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 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 513
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You are a bastion of information on porn and should be pround. You say you "worked at a porn store (sticky floors)? and gleamed all this knowledge there, I wonder. It is a choice you say just like drugs and slot machines. That's a pretty weak argument. About this thread going on and on, how important is it to all of you? It's not important to me at all except for my dislike for porn and the devastation I have seen from it. I think these threads are for people who have way to much free time. Anyone who spends more than 15 minutes per day on this stuff has too much, myself included
 annabc
Joined: 10/10/2005
Msg: 514
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/15/2005 1:51:56 AM
It, like addictions do, ruined my relationship with a man I thought was my soulmate. Lies and deceipt were as rampant and as common as breathing in and out (which I am certain he did on a very heavy level).
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 516
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Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:00:51 AM
Why in the hell would anyone want to support this?


Same reason anyone supports alcohol,gambling or tobacco.People in the alcohol industry promote alcoholism (destroys lives in excess,OK in moderation and they post disclaimeras about such),the tobacco industry promotes lung cancer,emphysema and a host of other fatal conditions.Gambling is another addiction whose ruin it has caused is well documented.No one would argue that all of these activities,if done in moderation would not necessarily harm anyone.Why is porn any different?Because it involves sex?All of these vice businesses I mentioned are extremly profitable and they are successful because they appeal on a lower Id or gut level,not something that involves much critical thought.That's why people support them.It feels good to get an alcohol buzz,gambling produces an endorphin buzz,porn stimulates the sex drive.Put business behind it and it spells profit en masse.Is it really that hard to understand?

I'll never understand people and their "pet" vices they'll rail on while ignoring others just as bad if not worse.Usually it's because they have some personal experience with it ruining someone's life.I suggest a critical and objective look at the situation and life ruined.Was porn really to blame or was there an underlying problem to begin with?I would bet that the person who went overboard with porn had issues going in."Porn addicts" are generally people who suffer from some form of compulsive behavior disorder to begin with.If it wasn't porn it would be over eating,or alcohol,gambling,compulsive lying..whatever.

I'm done now
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 517
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:32:01 AM
Smoking is an addiction too...and I believe more people die from cancer than from aids...(((((check dreem's profile)))) ^^^^
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 518
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 12:04:09 PM
YOU ALL KNOW MY VIEWS, THIS IS JUST TOO MUCH FUN SO HAVE A NICE LIFE
 jackimartinca
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 519
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 5:28:42 PM
Like most things, it's preference and all a matter of balance...what's right for you, may not be right for me....that's what makes us humans..no point of arguing..
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 522
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 5:49:30 PM
A study has shown that using porn for stimulation by single men for long duration causes detached sex once they are in relationships.
 WallsOfRaiford
Joined: 4/5/2005
Msg: 525
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 7:20:21 PM
^^^^^^^^^ Crap. ^^^^^^^^^^
 BobYakra
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 531
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/17/2005 9:56:01 PM
Everything in moderation.

There is a huge difference between how women and guys view porn however.

Men are visual creatures, and to a woman it doesn't compute that a guy can watch porn and wack-off and it's got nothing to do with his woman being "not good enough" or wanting to step outside of the relationship.

It's just eye-candy that serves a very simple function.

I had a very big blown up fight about this once when a girl I was dating found some porn on my pc. She got soooo mad. I tried to explain that every now and then when she wasn't there I'd wack it and watch some of that shit to get the job done. Mostly because I have a hard time getting to sleep sometimes and a quick wankin puts me to sleep. I told her I obviously prefer the real thing with her, and that it was all stuff I had downloaded before I ever met her, which was true.

She wouldn't hear any of it. And I could understand things from her perspective, being a woman. She found it degrading (which it is) and had the attitude that I was cheating on her "thinking about other women". I'm sure these views closely mirror that of many women on this site.

Porn is degrading to women it its depiction, if you try to put what is happening into the context of a real sexual encounter of two people being intimate with each other. However, porn is just an act. Watching porn has nothing to do with intimacy and love, it's visual stimulation.

