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 farmgirl1967
Joined: 1/28/2008
Msg: 76
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Ohhh yes, I have been in your shoes, and it is very hard. My sister's dog had cancer and I was there t o help the vets. For her Dobie, it was the right thing because she could hardly walk, but to look at her laying on the couch b4 we put her down it was like nothing was wrong, but you could see the pain in her eyes. It is hard at the time and for some time after, but you will have memories and pics. When my horse passed I made a plac (I know I cant spell ) with his pictures and I got part of his tail and braided it and put it with the pictures and I got a poem off the internet. I guess time will heal your heart, but I understand what you are going through. Take care Farmgirl
 lonesome wonderer
Joined: 12/26/2007
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 5:54:10 AM
@the reason, thank you for the poem "a dog's prayer" i just copied it and i'm going to print it up for my neighbor and i.

sunrisen, it's the hardest thing with putting an animal down, don't feel guilt, feel the love in your heart that she's no longer suffering. 11 days after my birthday last year i had to put my one and only best friend down. since i wasn't able to handle the fact of watching her drift off to sleep my father had taken her in for me. i've been and still am going through a lot of physical problems as well as stress and wasn't able to handle that along with it. when i got her less than 2 years ago i promised her that she would never be hurt or hurt again. she was a 4yr old pitbull (when i got her) that was abused, left out in the rain, snow, and heat during the day and thrown into a crate at nite, she has a scar on her head from the former owner hitting her with a pipe. she was like a kid in the toy store when she came into my home and she had all the love and attention that she never had before. diamond girl had a tumor on her left front leg that was starting to prevent her from putting the weight on it, 3 days before she was put to rest (at the age of 6) her right hip gave out on her and she wasn't able to walk right. i'm having problems right now being partially disable and working to get the use of my left arm back and i wasn't able to pick her up to carry her outside. i couldn't see her suffer no longer. my brother gave me the money to have her euthenized and a private cremation, i have an 8x10 pic of her framed, a shelf with her ashes in a chest sitting on it along with her favorite toy. the poem that the reason posted is also going to be framed and put with her. she was my one and only best friend, she stood beside me while i had fits of anger and tears, she might not be here with me in body but she's here with me in spirit.

i had a few animals that either died in my parents' house, had to be laid to rest, even my horse died in my arms after being hit by a car. it's sad, it hurts, but i was told that they're also waiting for us when we pass on.

just remember that you're not killing her but your loving her even more with not allowing her to suffer. it's always the love that we have for our animals to not allow them to suffer, don't confuse that with guilt...never do that.

oh, there's a site called rainbow bridge that you can go to and post a pic and something about your dog, they have a monday nite candle lighting ceremony for each of the animals....it's nice, they also have people that you can talk to as well.

www.rainbowbridge.com

keep smiling girlfriend, your 4 legged angel is watching you.
 deadhed1958
Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 78
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 6:19:08 AM
I lost my Pal Kato lat spring He was a 15 yr old American Eskimo Had him for 10yrs. Got hiom from the pound when he was 5 In the last year of his life He developed diabetes. I diod what I could for him but in the ebmd old age & diabetes took him from me He went doing what he loved best being outside playing in the yard with me. It was hard to see him go. & I still miss him even though I have another dog now. Kato waas my best buddie Always happy to see me & wanting to play right up til the end Strange as it may seem in his last days he would lok forward to his daily insulin shot & knew when it was time for it. He would head for the fridge & remind me that it wastime for him to get it. I feel for you I know how hard of a decicion this can be
 holeinoneusa
Joined: 8/23/2007
Msg: 79
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 6:32:08 AM
Sunrisen- My beautiful sweet Golden Retriever collapsed and died in my arms on Monday this week. My heart is broken. I've also had to put down dogs and cats over the years including one of my cats a month ago due to his old age and many illnesses. It's never easy to do and is the greatest act of love that you can do for your pet. I held my cat in my arms and talked to him as his time here ended.
It's just part of owning a pet to know that this day comes and you can't do anything about it. You must be strong at this time and know in your heart that this is the best thing for the animal and this is the time to do it.
My heart goes out to you. Best Wishes.
 Kasinda
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 80
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:18:08 AM
I have had to put my beloveds down before and it is very hard. However, is it fair to them to let them suffer after all the love and affection they have given you over their lives? If you can answer that honestly then you will do the right thing.
 kewldoc
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 81
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 8:53:39 PM
Wow all this is difficult to read; I can just feel the agony of the people that have contributed here... sniff, sniff......

