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Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 12
How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Maybe tell him you were banging the milk man?

OH... how I wish I was young again... ah memories, Show him the first Wild Orchid movie and tell him thats what you want!
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/4/2008 11:07:19 AM

Find a different guy. There are enough guys that abuse women--go find one

How does being rough constitutes abuse? There are a lot of women that like not only the lovy, lovy stuff, but then the rough hard sex. There's nothing wrong with that since it is between to consenting adults and based on mutually agreed upon practices. For instance, most women love to have their hair pulled from the back, and goes from a gentle pull during foreplay to a hard with tension during sex. Also some women like the man to change positions, not by asking, honey would you like to get on top? But simply taking her and moving her around. Then there are times of slow deep penetration where she feels it in the cervix to wild pounding that gets her sore for 3 days. I've heard women complained about how sore they were from the night before and as they tell you, they also indicate how wet the thought makes them and how they would love to do it again.

Anything goes between two mutually consenting adults. So talk to your partner, tell him what you like. Be candid. Actually be graphically candid. That in itself is a form of foreplay. Even tell him what you don't like. Say for instance, when you get too dry, we need to slow down, lubricate a little before going hard again. Okay. Thats easy, but you wouldn't know unless you talked about it.
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/4/2008 1:47:47 PM

he looked at me and says real nice "I know you dont want that

[raises eyebrows] I'd be more concerned about that myself.

If you're making the effort to be honest about your desires, despite being shy, and receiving this kind of dismissive response... It's possible he feels pressured if you ask it "during", you might get a different response if you talk about how you feel out of bed.

[ponders] Possible too, that he doesn't know where the boundaries are and is afraid to start in case he oversteps them. If I am doing anything... um... non standard? then *I* require a safe word so I don't accidentally overstep the mark. Possibly over the top for what you're talking about, but it prevents misunderstandings about what is wanted becoming a problem.
Joined: 7/31/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/5/2008 5:42:13 AM
Custis took my answer dammit.
Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:14:35 AM
what you need is a nice married Italian man!!lol
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:03:12 PM
Take up Swing Dancing?
Joined: 5/21/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/5/2008 3:09:03 PM

When he says "I know you dont want that, I wanna make love to you, not throw you around", look him square in the eyes and tell him you're serious, not kidding, and want to be done rough. Don't break the tension with laughter. Wait for him to "get it". If he refuses to "get it" dump him and let him find a boyfriend.


Great Advice!!
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/5/2008 8:54:31 PM
"How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?"

Ask him if he wants to play catch and then jump in his hands...
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/6/2008 8:17:01 PM
Just ask him to, Bring it up next yoru talking about the subject. I mean hel I knwo if i was to ask my BF throw me around adn %$#@ me liek a slut he woudl get soooo turned on just for my asking for it . Honesty is the best way to talk about anything involving sexuality. But thats my opinion
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/9/2008 10:51:38 PM
If a girl as pretty as you cannot find a guy who will do what she wants sexually, then you aren't looking very hard. Some guys, though, aren't capable of rough sex. They might feel they are abusing you, even if you want it. Keep in mind that some women DO want to be abused since they feel unworthy of anything more. I mean they'll say they want it but then cry about it later. He might feel you are like that.
Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/18/2008 7:32:13 PM
Haha Hilarious.
You need to get him to move a little differently. My ex loved when I was rough. She also taught me that I didn't need to be in control all the time, we tried many things to see what was best for us. Maybe you should take control and tie his hands up on the bedframe and see what he does. That was enough for me. The feeling of not being in control was something I needed to keep us happy. If he is a real guy he will totally fall hard under your evil powers!!!!
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/18/2008 9:13:48 PM
Take control and throw him around meaning, when you are top make it loud and rough and get him angry if he wusses out then drop him and find a guy that has healther kink to offer you!
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Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 1/19/2009 4:08:02 AM
Some men are passive, metrosexual 's, they find there passion in making love rather then.....
i could understand your frustration, theres making love which is wonderful, but a relationship without passion, and yes a healthy dose of lust, could get old pretty fast....
everybody wants to have passion in life....your not too aggressive , maybe mis matched
you could try and spark his interest, but it sounds like you have tried everything already
good luck!!!
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 1/19/2009 4:48:28 AM
Angry sex is great. Lots of passion. This usually isn't a problem for me since people seem to have no problem getting mad at me. lol.
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 50
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Posted: 1/19/2009 7:51:10 AM
OP is gone,, but if you come back

How do I get him to be a bit rougher and harder with me, that primal lust, ya know?

