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 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 18
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I would never lie and say I love her just to speed things along.
Generally..when I date...things speed along on their own.
:-P
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/9/2011 5:33:32 PM
Men want easy girls or I should say easy sex. Especially from dating sites.
If he is not serious he will dump you either after you have had sex or because you wont.....It is best to have your self respect and not be the victim of a pumper and dumper. One way to weed them out is to ask them to wait until a real connection has developed. THey will lie to get sex of course.... It is a chance you take if you give it up too early that you will just be used.


Oh, ferchrissakes. So, I'm a guy, so I lie, have no self-respect, have no respect for any women, need to be weeded out, use drugs at every opportunity, have committed a plenitude of felonies, and have been apprehended for only two, and, oh, btw, do ya have any daughters?

Somewhere, out there, there's an evangelical guy, who believes the sex is the devil's work, and I hope you and anyone else who thinks as this post suggests have to vie for his sparse attention. lol

I'll cop to being a slut, but I don't require anyone else to live the way I do. They'd probably hafta to be a Democrat, though.

I guess my answer to the topic question is- most men probably want whatever it is they don't have, and the same is true of most women.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/9/2011 6:36:43 PM
Actually that IS somebody playing games, again the word "challenge" doesnt imply a mutual attraction, but a one way attraction and a reticent participant. For someone to "seem like a challenge" theyre not showing mutuality there


This is nothing more than a difference in perception. Some people perceive a "challenge" as something negative, whereby they have to jump through hoops or coerce someone into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

Other people see a "challenge" as a "puzzle" or "mathematical equation" that is fun to solve. As an example, some people enjoy the "challenge" of solving crossword puzzles, or math problems. Others do not, and find them tedious and frustrating.


Two people both seeking the same progression and where niether is playing games isnt a "challenge" but niether does it show "easiness" just natural progression at a rate that suits BOTH participants


That's the tricky part. Not only do both people need to perceive a "challege" in the same way, but their natural progression rates, i.e. timelines, need to be similar.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/9/2011 7:29:28 PM
Most of the time when a woman says that she will only sleep with someone that she is in love with, it means that she will not sleep with someone she doesn't have tremendously strong attraction for. The reality is that people rarely fall in love in three weeks, but attraction, limerance, lust, desire have a way to get in a person's mind.

So my advice. Do not lie to accelerate anything. Let it flow naturally, if it goes, awesome, if it doesn't, awesome as well.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 11/10/2011 12:04:21 AM
What ever happened to " I'm going off to war, and may never return"?....it worked in the 40s and the 60s.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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Posted: 11/10/2011 6:57:15 AM

Do guys only like easy girls?


Not me; I'd prefer the woman who's about as easy as brain surgery or the theory of relativity.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/10/2011 7:28:24 AM

This is nothing more than a difference in perception. Some people perceive a "challenge" as something negative, whereby they have to jump through hoops or coerce someone into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

Other people see a "challenge" as a "puzzle" or "mathematical equation" that is fun to solve. As an example, some people enjoy the "challenge" of solving crossword puzzles, or math problems. Others do not, and find them tedious and frustrating.


Uh no. If what you said were true, you would have to also think people who want the newspaper delivered on the porch instead of the roof see challenges negatively. The only thing that's a matter of perception here is that some people perceive somthing as more valuable solely because it's more difficult to obtain without regard as to whether that difficulty is intrinsic or simply because someone else is deliberately making it difficult. The newspaper is not more enjoyable to read nor are the articles any better if I have to get it off of the roof. I'd rather get it off of the porch and spend the time I saved doing something that might be a real challenge, like the crossword puzzle.


Abelian, I understand the point you're attempting to make, however, your newspaper analogy is not a good example of how some people see a challenge negatively. No one would want to read a newspaper badly enough to risk life and limb to climb on a roof to get it---nor would anyone deliberately throw it up there.

