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 contrary110
Joined: 8/12/2007
Msg: 14
Do men enjoy foreplay or do they really just want to go to home plate?Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Agree with Garnet, the guys who want to skip the foreplay aren't going to admit it here for all their potential dates to see. Guys who want minimal foreplay may not be with bad intentions, just inept and in a rut (bad habit). If foreplay isn't more varied than your basic making out and groping, I think you're going to lose a lot of them. I think the guys who don't like much foreplay, are also not as creative or experimental with the act itself either. You know they have their basic routine of 2 or 3 positions and it's sort of like week night married sex, but it's not a week night and you're not married. I've had that and I just knew we weren't on the same page, cause he thought everything was honky dory.........
 tronvillain
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 16
Do men enjoy foreplay or do they really just want to go to home plate?
Posted: 3/13/2008 6:27:12 PM
Well, I look at it like this - one of the parts I enjoy most about sex is a woman enjoying herself, and that is often extended and enhanced by some good foreplay. Plus, I quite enjoy what is usually called "foreplay." *chuckle*
 Angelnurse10
Joined: 6/10/2007
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Posted: 3/15/2008 7:39:40 AM
I find most men get turned on during fore play because they are turning you on. Even I like a quickie once in awhile. There is nothing like that coming back from a night out, and having hot sex against the wall or over the couch without everything beforehand
 stevelfun
Joined: 10/23/2005
Msg: 19
Do men enjoy foreplay or do they really just want to go to home plate?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:12:07 AM
I always enjoy 'touching all the bases' on my way to home.

However, had this one woman - she would come over and want to 'talk'. She would stradle me, let me enter her and we would 'talk'. We would try to see how long we could talk without getting carried away in to the other activity.

I miss our 'converstations'.
 Dirty_Minded_in_Rocky
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 20
Do men enjoy foreplay or do they really just want to go to home plate?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:17:21 AM
Hmmm, this sounds like your male friend has friends that are like-minded and would be the reason they are friends. This would also explain they'd be saying similar things. But you shouldn't judge ALL males just from one small group of like-minded males. I'm sure if you were to go into some dark and seedy bar and asked all the male drunks there if women should buy them drinks they'd all say 'yes'.

However, males or females that do not consider the feelings and/or the sexual gratification of a partner is being selfish. They also could be inexperienced at gratifying their partner and are embarassed to be found out so they make up excuses to take the focus off of their inadequacies.
 omg im john
Joined: 4/28/2008
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:34:59 AM
what man in his right mind would spend half the night chatting up a lovely woman, take her home, stick it in, wiggle it about a bit then fall asllep.
Would u invite friends round for a meal that u spent hours preparing & cooking then serve it up on paper plates on a patio table.......i think not.
So come on guys lay the tabe properly befoe u tuck in to a sumptoious banquet & set the scene for an intense night of loving till the sun comes up
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:25:21 PM
Where's the fun in the mad dash? You don't get to see anything. You're not really sure what happened. I like driving slow and taking in the scenery.
 simpleman20188
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:46:38 PM
Some times it is great fast and furious.

Some times it is great slow and sensual.

Personaly I think forplay is for all the time from the moment you wake up till you go to sleep and some times in the middle of the night when one or the other is asleep.

There is nothing more exciting than a constant slow burn of touch, look, inuendo and tease that lead up to the raging fire of all out primal passion.

Cr@p got myelf all horny now.
 TripleBisMeBobb
Joined: 2/28/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:59:31 PM
Calling ALL Girls,

Listen......a Man that passes on Foreply, is missing the whole point. Foreplay is the BEST part!!!! I'm a believer that, FOREPLAY should strat from the moment you wake up and go till you go to bed. Think sexy and you will be. The mind is a Sensual Tool. It's really NOT what is between your legs, as what is between your ears!!!! Foreplay is WONDERFUL!!!!!

Bobb(Y)
 doink 1962
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/1/2008 5:52:08 AM
I personally love foreplay and take my time in this area. There is nothing better than getting her and I all worked up and having her quiver and quake with just a touch or kiss or tongue! Question to why this post was put on as " I was asked to post this"? by whom and why?LOL
 flyingiguana
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 8/1/2008 12:11:22 PM

I was asked to post this question from someone who says that women are the ones that want foreplay and men go along with it just to pacify the women, but they would rather go straight for home plate. He says all his friends feel the same way. They get so tired of getting turned on and then it goes down and up and down before the women is ready. By that time they are annoyed and just want to get it over with quick. Is this really true? Are women making men do things they really hate doing, like the kissing, touching, etc?


me thinks they just need some viagra
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 8/1/2008 12:54:11 PM
I'm not familiar with this "foreplay" proposition. I demand one of the females on PoF give me a personal and very in-depth re-inactment and demonstration. Only then will I be able to constructively post in this thread.


*waits*
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 8/1/2008 3:58:51 PM

I find that if I spend time on foreplay, they have more chance of getting away
I'm usually not a basher; but if your foreplay technique was any good, you couldn't peel them out of your bed. I love foreplay. I love literally spending hours, when I have them, taking her to where she needs to be.

The guys who "just want to get to home plate" are either extremely selfish b^stards; are only having sex with people they don't care about; or are simply participating in vaginal masturbation, i.e. it doesn't matter who the vagina is attaced to. The only time I don't want foreplay is with a lover I'm very aquainted with, in those instances when you just have to bend her over, and go primal on her a$$, LOL.
 GbBengi
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 42
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Posted: 8/1/2008 7:04:01 PM
There is no honest answer, because every situation is different.

