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 breath~
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 62
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Someone mentioned this:
Those who have become disabled later in life tend to carry a 'chip' on their shoulder!



you can count ME out of that generalization!
 oldsoul
Joined: 3/10/2007
Msg: 63
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:14:55 AM
Yes I would (and have).

According to many, I'm disabled myself since I have been battling or "managing" (most of the time successfully and without drugs) depression all my life.

The only difference is that my "disability" is not readily visible, but it's very much a part of me.

And although I don't put my disability (gawwd how I hate that word) front and center on my profile, it's there between the lines and I always make sure I mention it on the first or second email.

My "disability" isn't for everyone and I don't judge or look down on those who know and recognise it's not for them.

In fact, I have a lot of respect for people who know what they can and cannot handle. In my eyes, it shows me that they are "aware" of their own limitations, like we should all be in my opinion.

I mean..there are certain "disabilities" that I might not be capable of handling due to my own limitations. So I can only hope that I would recognise this early and be completely honest with the person if and when this situation ever presented itself.

Anyway...to each their own and all that jazz and the best of luck to each and every one of us...able...disable and every one in between:)



JMO
 joesey
Joined: 11/6/2006
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Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:39:52 AM
this is a common thing now days and I am sure it has its ups and downs like every other disability .. I have Lupus ... the problem with your disability and mine is they have no idea what causes it and therefore there is no cure... I choose not to use the steroid meds that are suppose to keep this in check... sometimes the cure is worse than dealing with the disability ... some days are much worse than others but I have learned to deal with all the things that go along with lupus,,, you sound like a very brave man, putting it out there is always a risk of rejection... im not quit that honest, to look at me you would never know, so I tend not to put it out there ... doesn't make me a dishonest person, it just saves alot of disappointment ... keep your chin up and smile ... and to answer your question, yes I would date someone who is disabled ... the worse thing is the people that won't are mentally disabled ... and to me that is something I would not want to deal with a mental defective is the worse kind of disablity .........
 Tara100
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:58:00 AM
Hello,

No doubt I would. I am looking for the caring compassionate person and as long as it is not something to do with a mental disability . If I was living with some one who would have an accident I would not turn my back on, so what is wrong with a certain disability. I just hope that the person would have some sense of humour inspite of all the heath problem that is present. But I think some people would never beleive that I feel for such people and would like to be a source of joy to someone in tough and challenging times in life as long as that someone can put a smile on my face too.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 8/16/2008 6:22:45 PM
I would, a man at work in a wheel chair who delivers our mail is a young man, we bumped eye to eye I felt love and compassion to him, too bad he is not an older man ,yes I will date him even marry him.
 Miss Twiss
Joined: 10/26/2007
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Posted: 8/26/2008 3:39:09 AM
Yes, I would.

I have had enough life expereince that I now realize that superficial things REALLY DON'T MATTER. I fall in love with the Soul. The rest of it just so much doesn't matter to me!

The fact is that I am "disabled" as well--also with fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome. It might be nice to date someone with illnesses like mine--people without them don't usually have a clue what my life is really like!

I am a much richer, more mature, complex, and seasoned person for having to deal with serious chronic illness, and the loss of my career, and most of how I defined myself previous to this illness. I know that my spiritual life has blossomed in ways that I couldn't have imagined previously. I have had to look really deeply at who and what I am, and what my life is really about.

If someone is shallow enough that they will let "disability" determine whether or not they would date me--then God's truth is that I do not want to date them! I want someone who loves and appreciates MY Soul--and all of the other wonderful things that I am. I am looking for my Soul's mate--and I don't really care what size, shape, color, ability-rating, hair-color, eye-color, sex , gender, etc. that person comes in. If my most important criteria is met, what does any of the rest of it matter?
 ramman6969323
Joined: 1/10/2006
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Posted: 8/26/2008 11:58:19 AM
I met a lady on here that had a quite interesting story and yes I dated her she was no different than anybody else I really liked her a lot until I seen her with someone else that she told me about from the beginning. I just want to be someones one and only if you really like someone there will be no one else but I do believe cheating is in the blood once a cheater always a cheater.

