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 WallsOfRaiford
Joined: 4/5/2005
Msg: 525
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^^^^^^^^^ Crap. ^^^^^^^^^^
 BobYakra
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 531
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 9:56:01 PM
Everything in moderation.

There is a huge difference between how women and guys view porn however.

Men are visual creatures, and to a woman it doesn't compute that a guy can watch porn and wack-off and it's got nothing to do with his woman being "not good enough" or wanting to step outside of the relationship.

It's just eye-candy that serves a very simple function.

I had a very big blown up fight about this once when a girl I was dating found some porn on my pc. She got soooo mad. I tried to explain that every now and then when she wasn't there I'd wack it and watch some of that shit to get the job done. Mostly because I have a hard time getting to sleep sometimes and a quick wankin puts me to sleep. I told her I obviously prefer the real thing with her, and that it was all stuff I had downloaded before I ever met her, which was true.

She wouldn't hear any of it. And I could understand things from her perspective, being a woman. She found it degrading (which it is) and had the attitude that I was cheating on her "thinking about other women". I'm sure these views closely mirror that of many women on this site.

Porn is degrading to women it its depiction, if you try to put what is happening into the context of a real sexual encounter of two people being intimate with each other. However, porn is just an act. Watching porn has nothing to do with intimacy and love, it's visual stimulation.

Very hotly debated subject.
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 534
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:19:12 AM
ok first of all..how much porn does one have to watch before they get the point? You watch one, it's stuck in your head for life!
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 535
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:20:22 AM
ok first of all..how much porn does one have to watch before they get the point? You watch one, it's stuck in your head for life!
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 536
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:21:57 AM
damn this stutter...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 537
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:55:02 AM
I find it funny as hell myself....

But it's not funny when guys believe that is how we want sex....gak!

Tapping...rotfpmslmfao
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 539
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:47:21 AM
^^^^ don't say that ... make your own
 dji
Joined: 10/9/2005
Msg: 541
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 10:53:00 AM
If both couples agree to watch porn then thats ok. Its just another form of foreplay.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 543
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:49:16 PM
Dji - Porn to most women is watching a chick flick … not watching a 9” deck humping a plastic bunnie.

But I did say MOST WOMEN … not all
 maa_97
Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 544
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 4:02:11 PM
doesn't matter... i've even watched with one of my ex'd before...lol
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 547
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 4:52:45 PM
(((Ducking the flying bible))))
dji...if you don't think enough of the woman, you are in a relationship with, if you ever have a real realtionship...you don't have to watch other people have sex for foreplay.

This is a sick idea, cooked in hell. Porn destroys people, men and women, makes them insensitive to each other, and leads them to believe that the other "person" is nothing more than a means to sex and pleasure.

I will admit I was there, with that attitude, when I was a teenager, but I grew up...thank God!


A good porn dvd can be hours of enjoyment! You just have to not be judgmental...and a little open to new experiences.

To quote Bootsy Collins and the p funk...free your mind and your ass will follow
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 549
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:19:40 PM
Years ago, a close friend of mine started dating a nice girl and they got married eventually and are still married. But because of upraising or whatever, she was very conservative when it came to sex.

Anyway, my friend one night asks his girlfriend for a b1owjob.

Having good intentions and wanting to be adventures, she grabs my friend’s member and starts to blow. I am not sure, but I think she thought that inflating a mans balls with air could be pleasurable, need less to say, she was condemned to watching porno for a good while after that.

There is an educational value to porn.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 552
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/30/2005 9:15:51 AM
There is another thread going and most of the same ladies who are anti porn have expressed the desire to use their BOBs during sex.

I feel that bringing the BOB to the bedroom is the same as men popping a porn flick to watch during the old in and out.

