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 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 19
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I agree. No bars for me either unless they are in a foreign country and I'm experiencing the local culture.


...I agree, and there have been a few times I wouldn't have minded "experiencing" the local culture haha


...maeflowers
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/2/2008 6:15:28 PM
What is different?
Bars...it means people have fun ....because they are drinking...
 chrylann
Joined: 12/8/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/3/2008 5:12:39 PM
Do men go to the bar to pick up women only? I like to go and listn to live music, and dance, and I like to just sit at home and watch a movie and eat popcorn too. Depends on my mood.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/3/2008 7:06:17 PM
... I have noticed that many of the "dance clubs" in my city seem to cater to the younger crowd, and I enjoy going out to dance....he11 if I didn't go to the bar occasionally with my friends, I'd never get out dancing.


...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/3/2008 7:31:40 PM

Maeflowers, most dance clubs cater to the younger set....and most of them are NOT good dancers....well, not as good as we are.....


...You got that right haha. Seriously though I used to frequent this great dance club for my age group...they closed for renovations and guess what? Re-opened and all the music they play is geared to 20 somethings.


...maeflowers
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/3/2008 8:39:30 PM
Mae...I know what you mean.....it seems all the clubs are now catering to the younguns! Damn! The Ranchman's used to be a great place, but now it is sooooo loud and soooooo full of 20 somethings! I love to dance and there just isn't really any place to go now for us mature ladies and gents......oh ya....there is the Legion! It seems we're toooooo old or.....toooooo young! I'm not ready for the rockin chair yet!

I wonder why alot of the men say they like to dance.....but...the truth be known they don't even KNOW how to dance! Just like they say they like to go for walks.......like where?????? to the fridge for another beer?????
 rickls
Joined: 4/17/2006
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/4/2008 7:16:43 PM
speaking for the poopie doopies that don't do the bar scene, in re your advice for the partying sisters to date younger men.

the over 50 group is the higest rated std's in history!

and, it's all because of you ladies going after young studs!

i might be boring, but i'm safe!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/4/2008 8:02:20 PM

Mae...I know what you mean.....it seems all the clubs are now catering to the younguns! Damn! The Ranchman's used to be a great place, but now it is sooooo loud and soooooo full of 20 somethings! I love to dance and there just isn't really any place to go now for us mature ladies and gents......oh ya....there is the Legion! It seems we're toooooo old or.....toooooo young! I'm not ready for the rockin chair yet


...I had some really good times at the Ranchman's many years ago....my first lesson in country line dancing haha....never did learn how properly. Thats one thing I would like to take this year, salsa or line dancing.

...maeflowers
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 3/5/2008 5:05:21 AM

and, it's all because of you ladies going after young studs!

i might be boring, but i'm safe!


But we were talkin bout dancin here weren't we?

If I had the money I would love to open a club for folks over 40 to come out to dance. The bars here in town are chock fulla young kids. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Heck, I had my time way back when. I just hate feeling like I need to find a parking space for my walker!!! I don't do bars that often as I find them too crowded, too loud. But I do love to dance!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/5/2008 7:13:34 PM

If I had the money I would love to open a club for folks over 40 to come out to dance. The bars here in town are chock fulla young kids. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Heck, I had my time way back when. I just hate feeling like I need to find a parking space for my walker!!! I don't do bars that often as I find them too crowded, too loud. But I do love to dance!



...A couple of years ago a few friends and I headed to "Cowboys" downtown during stampede and we ladies needed to use the powder room...well I tell you it was filled with 20 somethings, prancing around in short little skirts and heels, giggling and tossing the hair. Well geez....talk about feeling like a chaperone at a school dance haha

Yes, lets open the "Over 40's Dance Club and invite everyone over from POF

...maeflowers
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/5/2008 7:32:36 PM
It is funny but today I was at a clients place of business. I sell commercial insurance. They have just taken over a bar/dinner club. Here in my town there are plenty of bars where the young ones go to have a good time. These new owners are young fellows themselves. They want to cater to the over 30 and up folks. They know that is where the money is! Fine wines, good food. I sincerely hope they make a go of it as there really are not that many places in my town where someone my age can go and feel comfortable. I am by no means ready for the grave. I love to kick up my heels. But honestly? To go to a bar, feel like a sardine in a can, groppeling for my space to even stand? Naw, that isn't for me. Much rather entertain good friends at my house!
 rickls
Joined: 4/17/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/5/2008 9:19:20 PM
clubs and booze are fantastic!

i started drinking when i was 13. when i turned 17 i joined the marines and started drinking regularily, until 1988, i was 53! my liver gave out and 2 doctors said that
i died! it took 5 days in ICU.

i haven't a drink since! i had tried aa for 14 years but couldn't quit!
God had to strike me down before i got the message!