:)

 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:02:49 AM
I think the biggest problem with dating someone with any type of disability is how they view themself, and how they want other people to view them. All too often, it seems that they see themselves as 'broken' and seem to be pissed off at the world for not treating them the way they want to be treated. The others are the ones who don't give a damn, and go on with life enjoying what they can. I have arthritis; some days, I can barely walk, and it feels like I have hot knives sticking into my joints. But you know what brings me back to reality? There are millions of people out there with no legs, that would just LOVE to have my lousy legs. Sure, I can't play basketball anymore. I can't run down the street without severe pain. But I can do 99% of what anyone else can do, and so can many people who are considered 'disabled'. Disability is in the mind of the disabled; sure, it may be a lot harder to do some things that come easy to 'normal' people; but the disabled people I admire most are the ones that find ways to overcome the obstacles in their way, no matter how hard it is. So the answer is yes, I'd date someone who is disabled; the disability isn't the obstacle; like many other things, the obstacle could be the personality that goes with the person.
 lostintheshuffle
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 72
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:57:06 PM
Two years ago, I was in Walmart, there was a woman in a wheelchair who was in need to get something from a top shelf. She was looking around for some help and I sprang to it, cause it seemed like fun. It wasn't just something that she couldn't get due to lack of height. It was something that I needed to crawl up to get :-)

Eventually I said to her that I'd help her shop, cause it made me feel tall when I'm not the tallest guy in the world. It was a great feeling to be needed. Plus she was really attractive and that helped.

She was paralyzed from the waist down due to a derby horse rolling over her and severing her spinal cord.

We approached dating together afterward, but in the end she was the one that rejected me to be on her own and be "independent."
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 9/7/2008 5:27:53 PM
Violet, I do get treated like I'm 'broken', once women know that I was sexually abused for most of my school years. I do carry some of the after effects of that, and sex isn't easy for me. Neither is knowing that >99% of women don't want anything to do with me. And yes, I too get tired of being told that they're not interested. But I still try.
 Karebear127
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 79
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/8/2008 8:37:14 PM
I have dated someone disabled. I have Cerebral Palsy. It just means I have a slight limp and a loss of hearing in one ear. I've never really had a problem dating. If a man ever had issues with my having CP it was his problem not mine. I was made this way for a reason. I'm happy with who I am.
 Divinity
Joined: 2/16/2008
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Posted: 9/8/2008 11:20:05 PM
Disabilities I probably would date him if we connect very well, as long as they can take care of themselves efficiently and independently than I am down with it.

Things happen, and people tend to be judgmental and selfish most of the time. Wish you the best of luck
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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Posted: 9/9/2008 7:35:01 PM
The older I get, the more life is like grade school.

Amen sister.

My sister lost her eye to retinablastoma at the age of two.

She had more dates then I ever had and she is now with husband #2.

Yes - she is a beautiful woman inside and out and yes she was looked
down upon and made fun of all her childhood. I spent most of my childhood
defending my sister because she had a glass eye- like it was a crime.

Some people in this world need a reality check but I truly believe that
we are sent things because we are strong- people who reject and make fun
of people with disabilities are weak people.

I never saw her as disabled, ever. I just realized reading this thread after
46 years that I guess she is. I never saw it.
 Sweetbabeblues
Joined: 4/23/2008
Msg: 83
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/10/2008 9:05:11 AM
Face it.... In some ways we all have diabilities whether we want to admit to it, or know about it.... Just some are more disabled than others.....
I for one was in a realy bad auto accident, and have some major organs gone, and was paralized for awhile. I now have a disability in my back and neck because of it. But to look at me, you would never know it. And yes I have my bad days along with the good, but I am still disabled.
To me it doesn't matter what the disability or how they got it. We all have a person inside that body we're given, and that should be what matters most.....
And I figure it this way... If people have to look and stare and be rude.. one day, what went around may come around... And then lets see what happens....
 diamondgirl2727
Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/15/2008 10:36:56 PM
I did date a man in a wheelchair. Trust me, the only thing he couldnt do was walk without help. He had a job, a car etc. and was not lacking in any other way. ;)Hmmm....maybe have to give him a call and see hows hes doing.
 TwinSpin1971
Joined: 6/30/2008
Msg: 86
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:43:24 PM
As long as we have things in common and we are attracted to each other, I most definetly would date someone with a disability.
 ladybugsluck9
Joined: 8/10/2006
Msg: 87
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/24/2008 10:06:34 PM
I'm disabled, but you'd never know it by looking at me or conversing with me. It doesn't effect me sexually.
So you can't tell just by looking at someone if they are disabled. I would definitely date someone that had a disability.
 MaxFromOrange
Joined: 9/14/2008
Msg: 88
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/24/2008 11:31:49 PM
Hey,

