsewhere, then show her the respect of divorcing her, since you are unable to live within the parameters she has set.

Good luck to you, I hope you can work things out without everything blowing up in your face.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 83
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Posted: 4/3/2013 12:08:59 PM

You’re only making yourself look foolish.

DD, with all due respect, do you look in a mirror as you typed this last post?
I'm sorry but I do have to agree with ladywyatts "sap" designation.
And, as far as that goes, there ARE avenues available for people of low income to get grants/low interest loans for higher education. It's entirely possible that your young friend is already receiving some sort of subsidy or grant.

I mean absolutely no disrespect to you or the young lady, but the whole story is as old as the hills. I'm not trying to "threaten" you with predictions of some dire outcome, chances are nothing bad is going to happen, but I do have to express a concern that your gullibility may at some point cause difficulties.

I’ve never heard anyone say one should marry for sex so according to society we have a very good marriage.

It may not said in so many words, but there is a clause in the marriage vows about "forsaking all others". Yes I know , through history it has not been uncommon for men to have more than one wife, or to have concubines, or for wives to turn a blind eye(or even approve!) of a husband consorting with other women. But there are also jurisdictions, even today, where adultery is a criminal act.
No, your marriage may look good to the casual observer, but there is a vow being broken. Now, were you to have a discussion with your wife and come to a mutual agreement to disregard that clause, and have an open marriage,that would be one thing.
If you actually have some hope of losing your libido, why don't YOU talk to the doctor about a medical strategy to
control your libido?
Really, I'm concerned that given your seeming gullibilty, you may wind up with your d*ck leading you into trouble somehow. As you yourself observed, connecting with a lady of your own age and similar situation may lead to expectations on her part that you can't meet.
I'm just kind of wondering if your wife's reluctance to consider divorce isn't because she is someone who regards having a spouse as something of a social necessity,even if she isn't willing to meet one of the basic expectations of marriage.
I'm sorry, I do understand your position and I understand your young lady's position but I cannot support either one of them. I'm certain that this whole scenario will not cause the world to quit turning any time soon,but I do have some concern that your naivete could at some point cause you to wind up with your tail in a crack or your ass in a sling.
Just sayin...
Cindy O
 Bellacate
Joined: 9/26/2012
Msg: 84
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Posted: 4/3/2013 12:51:13 PM
A young single mother returning to school?

Where is her child when she is meeting with you? And if she is returning to school why is she almost always available to you?

But then, you have already said you do not care if she isn't being honest with you as you are getting what you want.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 85
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Posted: 4/3/2013 1:55:19 PM
DD,
Me?? Illiterate??? hahahahahahaha....have you bothered to read my profile?? I'm a faculty member at a University.

You succeed to make yourself look foolish with your long, drawn out, repetitious explainations of why it is ok for you to cheat on your wife.

There is not a snotty bone in my body. I started at the bottom and worked my way up just like anyone else can do.

I definitely do not care for deceptive manipulators, of which you are one.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:01:01 PM
You succeed to make yourself look foolish with your long, drawn out, repetitious explainations of why it is ok for you to cheat on your wife.

Agreed. It's also all really, really unconvincing and just unpleasant.

He even used my Broken Hearts topic, in which I had asked for advice about how to learn to trust again after a boyfriend cheated on me, to try to justify himself! That was SO low. It's been a while since that break-up happened, I'm doing fine now, but I couldn't believe the gall.

At least this is an appropriate topic for it... sorta. If there is such a thing.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 87
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:01:26 PM
I have a life rule I live by. I dont get involved with men that are involved...Period.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 88
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:05:41 PM
In defence of married men I offer the following. Please put down any knives or pointed objects you may be holding.

To the VERY loooong winded- whiney married dude...You sound like a really lazy/boring lover who cant keep your spouse satisfied. I challenge you to ask yourself one question. If the roles were reversed, and it was your wife stepping out, would you be hurt by that? You can try and justify til the cows come home but I suggest you let your conscience be your guide. use your own actions in reverse and see how you like it...
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 89
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:06:41 PM
O and BTW...If YOU arent sexually satisfied, I guarantee its ten times worse for your wife...Just sayin...
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 90
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:11:24 PM
Lotsa tolerance and open-mindedness in these forums.