Just tell him you had rough sex with me a couple of times and how you really liked liked it,,
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 55
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Posted: 8/7/2013 5:44:44 PM
In the middle of your so called love making, tell him you work under cover for the I.R.S. If he doesn't jackhammer your azz off and rip your hair out ain't gonna happen.
How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?
Posted: 8/9/2013 8:30:04 PM
Stop trying to tell him or ask him...just start throwing him around a little. And then a little more. Don't relent. Attack him, use him, devour him. Show him that you're going to get what you want, and there's nothing that he can do to stop you. Put him through the wall, and make the legs of the bed need repairing. If he protests, or tries to act all gentle-wentle, tell him to shut the hell up and enjoy the ride - tell him "you know you like it...and if you don't, you're about to". Tell him that you need to take him hard, and that you're going to get what you need from him whether he likes it or not. Take control, and do what you want, how you want. If he tries to respond by being more active, fight with him over who's in control - make him have to overpower you physically in order to take any initiative of his own. Show him what it's like, and how fun it is. Show him by actions that you really do want it that way and that it's ok. Take that gentle little lamb and slam his arse around, ride that horsey like you're trying to leave bruises, make him try to buck you off, and don't let him do so. Tell him how studly he his and how horny and hungry he makes you. Tell him that you have to have him because he's so hot, and that you have to go ape-sh!t on him. Make that bas - tard feel used for your selfish sexual pleasures, rape that sh!t until he lets himself go there, and don't let him get away. F--k that mother f--ker on every part of his body that you want to, as vigorously as you feel like, and show him how hard you can get-off, as if you were alone and no one else was around including him. And tell him that if he doesn't get his arse in gear and give it to you this way sometimes, you're going to leave and find someone else.

I'm going to take a cold shower now.

post edit - Oh darn, just noticed that op is gone. My post won't do her any good.
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 8/11/2013 10:04:47 AM
being shy allows you to find...shy people. Not the type who will be aggressive, b/c it may result in some sexual harassment charge at work. Its difficult to be one way around everyone, another way at home with only one person.

SOME shy women are shy b/c they aren't incredibly secure in themselves, so an aggressive lover, one who puts his gentlemanly ways aside b/c OMG he's just so taken with her he can't keep his animal lust at bay, makes her feel sexy. As a result, she'll have to explain this to some lovers, who won't understand what's going on b/c they won't understand WHY its going on. They don't want to be held by the hand, they want their hands held over their head :)

some enjoy having sex on a mental level--enjoying the time shared, the glow, etc. Others like it on a physical level--stimulate my body, not my mind. Make my nerves tingle, not release chemicals in my brain. If you don't know how to find the clues that a person lives one way, or the other way, then you're left with communication. which, again in the paragraph above, if she has to explain it, then he's not feeling it, and it kills the idea that he's naturally turned on to a sexual animal level. he's just going thru the motions b/c he was told to.

also, ladies, once you uncage the prepared for when you try to put a leash on it b/c you're just not in the mood that moment. He'll second guess himself after that....unless you were smart enough to find a guy who's naturally an animal.
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 8/11/2013 7:21:33 PM
Get some white tape...outline a body on the wall and tell him...

This is where I would like to f*ck me to death!

Op: Beside being upfront, a book at his bedside or some sorta Q-card game play, you are the only one who can speak up and get what you want/need.
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 63
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Posted: 8/15/2013 6:07:05 PM
Pain isn't sexy! haha
pull your hair!? why?
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 65
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Posted: 8/17/2013 10:21:25 AM
The problem with this is, the fantasy never quite meets the reality. I've been through this one; and in the middle of the episode, get told, 'Hey, not so hard!'. It becomes a difficult experience, because all the passion goes right out the window. How hard is exactly enough? How rough is too rough? For me, the 'not so hard' thing was exactly what nearly all other guys have to deal with, coming to the conclusion that the woman really does not know what she wants; first it's too nice, then it's too rough. And we have no idea exactly what she wants, because like all women, she truly believes that if we loved her, we'd somehow automatically know exactly how and what she wants. Even the title of this thread leads us all to wonder; exactly how much 'thrown around' equates to 'a little'?
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 66
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Posted: 8/24/2013 5:44:22 AM
I found this post on best-of-craigslist, and it really speaks to what's being said here...

Dear Men of Craigslist,

Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society, you never know exactly what you should be doing. Women are bloody picky, I know we are. It can be scary, too, when women freak out about what appear to be benign issues. And men who do their best to be respectful, female-positive humans, I salute you, I do.