If you want to use a more accurate analogy, then use cooking. It's a known fact that some people greatly enjoy cooking---while others hate it and think it's a waste of their time. When you're single, and get a craving for fresh chocolate cake, you have a choice of either baking it yourself, or going down to the local bakery and buying it. The ingredients are the same.

Some people enjoy the challenge of the cooking process. They like to select a recipe, buy the ingredients, mix them together, put them in the oven, smell the pleasant aroma as it bakes, then take it out, and frost it---and lick the spoon afterwards. They enjoy the homemade cake more than the bakery cake, because they can appreciate the time and effort that went into making it---even though they taste the same.

Other people are impatient and perceive baking a cake to be a chore. They'd rather just go out and buy one, so they can eat it right away. They want immediate gratification.

And by the way, you could still enjoy your crossword puzzle while the cake is in the oven.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/10/2011 7:45:35 AM

free4all131220:
If she only sleeps with guys she loves, I'd stick around if I really love her. If I just wanted to sleep with her then probably not.


The problem with this ^^^ is, I have never fallen in love with any woman before I slept with her. I would tend to think there is something wrong with you if you fall in love without ever being intimate. Just my opinion, of course. YMMV


Stray_Cat:
I would never lie and say I love her just to speed things along.
Generally..when I date...things speed along on their own.

Thumbs up to that one. Just say “No” to lying, and “Yes” to women who are on the same page as you are.


whytwater:
I'll cop to being a slut, but I don't require anyone else to live the way I do.

Yet another Thumbs Up.


sweetblue62:
Women who are looking for a commitment, true love, will not have sex, I won't.

I spent 27 good years married to a woman with whom I had mad, passionate sex on the first day we met. Speak for yourself, NOT for everyone.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 11/10/2011 1:05:29 PM
I had one one night stand, with a woman that, well loved sex, all kinds of it,the one night stand did last 8 years, she was my wife, she never cheated on me and was one of the most wonderful people I have had the good fortune to know... not to even bring up how great the sex was
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/11/2011 3:05:26 PM
The chocolate cake analogy still isnt a good one, as it only shows one side having any active influence in the activity

So in that respect the newspaper analogy is actually better as the paper boy does have the ability to make the task easier OR harder at their whim.


Maybe a better analogy than the two might be something like a two person canoe

Both people can either MUTUALLY paddle from one end of a lake to the other, or one can choose to paddle in the oppsite direction to make it a "challenge"

If both people mutually want to reach the other side then niether will be deliberately trying to make the journey more difficult or awkward (more of a challenge) so it wont seem nor feel like a challenge in the slightest

But if one doesnt want to reach the other side of the lake and does deliberately try to make it harder for the other by paddling backwards then that IS a challenge

In the first scenario both people are wanting and actively heading towards the same destination

For it to become a "challenge" one of them doesnt, or just wants to make the other work harder for it. Which is (IMO) being manipulative and/or a sign of then not "really" being that keen on reaching that destination with "that" person, otherwise they WOULD be paddling in unison with them
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/11/2011 4:16:24 PM

Maybe a better analogy than the two might be something like a two person canoe

Both people can either MUTUALLY paddle from one end of a lake to the other, or one can choose to paddle in the oppsite direction to make it a "challenge"

If both people mutually want to reach the other side then niether will be deliberately trying to make the journey more difficult or awkward (more of a challenge) so it wont seem nor feel like a challenge in the slightest

But if one doesnt want to reach the other side of the lake and does deliberately try to make it harder for the other by paddling backwards then that IS a challenge

In the first scenario both people are wanting and actively heading towards the same destination

For it to become a "challenge" one of them doesnt, or just wants to make the other work harder for it. Which is (IMO) being manipulative and/or a sign of then not "really" being that keen on reaching that destination with "that" person, otherwise they WOULD be paddling in unison with them That analogy doesn't work either, because it's based on the assumption that one of them doesn't want to head towards the same destination.


Here's an even better analogy: A man and a woman want to work out together to get in shape, but when they jog together, the woman can't keep up with the man, and he has to slow down his pace for her. Unfortunately for him, his workout suffers because in slowing down his pace, his heart rate drops below an optimal level.