You're going to think I am crazy, but trust me I wouldn't f#$% around with this stuff. Read John Sarno's "Healing Back Pain". In the book he describes a condition called TMS (tension myositis syndrome) that is synonymous with FMS. It is treatable and requires no medication or special pills or whatnot. 0. There is hope. I have seen 100% complete rehabilitation in my line of work as a assistive device engineer working with severely disabled patients. I have personally seen patients completely restored to normal.

I have the book on mp3. Email me if you want it. Do not blow this off. It can cure you. Good luck and write me if you read it. I'd like to know how it goes. You have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain. No joke. Good luck.

Rensy

p.s. My only motive is to help. I don't make any money off selling the book. Dr John Sarno is a world class back specialist (don't worry, he works with FMS patients too) and his book is a best seller. He doesn't need from me the few dollars I can drum up by recommending it.
 Aerynn
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 89
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Posted: 9/25/2008 3:27:01 AM
I wouldn't discount dating someone with a disability. I myself suffer from acute pain in my joints; though it's nothing compared what you or others have, I would hope someone would try a little understanding and compassion for a condition we cannot control, and give a friendship or more a genuine shot. :) Rather than just writing it off from the get go.
 lil_ladybug
Joined: 1/21/2008
Msg: 92
Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:38:41 PM
I guess it depends on the person. If you use your disability as a means to sit on the pity pot, absolutely nobody will date you. I dated a man who was burned horribly in Desert Storm. His fingers were destroyed and half of his face melted off. He is a beautiful person and we are still great friends but not compatible romantically.

My best friend suffers from Crohn's disease. Horribly suffering. She has a colostomy bag and most of her genitalia is scar tissue due to the massive diarrhea and the acid destroying her. She is getting married.

I have a child who is brain damaged due to child abuse. At the center where she goes to for after school programs, there are developmentally and physically disabled people there who are married, have bfs/gfs, etc. There really isn't any reason why you would be single unless you use it to say "Poor me"

I live in wheelchair excessible housing (for my daughter) and my next door has Cerebral palsy and is wheelchair bound but has children from a previous marriage.

I can list on and on and on....

 mwezi
Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 94
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Posted: 9/27/2008 12:47:53 AM
In a pose of question, I wonder if she did spent all the money and/or had affair with someone while acting to be good to him. I believe, it is very hard for disabled to left someone for a new one unless their heart were torn apart.
 sissysasspot
Joined: 9/20/2008
Msg: 95
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:57:19 AM
Yes, because I am and I know I am still a viable and lovable person despite it.
 phoenixxx2008
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 9/27/2008 6:17:06 PM
Yes. I actually went on a first date last night with a guy who is mostly deaf - I am a bit bummed I can't talk on the phone with him but we are texting & emailing - he was quite nice.

I have also dated someone who was in remission for Leukemia, someone with Krohn's who had shingles when I met him. My mother has had MS her entire life and I have cared for her since high school. (she is bed ridden) I don't believe in discriminating against someone. If I were in love with someone who was hurt I would care for them for life.

Where life has brought people into my life I have met and honestly enjoyed men regardless of physical issues. As an active person though I would prefer to have someone who can do the things I enjoy so honestly I am not LOOKING for a disabled partner, but having disabled people in my life I love dearly I know that people with so called "disabilities" who have awesome outlooks often know how to live more fully than the rest of the world!
 SmotherMe8
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 10/5/2008 5:51:12 PM
I would date someone who is disabled. In fact, my last boyfriend was disabled. Isn't even allowed to work. I figure it's what's inside that counts, right? And trust me, his disability had nothing to do with why we split.
I'm currently into a guy, who is basically a friend of a friend. He lost half of his leg a little while ago, and I'm still completely into him. Which sucks for me, because he has a girlfriend. heh
 guyot
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Posted: 10/27/2008 9:35:45 PM
Sure I would. My relationships with women who had significant disabilities were warm, wonderful, and fulfilling. I am much more worried about defective character than with a body that looks or works differently. Vive la différence!
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