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 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 25
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his cum maybe going in to his badder spend more time with him !!!
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 26
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boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:58:15 PM
He jerks off too much. If, he could go a day or 2 or more without jerking off, which, for him is not likely, before he is with you, perhaps he could ejaculate in you. It is my experience, alot guys jerk off too much to be capable of sharing real sex with a woman. Some can't get use to taking their hand off their thing, and touch a woman. Some can not go a couple of days without jerking off, so they have something built up to share with a woman. Some are just addicted to masterbation and that is where they chose to spend their so call life. Just throw them back in the sea, perferably the Dead Useless Penis Sea, so no one has to deal with the frustration of dealing with these self centered mastubation addicts. They are sexually useless. Therefore, not worthy of a relationship.
 wesleyscott
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 32
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:27:30 PM
I hate to say this ladies may you just suck or dont suck as the case may be...I am just joking I am sure its in his head or he gay
 StrangerInTheHouse
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 37
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 9:56:13 AM
Sometimes the woman exerting a tight squeeze as he's doing the deed is what's needed.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 38
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 10:07:25 AM
Orgasms are overrated. If you keep pressuring him, he's not gonna want to have sex with you either.
 totum_spirit
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 44
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:03:29 PM
Yes he is choking the chicken a little too much. Tell him to stop it for a week and then have sex or send him to a therapist.
 sexy humor
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 47
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/27/2008 1:18:36 AM
There is a technique called milking his prostrate, involves your finger, up a one way street the wrong way, be gentle, but it works. Problem is will he still respect you in the morning ?????
 maple59
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 50
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 4/27/2008 7:09:52 AM
Men can't win.
First there is the complaints that they cum too fast and now that they don't cum at all!!!!
 matt9629
Joined: 10/23/2009
Msg: 51
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 11/29/2009 9:52:53 PM

a doctor's visit can rule out anything physical.. i think its mental.. i was with someone who couldn't cum full stop with me in the room.. we dated for two months, was a huge issue for me. his problem was purely psychological and well thats a hard one to beat, he was 37, u dont get to that age then have some chick come along and fix it over night.

good luck trying though, thats all u can do.. i would agree in the sense of dont pressure, if it is psychological .. pressure will only make it worse! but talk it through, to understand the bases of where it is coming from.


It's not mental.. it's because he masterbates to much or he is gay I had the same problem. Men aren't like women they can come even if they aren't relaxed
 6fo300
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 54
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 11/29/2009 10:19:41 PM
That's just ignorant to say "He either masturbates to much or he's gay" ... beyond Ignorant it's just plain F'ing stupid. It's partially mental and partially physical, something I'm betting knowledge and a lil' bit of time will fix. Research the problem.
 merelymortal
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 55
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 11/29/2009 10:21:00 PM
I don't think it has anything to do with masturbation, it could be a condom issue... at least for me that was the issue, thought there was something wrong with me and got nervous...

then bareback first time, and no prob

Not trying to take a whack at safe-sex either, just the way it went for me.

Actually, I would never suggest a man not masturbate to become over-sensative, but rather to masturbate into a condom so that the feeling of the condom isn't so weird and foreign... also get better condoms
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/21/2010 9:12:36 PM
try being a better lover, talk dirty with him, excersize your vagina, do some of the work, role play explore fantasies
i think you need to step up and try and be a better lover
 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 65
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 7/23/2015 10:29:08 PM
According to the rules, this thread must be revived even though it's 6 years old.

My man never used to have this problem. Recently, (past couple months) it seems like he can't get off inside me anymore. I wonder about the masturbation issue but I don't really talk about it with him. He is already very upset about the situation, and I would imagine he finishes himself off after we've spent a very long time trying. He always says he's close but just can't get past close to finish. He's gotten better about giving up though, cause he was making me sore.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 66
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 7/24/2015 7:11:18 AM

I would imagine he finishes himself off after we've spent a very long time trying.


I think you should talk about it. Not during sex of course, but some time either after or before hand. And why not ask him to finish right in front of you, while you look at him, and then let his load land on you and see where that goes. Also, if part of the problem is too much porn and masturbation, a way to cut back is simple. Ask him to join him. So you both watch and Masturbate and watch each other. But the key and most important thing is...communication. Just the fact that you have to imagine what he does, means that the two of you do not communicate or express those intimate areas.
 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 67
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 7/24/2015 1:53:34 PM
We have tried all of that. I don't have a problem with any of it. I want him to get off, but he can't seem to get himself off if I'm watching. We don't live together, so when I said I would imagine he does finish when he's gone home. We did talk about it at first, but now he's gotten to the point that he's upset about it and talking about it makes him more upset.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/1/2015 10:24:24 PM

He has never been able to cum with a woman unless he masterbates.


Explore different positions. Us guys vary from on to another in terms of sexual response and position can make a lot of difference.

Missionary never worked for me as a young man; it turned sex into a clock watching exercise with little return on investment. I too often had to masturbate to climax.

Then I met someone (Bless You Darlin') who introduced me to cowgirl and reverse cowgirl. Pow! Everybody happy in a good time frame. Never went back to missionary.
 Peas_
Joined: 5/2/2015
Msg: 69
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/1/2015 11:58:07 PM

Ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend. He was upfront about his problem. He has never been able to cum with a woman unless he masterbates.


RUN! Don't bother sending him to the doctor. Just RUN! Frustration gallore!
 chigammaiota
Joined: 6/5/2015
Msg: 70
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/3/2015 3:06:53 PM
That only happens to me if I had too many long islands that night... or if I'm just not into the girl. Are you sure he's into you? If so, tell him to take a break from the porn and not shoot one off for at least a week. And maybe try some Damiana (increases load). If everything is working properly, that should take care of it.


I've recently started having sex with my boyfriend. He was upfront about his problem. He has never been able to cum with a woman unless he masturbates.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 72
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/7/2015 3:51:46 AM
Well....it does help your self asteem but there are many ways to satisfy a guy....be fun to try them and ask him what he likes....if your on point in talking about subjects that is....good luck!
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/13/2015
Msg: 73
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/7/2015 7:30:46 AM
Well, they say "nice guys finish last" in bed.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 74
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/7/2015 4:09:46 PM
forforums- This could be a medical issue.
Some medications/medical conditions can cause this.
Ask him to see his physician asap, to rule this out.
If that isn't it, you are going to have to accept it.
Personally, I would rather deal with this than Mr. Minute man, just saying.
 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 75
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/7/2015 8:56:01 PM
Foforums asked the question in 2009

I revived the thread because the guy I was with has this problem. We tried everything under the sun that we could think of. We aren't even together anymore for other reasons. I wish him well with his problems getting hard, staying hard, and being able to cum.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 76
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/8/2015 7:45:17 AM

Missionary never worked for me as a young man; it turned sex into a clock watching exercise with little return on investment. I too often had to masturbate to climax.

Then I met someone (Bless You Darlin') who introduced me to cowgirl and reverse cowgirl. Pow! Everybody happy in a good time frame. Never went back to missionary.


It was the opposite for me. I would rarely cum when a woman was on top on me. But I did when it was missionary or doggystyle.
 sundress1
Joined: 7/7/2015
Msg: 77
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 8/8/2015 8:25:53 AM
I was with a man that often wasn't able to cum during sex. I had to give him a hand job to finish him off. It wasn't a major problem though.
 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 1/19/2015
Msg: 78
boyfriend cant cum during sex
Posted: 9/6/2015 6:54:14 PM
Geez I thought doggy was like the 10 second position lol!
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