The answer is for each of them to seek out other partners that can match them in pace.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:20:57 PM
some of the responses are interesting. sounds like a lot of men are pretty jaded and don't want to bother getting to know a woman. that being said, i couldn't sleep with someone unless i had feelings for him.
 CheckPrime
Joined: 7/20/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:22:49 PM
I hate easy girls. Aint nothin buts legs with **** holes.
 CheckPrime
Joined: 7/20/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:26:23 PM

Good Evening from UK. , Am just laughing head off with the men replies to this topic. Let's face it guys,be real,to those who are saying" oh I like waiting or I would waiting"...


Speak for yourself sparky, I'm interested in an adult relationship with one woman.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:44:14 PM
Seems to be one of the great and abiding paradoxes that both genders very much enjoy relating to another, coupledom, sex, yet each puts up obstacles to any approach. I do much prefer "easy", but in a much more broadly defined sense of that word than what many who have posted take it to mean.
I'd want a partner who looked for ways to overcome obstacles, and remove them unilaterally, to make way for what is possible.
It's too facile to snap at "easy" as a sudden-fvck, instant coffee kind of coming together. Sexual intimacy is both a goal and a path, I think. One marvelous way to learn about a partner, even a brand spankin' new partner. Most probably, at least in my experience, the path is gonna be much prettier and memorable if any or many of the other myriad of ways two humans can connect have clicked into place before the dyk finds its home.
On most days, yeah, I'd turn down a cold fvck, with a total stranger, no other connections made or to be had. Ive had the same kinda sex with exes who had been longtime partners shortly before they became official exes. lol But if I thought I was on the threshold of a warmhearted woman, more than willing to connect, to engage me, all of me, well, that'd appeal to me.
 ackman1465
Joined: 10/30/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2011 12:49:27 PM
I'm willing to invoke the "four date" routine.... but, after that, I'm outta there!!!!.....
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 34
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Posted: 11/26/2011 7:37:27 PM

Here's an even better analogy: A man and a woman want to work out together to get in shape, but when they jog together, the woman can't keep up with the man, and he has to slow down his pace for her. Unfortunately for him, his workout suffers because in slowing down his pace, his heart rate drops below an optimal level.

The answer is for each of them to seek out other partners that can match them in pace.

Well put, I agree. I think the thing is though, some people will scoff at particular "paces" because a feeling of rejection can be had if one wants to go faster than the other. I think it's because paces Can differ, depending on the person you're dealing with, so they'll assume it's 100% that, and they're not "good enough".
 toomuchfun6969
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 11/26/2011 7:50:48 PM
No, easy girls are just not fun, ya l would wait more exicting and if you are shitty in bed she would never know
 BlaineV
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/26/2011 7:56:44 PM
What's the guarantee that the man won't bail after getting what he wants anyway? I think saving yourself for true love is very admirable and you should stick to it. Some people have sex like it's a bodily function (actually, technically it is). But sex should only be had when there is a mutual respect between partners, and that means respecting each other's boundaries and only having sex when both partners are ready. It is an important part of a relationship, but I think you should be in a relationship first. And a lot of people use the analogy of test driving a car before you use it. I get what they're saying. But say you're not sexually compatible with someone, so you move on to the next person. But you aren't sexually compatible with the next five people either. So what just happened? You had sex with six different people, and put yourself at a higher risk for stds and unwanted pregnancy. Congratulations!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:05:46 PM
guys don't like easy girls at all. they sleep with them, and then toss them away. to many men, if a woman has sex with them too soon, then she is not "relationship material." ai think all of this absolutely ridiculous, but the 'ol double standard is still alive and well. when men get over this BS the world of love and romance will be a much more blissful place.
 BlaineV
Joined: 7/13/2008
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:34:33 PM
it depends on how soon is too soon. Personally, I think casual sex is one of the stupidest concepts. I think people should at least be in a relationship before any sex is had. I would never try to talk a woman into bed just for the hell of it, and i would lose respect for those women who succumb to that pressure. However, what goes on behind closed doors, between two consenting adults is none of my business, and this is merely my opinion.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/26/2011 9:28:16 PM
No, I don't "only like easy girls". I like all kinds of girls, or women. Easy, hard, every degree in between. Short, tall, thin, not so thin. I like women. They look good, they smell good, they feel good when you hold them in your arms dancing. When you lose your job, and you think your world is coming to an end, she holds you in her arms and tells you it will be all right. When you get another job, a better job, she is there to congratulate you, and go out celebrating with you. Yes, I like women. Where would we be without them?
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 11/26/2011 11:53:04 PM