In the midst of a tragic loss of big draft horse a couple of years ago, I witnessed the most amazing thing. On Christmas morning, of all cruel things, I found him dead of a cardiac arrest. He was part of a six horse team, & all the others were standing around pawing at him, as if to say, "Get up Deacon; Get up!" Due to his size, I had to call a big backhoe to bury him and a big lift to carry him to the grave site by the little lake. As the crane was lifting him up for the 1/4 mile ride to the lake, the remaining 5 horses went into their usual hitch formation behind the crane, with a vacant spot where Deacon usually walked. They slowly walked like that, behind the crane, the entire distance. When the crane arrived at the grave, they lined up in a straight line as he was lowered into the grave. There were probably 20 people in the field helping; we were all wiping tears and looking at each other in disbelief as we watched this scene.

If anyone ever doubted the spirituality of animals, this made a believer out of them. I strangely felt some comfort from their actions; it was like they were silently saying, "Hey Dad, we're hurting too...."
 growlbear
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 82
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:28:03 PM
I write this with tears in my eyes. I loved my dog and still do but loving him as much as I did I couldn't stand to see him suffer so the vet put him down as I held him . It was the hardest thing I have had to do but doing the right thing is what you do when you love something. Its been years since but the memory of it still make me cry. growlbear
 Solitarygal
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 83
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:45:21 PM
OP I am sorry about your pet. I have had a young dog die while
lying on the Vet's table being treated. Poor soul could not hang on.

More recently (3 years ago) I had to put down a much loved kitty.
She was sixteen, not really that old for a cat but I so hated the
thought of losing her that I left it until the very last moment, when
she weighed literally nothing ~ a very selfish act on my part.

I do feel guilt, a lot of it, for allowing her to suffer so long. Rest
assured time does heal and you are left with wonderful memories.

Brazos, Sol
 Straight Christian Lady
Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 84
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:48:21 PM
((((((((((HUGZ))))))))))))

I said goodbye to my beautiful white cat 2 years ago. Nicky was 11, and I didn't know he had a massive tumour because he never seemed to be hurting. By the time I knew he was sick, it was too late.

I stayed with him as the vet put him to sleep, and I will never regret that choice, but the actual necessity was horrible, and I must have cried for months.

If you haven't already read it, this is the "Rainbow Bridge" poem.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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 WickedNRed
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 85
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:02:55 PM


Brightest Blessings!
 Ghost Shadow
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 86
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:23:34 PM
yes friend, I've put down three. The first was a pom mix I found, she was my sobriety dog, lived for 15 yrs, then her poor body began to give out, it was hard seeing her so sick but harder to let her go, I kept thinking she should live out her natural life. Wrong! I realized too late I was being selfish and finally took her in, she died in my arms, I bundled her up and brought her home and buried her in the back yard.

A few years later I'd brought home a small white shepherd, found her at a store where a kid was trying to find homes for three pups. I tucker her in my jacket and we rode home on my motorcycle, a four hour ride. I trained her to hand commands and she loved me unquestioningly, She too grew old and her back legs gave out so she couldn't go outside and do her thing. I took her in as soon as I knew it was time and she too died in my arms. She is also buried next to her older little friend.

Last was my chow, he was like me in so many ways, chows take to one person and that's it. He was not as trainable, very independent and very possessive of his back yard. He chose when he wanted love and when he wanted to be left alone. His stomach started to give out, took him in for surgery which helped for about six months, he was going downhill but still capable. When the time came I again took him in, he took his last breath while i was holding his head. He has joined the other two in the back yard.