Gotta beat down the married people on here so they don't steal all the virgins.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:44:36 PM
To the VERY loooong winded- whiney married dude...You sound like a really lazy/boring lover who cant keep your spouse satisfied. I challenge you to ask yourself one question. If the roles were reversed, and it was your wife stepping out, would you be hurt by that? You can try and justify til the cows come home but I suggest you let your conscience be your guide. use your own actions in reverse and see how you like it...

O and BTW...If YOU arent sexually satisfied, I guarantee its ten times worse for your wife...Just sayin...


I'm sure you know him personally well enough to justify personal attacks like this? It's one thing to disagree and provide reasoned arguments, but resorting to this sort of rhetoric only shows the poster's nature. Your kind of post always irritates me, because it only attempts to shame someone without offering much - if any - real advice or depth of thought about the issues. Shame!

Perhaps he has considered the reversed situation, and I wouldn't be surprised if he were okay with it. I can't speak for him, only myself, and I know I would be if I were no longer interested in sex, I wouldn't want to deny my wife the pleasure I couldn't provide. That's selfish, and a very common reason behind many breakups, IMO. I'd probably also want to preserve my marriage if that's the only element that's at issue, - perhaps due to unfixable hormonal issues - as it's entirely possible we'd still love each other.

Again, why would you think his wife is sexually unsatisfied? If she's no longer at all interested in sex, then she's probably very satisfied to do without it, no matter how good it was in the past - and perhaps it was better than you attribute.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 92
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:51:32 PM
Sounds like a lot of justification for nasty deeds to me Rum...Ive never had a good lover that couldnt interest me in sex. Ive been married twice and both times I was completely faithful. Come to think of it, I was faithful in every relationship Ive had, married or not. Its a self-respect thing to me. there is NO justification for unfaithfulness period. Sad that a person would disrespect themselves not to mention their partner like this. You can attack me all you like, it simply makes we wonder why you protest so much ....Hmmmm...
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2013 3:16:00 PM
Ah, trying to turn the attack on me now. Good move! LOL If you've read my posts on this topic, you'll know that I have ethical concerns about his behavior and do not attempt or want to in any way justify it. I distinguish that from personal attacks which are not going to persuade anyone to behave differently. Your attitude - while understandable - is completely unhelpful. Perhaps you've also never experienced hormonal imbalances that remove essentially ALL desire for sex and intimacy - I know people who have, and it really is an awful situation for their spouses. For them too, as they probably remember the pleasurable role sexuality played in their relationships, but can no longer feel it.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 94
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Posted: 4/3/2013 3:56:37 PM

If she's no longer at all interested in sex,...

We have only his word for that, and he's demonstrably dishonest both to himself and to the other person closest to him, his wife. He lacks credibility.

But let's assume she did in fact tell him this. That's still only what she told him. Which is just, "It's not you, it's me."

How true, in your experience, has that usually been? Oh sure, once in a while it is... but is it reliable? I think we all know the answer to that is "no."

Ergo, I think he needs to get his ass out of the prostitute's bed and instead drag his wife to marriage counseling with that $300 a month. He might not have been the first to stray, we can't know. But whether his wife has or not, the problem still could be totally fixable.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
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Posted: 4/3/2013 4:16:34 PM

Your attitude - while understandable - is completely unhelpful.

with all due respect, the person who has tried to turn this thrad into a justificantion for his presence on a dating site AND his infidelity, is not ASKING for "help".


I know people who have, and it really is an awful situation for their spouses.

I do not disagree that a cessation of marital relations due to one partners' disinterest or incapacity is really really rough on the partner who isn't disinterested,or incapable.

But it certainly seems to me, that if infidelity were an understandable and acceptable solution, why would those who engage in infidelity have such a need to defend and justify their actions?
If its so understandable and acceptable, why doesn't DD just let his wife know about this wonderful single mother/college student that he is giving an earning opportunity? Why not move her right into the house so she doesn't have to deal with a male room-mate who is "interested" in her.
I've known a few women that have a male room(or house)mate,and in none of those situations was the male room-mate "interested" in the woman.
I'm not meaning to be unkind, fact it isn't so much the infidelity, it's the fact that he must be feeling damn awful guilty about it, since he's putting so much effort into explaining and attempting to justify it.