guys don't like easy girls at all. they sleep with them, and then toss them away. to many men, if a woman has sex with them too soon, then she is not "relationship material." ai think all of this absolutely ridiculous, but the 'ol double standard is still alive and well. when men get over this BS the world of love and romance will be a much more blissful place.



Women who have sex straight away with a guy they hardly know, for whatever reason are asking to be pumped and dumped... There is no chance of an emotional connection developing and the guy just moves on as he has lost interest or lost respect or both..... ..


Tempting as it is to point out the layers of lies, sweeping generalizations and misjudgments in these and like posts, the 'ol double standard and the BS, from what I read in this thread and elsewhere, comes almost entirely from timorous women, and most of them approaching the end of the child-bearing years, who persist in the prissy, and demeaning, belief that all men are after but one thing, one time, from every woman on the planet. The so-called double standard thrives among such voices, and will live forever with them, so long as they keep singing that sorry song. It often happens in poitics that a lie is reiterated frequently, so that many will come to believe it. So long as the chorus insists that double-standard BS is alive and well, it will be.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 11/27/2011 4:20:09 AM

I'm guessing many men like easy girls...for the night, not to date. So it really all depends on your intentions, his intentions, and whether or not they match up.


Nope. Don't like easy women.
I like a woman with self respect and not just someone who can be wooed into bed by anyone.

If they'll lay me in a heartbeat, they'll lay someone else, while they are with me.
Not cool.
 MikeWM
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Posted: 11/28/2011 3:50:49 AM
@ MSG 99

Are you like 14 or something?




So if you're a boy be a jerk and hurt her


Where is the womans responsibility in that? SHE is the one ALSO "choosing" to have sex, and SHE is the ONLY person responsible for HER own actions, feelings and happiness

But you pain women as pathetic fragile creatures incapable of making rational decisions or being mature/responsible enough to be HAVING sex in the first place

Which is pretty insulting to "women" in general

I am quite frankly amazed at some of the views on this thread especially from women. Then again I guess it IS POF, so nothing however brainless, narrow minded, illconcieved or out of touch with reality should really be much of a surprise

Newsflash

Women (some) can and quite regularly DO have sex because they WANT to have sex without expecting that to be taken as a down payment on a happy ever after

Infact someone doing that is no better nor worse than the men who pay for a meal and then complain they didnt get their leg over because they thought the meal was a downpayment for sex. And both are equally pathetic and manipulative in nature

"women are like,,,,,,,," is the opening statement of a moron, so it "men are like,,,,,,,"

Each shows a person who really doesnt have the faintest idea at all about "people" in their truest colours the moment they say it

Unless of course the phrase "all different" is what follows


And jeez, enough with the "pump and dump" nonsense.

I am not claiming NO men do that, but just as many women do too

Plus a lot of the time that wasnt even what happened, but more along the lines of

"pump, talk some more, find out what a raving total lunatic the person is now that sex has happened and THEN dump because of the lunacy, nor the attainment of sex"

Hell, sometimes its just because the person was a crap lay or because when they were seen naked in clear light what had looked good with the push up bras, body shaping steel reinforced under garments, makeup and other enhancements turned into the bride of frankenstient when "au natural"

But its just "easier" to always convince yourself they were "only" after sex rather than face reality I guess
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