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 TheLimey
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 19
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Guys, have you ever had a woman go for the kill (first french kiss you) by herself on a first date?

You were caught off guard by a kiss? Jeeze, I've had gals grab me by the spuds (on a first date) when I wasn't expecting it & thats "being caught off guard".
Altho last time that happened I just looked at the gal & raised an eyebrow, her reaction to that was "oh, should I let go?"..
 HikingFitGuy
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 21
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:28:40 AM
I can't even get through a first date, women tend to cut the date short and meet other guys. I guess I don't have the game to keep women interested on a date
 AtypicalOrgin
Joined: 5/21/2007
Msg: 22
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:53:31 AM
heres a Great question... do men like for the woman to ask for a kiss, or tell him that shes going to?? I usually just, 'go for the kill'


I have actually asked a female if she would like to kiss......Works every time....lol

I like making their knews buckle on the first date...Makes for an interesting second.....haha
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 23
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:09:40 AM

I make her want to be kissed, and tease her into fulfilling her desire, more w/ words and playful teasings as if from close friends. This adds to the allure. Often I hear, "I can't believe how I threw myself at you, I'm not usually that way." or, "I am never so agressive," as women who initiate a kiss usually know they're letting their desires to be known and that they really want the man. This is usually protected by women on their first dates.


Dude, well said. But don't give away all our secrets. Hehehe. Actually, if you think about it, with women complaining so much about the guy right away asking for a BJ, or goes sexual and practically turns them off, guys as well as women need to know this approach because first of all, it's no pressure, second, both feel comfortable. The woman things of the guy as a gentleman, and the guy allows the woman to determine her true feelings.
 Musicphilosophy
Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 24
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:42:41 PM
My man, you sound like a regular dude!

I can't say that's happened to me on a first date, but it did happen on a second. Thing is, I didn't fully realize they were dates since both times were completely spur-of-the-moment.
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
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Posted: 6/3/2008 8:39:25 PM
Yah, I agree with some previous posts - your little third kiss in your home country hint was already the move (albeit just a verbal one) and she just took the hint and went forward with it physically. Besides, did you ever tell us what her home country was? Maybe they are more forward there.

I enjoy men making the first kiss move, so I probably would have said something coy but welcoming back regarding the third kiss, and waited for you to go for it. But I'm on the submissive side anyhow.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:10:36 AM
Well put eazk. Tho I have gone for the kill as the op put (funny I intitially thought he meant something far greater then a kiss when I read the title), and will again if I feel the desire, it is more desireable for a woman (atleast this one) when the man makes the first move. Unfortunately unless a woman is flashing a neon sign saying kiss me, some men are clueless like the op seemed to be (no offense). She apparantly all but put up a neon sign and you still missed it. I would be (as eazk said) she didn't feel swept away and got tired of waiting and the drinks lowered her fear and let her go for the kill.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 30
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:38:00 AM
Not only this is good. That is to have the girl be the one who plops the first kiss, but there are some techniques that guys can learn that once you get good you can not only be sure that she will do it, but you will know exactly when.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 31
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/4/2008 12:14:12 PM
You are young but not that I'm anything special, but I've had more than a few girls want to go all the way on the first date. I'm one of 5 men in the U.S. I think that wouldn't do it and to see their shock is still amazing to me.

