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 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 51
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Men want easy girls or I should say easy sex. Especially from dating sites.
If he is not serious he will dump you either after you have had sex or because you wont.....It is best to have your self respect and not be the victim of a pumper and dumper. One way to weed them out is to ask them to wait until a real connection has developed. THey will lie to get sex of course.... It is a chance you take if you give it up too early that you will just be used. However waiting too long such as the 5th date if you like him, likely he will be gone.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 52
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Posted: 11/9/2011 5:23:40 PM
I would never lie and say I love her just to speed things along.
Generally..when I date...things speed along on their own.
:-P
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 53
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Posted: 11/9/2011 5:32:00 PM
top gun man

No wonder you have to be on a dating site....You are just crude...
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/9/2011 5:33:32 PM
Men want easy girls or I should say easy sex. Especially from dating sites.
If he is not serious he will dump you either after you have had sex or because you wont.....It is best to have your self respect and not be the victim of a pumper and dumper. One way to weed them out is to ask them to wait until a real connection has developed. THey will lie to get sex of course.... It is a chance you take if you give it up too early that you will just be used.


Oh, ferchrissakes. So, I'm a guy, so I lie, have no self-respect, have no respect for any women, need to be weeded out, use drugs at every opportunity, have committed a plenitude of felonies, and have been apprehended for only two, and, oh, btw, do ya have any daughters?

Somewhere, out there, there's an evangelical guy, who believes the sex is the devil's work, and I hope you and anyone else who thinks as this post suggests have to vie for his sparse attention. lol

I'll cop to being a slut, but I don't require anyone else to live the way I do. They'd probably hafta to be a Democrat, though.

I guess my answer to the topic question is- most men probably want whatever it is they don't have, and the same is true of most women.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 55
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Posted: 11/9/2011 5:36:24 PM
Julian 2807
Yes if she slept with you on first date she is likely to do it with others and even it is true that she had several guys at a time or whatever, and what you say about her....she was obviously mentally challenged in some way I would suggest.....
THere is no hard and fast rule and we know when there is mutual chemistry and connection and sometimes having sex early feels right and sometimes to wait, feels right... For me if I feel he is a decent guy and so on and I am attracted I dont wait more than three dates.....yeah baby.....
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 56
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Posted: 11/9/2011 6:36:43 PM
Actually that IS somebody playing games, again the word "challenge" doesnt imply a mutual attraction, but a one way attraction and a reticent participant. For someone to "seem like a challenge" theyre not showing mutuality there


This is nothing more than a difference in perception. Some people perceive a "challenge" as something negative, whereby they have to jump through hoops or coerce someone into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

Other people see a "challenge" as a "puzzle" or "mathematical equation" that is fun to solve. As an example, some people enjoy the "challenge" of solving crossword puzzles, or math problems. Others do not, and find them tedious and frustrating.


Two people both seeking the same progression and where niether is playing games isnt a "challenge" but niether does it show "easiness" just natural progression at a rate that suits BOTH participants


That's the tricky part. Not only do both people need to perceive a "challege" in the same way, but their natural progression rates, i.e. timelines, need to be similar.
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 11/9/2011 7:28:19 PM

without really taking the time to actually comprehend the gist of them

As far as I can tell, that's exactly what you did with my posting....

how does any of what you describe feel like a "challenge"?

The 'challenge' is not the wait... It's the following through on something, that's not handed to you on a platter...
The terms, 'easy' and a 'challenge' are simply two points on a line... there are all the myriad variations in between and about them....


whereas a "challenge" is a process for trying to attain something that isnt freely given or offereed

Some of the definitions of challenge...
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/challenge

" To summon to action, effort, or use; stimulate "
"A test of one's abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking"

People can even challenge themselves.


where niether is playing games

Really though, there is nothing wrong with playing games... you either play the game or you don't... but to condemn someone for playing games is in my view somewhat judgemental... Not the least of being, you may perceive what the other person is doing as game playing, yet they may have reasons very valid to their own requirements... and not see it as a game from their point of view...



then labelled any women who dont present a "challenge"

As opposed to those who label a woman who isn't easy as being too much of a challenge...? Or perhaps, for many they simply seek short term rewards.... and don't feel the other person is worth investing time, or effort into unless sex is the immediate payoff....
Wow, such charmers

By the way, I didn't assume a time frame either... I put it in the my post relevant to the idea of modifying a car.... that can take a lot of time.... LOL....
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/9/2011 7:29:28 PM
Most of the time when a woman says that she will only sleep with someone that she is in love with, it means that she will not sleep with someone she doesn't have tremendously strong attraction for. The reality is that people rarely fall in love in three weeks, but attraction, limerance, lust, desire have a way to get in a person's mind.

