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 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 64
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I am friends with my first ex-husband. We even go out to dinner from time to time.
 EagleEric
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 66
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/7/2008 12:43:44 PM
In answer to your question - no! And you'll never find what you want until you have the same response.

The Eagle
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 70
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Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/8/2008 3:28:16 AM
I think we tend to think of an X that has good qualities like that (even though the bad are there too) until we find someone that we feel similarly about, that really has a snowball's chance in hell of something permanent. On the upside, at least you recognize that the X you think about is not a viable option. Maybe in a way this is how we give ourselves hope, to think of the good qualities in an X and hope to find someone that has those without the dealbreakers.
 moniquesc
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 76
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:00:42 PM
I still think about some of my exes, but I don't want them back. They had good qualities that I can fondly recall or else I never would have dated them.
 pathwalker49
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 77
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/14/2008 1:12:29 PM
notforyou,
I ALWAYS think about my ex since I lost her to cancer, but they are cherished memories that help me be a better partner for an equally wonderful woman in the future.
I will never forget her, not love her, not be grateful to have loved her, or cherish my every memory of her, but at the same time I don't measure the new women I meet by her in any way. They are individuals with a whole new personality, and little quirks, that will intrigue me once I meet the one I will end life with whoever she is.
 virgogidget
Joined: 11/10/2005
Msg: 80
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Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/15/2008 1:25:15 AM
No I dont.
A ex is a ex for a reason.
It was me that walked.
I wish him well.
He gave me three great Children (now grown)
He has now remarried and Im pleased for him.
He wasnt a bad guy just not for me.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 89
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:54:35 AM
~OP~ Which one? LOL Seriously, there is one that crosses my mind daily, sometimes more than that. I don't know if I'm being picky, picky, picky ~ or just that I've learned so much about me, because of him, I want to savor his memory for a long while. He was amazing.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 91
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:01:12 AM
I not only think about my exes, but I am still friends with and talk to many of my exes...they call me about jobs, girlfriends, whatever.

I don't talk to most of them regularly - but I am still friends and talk with my most recent ex daily. Just because other things don't work out doesn't mean you have to scrap the friendship if it's a good solid one.

I don't tend to end any of my relationships on bad terms tho, either.
 EbonyGhost
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 95
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:42:54 AM
I still miss my ex, but my aim is improving.

*laugh*

Most folks still think, every now and then, about previous relationships. Including the jealousy thing. The grass is usually not greener - you end up trading one set of issues for another set. Could be the new set of issues isn't as bothersome as the old - if that's the case you have traded up - congrats. People don't come with warranties. There is no such thing as a perfect person.

But if you're in a relationship you don't feel is right for you, then the ONLY right thing is to move on. Be ok with yourself before you get involved in another relationship.

Terry
 SmartestGuyinworld
Joined: 5/16/2008
Msg: 96
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:30:36 PM
WOW!! This is SICK:..........

I always think about my ex. I think it's just a bit of jealousy though.
I felt like I was setteling when I was with him, and now that we're apart I don't want to picture him with someone else. He wasn't very good to me, so I don't understand why I really care, I just know that I do.

WHAT!!!!!

....He was "good to you" and you dumped him.......RIGHT?

Who did you dump him for?.......Some Bad Boy who treats you crappy .......Right?



ANOTHER "NICE" GUY GET TOSSED.



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 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 97
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Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:34:27 PM
No, I didn't think about my ex while I was dating others, I waited to date others until I was sure I was over my ex and ready to move on. Even back when I was highly confused and an emotional mess, I took time between dating if I was hung up on an ex. My time often seems to be 2 to 5 years, but that's just me.
 smileee4u
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 98
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:34:35 PM
After a 22 year marriage, how can I NOT think about him. He was the love of my youth. Now I am alone in middle-age, and approaching older age group. I date, but of course I think of him. I try to forget him, but those years can never be erased. A movie on TV, a song, the birth of our kids, our son's deployment to Iraq. My whole entire life. Now I am empty nesting, and find out what I like. I get to be selfish. I just want someone to be nice. Most of the guys I date are bitter or angry. Better to just not talk at all.
 SCUDRUNN3R
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 100
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:27:29 PM
Everyone does... it's a part of you're life, and that person was your best friend for however long you were together.
I still think about old schoolfriends and what they're up to these days.
And yeah, most people tend to feel a bit of jealaousy knowing their ex is with someone else, but once you beat that, you're over it.

Worst thing to do is to just jump straight back in again (with someone new), straight away.
Give yourself a break, and try not to think about weather your ex is with someone new, that's their life, not yours.

Take up something new...
For instace I'm reading a book, for the first time in years... it is to do with aviation though...