While I have never had to deal with the issue, I think that people here who have been cheated on, or perhaps have found themselves confronted by the angry spouse of the "unpartnered" person they've been dating,or gotten attached to a person they were dating, only to find out that person was not really "available"-are the ones that are the most upset by this.
I just don't like the inconsistency of someone claiming that they are comfortable with their course of action, yet seems to be putting a lot of effort into justifying it. If he thinks its' OK, why is he working so hard to defend it? We're just people on a dating site, we don't sign his paycheck, we aren't his landlord or his pastor-so why does he feel the need to explain and justify,and "pretty up" his behavior?
Cindy O
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2013 5:34:22 PM
I certainly don't know how he reconciles his actions and attitudes, but it is interesting to see the lengths to which he goes and how he attempts to do so. I certainly have never had anyone go into such depth and detail about their infidelity, and it's fascinating in a way to gain insight into how someone's mind can work. I think we can all learn something from this, and drawing him out rather than shutting him down may even be helpful to him eventually. Like it or not, he has raised some very tough questions that don't have easy answers.

Infidelity is very common, after all, and clearly everyone who goes down that path either feels justified, or feels guilty and tries to find justification to lessen the guilt.
 dishearteneddave
Joined: 8/8/2012
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Posted: 4/3/2013 7:50:40 PM

(Msg. #109. ForRumOnly) …..they probably remember the pleasurable role sexuality played in their relationships, but can no longer FEEL it.


That’s exactly what it is. She has nothing against sex any more than anyone would having sex when they’re not in the mood but it’s like talking to the wall trying to get that across to some people here. We all know it has to be the man’s fault because every woman will bend over, figuratively and literally, for their man. No questions asked. (Where is that eye roll emoticon?)


(Msg. #111. Ladyc4)I'm not meaning to be unkind, fact it isn't so much the infidelity, it's the fact that he must be feeling damn awful guilty about it, since he's putting so much effort into explaining and attempting to justify it……I just don't like the inconsistency of someone claiming that they are comfortable with their course of action, yet seems to be putting a lot of effort into justifying it. If he thinks its' OK, why is he working so hard to defend it?


The thread title is, “Married people on POF...” What better thread to share my story? As for feeling guilt I have explained a number of times I do not feel guilty because I have brought up the lack of sex to my wife for the last FIVE YEARS. However, you bring it up again. As for trying to justify it I have attempted to explain the circumstances and I receive replies like, “It’s your fault. You’re no good in bed. Talk to your wife. Suggest a doctor. You must have problems in your marriage.” Etc, etc, etc.

I have discussed it with my wife. I have suggested she see a doctor. She has told me she doesn’t FEEL like sex. Exactly how ForRumOnly explained it. She doesn’t have the FEELING. I asked if she had any sexual stirrings when looking at other men and she said, “No”. She doesn’t have the FEELING. How else can I write that so people are able to understand.

If one is getting ready for work or comes home after a tough day at the office and doesn’t FEEL like having sex is there a problem with the marriage? If one just wakes up and before washing their face or brushing their teeth or having a coffee their partner says, “I don’t care if you have morning breath”, and the person refuses is there a problem in the marriage? Does that mean the guy is no good in bed? Does that mean the gal doesn’t love him? Or does that simply mean the lady doesn’t FEEL like sex?

I am not trying to justify my actions. I have been trying to explain the situation. When I answer questions I receive accusations as a response.

One member participating in this conversation is supposedly a faculty member at a University and is unable to understand the following statement “I asked if I could come there and we could talk rather than go to a motel just for two hours as we were meeting later than usual.” (Msg. #90) Did I butcher the English language to such a degree that statement is not understandable?


(Msg #104. Venusenvy777) If the roles were reversed, and it was your wife stepping out, would you be hurt by that?


That would depend. In another thread I recalled an author who lived in Upstate NY. I read an article about him probably 15 years ago. Sorry, I have no links or other info.

Anyway, he contracted prostate cancer and kept a diary with instructions that should he die his wish was to have his diary published. I will now narrate a portion of what he wrote. This is not word-for-word.
“I spoke with my wife today. I told her I realize she is a youthful, vibrant woman and I understand my inability to make love to her has to be affecting her. I told her I would not object to her taking a lover if she was discrete and I would not attempt to find out if she did so. She is a moral lady and would never cheat on me but I told her I would rather she take a lover than divorce me. There is no reason for her to martyr herself. Resentment will build and I want this time to be a happy time as I don’t know how much time I have left.”

That was the substance of what he wrote and his wife did publish it to show the world just how much of a man he really was. That was a MAN!