Over two years ago i introduced myself to you.
Every since I've been begging for a live-in companion.

I just came from the doctor, I have a year to live! thanks to the 62 years of smoking with those drinks!

it's mighty exciting when you win at scrabble!
 papa56
Joined: 12/15/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/6/2008 1:50:19 AM
I am a 50 year old man how loves to dance. I think the reason I don't like the bar scene is because it is mostly younger women you find there. I am 50 but look 35 and I am not interested in younger women. When I go in a bar and notice that a younger women is interested I just wonder what we could have in common. Besides, what 35 year old wants to see my 50 something body naked?
gary
 MsChar
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/6/2008 6:58:51 AM
rickls ... hey there ... wow now do you see anywhere in this post that us more mature women are on a cougar hunt ????? we are talking about the lack of older guys in bars who want to have a FEW beer and dance !!! i would hate to think you can get an STD from dancing ,unless ive been misinformed !
charla
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 4/2/2008 8:58:04 AM

we are talking about the lack of older guys in bars who want to have a FEW beer and dance !!!


Well, I like to dance as well, but you have to hit to bar before 8:30 to get me involved. After that, I am on my way home to bed.

Perhaps what is needed is an afternoon place?
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:26:08 AM
Ummm move over will ya Rear? Gotta give me some room for my walker dammit! lol
I never wanna succumb to the age issue and all that goes with it! As I said before, you shall find me sittin on the front porch o the nursing home, wine in one hand, my cane in the other, prodding all the young hottie male nursies! After that, and they put me back in my room, you will find me "visitin" the rooms of all the fair gents in my hall! I am NOT leaving this earth with the "geeze,I am old syndrome"!!!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:43:55 AM

Well, I like to dance as well, but you have to hit to bar before 8:30 to get me involved. After that, I am on my way home to bed.



...Your obviously hanging with the wrong crowd, come dancing with me...the band doesn't even start till 9pm.....don't worry, I'll have you home before you turn back into a couch potatoe....haha

...maeflowers
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:46:31 AM
I'm not over 50 quite yet but I gotta tell you my attitude is I did NOT waddle when I was pregnant and I will NOT get old before my time. Not gonna stop til the body makes me.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 4/2/2008 10:26:51 AM
I was dancing 'til the wee hours in a swinging downtown hot spot recently with a bunch from work. Its the young ones that could not be coaxed onto the floor.

One of the reasons I try to keep in shape is to be able to trip the light fantastic without risking heart failure. Of course, I get into it so much, I may be a little too wild on the dance floor even for you Mae..
 ColumbiaSingle
Joined: 5/20/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:03:02 PM
I burned myself out at the bars when I was young. I believe I have enough partying in the bank to last a lifetime. Now, I enjoy other pursuits - reading good books, working with photography, cooking a great meal or having fun with my friends. I still like to drink beer & wine and have fun, just not at a bar. Plus DUI is such a brutal reality and is not something I can afford to happen to me.

Others have said it before me ,if you want a man that goes to bars for fun then go to bars - you will find what you are looking for. Nothing wrong with this, but the last man I want or need is a man who spends all his time & money at a bar (just for me)
 funkyvailchick
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 6/9/2008 6:53:56 PM
Amen to that !! But as my climbing partner used to tell me, it just depends on what you're looking for!
 kriashun
Joined: 1/30/2008
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Posted: 6/9/2008 8:03:10 PM
guess I'm a prude? drunk men turn me off!! the smell of booze breath makes me want to vomit!! and drinking all your life Ages you anyway---wheres the fun in that? I go dancing at the sober clubs and have a Ball!! OK, I know that wasn't the topic---if a man cant keep up with me, I'd trade him in for a newer model--lol, just kidding--but Really ---I keep myself healthy, why would I want to date a guy who eats at fast food joints 24/7 and sits in front of the TV. so yeah, give me a fun guy ---just w/out the alcohol!
 kriashun
Joined: 1/30/2008
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Posted: 6/10/2008 10:42:52 AM
right, Choc! If I go to the trouble to eat light and right, and take walks and excercise w/ weights so I wont have physical problems later, why would I want to get into a relationship w/ someone I may have to give CPR to, or ride in an ambulance with,? besides, he would pry make a big deal of Meals---I eat a salad and call it good..lol
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 42
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Posted: 6/12/2008 5:14:30 AM
Ms Char

