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 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 45
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!Page 2 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)

In life, we have to do what we want. There is no reason that a woman should have to not go somewhere by herself.

msg#49
carrie carries herself quite well!

Growing up in our large, strict Catholic family of 3 brothers and 4 sisters we all traveled the four corners of the planet with a sense of exploring and fantasy of other cultures and lifestyles. My sisters have traveled all over and a lot of the time alone and personally I never worried for there safety. They were street smart & new the ways of the world but most importantly they lived there life without fear or doing things alone, for to live your dreams,your never alone...
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 46
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/26/2008 5:28:03 PM
... on a couple of occasions I have arranged to meet friends at a pub and have arrived early. I have only been approached a couple of times by men making unwanted advances....most have politely asked if I was waiting for someone, if not could they buy me a drink. My replies are usually thanks, but no thanks. And never a problem.

However, I will have to admit that I would not intentionally go to a pub/bar on my own. If I wanted a meal and a glass of wine, I would head to one of my favourite restaurants.

...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 47
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/26/2008 5:28:44 PM
... oops double post
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 48
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/26/2008 8:10:06 PM

Most single men would be thrilled if a lady would ask them "are you here by yourself?" when eating alone. I know I would. There have been many times when I've been traveling that I would have welcomed someone to chat with.


You know I would welcome it more if it were that kind of situation. Majority of the time it isn’t a single male asking me if I am alone in order to strike up a conversation. It is other women, couples, the elderly or the pimply faced kid taking my money for my single movie ticket. I just find it puzzling especially other women, they surprise me the most for some reason.


or a dance alone


Actually in my clubbing days this was the ploy to get guys to ask you to dance. Some would just kind of slink up and dance close to you , their way of “cutting in” without having to deal with another male in the process.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:41:57 AM
for to live your dreams,your never alone...

^^^^^^^^^^^^ That's what gets me going when feeling under the weather, plus that the memories and dreams can no one take away from me. Bonus is to have either soul to share it with or friends one encounters when stepping out of own shadow ... you never alone. (Hmmm ... common sense, good will and a sense for adventure applicable)
 MacKevinized
Joined: 2/15/2006
Msg: 50
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Posted: 3/27/2008 5:34:29 AM
OK so I'm nventing a button for the ladies that want to go where men approach women. It will be worn on her chest and will have 3 lights that she can control.

Red means: I'm just here for food and a little inebriation DO NOT APPROACH
Yellow means: I'm just here for food and a little inebriation DO NOT APPROACH but if you happen to own a white horse, have a shiny suit of armor and/or are a member of royality......
Green means: Go for it!

These buttons will be required by law in any public establishment where people might go to share mixed company and will be issued with headbands that have 3 lights too and work as a lie dectector and any male that wishes to engage the single woman, must wear at all times.

Red means: Looser, deadbeat, cheapskate, liar
Yellow means: Not lying but may need to be 'put in his place' a few times.
Green means: Arrived in a limo, dressed to the hilt and acts like 007.


Ireland, Scotland, England seems to be a little more open to men and women at the pub and it being social rather than sexual.


Don't fool your self, they don't go for either sex or to be social, they go to get drunk!
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 51
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/27/2008 7:30:42 AM

Bonus is to have either soul to share it with or friends one encounters when stepping out of own shadow..


Yes, I couldn't have said it better myself,

for you know the other part of the journey,

to step out and share life's adventures,

how sweet the paths we walk...
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 52
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:55:21 AM

^^^^^^^^^^^^ That's what gets me going when feeling under the weather, plus that the memories and dreams can no one take away from me. Bonus is to have either soul to share it with or friends one encounters when stepping out of own shadow ... you never alone. (Hmmm ... common sense, good will and a sense for adventure applicable


...Very nicely put. I have been single for more than 12 years and I don't give a second thought to doing most things on my own. The first time I drove from here to Kenora , Ontario (which is close to a 1000 miles) to go camping, one of my friends remarked that she could never see herself travelling that distance alone.....I loved it. She asked what would I do if I had car trouble....I have AMA and a cell.

...maeflowers
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 3/27/2008 9:26:25 PM
I guess I am not proper. I not only go out and sing at a club by myself, I traveled all through Europe alone recently.
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 3/27/2008 10:36:58 PM
It's rare to see attractive women out alone. However, if the guy was interesting, fun and attractive would you still tell you were only there to eat?

I think not.
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 59
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/28/2008 5:37:56 AM

It's rare to see attractive women out alone.


I was wondering when this little gem would come up.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 3/28/2008 9:08:58 PM
I can't say I've ever aspired to be proper... sounds way too stiff and limiting.

Way back, I moved to Vancouver without knowing a soul. Some years later it was time to go back home to Ontario. I sold the house, waved good-bye to the movers with my stuff and decided to take full advantage of being completely free. Took the summer to meander back, camping most nights and grabbing a hotel room when the need of a real shower got large enough or the likely camping spots were scarce. Just me and the two dogs; once we all got on the same pee schedule it was fabulous. Saw some great country and met wildly diverse and interesting people.

Sometimes it is more interesting to look for the adventure than to be overly concerned with what is considered proper by other people.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 61
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/28/2008 9:38:53 PM

It's rare to see attractive women out alone. However, if the guy was interesting, fun and attractive would you still tell you were only there to eat?

I think not.



...If the guy was single, fun and attractive .....I invite him to join me. But thats rare to see an attractive man out alone.


...maeflowers
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 3/30/2008 12:16:22 AM
Don't sit at the bar. Sit at a table in a cafe or coffeehouse, bring reading material. Easy.
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 3/30/2008 6:16:13 AM
On Point with Merry.. I used to frequent an establishment in Miami until the "Good Ol Boys" started annoying all the really nice women who did drop in for a bite and a drink after work.. pretty soon the place looked like a gay bar! Even the last time I took my Mother out for a drink (she was 80) some jerk decided to come over and start with the inference talk. If more men realized they were chasing away the objects of potential relationships with this crude behavior maybe they would see more nice women out alone.