As I have said numerous times my wife does not want a divorce. She is happy with me and although I am disappointed in her attention to the sex problem our marriage is based on more than sex. I had 10 years of the greatest sex a man could ask for. Now, are my only two choices either martyr myself or rub my wife’s nose in the fact I’m fulfilling a need outside the marriage? I refuse to do either!

Money is not a consideration to remain married. We are not wealthy, however, we are both capable of handling a divorce. We are together for the same reasons we have been together for the last 15+ years.

As to the “other woman” she answered my AD and fully understands the situation. The fact that she is young has no bearing on anything. When she answered my AD stating her age and saying she might be able to help me my first response was, “Do you mean you know of an older woman who may be interested?” I never did ask her what she thought of that first reply. She must have had a good laugh. The point being I wasn’t seeking arm candy. I was seeking physical affection and I have to say she sure knows how to supply that!

It’s been 6 weeks or so and, yes, after FIVE YEARS of dwindling, forced affection on my wife’s part it FEELS damn good! And as a passing note I had a doctor’s appointment two weeks ago. I have been taking blood pressure meds for 10 years. My pressure has remained borderline high even with two different medications. The doctor took my blood pressure and asked if I had won the lottery. Looking at him quizzically he replied, “Your pressure is 115/75.”

When I returned home and Googled I found out ones blood pressure can be affected by circumstance/conditions not always obvious to the person. An internal/subconscious worry/problem, for lack of a better definition. I know my wife was not the cause of my high blood pressure as my pressure has been high for a long time, however, the only major change in my life is the young women I met. Coincidence?

I hope this has answered any questions one may have had as there’s nothing more to add at this time. If the situation changes you’ll all be the first to know.

I wish you all well.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
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Posted: 4/4/2013 6:45:56 AM
DD

Another long, drawnout, repeticious, rumination plea for acceptance for your actions.

ladyc4

your assessment of DD is right. He is feeling so guilty that he is desperately trying to get others to agree with him, to make him feel justified for cheating.

He's gotten a couple of defensive responses and he has jumped on them like a starving man on food. He just does not want and will not hear what the majority are saying.


In another thread I recalled an author who lived in Upstate NY. I read an article about him probably 15 years ago. Sorry, I have no links or other info.

Anyway, he contracted prostate cancer and kept a diary with instructions that should he die his wish was to have his diary published. I will now narrate a portion of what he wrote. This is not word-for-word.
“I spoke with my wife today. I told her I realize she is a youthful, vibrant woman and I understand my inability to make love to her has to be affecting her. I told her I would not object to her taking a lover if she was discrete and I would not attempt to find out if she did so. She is a moral lady and would never cheat on me but I told her I would rather she take a lover than divorce me. There is no reason for her to martyr herself. Resentment will build and I want this time to be a happy time as I don’t know how much time I have left.”


What does the above have to do with your situation DD? At least this couple were TALKING to each other and HE was making an INFORMED decision on what to do about their situation. Do you really think everyone on here is that "illerate" they can't see your situation and his are not the same?? Yes HE acted like a man, you act like a deceptive snake.


She continued with, “Have you ever eaten so much chocolate or something else you really like and then couldn’t stand to look at it for a while? That’s how I am with sex. I had lots of sex with different guys when I was younger. Fortunately, I never got sick but I now realize the risk.”


Do you realize that HIV can lay dormant in a person for years without any symptoms? I certainly would hope you at least demanded she get tested or you have been using rubbers before engaging in sex with this girl. Just because she told you she never got sick does not mean it is the truth....

Tell your wife what you are doing and give her choice in the matter also. She has a right to die of something other than AIDS.

good job of digging yer hole deeper !
 bullfrog12
Joined: 4/24/2009
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Posted: 4/24/2013 5:47:00 PM
You might be right about that,but there are also married women on this sight ,and not that they are hiding it ,I am a married man ,it is on the top of my profile!
 that_ol_lady
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Married people on POF...
Posted: 4/25/2013 7:06:58 PM
Im starting to see that the amount of married/attached people out number the people who are REALLY "SINGLE" on websites..

some are upfront about it,,
others lie about it even if you have the smoking gun in hand,thats even funnier when they still lie an deny,,
i guess somehow some think that they can push the wife an kids or all the baby mamas in closet as if they are putting away a box of clothes for the winter an nobody will ever find out about them/it..
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