But please, please just **** me already. Honestly, I appreciate your thoughtfulness. I like that you want to take things slow. I can totally get behind the idea of emotional connection, but dearjesusinheaven, **** ME. We've done dinner and drinks. We've gone dancing. We've cuddled and watched a movie. I'm wearing a low cut shirt and you've been staring at my breasts all night. Goodgodalmighty, get to it and **** me.

When we get hot and heavy, please take charge. Please, please **** me. Trust me, I'm not going to just lie still - I'll get involved. But don't make me force your hand into my panties. That makes me feel like a rapist. We've been kissing for a half hour and your hand keeps grazing my ass. That's nice, but it's time to move forward. Get on top of me. Don't make me get on top right out of the gate and start bobbing up and down on your****like I'm practicing some crazy new aerobic yoga because YOU won't go down on me. Roll on top and start dry humping like a good boy should. Don't gently suck my nipples and then pull back when I moan with pleasure. You being coy is totally not what I want. It's not what WE want.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of women out there who make ****ing really difficult. So, I have compiled some handy tips. Don't think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid men who have forgotten what it means to **** like men:

1. Taking charge is not bad. Oh, there will be some women who feel that you are pushy. If you are making out with a woman, and she starts to push back, ask nicely if things are moving too fast. If she says yes, say something like "I'm sorry - you just look so ****ing delicious. I'll go slower." Otherwise, skillfully move forward. If you start kissing a woman, and she responds well, and before long, you're both on the floor with her skirt pushed up, and you on top of her, it's not the time to roll onto your back and start awkwardly stroking the top of her head. Seriously, grow a goddamn pair. YOU'RE the man. Act like one.

2. Ohmy****inggod, please learn to respect the clit. It's different for every woman, so ask what she likes. Do not, I repeat, do not just wiggle your fingers around her **** like you're trying to tickle her. Do not drum your fingertips against her vulva like you are impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for your receipt. Do not push the clit like it is a doorbell at some house that you need to get inside of. Start by using all four fingers with firm yet gentle pressure against the outside of her ****. Do not charge in with a single finger and start jabbing at things. And if you really don't know what to do, ask her. Just ask. "How do you like it?". It's a simple question, and most women will answer straight out. If she's being all coy, ask "Do you like pressure? Is it sensitive?" The clitoris is a varied item, indeed. Treat each one as though you have never encountered one before. Forget everything that your last partner liked.

3. Most women like to be ****ed, and ****ed well. Yes, there are women out there who want to "make love" every time - sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those women are not the majority. The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it's not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your****around her vagina like you're mixing a cake batter up there. It's because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and **** her harder. Don't be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes - I am a raging feminist ****, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on ****ing my throat from the inside out.

4. A little roughness is nice. Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her ("Really? Spanking? Won't it hurt?" - yes, it does. That's the ****ing point). We know you've read Stuff and Maxim, and that's all those laddie mags talk about in their "How to Please Her" sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on. Judge her response and continue on from there. You don't have to bend her over one knee and tell her she's a naughty girl and that Daddy's going to punish her; save that for the fifth date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don't worry about breaking her hip.

5. It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are ****ing a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. If you're banging a woman, and she's crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can't even manage a grunt, she's going to feel like an idiot. You don't have to make the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes "Ah!", half grunt, half yell? That's HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you're in missionary position. You don't have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she's going to get worried.

6. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting. If you'd like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you **** her. If she responds well, continue with something like, "I love ****ing you. God, you look so ****ing hot." Is she still moaning in response? "Your tits are so beautiful." Does that work? If she doesn't respond well to the term "tits", you might have to stop there. If she keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following:

"Oh, god. Your **** is SO tight."
"You're so wet - are you wet because you like the feel of my****ramming you?"
"I think I'm going to come inside you. I'm going to fill up your little****" It doesn't matter that you're wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.

If all of those work, you can then progress to things like "sexy little ****" and "dirty whore". Tread carefully, but please, tread. Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge.

6. You're not obligated to eat a woman out. In return, she's not obligated to choke on your**** Don't skip one and expect the other. If you do eat a woman out, the only comment you should make about her **** is how nice it is. The length of her labia minora, the color of her interior, her waxing job or full bush - you are not John Madden. No time for color commentary.