Very hotly debated subject.
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 534
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:19:12 AM
ok first of all..how much porn does one have to watch before they get the point? You watch one, it's stuck in your head for life!
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 535
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:20:22 AM
ok first of all..how much porn does one have to watch before they get the point? You watch one, it's stuck in your head for life!
 DOLLYDAGGER
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 536
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:21:57 AM
damn this stutter...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 537
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:55:02 AM
I find it funny as hell myself....

But it's not funny when guys believe that is how we want sex....gak!

Tapping...rotfpmslmfao
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 539
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:47:21 AM
^^^^ don't say that ... make your own
 dji
Joined: 10/9/2005
Msg: 541
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 10:53:00 AM
If both couples agree to watch porn then thats ok. Its just another form of foreplay.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 543
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:49:16 PM
Dji - Porn to most women is watching a chick flick … not watching a 9” deck humping a plastic bunnie.

But I did say MOST WOMEN … not all
 maa_97
Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 544
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 4:02:11 PM
doesn't matter... i've even watched with one of my ex'd before...lol
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 547
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 4:52:45 PM
(((Ducking the flying bible))))
dji...if you don't think enough of the woman, you are in a relationship with, if you ever have a real realtionship...you don't have to watch other people have sex for foreplay.

This is a sick idea, cooked in hell. Porn destroys people, men and women, makes them insensitive to each other, and leads them to believe that the other "person" is nothing more than a means to sex and pleasure.

I will admit I was there, with that attitude, when I was a teenager, but I grew up...thank God!


A good porn dvd can be hours of enjoyment! You just have to not be judgmental...and a little open to new experiences.

To quote Bootsy Collins and the p funk...free your mind and your ass will follow
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 549
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:19:40 PM
Years ago, a close friend of mine started dating a nice girl and they got married eventually and are still married. But because of upraising or whatever, she was very conservative when it came to sex.

Anyway, my friend one night asks his girlfriend for a b1owjob.

Having good intentions and wanting to be adventures, she grabs my friend’s member and starts to blow. I am not sure, but I think she thought that inflating a mans balls with air could be pleasurable, need less to say, she was condemned to watching porno for a good while after that.

There is an educational value to porn.
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
Msg: 550
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Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:10:16 PM
I'm done with this thread.I wish some of you who are so anti porn would see my post in off topic titled "Vice activities:WTF is the difference?".I would welcome your input.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 552
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/30/2005 9:15:51 AM
There is another thread going and most of the same ladies who are anti porn have expressed the desire to use their BOBs during sex.

I feel that bringing the BOB to the bedroom is the same as men popping a porn flick to watch during the old in and out.

I am proud to be a VIBOPHOBIAC
 diggydiggy
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 554
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 10/30/2005 11:24:25 AM
I vote "porn in a relationship" as well, as in, pornlike relationship!
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 555
Porn in a relationship (SirMidnight)
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:13:59 PM
Sadly, I have tried sexy outfits, and according to him he doesn't have fantasies. From what his mom and dad tell me, he's "just being a man, and men like looking at naked women". I've tried talking to him, and he gets pissed off or feels hurt that I don't think I'm enough for him.. when he's not really giving me much to go on. I've got a stronger sex drive than him.. but he likes masturbating at least once everyday instead of having sex. Then again, we are talking about someone with a "personality disorder", so go figure. Thanks for the advice..
 sweetheart76
Joined: 9/12/2005
Msg: 556
Porn in a relationship (taurus516)
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:18:45 PM
I know.. and I am insecure about my body.. but I am VERY secure as to how to please him, lol. I know what I'm doing there.. it's just he seems to prefer taking care of himself. I know his back hurts alot because of his job.. and I've offered positions that doesn't put too much strain on his back, but he still doesn't want to have sex. Specifically he says he's still attracted to me, but he doesn't feel like having sex like we use to. Maybe he's being lazy? If I ever tell him I'm not in the mood he gets pissed and expects me to still go through with it. I feel it's one sided with him.. only when HE wants it.
 Your sweet honey
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 557
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:33:21 PM
My relationship with my ex was for 13 years, we use to love to read forums togther from Play boy and penthouse what a turn on...I guess the biggest thing with me was I did not care if we watched Porno it was good once in while...However, I did not want it to be the only thing that my boyfriend was turned on by....I wanted me to be number one in turning him on...
And that once in a while.
If you had to use that for the tool of your sex life.........well that would be sad.
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