These devoted animals love us unconditionally, we may get upset with them and they'll cower but they'll come just as quickly as we call them again. They are there when no one else is, they love to have fun with us, playfully or just lay with us when we are down, being quiet and maybe even licking our hands or faces. They trust us and therein lies the lesson I learned. They trust us not to let them suffer needlessly, to get them checked on as soon as possible, and if we find they can't go on, they trust that we'll let them go out in dignity and that we'll be there for them till the end.

You bet I cried, when they took their last breath, when I wrapped them up and thanked the vets, when I talked to their bodies as I drove home and when I layed them in their final resting place. I sat on the ground and reviewed their lives and thanked God, and them, for giving me so much of their lives. Then I got up and keep them in my memory and when I can I talk about them.

Today I have two cats I got as feral kittens at the yard where I work, one got mauled by raccoons last summer. One rear paw broken in three places, tooth holes in six, four ruptures of the stomach and still he dragged himself home after five days alone out there. Surgery cost lots but I had to give him a chance, saved his leg, lost part of his tummy, everything else healed. He's an indoor cat now and so is his sister.

I may get a couple of dogs later in the year, I love to train them to silent commands, and they love to play. I know you will hurt, my friend, but always remember the great times your pet gave you, and give it the dignity not to suffer needlessly, be there when it's time, you won't regret it... and don't worry about the vet and staff seeing you cry, it's normal and they see it all the time.

God bless
 TXZN
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 87
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:23:49 PM

It is a hard decision... but if you really love your pet you will not let them suffer. You will give them a dignified, painless death... ideally with you there stroking them and telling them you love them.
It's the least someone can do for a lifetime of loyalty (be it 2 months or 20 years) - I assure that if the roles were reversed & you were dieing she would be there until the end for you.
It's one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life but the idea of letting someone I love die alone when I have the option of being there gave me the courage to answer the call of duty.
 SonoraDreamin
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 88
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:24:49 PM
Sunrisen...put on your walkin shoes and grab the leash...if your dog is healthy enough that is...take a walk where you know he/she enjoyed to play over the years...take a ride in the car with the window down...make a gourmet supper both of you can share...make it the most enjoyable end to life you can for the poor thing. If you do this...take photos of every bit of time you spend together...not only will it give you a sense of closure its a kind way to say goodbye. I hope this helps
 yoodle
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 89
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My kitten had FIP
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:25:41 PM
I had a Siamese who contracted FIP (like kitty AIDS), presumably exacerbated by vaccinations and then being neutered (or spayed) (both take a heavy toll on just surviving. I called her my little harbor seal (wet FIP causes the body cavity to fill with fluid). I feel horrible just typing this, remembering, and she was nuts about me, she slept under my chin, if you can imagine.

When the morning broke (about this time of year) and I knew she wasn't going to recover (I spent $$$$ on drugs, and concoctions), I called the vet, and I couldn't talk...just stood there blubbering, crying. I was ushered into a room, and they let me hold her for her last breath. Pretty bad, but a relief. I buried Emily in my yard and she has come out in the bright apricot colored roses I planted oe'r her.
 Remington55
Joined: 9/23/2007
Msg: 90
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 1:41:10 AM
My heart goes out to you... It is one of the hardest decisions a person has to ever got to make, sometimes a person feels more closely bonded to an animal than to some of the relatives. I've lost a few dogs over the years from old age, one in particular saved my youngest son when he was 18, he's now 24.

He was walking with Smokey (Pure Bred German Shepherd) and she jumped up and bit his sweater near his stomach and tugged at him. He kept walking, again she jumped up and bit his sweater and this time my son stopped and asked, "What's the matter girl? What do you see?" Then about 60~80 feet away in the undergrowth of the trees, a huge black bear stood up and started woofing. My son backed up slowly and quickly walked back home, the following March our dog passed away, she was 19 years old. Everyone in the family shed a few tears. I'm sure she would've sacrificed her life to save my son's. It was certainly a sad day, however it is the Circle of Life.