Women are as aggressive, sleazy, and wild as men nowadays. With girls gone wild going full speed, its not rare at all.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 33
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/4/2008 2:51:30 PM
love it when a gal builds up enough confidence to initiate the first kiss. -doesn't happan much though, cuz her nervous unintentional "kiss me" signals are soooooo easy to spot its easier just to lean in and make the first move. -makes her weak in the knees when the guy she wants to kiss, is dyin to kiss her too...
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/4/2008 3:44:51 PM
Never. Not me. I always wait for the man to kiss me first....on a FIRST DATE
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 6/4/2008 3:45:32 PM
and another thing...DON'T ASK ME if you can kiss me... JUST DO IT!!!
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 38
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:05:45 PM
She didn't go "for the kill". You are assuming things that didn't happen but that you would;d have liked to happen. Kissing in first dates is just a spontaneous event, not necessary "going for the kill". Relax bro, she has more dates to go!
 lilmslefty
Joined: 9/21/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 6/4/2008 10:23:37 PM
Oh heck yeah! I've found it to be a great icebreaker, and relieves that awkward "Should I kiss her" moment for the guys, and the "Is he gonna kiss me?" moment for the gals. Afterwards, just sit back, relax and enjoy the date!
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 6/4/2008 10:38:11 PM
LOL, man. Thanks for opening up Pandora's Box. Actually I did that.
Yeah, this "fiesty woman" comes into the comedy club w/her gf. GM tells me, you're in their table, mind moving back? No, so I do. Over 30 mins she's constantly knocking over her
bottle of Peregrine (sp) water, I'm righting it, telling them 'bout the headliner (world known), etc, mild everyday stuff for me but I guess different 4 them (well, yeah, I'm touchy-feely naturally, but just shoulders & stuff, totally respectable). So, she eventually turns around & says, "The only reason you keep righting my bottle is so U can get a good looks at my tits." I say right, 'cept I forgot my flashlight. After which she hands me her table
candle. 2 funny, but this is a comedy club. OMG, & unknown 2 her, I'm thinking: "Oh, shit, here comes another 1, she wants me & I'm not ready 4 that tonite...dang, I need to buy a days' time."
Whatever, in 10 secs she comes over to French-Kiss me. I feel her back, but w/my boundaries . @ end of show, as I follow up, I remember not ever seeing sparklier eyes in my friggin' life or @ least a long time. All she says is, "So...?" Like I say, I went to laugh that Friday night, not to get laid. Fine, exit outside, more laughs, I go. Within 10 mins she's calling me, talk for hour. Next day she comes over w/gift drink, looking for massage. She strips, I do what I promised...but I don't get into sex-on-demand. So, she stayed confused & a little angry. Oh, well, it was nice anyway. At least we talked several times after that.
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
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Posted: 6/4/2008 11:43:24 PM
This is great!
I have been told that women who like me need to hit me with a 2x4 because I cannot tell when women like me.
(Once I know there is NO problem after that, by the way!)
SO in general, I let all the women I am considering dating that I am like this and when I DO date they know to make some kind of reference to it if they like me: "Well, are you gonna kiss me or do I need a 2x4?"
Perhaps you suffere from just a tiny bit of this syndrome.
To end this on a humorous note: a woman I have dated who works in construction actually got a real 2x4 and wrote my name on it. On a second date, when she was ready to get me into her bed the SECOND time she simply showed it to me-lol!
 SideDishes
Joined: 4/11/2008
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Posted: 6/5/2008 2:41:09 PM
HOT HOT HOT!!!!!
 Dovestreasure
Joined: 1/19/2005
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Posted: 6/5/2008 8:48:39 PM
I have seen some delicious lips I have wanted to kiss, and have sent out the signals that I am ever so ready for that electric moment of impact. I stop there though. Shyness kicks in and I just step back and hope he initiates the move. I have my moments of daring now and then when I have a bit to much to drink , or coerced by a friend. Hard to turn down a dare.
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 6/5/2008 10:22:37 PM
^^^ Although that's meant in general, overall...LOL, no public comment this time...
some of you guys are too horny for your shirts; nothing wrong with it, just saying, there's
still some sensitive, creative women on the planet. Treat them well. I know you know how that's done. Do it well. It's your job. And you like this job, tell me I'm wrong.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 48
When a woman goes for the kill (first kiss) on first date...
Posted: 6/5/2008 11:20:27 PM
...In their hearts, women still want a man...who's...a...MAN. Who knows how to lead a situation...

I'm not saying you need to be a control freak in a relationship, just recognize that by the time you first thought about kissing her, you should have already been reading the signs...

If she had to kiss you first I can pretty much say she didn't feel swept away...more likely she was frustrated and want to move it to the next level and was tired of waiting for you.


Everybody is different, but eazk is right.
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 6/6/2008 12:00:51 AM
^Right. If things are going well, even with delightful doubt planted by her, you kiss.
You can wait a few seconds, minutes. Just don't wait an hour. You're not proposing marriage. Personally, I prefer kissing within 5 minutes of 1st meeting someone...when it's compromised by status or circumstance, I do it on the cheek. In fact, I kiss almost any woman on the cheek, it's a simple expression of general love, the reason we were born. Otherwise, I'm honest enough to communicate my feeling & intent on the mouth. It's not there just for eating & talking. Not that it happens every single day, but even professional
married psychologist women have done it to me, just as an expression of appreciation.
And I'm certainly no way better/smarter/better-looking than any of us.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 52
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Posted: 6/10/2008 8:57:46 AM
Yes, this is so immature. Kissing on dates is something normal! Not matter who starts first, kissing(french kiss, on the cheek or whatever form of kissing) is just part of the date. French kiss just means one thing: that person really liked you. Male or female. It does not matters. A kiss is a kiss, not going for the kill or nothing. You are just watching too much porno or reading too much freak magazines ! lol If you are going to be so thoughtful about a french kiss from your date you are really showing lack of dating skills. Relax, enjoy, call her and plan for the future. If she responds there you got it!
 smhrgs3000
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 55
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Posted: 7/15/2008 12:33:17 PM
OK, after reading these responses, now I know I'm wierd. But yes, I've had ladies make the first "French Kissing" move on a first date quite often actually. But in more recent years, I have made it a practice to always slow them down. I do receive their message, and I do adjust accordingly, but I happen to truly love lots n lots of really soft, slow, tip of the tongue kissing, coupled with a slightly firmer tracing of the fingertips. To me, that's one of the most incredible types of foreplay I've discovered to date. There's always plenty of time for the more urgent, passionate kissing as the night progresses, but never a rush. Besides, French kissing is limited to just the mouth, where my tip-of-the-tongue kissing also slowly drags off of the lips, back to the ear, and all accross the neck, occassionally even touching onto the exposed shoulders where possible. Also to date, they have never minded my slowing them down, and pacing the passion. Occassionally, they don't ever get around to making me stop, lol.
 NotInnocent
Joined: 9/7/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 6/10/2009 1:13:34 PM
Martinis for 4 hours?? Maybe she was drunk and realized what she did after you left?
 thecheekychick
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/10/2009 2:22:42 PM
I have never gone in for the first kiss... but... for other things.. I am always the one to make the first move... I like moving at my speed when it comes to things. When I am ready, I make the move!
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