I suppose the one to beat, is the "My ex is seeing someone new...", and that, you just have to deal with. Try not to rebound for the hell of it- I've been doing it for years, and now realise - it's bad mmmmkay.


Good luck
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 101
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Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:55:01 PM
I have dinner with him sometimes. We're going out to dinner tonight. Big deal.
 snow_witch
Joined: 1/13/2007
Msg: 104
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:51:23 PM
EVERYONE THINKS ABOUT THEIR EX'S FROM TIME TO TIME...IT'S NORMAL....THE KEY IS REMEMBERING WHY THEY ARE AN EX.....
 GbBengi
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 106
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:23:34 AM
I really don't want to..... its difficult....we were best friends, we had an amazing relationship. We had a beautiful baby, and she sold her family for her job......apparently I didnt become succesful fast enough for her.....LOL. So now I own my own business.........and her boyfriend who likes other boys is going to jail with "other boys" he will have lots of fun! haha. (lord forgive me for that right there, and be with the starving pigmies there in New Guinea-amen)

Really it hurts to watch the person of your dreams, who you love with all of your heart....be with someone else........I think of it every day, and it shows that one was too young and immature...and needed things, needed control, needed bars.....

when someone throws away family like that........it shows the world that it was YOUR OWN love, that kept you together because it was stronger......

The grass is NEVER greener......

haha sorry, enough on that drama!
 whothehellknows
Joined: 7/23/2006
Msg: 108
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:42:29 AM
I think about one ex quite often, another one not so much. But it's not in a manner of wishful thinking or secretly hoping for another shot, just as you think of good friends. They are the only two ex's whom I have tried to stay friends with and both have great qualities that I have yet to find in some of the others I have dated. We are better as friends, but you can't help but think of them because they were so special.
 elisa75
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 110
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:40:43 AM
i think about how happy i am that i am no longer with any of them, especially the last one. what a loser
 _Red_
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 112
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:27:24 PM
I think about my ex and count my blessings each time that I got out when I did. I can still look back and say he had a few decent qualities but with everything I learned later, I have to wonder if even those were real.

I think when you can honestly say spending the rest of your life alone if you had to would be greener pastures, you made the right decision.
 sweet_n_heart
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 113
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 7/22/2008 12:50:33 PM
For some reason an ex always has a spot in your heart, regardless of why or how things ended. I think it's normal to be curious of what an ex is up too or who is this person he's currently dating. We are only human.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 114
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:17:20 PM
Well, what kind of thinking do you mean OP? There is the hmmm, our life probably wasn't so bad, kind, and then there is I'm thinking about my ex because I just don't have enough body parts in the freezer!
 L80nw8ng
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 115
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Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:24:16 PM
Think about the ex? Hell I still have to deal with him on a regular basis because we have a child together...

Regret the split - HELL NO!

Regret the splits with past boyfriends? also a resounding NO.

Yes I am way too damn picky... wont deal with liars, cheats, addicts, slobs, or the financially or familial irresponsible. So that rather narrows the playing field a bit.

Not to mention that the "good things" about all my ex's really raise the bar as to what I expect... as I now know those behaviors are possible in a male.

You see... I might occasionally date Mr. Stinky, Touchy, or Snaggle tooth... but mostly I date Mr. Really-great-guy-who-just-wasn't-quite-right, and am perfectly ok with sending him home when done... and retreating to my little undisturbed nest, made perfectly for me.

 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 118
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:55:21 PM
I think of my exhusband - never.
Honestly didn't think about him while I was married to him, which is probably why I am not.

I do think of the man, the only man that I realize I have ever loved.
I think of him, frequently - but it's in nice ways. Not obsessive, missing, wishing he was here ways.

Just pleasantly in loving memory.
No, he didn't die.
 Miss49er
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 119
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:39:10 PM
Yeah, there were days when he was really good to me and then I think of days when he decided I was a failure. So every time I feel like I've got too much on my plate, I remind myself 'And he thought I couldn't do it without him'. That man is the best inspiration I've ever had.

To him: Here's to all the goals we never accomplished together and to everything I did on my own without you. Thanks for the fuel you've given to push me forward and to good friends you said I would never have. To accomplishments you said I could never achieve. Thank you for not believing in me. Without you I would not be where I am right now.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 122
Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:35:57 PM

To him: Here's to all the goals we never accomplished together and to everything I did on my own without you. Thanks for the fuel you've given to push me forward and to good friends you said I would never have. To accomplishments you said I could never achieve. Thank you for not believing in me. Without you I would not be where I am right now.

^^^ I soooo agree. Isn't it great when they do us such wonderful favors without even realizing it?
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