**~Remington55~**
 time4meandyou
Joined: 12/15/2007
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:13:29 AM
Yes I have put a dog down. My daughter and I were shopping one day and saw a store that had pets up for adoption. They had the cutest****r spaniels pups, which I love but there were so many little kids holding them that I never got a chance to play with them. In the corner was a little dog, a mix of some sort. He looked to sad I had to take him home. That was over 14 years ago. He's name was Tramp and he turned out to be the most wonderful dog. He loved going camping and trips for ice cream. Last August he started to slow down. I knew it was coming. My son was over seas in the army. He told me to be sure to take good care of Tramp until he came back. When I came home from work I could hear Tramp breathing and sometimes he would use his energy to get up to say hi at the door. One day I fought him, he won't move, just look up at me. The vet said he had a stroke. I stayed with him while the vet gave him his shot. I talked to him about how wonderful he was and how much fun we used to have camping and taking car rides. I also thanked him for being the wonderful addition to our family and that I would always love him. I brought him home to bury him. When I got home my oldest daughter was leaving for work. She stopped to tell my youngest son it was over. It was so hot that day and I never thought I could do it but I dug the hole and have a beautiful resting place for him at the end of the yard. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. All my kids and I cried for days. I didn't know how I was going to tell my son over seas. But at the same time I knew it was the best thing to fo for Tramp. It was his time. It's ok to cry and even feel that maybe there could have been something you could do to save him, but deep down inside you will know it's what has to be done. Remember there are other people like us that that have an extra child or a best friend that has 4 legs instead of 2 that we feel we could tell anything to and know they would always be there for us in our hearts. Letting the vet put him or her down doesn't hurt the dog and for me, it made me feel good knowing I was with him in the end to show my love for him by holding him and talking to him. I will be thinking of you, praying for you and your dog. Alot of people on here will be doing the same. Take care.
 ex-navy
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 92
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:01:23 AM
My ex turned our 2 cats in to the local shelter when we divorced. I know how hard it is. Sometimes I still think about them. It will stop hurting- just gotta give it time. I hope to get 2 more cats one day- just like the ones I had. They were such good buddies that I don't think I'll ever forgive my ex for tossing them in the pen like that- they certainly didn't deserve it.
 PTHM
Joined: 2/7/2008
Msg: 93
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:10:47 AM
I just had to euthanize my Husky after 16 1/2 years . It was the hardest thing to do , but I know he was not suffering anymore . talk to your vet , they are very good at comforting you through that situation .
 Shortstuff07
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 94
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 12:10:42 PM
Sunrisen - I'm soooo sorry you are going through this. I had to make this same decision in February last year. It is by far the hardest decision I had ever had to make. He had been out of it for a couple of days. But the morning I took him in, he was so lethargic and could hardly even walk when he was trying to follow me around. I took him right to the vet thinking he probably ate something rotten or whatever. Get him all fixed up and come home.

The vet told me he had a tumor in his liver that had ruptured and there wasn't anything they could do. I needed to make the decision. I asked if he was going to die anyway if I could bring him home with me to let him go at home. The vet said I could. . . but his lungs would eventually fill with blood, he wouldn't be able to breath, etc, etc. I couldn't do that to him.

I stayed there with him and I have to admit I didn't realize how quiet and peaceful it was. It was very fast. He fell asleep with my holding him and petting his head, telling him what a good boy he is and I loved him. I know that he knew that I realy did.

Your pet will always know how much you love her. Because she loves you just as much. Please come back and tell us if you've been able to make a decision and how you're doing. Wish I could send ya a hug.
 flowerforce
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 95
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:50:17 PM
I have had to have three cats put down. It is difficult and painful. One of the things that I have done to make it easier is to have a mobile vet clinic come to my house and have it done there. This way the animal is in his own home and is at peace rather than be in a strange environment and be frightened. I have also chosen lovely music to play when I had the cat in his final minutes and created a box for my pet's body to lie in after the fact. This way it has become a deeply moving experience for me. Yes it did feel like was killing my pet but he was suffering.
But having been with my dad in the last weeks and months of his life and watching his suffering I would likely if I could have ended his suffering the same way. The death of a beloved be it a pet or a person holds many gifts. Being with my dad and caring for him at home until he died as was his wish was a profoundly spiritual experience and deeply bonding for my brothers and myself. We did for him the same as we did for my cats. Played music for him and held him at the moment of his death. The only difference is my brothers were with me when our father died. We must remember that helping someone or a pet to die is our last gift to them and a last act of love.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 6:45:32 PM
Flowerforce, you spoke that very beautifully.

