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 theskinny
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 101
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I greet them with a hand shake, if it is the first time meeting them, and leave them with a hug (if I really liked them) at the end of the date.


That sounds about right. I've been out of the dating game for a few years, so I'm probably playing it a little too safe by not initiating any physical contact which might be considered romantic. It really does depend on how the exchange goes online before we meet.
 trailgirl
Joined: 7/1/2008
Msg: 102
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 10:15:44 AM
Countless times on a first meet I've offered my hand and the man has hugged me. That's invading my personal space. How I greet a virtual stranger has absolutely no bearing on my level of affection and physicality with persons I'm close to. I'm a hugger, cuddler and more, but not with every person I meet.
But I can see that everyone feels differently about this. I think it really depends to what extent have you "connected" with the person via mail, IM or phone chat before a true meeting.
 pinciperro
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 103
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 12:40:35 PM
Me being the germaphobe that I am I always go for the hug. Hands can transmit so many things.
Usually I feel as if I am meeting a friend because I have talked on the phone with them for a while. So a hug is appropriate for me. I always hug my friends.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 104
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:07:21 PM
im guessing i live in a "huggy" part of town,
-handshakes are for businessmen.
 Sepia777
Joined: 2/26/2008
Msg: 105
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:15:25 PM
I unsually don't shake hands unless he is selling me something..:)
As far as a hug, it all depends on how you relate to each other online prior to the meet and the vibe you both get upon first real time meet.. Sometime both are nervous and a hug feels awkward straight away..and sometimes feels best deferred until the end of the meet...
There is not set answer .. It all depends on the comfort level and vibe between the two involved
 Just_2_b_me
Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 106
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:33:30 PM
I agree there is no set answer, and most of the time it’s a play it by ear sorta situation, and never really gave it much thought and went with body language cues.

But then I met this one lady, who claimed the only reason guys want to hug is so they can cop a feel, so I rethought the whole first meeting hug.

 10of6
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 107
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 4:02:37 PM

...how do you greet a person you meet from a dating website?
I prefer the time-honored ass pinch. At least my Italian side does.
 _beautifulmess_
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 108
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Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 5:03:05 PM
I go for the handshake at the beginning...It might come off a little like an interview, but isn't that generally what a first meeting is anyway? Unlike an interview, if I like the guy he'll get a hug at the end of the meeting.
 WhiteTigress0107
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 109
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 5:08:00 PM
I greet everyone with a hug unless it is a formal event.





or if it someone I know it usually has a kiss with it
 flsunflower
Joined: 11/8/2008
Msg: 110
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 5:58:56 PM
I love a hug and sometime can gain a good amount of vibes from it. I have noticed not everyone feels that way. To me, a handshake seems so businesslike.
 robernj
Joined: 11/3/2008
Msg: 111
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Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/17/2008 10:01:36 PM
personally it doesn't make much difference to me, either is fine at first. I will usually move in slowly and try to guage her reaction as to which is expected/prefered.
 Canuck_cutie
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 112
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/18/2008 12:48:04 AM
A hug, it breaks the ice. A hand shake is more a business meeting style greeting, seems awkward on a date to me.
 Zuglo
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 113
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:12:39 AM
Most definitely a HUG!!! Along with squeezing her butt..
Or trying to undo her bra..J/K
I think as you walk up to her, you can tell if hug would be OK with her.
I prefer hug, never thought about it as invading her space, or "I don't know her well enough", or she thinking "What the heck is he doing touching me?"
If she goes for a hug, I don't think anything negative about her, not going to think she is easy, I will think she is friendly, and lives in the 21 st century.
 me_me_me_pick_me
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 114
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:17:16 AM
When you're approaching them or vice versa, you lock eyes, you look them up and down and you have your answer to "would I or wouldn't I" - which should be a matter of seconds.......You can either punch them in the arm HARD or give them a slap on the back (if you wouldn't) OR if you "would", greet them with a hug.
 Childlike Wonder
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 115
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/18/2008 9:02:16 AM
Prefer the shake first and the hug after if I'm hoping to see them again and the feeling is mutual. Handshaking is quite common in a professional setting. I usually approach a first meet kind of business like. That way if one of us is disappointed, I can just pretend it's a business meeting.
 sHeLz1214
Joined: 5/29/2007
Msg: 116
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 12/18/2008 12:37:39 PM
We kiss both cheeks in my family for hello and goodbye, and hand shakes for work and business but a date is neither. I think a hug is appropriate for whatever the interest of the meeting as friends...hands off the butt though...
 RedBraemar
Joined: 11/11/2008
Msg: 117
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/8/2009 6:55:10 PM
It depends on the nature/duration of the conversations that led up to the first date. If I feel that I have a strong connection or that I have been chatting with them so much I feel as though I already know them...I will likle ygo for a hug just becasue I feel more comfortable...like Im greeting a long lost friend. If its one of those time where you've exchanged 2 or 3 emails and then meet up...I opt for the more formal 'hand shake" option.

Id love to see that awkward 'hand-shake-hug" you mentioned....have a pretty funny visual image of it.
 blackbourne
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 118
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/8/2009 11:44:33 PM
Depends on the circumstances of the meeting. I'm generally a hand shake person myself. Hugging brings you in a personal space of mine. But if you're giving, I'll take it.
 Randal107
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 119
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Posted: 1/9/2009 2:10:57 AM
It really depends on how comfortable you are with the person no matter how you two have met. Normally you can tell through body language how to react accordingly.
 zapped
Joined: 12/19/2008
Msg: 120
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:16:39 AM
I always do a handshake first when I arrived to the meeting place then at the end of our conversation..if i liked him..i would give him a hug..and if nothing there..i would give a second handshake.
 mrjohnny5
Joined: 11/6/2006
Msg: 121
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Posted: 1/9/2009 3:58:33 AM
It depends on how long and how comfortable my conversation was with my date prior to meeting.

If it was a good conversation then I'd go with the french greeting (hand shake + kiss on the cheek). If it was more formal then I'd go only with the handshake.
 coffaga
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 1/9/2009 6:44:33 AM
When i meet with someone, i give a hug. I find hand shaking too formal. Because i always consider them as a friend at first and i never shake hands with my friends :)
 .ladyxheart
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 123
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/9/2009 3:45:57 PM
I don't hug people that I just have met, so handshake, but if you have been talking for awhile, have become comfortable with eachother, and know that the other person will accept a hug, then I don't see what's wrong with that either. It's all about what people expect, and will accept. You generally get a vibe of which will be okay.
 Country Music Fan
Joined: 9/28/2008
Msg: 124
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/9/2009 7:39:53 PM
Handshake first if all goes well at the end of the date then maybe a hug would be appropriate
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 125
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Posted: 1/10/2009 1:59:20 PM
Ohhh ... I like a hand shake. It tells you quite a lot.

When we are more acquainted a hug may follow. I'm not jumping a queue there
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