You really don't understand what guys go through round the bars do you. You have no idea?

The guy doesn’t spend an hour and a half preening so that’s some advantage to him. Clean up the car to impress the girls. Then a shower, scrub down, clean teeth and a quick spray with deodorant. Slap on a bit of two year old fashion and he’s ready to go. That’s fine.

The trouble starts when he fronts the bouncers at the front door of the nightspot. Regardless of his fashion tastes some totally cranky bouncer finds some excuse for a beech session. I’ve been barred for wearing the same dress boots as the girls. Hair too long, too short. Western style pendant is not a tie. Polo neck, like Carl Sagan, is not a collar. The list goes on and on as do the bouncers. (A very few current affairs programs have very recently raised this issue of blatant discrimination)

But there’s one thing that no female could ever appreciate here. No female EVER risks serious injury if she tries to enter a night spot when she is wearing the wrong gear, and the bouncer is in a filthy mood. Forget all the feminist preaching about violence against women. The ultra trendy nightspots are where the hospitals get their casualties from on any Saturday and those casualties are exclusively male. And most of this is over something as petty as a pair of shoes.

I’ve only ever heard of one solitary instance where girls have run into trouble like this. Some nightspot was only admitting girls with long blonde hair. Dark haired girls were not admitted but they still weren’t even so much as threatened let alone bashed.

No woman would ever expect another woman to walk down a dark alley, alone, at night, to get to a party, or a boyfriend. Far from it women strongly advise one another against it. Too much risk of violence. But the reality it that a man , facing a bouncer at any night spot runs something like two thousand times the risk of being seriously injured.


And he’s not even past the front door yet!

Once inside everything’s overpriced to the hilt. The girls are looking at him like a patch of pigeon poop on the Queens dress. Bar staff and bouncers alike are decidedly hostile.

But despite this he eventually finds some girl who doesn’t look too hostile so he wanders over and asks if she’d like to dance.

Piss arf ya creep.

This still remains a socially acceptable way of telling a man, “No I don’t want to dance with you, date you, bonk you, marry you etc”. It’s also considered a perfectly acceptable way of saying something like “Ask me again later, preferably with a free drink for me in your hand” These women tell this to countless guys and then wonder why they aren’t getting dates.
The whole idea to telling a guy you’re keen on to “piss arrrff” sounds, and is, insane but the girl, who do it, are doing nothing more than following the advice of countless, relationship bankrupt, girlfriends. These girls are continually telling one another to “Don’t say yes the first time or he will think you’re easy and wont respect you.” And teen girls , all too often do follow such advice like so many sheep.

The reality is a little different.

Namely “NEVER say no if you really mean yes. Because no means no these days. By law! By rape and stalking laws, by nightspot rules, the lot. Even when you mean yes you really mean no whether you like it or not. If you say no, even when you really mean yes, then he won’t respect you, or disrespect you. He will just go looking elsewhere. Firstly, among other girls in the bar. Then, after a few years knockbacks, places outside the bar.

You want a guy? Get yourself a bike and a set of clubs. End of story.
 sunspots457
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 6/12/2008 9:00:44 AM
I'm , 54....... I close bars down but I am just there for the music scene..... don't drink in general......
I go to clubs and concerts with my son..My son and I are going to be playing together soon. I don't watch TV at all. I feel like my life is just starting..... Just to many cool things to do. I have to get in shape for one of my avocations. Most women my age around here are just plain trashed and boring.......... my last GF was 24 ( i lied about my age and she wanted to slum with a jazz guy)...You are sort of forced to go younger.
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