It is a gift to be able to walk a person to the threshold, between life and the otherside.

it seems you have given a very loving experience to something that even is so extremely hard on those that are left behind a beautiful going home.

People don't always have a choice to be at home, but having family there is so important.

As a medical professional I have held the hands of those that were passing from this world to the next, and you are so correct it is a gift to be there. It is part of the life cycle, and the leaving from the physical body is scary for many... However if their is love and care, that leaving can be gentle and as you said a last physical emotional gift; two be shared by the departing and those staying behind.
 leeanna50
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 97
My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 6:54:27 PM
I feel your pain, in april of last year i had to have my little siky put down, she was 18 years old, she was my family, You have to put your self in your pets place, has she or he lost quality of life, are they suffering, do they have alot of medcial problems, its never easy to make the choices we have too but the bottom line is we have to do whats best for them, were being very selfish if we dont because we will miss them, there isnt a day go by that I dont think about my pet but i know shes alot better off now.
 linda489
Joined: 12/27/2007
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 7:04:04 PM
I am so sorry, I dont know your whole story, but my dog died on christmas day..it was so hard, but she went so fast, before the vet could tell me that she was dying..it happen within 2 weeks,,,she just started breathing really heavy and it was so hard seeing her die..she died at my feet..im so sorry of the pain your going through..also there is petloss.com..that could help you as well..take care and God Bless you and your doggie..i will pray for your strenght..through this adversity in your life...
 Azureaus
Joined: 10/6/2005
Msg: 99
IMy deepest condolences...
Posted: 2/22/2008 7:17:02 PM
I had to put my dog to sleep on Wednesday this week. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. The reality is we are all dying. At least our pets can die with dignity and they do not need to suffer. My heart is breaking right now, but I will love him forever. I am grateful for the time we had together. I will cherish the memories. He lived 13 glorious years. My treasured yellow lab Beau.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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My dog is dying
Posted: 2/22/2008 7:19:18 PM
i've had many pets over the years--right now ONLY 3 cats and 2 dogs left. some have lived to 20 and a number dying of cancer lately--i am convinced there is something environmental here.

at any rate, i use a three step process. if at possible, i have it done at home, next in my car and only if necessary at the vet office.

1. i get them stoned with a pill that relaxes them (prescription ace). the vets usually let me have it if the pet is in crisis beforehand. this gets them to relax and sleep, sometimes to the point of loud snoring.

2. the vet then injects them with a further narcotic. in one instance, this was enough for the pet to pass right then and there--in my arms and peacefully.

3. most of the time after step two and the animal is still breathing but very peaceful and not "wakeable", the vet then takes the final step with an IV and they have slowly and peacefully transitioned.

it's not a jarring thing. the animal "looks" more and more comfortable. you can hold them in between steps and just let them sleep for a while in your arms. if they were in pain, you can see them relax and feel that you've done the right thing.

i prefer to bury them and plant a tree or large bush over them. this year, i had to bury my cat at my manfriend's house as my property is too sandy. however, i have moved and in one instance fear they may have had their graves disrupted. some people have this local guy put their ashes in a crock. i don't believe much in bodies, more in spirit, so i suppose the cheapest way is to have cremation done where they do several together. if possible, i make a donation to an animal society in the pet's name. i usually rescue another pet immediately, but as i am getting "older", i am sticking with what i have--too many vet bills! in the future, i will house rescue pets, but not own them and let the rescue groups pay any large vet bill.

i think the fear beforehand is the worst. i do miss my departed critters and of course the memory is always strongest with the last one gone.
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