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 Mr. 28
Joined: 9/2/2005
Msg: 442
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I think if a girl doesn't want her man to watch porn, she's insecure, needs to take a moment and think about it and realize the girls are in the TV...not on the couch next to him. Also, most guys won't ever have experiences with women like Jenna Jameson, so we take what we can get. I think if a guy doesn't want his girlfriend watching porn...he probably has a small one and feels inferior.

 raverdad
Joined: 11/10/2004
Msg: 444
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Posted: 9/21/2005 1:49:27 AM
Everything in moderation
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 445
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/22/2005 9:10:36 PM
I have a problem with a guy I'm suppose to be with watching porn or looking at hustler. To me, when you marry, you're suppose to see only that person naked, have them satisfy you. If my significant other is looking at other women, especially SKINNY women, obviously he doesn't find me attractive enough to "do the job" anymore.. and that hurts. Especially if he wasn't interested in it the 1st year and a half we were married, but he is now, along with other "strange and disturbing" interests.
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 446
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/22/2005 9:13:28 PM
Besides, it all starts with looking, and while a guy can't have the real thing on t.v., what's to stop him from finding the real thing outside of t.v.? True, it's a fantasy thing.. but I have a problem with the person I love and that I'm suppose to be with finding pleasure elsewhere when I'm ready, willing and able to satisfy at home. I end up feeling rejected because of how he's acting, which causes the insecurity eventually. We don't start out insecure, someone usually makes us become that way.
 M1DN1GHT*
Joined: 5/27/2005
Msg: 448
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/28/2005 12:30:39 AM

I have a problem with a guy I'm suppose to be with watching porn or looking at hustler. To me, when you marry, you're suppose to see only that person naked, have them satisfy you. If my significant other is looking at other women, especially SKINNY women, obviously he doesn't find me attractive enough to "do the job" anymore.. and that hurts. Especially if he wasn't interested in it the 1st year and a half we were married, but he is now, along with other "strange and disturbing" interests.


It sounds like you should take a few steps in finding some new ways to please your man. Try fulfilling some of his fantasies. If you don't know what those are then open up the lines of communication. Find some new sexy outfits to where for him. If things have cooled down then they need to be heated up. You are married and you should be able to talk to him about these things. You should also be able to tell him how you feel about him watching porn.
 6foot2_all_man
Joined: 9/27/2005
Msg: 449
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/28/2005 1:11:00 AM
Well...personally speaking I am not sure that porn in a relationship is a good thing because just like drugs, it leads to other things that both partners may not be prepared for. On the other hand...sex is sex no matter how you slice it. It could open up that great discussion about unfulfilled fantasies and what not...actually that should take place when you are first talking with somebody because if you are already in a marriage and say , "Honey...I want to shove this object up your ass" well, lets just say you may find something up your own ass first...lol...

And for those whitty bantering comments...not gay, never have been, never will be! And mine is exit only!
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 450
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Posted: 9/28/2005 6:54:51 AM
like drugs, it leads to other things that both partners may not be prepared for.


The only time I think that would be a problem is if you have a couple that is very naive or one or both of them have an addictive personality to begin with.No one gets addicted to anything unless they have a predisposition to addiction to begin with.For example,a popular myth is that people who try crack can get addicted to it the first time they try it.That's only if they have a chemical and psychological predisposition to it in the first place.I know people who have tried it and never had a desire to try it again.The so called "porn addict" is a person who suffers from obsessive/compulsive disorders to begin with,porn becomes his outlet.
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 451
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Posted: 9/28/2005 6:58:31 AM
If my significant other is looking at other women, especially SKINNY women, obviously he doesn't find me attractive enough to "do the job" anymore.. and that hurts.


That would totally miss the point of watching porn with your b/f or husband.The idea is to provide both with a fantasy outlet to enhance the desire,NOT replace a person's paramour with an image on the screen.The fact that you have problems especially with skinny women would indicate that you have an insecurity about your own body not being able to satisfy your lover.Porn would NOT be for you.You need a person who's view of porn is similar to your own and therefore would have no desire for it.
 nettlyn
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 452
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/28/2005 7:03:27 AM
I won't say that porn in a relationship is a must for me, but if the guy or chika I'm with is into it it's definitely a plus for me. Especially if I'm with a guy at the time because there is nothing that gets me hotter than the sights and sounds of women in the background getting off. Plus if you see something that you or your partner want to try then you can just be like hey we should try that and its all good.
 pleaseher101
Joined: 9/28/2005
Msg: 453
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/28/2005 9:45:13 AM
hey love how u doing
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 455
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Posted: 9/29/2005 6:42:24 AM
Hey Lady Bug,you ever need a cinematographer,let me know.
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 456
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 9/29/2005 6:44:06 AM
i still think porn is too silly to get me aroused.