The point is it is hard for the old fashioned girl to overcome that upbringing in the first place.. they feel threatened by some man not taking the hint either be nice or leave me alone..

I've learned after 20 years of singlehood , and 16 years of being married that when I find a place to enjoy a drink.. the first thing I do is befriend the Bartenders and if possible get to know the owners.. then I feel "safe" in an establishment. When I leave if I have been bothered nothing wrong with telling them if you hear my police whistle come running.. better yet get an escort to your car! Most small business establishments want our business! They will try to make you feel comfortable and safe to keep you coming back...

but if in the end you are feeling exposed and uncomfortable it is better to stay home and stand in front of a mirror and insult your own intelligence.." Hey Baby where you been all my life" works wonders in front of my mirror...lol.. never go out when you are feeling even the slightest insecurities.. men smell that and come on like a pack of wolves.

Men take a hint.. women are more than sexual objects. Maybe take the time to chat them up about something else other than how horney you are and you just might get a girlfriend....

Same goes for sending notes to women online... most of the emails I receive I could classify as another form of Indecent Phone Call.. same goes for most men's approach to women they see out alone.. Keep that talk till later when you finally are alone in a compromising situation.. but until then show some respect... otherwise even at this age I might Sic My Big Brothers on you!

I take a lot of flack for my attitudes but truthfully do the men really want a longterm relationship with any woman who's allowed men to treat her that way? I still believe they want a woman who respects herself.. and has the morals to go along with being a "nice woman".

Fire away..
Girlflower
Alone and still looking for my Prince..and know a frog when I meet one!
 softheartedred1
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 69
Proper ladies don`t go out alone!
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:12:10 PM
I go to bars and sing karaoke all the time and go to bar & grills and eat dinner. No problem with guys chasing me off. Sure they will try to hit on you, but you keep saying no and they take the hint. Maybe you just need to move to Texas.
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 3/31/2008 1:14:44 PM
Men are different in different places.. men in Florida tend to be more self involved.. because there are sooooo many women to each man... maybe Texas wouldn't be such a bad idea except I love my beaches too much to leave Florida!

Girlfower

PS.. when out if you are approachable and friendly you'll meet someone.. it's all in the attitude.
 NiceOnPurpose
Joined: 12/17/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 3/31/2008 6:02:27 PM
I am 46 years old and have never been into a bar by myself. Only a few times with girlfriends. I have gone on dates where when my date went to the bathroom the other drones there would take that as an OPPORTUNITY. I found it so disrespectful.

Still I wish I could go sometimes and feel like I could be safe or even meet a few new friends. Like it or not, there is a double standard. A woman sitting by herself is often made a target by the worst in the room. Assumptions are made about her character and promiscuity that have no basis in fact. Life isn't fair.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 3/31/2008 6:39:04 PM

Another time, one of my vendors stops in to say hi. We decide to go to the same pub for a game of pool ( which I love) and a brew. That was it. The next day my sister calls me on the phone. She lives 40 miles away and says," Hear you have a new boyfriend and you were to the bar with him, huh? "
Thats the stuff we are talking about.

And you let stuff like this INTIMIDATE you??

And so some jackass with nothing better to do with his time than cause trouble called somebody's husband? \

This sort of attitude and behavior WILL continue as long as you let yourself be bullied by it. it's nothing to do with your age group or where you live...you are being pushed around by men because you LET them.
Cindy O
 softheartedred1
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 4/1/2008 9:48:45 PM
Hey, Texas is on the Gulf Coast you know. LOL
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 4/3/2008 8:36:04 PM
"If a woman is confident and sure of herself she has nothing to fear from men."

Well, of course she doesn't. The problem is that most of the men who want to join a single lady aren't the best company for many reasons. That is why it becomes so boring to not be able to go out alone without attracting unwanted attention.
 damsell in a dress
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:58:24 AM
J.M.O Single women
Whats GOOD FOR MEN is GOOD FOR WOMEN.....
I go out by meself after work...get same things,,IT's how you handle you handle it..
I think,,,,,
No one is going to tell me wher to go and waht to do as Long as I am single,,and IN MY BIZ Travel-----I have aquired many new clients....
Networking---as soon as I mention I am a travel agent----everyone seems to want to go on a trip...so IT also increased my BIZ,, I carry Biz Cards,.....meet women -cuples and men.... NO problems here..
I do not meet people there for a potential realtionship tho--I GO because I may want to unwind or maybe a sandwich and most people are very nice...
OR---I love to DANCE---and IF no one wants to go out--HEY--I am going anyway,,
I am out going however do not go as much as I used to..I will not drink and drive with harsher laws... cabs work If i really feel like Dancing .... to be safe...
I still like going with my friends better---BUT not at all ashamed to go by myself..and NO ONE should be.....AND I am a LADY !!!!
to all-------who don't care what people say--I DONT,I know who I am.....

BE WHO YOU ARE-----The hero lies in YOU.

jeanette
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 4/4/2008 6:52:33 PM
"I don't see where it is a problem unless the guy refuses to take "No" for an answer. In that case you need to get the manager of the establishment involved."

Of course there is no problem unless the guy refuses to take no for an answer. That is were the women need to deal with the person themselves, which isn't hard. Calling the manager because the women can't handle it herself.............not in my world. Calling the manager would in my opinion would cause a bigger scene than the women showing the man with her own words that he is wasting his time.
 damsell in a dress
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 80
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Posted: 4/6/2008 7:40:43 AM
Whats a Proper lady anyway???
It's 2008?
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