I am proud to be a VIBOPHOBIAC
 diggydiggy
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 554
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/30/2005 11:24:25 AM
I vote "porn in a relationship" as well, as in, pornlike relationship!
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 555
Porn in a relationship (SirMidnight)
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:13:59 PM
Sadly, I have tried sexy outfits, and according to him he doesn't have fantasies. From what his mom and dad tell me, he's "just being a man, and men like looking at naked women". I've tried talking to him, and he gets pissed off or feels hurt that I don't think I'm enough for him.. when he's not really giving me much to go on. I've got a stronger sex drive than him.. but he likes masturbating at least once everyday instead of having sex. Then again, we are talking about someone with a "personality disorder", so go figure. Thanks for the advice..
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 556
Porn in a relationship (taurus516)
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:18:45 PM
I know.. and I am insecure about my body.. but I am VERY secure as to how to please him, lol. I know what I'm doing there.. it's just he seems to prefer taking care of himself. I know his back hurts alot because of his job.. and I've offered positions that doesn't put too much strain on his back, but he still doesn't want to have sex. Specifically he says he's still attracted to me, but he doesn't feel like having sex like we use to. Maybe he's being lazy? If I ever tell him I'm not in the mood he gets pissed and expects me to still go through with it. I feel it's one sided with him.. only when HE wants it.
 Your sweet honey
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 557
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:33:21 PM
My relationship with my ex was for 13 years, we use to love to read forums togther from Play boy and penthouse what a turn on...I guess the biggest thing with me was I did not care if we watched Porno it was good once in while...However, I did not want it to be the only thing that my boyfriend was turned on by....I wanted me to be number one in turning him on...
And that once in a while.
If you had to use that for the tool of your sex life.........well that would be sad.
 melonaide777
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 559
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:55:53 AM
Porn pisses me off because the more insanely jealous guys I've dated had a habit of leaving porn in obvious places. The one that did it the worst was extremely paranoid about "finishing the job"....the job being me off course so he would leave porn all over the place in case he didn't :finish the job" it would look as though might not be "finishing the job" all the time either.

Some people are really stupid.


And yes, I'm a bitter ass female and I don't need to be reminded.


I had boyfriends that just happened to come across porn and start looking at it, or watching it...in front of me....that's totally different. If that's the case, who cares.

but if there's porn laying around to be found or pictures of one certain porn star, like over the bed.....that shit aint even worth starting an argument over but it's a clear indication of what kind of person you're dealing with.
 hapeenurse
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 562
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 5/10/2006 2:50:56 PM
it can be fun to watch porn together, sometimes for comedic relief and sometimes to add a little variety to the sex!

if your partner wants to watch porn all the time , or prefers porn to actual hands on (no pun intended ,well maybe pun intended!) action then I would probably have a little problem with that, otherwise, have at it! Women are lucky now too , a lot of porn is written with them in mind so there is actually some kind of plot involved (besides the whole "I'm the plumber here to snake your pipes deal) , although I don't think any of us watch porn for the plots....
 snowsoup
Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 563
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 5/10/2006 4:07:16 PM
Does not bother me a bit, I have watched it with my man of the mo...it spices up our sex lives cause I know he comes back to me....
 justmeinnc05
Joined: 8/12/2005
Msg: 570
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/2/2006 4:03:18 AM
I'm not involved with anyone and don't look at porn. I would not become seriously involved with someone that would refuse to stop looking at porn. Sex between two people is a beautiful thing, but porn makes my skin crawl and chills my soul to the bone. It reduces humans to the level of dogs in heat. I am convinced that porn is at least a part of what has caused the slow death of the family.
 justmeinnc05
Joined: 8/12/2005
Msg: 571
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/2/2006 4:14:52 AM

My ex hated porn ... HATED, porn. But she loved making it w/ me. Go figure


Not a lot to figure out with this. Two people together that are close having sex is the greatest thing on earth. Watching others have sex is just creepy. If a man wants to get me out of the mood for sex, all he has to do is put some of that garbage on, and I will turn into the coldest fish on earth!!! Sex is meant to be something shared by two people that care about each other(Yes I know it doesn't always work out that way, but that is the ideal). Call me a prude all you want, but I will never see sex as a spectator sport if I live to be 100 billion years old. Didn't like it when I was young, don't like it now, and never will.
 Bill951
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 576
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/6/2006 6:07:51 PM
lets watch it, do it,
 CelestialTrance
Joined: 6/20/2006
Msg: 579
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/25/2006 3:59:06 AM
No porn is very very unhealthy for relationships! The only exception to porn is home made porn of my partner and I together!
 Smily_face
Joined: 2/1/2006
Msg: 581
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/26/2006 12:46:06 PM
No way!!!! It's distructive and kills true feelings and emotions that turn sex into love making.
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