There are times (so I have heard) when a potential partner has absolutely zero skills in the sex dept, but are phenomenal at foreplay, manual and oral lovin. Those are the ones you try to NOT have sex with haha.

Then you get the ones who have no control over their teeth or nails, or knees or elbows, and rather look like you got hit by a bus the next day, you pin them down and take control!

That was meant as humorous, though im sure has a ring of truth. I dont believe that men are less into foreplay, or passion, romance or any of that. I just think that women are more closeted about their needs.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 8/1/2008 9:29:24 PM
For a couple of reasons, I can't always get to 'home plate'; so, I, like many women, learned to really, really enjoy trip, not just getting to the destination. Kissing, cuddling, and lots of foreplay really can be an end in itself. To the unasked question, yes, I'd love to be able to come every time, but unfortunately that isn't in the cards for me.
 silibus
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/2/2008 12:05:02 AM
I just gave a bunch on a thread titled, the way to a mans g-spot is through his prostate.

A long proccession of flirting, hinting and foreplat without release is the way to as man's extended orgasm. It sucs that few care to go this route. Instead most want instant gratification that in my opinion is no big thing. Now when a man can not stop coming? THAT is a bench mark. Oh and lots of 'necking' and touching. Even a seemingly brush of the hand in any area is so so hot done right. Men are generally hooked on the end result and few care about the voyage of getting there. Skin is the largest organ of the body. There is nothing more sensual and satisfying than the touch of warm soft skin on shin. the body begs for this.
 silibus
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/2/2008 12:07:23 AM
Of notable reading on the topic is: Teresa Crenshaw's 'The Alchemy of Love and Lust'
Out of print so you have to buy used online or rearch you library.
 ohio07
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 2/7/2009 7:49:04 AM
Foreplay, please, please, PLEASE! Turn on my mind, tease me, make me beg for it, and I will be "motivated" to give you everything I've got till we're both spent. I never have been able to just go from 0-60 in 5 seconds. And if I did, I wouldn't last long enough for a good "quality" sexual experience. For me foreplay is a must.

Unless you have steadily teased and hinted throughout and my my mind is already working on what we are gonna do to each other later... Then the process is underway.

But sex at the drop of a hat, without ANY previous mental or physcial stimulation, is not gonna be me at my best game.

Foreplay first for me, definitely.
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 51
Do we need a new word for 'sex play' together? instead of dividing into the 'warmup' &
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:36:12 AM
"play" is all part of a good sex life

maybe the PROBLEM is the word itself?

"foreplay" tends to imply in itself that it is just a prelude to the 'important' stuff - in this case intercourse?

why does it have to be this way? I've had sex before..manual & oral pleasing of her, and her of me , with out it 'always' ending up with penetration..although I do love that too

maybe we need a new word? consider everything you do together as 'play' ?

not separated into 'foreplay' and 'the main act' ?

anyway it is good to warm up, have fun, make sure you and her are both very excited..teasing is fun..and she is completely wet..

I can't understand guys jumping straight to intercourse, I don't think that without a fully lubricated pvssy it could be much fun for either party?

Vvvvvvv

thanks, probably makes too much sense to be adopted by many people though? ;)

Vvvv
 poker_fan_in_nyc
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 52
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Posted: 2/7/2009 10:39:13 AM
^^^^^^^^
exactly...sounds like common sense to me what you wrote

 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 2/7/2009 10:17:34 PM
Personally I love *lots* of foreplay (but don't always get it, because some hookers like to move things along quickly).

Maybe it's just me, but I find if I get off too quickly, I feel kind of tired and wasted after sex, whereas if I draw things out for a long time, like an hour or more, the feeling at the end is one of invigoration. I'm sure women have a similar experience.
 Heitaliano
Joined: 6/23/2008
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Posted: 2/8/2009 5:23:43 PM
Well Lively you asked a question that I feel " some" of us men get sold short on.
Meaning that if the analogy of baseball that I used in grade school was "my" thinking on the subject. You would be "right on" in what you might be wondering.
I personally think its because not enough couples work on the pleasure of loading bases so to speak. And especially men who play on the moans.
So wrong because men and womens arousal rates are usually different too.
I was "taught" what a woman really wants from a man sexually when I was in my twenties by women in there early and late thirties.
I found the build such a turn on for me and for them, I never looked back.
I dont see what the rush is usually, I dont have a hot date to go to.
I also found that when they really want it now, they tell ya.
Aloha
 anazdaddy
Joined: 1/6/2009
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Posted: 2/9/2009 7:09:22 AM
Why are they mutually exclusive? Sometimes just foreplay without intercourse is awesome! Sometimes when in the mood a quicky with little foreplay is what is needed. Generally, a lot of foreplay followed by "home plate" is what happens. Shhh..little secret..I also have known women who don't care much for foreplay and want a quick home run!
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 6/11/2009 6:59:40 AM
I'm a guy who enjoys a lot of foreplay,but my girlfriend doesn't need it. She's multi-orgasmic so she usually likes to go straight to intercourse. She usually does go down on me first because she enjoys doing it,then she climbs on top for a while. Really,who am I to complain,lol?
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