this is the thread that won't die
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 457
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/4/2005 5:53:39 PM
I though it died too, but it came back to life, for now. The 6 ft 2 guy said it right and the sweetheart too. Most of what porn does is distructive or negitive and the little "instructional value" it MAY have negates it's value. No I'm not a republican or a banner, I just wish nobody would buy it and it would dry up. It is addictive and I have seen alcoholics start drinking again after viewinig porn after not seeing it for a long time.
 Hockeygirl777
Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 458
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Posted: 10/4/2005 10:38:15 PM
It isn't wrong as long as it is something you share with your partner. If you are hiding it and secretly fantasizing about these women it will show in your relationship and possibly cause severe problems if your significant other found out you had a stronger relationship with porn that you did with them.

 addictable
Joined: 11/24/2004
Msg: 459
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 9:58:37 AM
sure, why the hell not! I've got enough free access to sites I may as well share it with him. Only sucks if he's never around to share it with. Ah well, thank god for toys!
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 460
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 1:45:05 PM
Toys? have fun
 yahoooo2005
Joined: 10/1/2005
Msg: 463
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 3:32:23 PM
I SAY THIS FOR WOMEN ,THAT DO NOT LIKE IT. THAT IS SAD, EVER HEAR OF FANTCY, WELL GUYS AN GIRLS GET YOU AMATIONS GOING , LIKE YOUR FANTCYS , GO FOR IT. PUT YOUR PRIDE ASIDE ,AN IT WILL BE FINE. A GUY IS A GUY. THATS HOW THEY ARE, GUYS ARE ANIMALS EVER THAT? WELL GET TO MY AGE AN YOU WILL SEE.NOT JUST WOMEM HAVE GONE WILD BOTH SEXES HAVE , THERE WILL BE A BIG PRIZE TO PAY. SO GET TOGETHER AN HAVE FUN WITH YOUR FANTCYS, SAME AS PORN. ONLY BETTER YOU THOUGHT IT UP. UNLESS THERE A THREESOME THERE , I LEAVE IT HERE. TY YAHOOOO2005
 yahoooo2005
Joined: 10/1/2005
Msg: 464
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 3:35:45 PM
YOU SAID WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY /. THANK YOU
 Little1inTx
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 465
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 4:11:52 PM
I am in a current serious relationship and for myself I really don't care for it. It's something my boyfriend does and I see nothing wrong with it. So.. Who cares!
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 466
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Posted: 10/5/2005 4:16:27 PM
People used to say they didn't see the harm in marijuana and cocaine also. Porn is also addictive
 prolibertate
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 468
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/5/2005 7:38:06 PM
I'd only have a problem with it if he watched it exclusively; if he doesn't want the real thing when it's right there in front of him, then the relationship is in trouble ;)

As another poster stated, sometimes watching it together can be fun. However, if one is talking about their significant other cybersexing online with some stranger, I'd have a problem with that.
 Chronicposer
Joined: 1/23/2005
Msg: 469
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/6/2005 7:06:48 AM
What a lot of women dont get is Guys dont always masturbate just cuz they are horny.. sometimes we do it just out of boredom.. porn just helps along the way.. I personally enjoy porn a lot but its not a replacement.. and when I watch it.. I am not wishing I was with this girl or that girl.. I am watching it and imaginging what they are feeling and even helps me to remember past experiences I had.. unfortunately most guys are visual and cant just lay back and imagine something and get off.. we need something to focus on.

Hey if it helps any I dont find the fake porn starts half as attractive and the real ladies I have met and seen in the real world.. so yeah.. dont view porn as competition.. think of it like you have your virbrator.. I have my porn. They serve the same purpose.. just increases the enjoyment of the masturbatory experience. :)
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 471
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/6/2005 3:34:08 PM
I think Pandora summed it up about porn. It's destructive and mostly negitive and addictive. The guy who sais he used it to relieve himself, I used to do that but grew out of it.
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 473
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Posted: 10/7/2005 11:39:00 AM
And again, I think there is something seriously wrong if someone ever picks PORN over a physical, breathing and living human being...in favour of a video either one u buy secretly on ur satelitte/digital cable.. or sneak into a porn video store....or Download on ur computer... Simplay a waaaaste of time... go out get yourself a REAL person!



I dunno,to each his own.I had a customer at the video store I used to work at who would come in about two or three times a year when he was in between girlfriends.He would get burned out on relationships but didn't want casual sex for fear of STD's and such.So he did porn in between his relationships.Like John Lennon said,whatever gets you through the night.
 Silent Smoke
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 474
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/7/2005 12:46:06 PM
*Sits back with a bag of Cheetos and watches the porn everyone else is making*
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