7. Do not **** about condoms. Oh, we hate them. Trust us. They hurt us more than they hurt you. But we don't want to be preggers, and you don't want to catch anything, right? Don't whine about condom sex. Do not explain that you can't come with one on. LEARN to come with one on, or if not, help us figure out what to do with you once we're satisfied and it's time for you to let loose your load.

8. We really like it when you come. It's called a money shot for a reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying things EVER. However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off onto her face. She might, but don't assume. Seeing and/or feeling you come is rewarding for us, so there's no need to deprive us of it, but please do consult us before unleashing. "I think I'm going to come - how do you like it?" is a fair question that shouldn't rob you of your testicles.

In recent memory, I've been ****ed by a very aggressive, manly guy, and I've been... well, ****ed is the wrong term here. I've been penetrated by a total and utter wuss. Who am I going to run back to when I'm ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that's who. ----------------------------------------------------

*New point of clarification - some people have brought up some really great issues in response to this post, so let me say this: I don't mean to imply that all women like to be treated like whores. I do mean to say that most women I know have told me that they like sex rougher than most men give it to them. Rough does NOT equal chains and bondage. And this applies to the bedroom only, and does not mean that she wants you to choose her dinner for her, or treat her like less of a person. **Some women have said that they don't like it rough and what the hell am I thinking? Well, girls, you're in the minority. HOWEVER, all women need to remember that, in addition to be straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits. Don't be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don't ever do something you don't want to do in silence and then blame the guy. Silence is dangerous.

My favorite line, and definitely something to consider for the sweet-loving guys who want to keep a sexy woman, is:
Who am I going to run back to when I'm ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that's who. ----------------------------------------------------
Joined: 6/30/2013
Msg: 67
How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?
Posted: 8/24/2013 6:07:31 AM
Cancel his cable subscription 10 mins before opening kickoff of his favorite team...
Trash his Playstation III...
How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?
Posted: 8/24/2013 9:28:45 AM
Btw...some are commenting in terms of pain, forcefullness, violence, disrespect, etc -

- I don't think this subject is quite about these things, and the op concern in particular wasn't. Not speaking for everyone of course, some do like the higher levels of being "non-gentle" which do focus more on pain or being forceful or violent. Otherwise, whereas some think this is about pain or being forced, it's instead just about more stimulation and being more lively. Hair-pulling or slapping, for example, isn't about disrespect, or the pain or humiliation from that...but it's just about the experience of being dominated, not in a degrading or humiliating way (there's a very big difference between submission and humiliation), and about being able to feel the hunger in the other person. Sex is a physical activity as much as emotional or intellectual. To the extent that the physical senses are involved, this is about just having more physical stimulation...and also the emotional or cerebral aspect be expressed or more easily felt by the other person when you're being more lively. There's definately something real about being able to connect and have an intense experience while being "gentle" and not needing any tricks or a wrestling match or anything that might leave a bruise...but there's also definately something real about being what might be called more violent or forceful or lively, "going crazy" with your sexual hunger - it's just that it's not actually "violent", or inconsiderate, or hurtful, degrading, disrespectful, or humiliating, or resulting in injury.

A man who is too against all of this completely, is actually being inconsiderate of the woman. He needs to try and understand what it's like for the woman to feel him "take her" in a more lively, hungry, and dominating way. It's not automatically painfull or humiliating to pull her hair, slap something, or "control and force" the position and activity that he wants.

I want a woman to be open to this from the other end also. She has to be on that "gentle" frequency and understand it, but she has to be ok with the "more lively" things as well. I'd want her to sometimes be in full control, have to do all of the work during intercourse, and let her selfish eager hunger come out. And when I'm going down on her, if she's not putting both of her hands on my head and "taking" what she needs as much as receiving it, then it's boring as hell. To understand how unbalanced the views on these things are, just think of how some women hate for a man to put his hands on her head while she's going down, yet many men have to have her hands on him when it's the other way around. Think of why a person likes it or doesn't like it, and that'll bring things into focus.
How do I get my guy to throw me around a little?
Posted: 8/24/2013 8:19:11 PM
(msg 108 from inbruges on the craigslist posting)

Oops, how funny - maybe some guys think of this phenomena as revenge on those women who encourage the idea of women controlling romance and sex, thinking that women do all the picking, act as if men need women but women don't really need men, and insist on men paying for things on the first few dates and look down on dutch-dating...with them always wishing so bad that they could just get pounded already.

...and then men with no spines, easily manipulated by the gender propaganda, and sooo worried about being a virgin, go and pay for sex. Wonder what all that means? Hhmm...
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