So my advice. Do not lie to accelerate anything. Let it flow naturally, if it goes, awesome, if it doesn't, awesome as well.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 11/9/2011 8:19:11 PM

Actually that IS somebody playing games, again the word "challenge" doesnt imply a mutual attraction, but a one way attraction and a reticent participant. For someone to "seem like a challenge" theyre not showing mutuality there

This is nothing more than a difference in perception. Some people perceive a "challenge" as something negative, whereby they have to jump through hoops or coerce someone into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

Other people see a "challenge" as a "puzzle" or "mathematical equation" that is fun to solve. As an example, some people enjoy the "challenge" of solving crossword puzzles, or math problems. Others do not, and find them tedious and frustrating.

Uh no. If what you said were true, you would have to also think people who want the newspaper delivered on the porch instead of the roof see challenges negatively. The only thing that's a matter of perception here is that some people perceive somthing as more valuable solely because it's more difficult to obtain without regard as to whether that difficulty is intrinsic or simply because someone else is deliberately making it difficult. The newspaper is not more enjoyable to read nor are the articles any better if I have to get it off of the roof. I'd rather get it off of the porch and spend the time I saved doing something that might be a real challenge, like the crossword puzzle.

 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 11/9/2011 11:34:13 PM
My previous, perhaps more balanced philosophy use to be: If you like each other, do what you like with each other!

Now I'm the one to deny a woman the only advantage she thinks she has but desire to jump me must be there.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 11/10/2011 12:04:21 AM
What ever happened to " I'm going off to war, and may never return"?....it worked in the 40s and the 60s.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 62
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Posted: 11/10/2011 4:54:56 AM
^^^^ It still works...Or at least gets used...you DO know there's a few wars going on don't you?

I think a lot of people from both sexes want to think what they currently have is special and that they did things they don't usually do...
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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Posted: 11/10/2011 6:57:15 AM

Do guys only like easy girls?


Not me; I'd prefer the woman who's about as easy as brain surgery or the theory of relativity.
 sweetblue62
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 64
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Posted: 11/10/2011 7:27:01 AM
AL Paulchino? Yeah right, you are an idiot, as most guys are.
If a woman says she doesn't want to have sex, she doesn't.
Women wait because they want to be loved for their personality and character.
Sex is the bonus in a relationship.
I don't know where all of you people are raised and living, but sex is not the answer to any relationship.
Sex too early only messes things up and can cause a lot of confusion.
Usually the woman will fall for the man and he is just sexing her up!
That is what women are trying to avoid!!!!
If two people date, fall in love, really fall for each other, there is respect there for each other.
If the woman wants to wait, he has no problem with that.
He is a real man.
A man you can count on to be there when things get rough, not run away cause you were having sex and then have a big fight and well, you don't have to put up with that, I am outo of here, kind of thing.
Women who are looking for a commitment, true love, will not have sex, I won't.
I can tell you that all good things come to those who wait!!!
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 11/10/2011 7:28:24 AM

This is nothing more than a difference in perception. Some people perceive a "challenge" as something negative, whereby they have to jump through hoops or coerce someone into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

Other people see a "challenge" as a "puzzle" or "mathematical equation" that is fun to solve. As an example, some people enjoy the "challenge" of solving crossword puzzles, or math problems. Others do not, and find them tedious and frustrating.


Uh no. If what you said were true, you would have to also think people who want the newspaper delivered on the porch instead of the roof see challenges negatively. The only thing that's a matter of perception here is that some people perceive somthing as more valuable solely because it's more difficult to obtain without regard as to whether that difficulty is intrinsic or simply because someone else is deliberately making it difficult. The newspaper is not more enjoyable to read nor are the articles any better if I have to get it off of the roof. I'd rather get it off of the porch and spend the time I saved doing something that might be a real challenge, like the crossword puzzle.


Abelian, I understand the point you're attempting to make, however, your newspaper analogy is not a good example of how some people see a challenge negatively. No one would want to read a newspaper badly enough to risk life and limb to climb on a roof to get it---nor would anyone deliberately throw it up there.

If you want to use a more accurate analogy, then use cooking. It's a known fact that some people greatly enjoy cooking---while others hate it and think it's a waste of their time. When you're single, and get a craving for fresh chocolate cake, you have a choice of either baking it yourself, or going down to the local bakery and buying it. The ingredients are the same.

Some people enjoy the challenge of the cooking process. They like to select a recipe, buy the ingredients, mix them together, put them in the oven, smell the pleasant aroma as it bakes, then take it out, and frost it---and lick the spoon afterwards. They enjoy the homemade cake more than the bakery cake, because they can appreciate the time and effort that went into making it---even though they taste the same.

Other people are impatient and perceive baking a cake to be a chore. They'd rather just go out and buy one, so they can eat it right away. They want immediate gratification.

And by the way, you could still enjoy your crossword puzzle while the cake is in the oven.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/10/2011 7:45:35 AM

free4all131220:
If she only sleeps with guys she loves, I'd stick around if I really love her. If I just wanted to sleep with her then probably not.


The problem with this ^^^ is, I have never fallen in love with any woman before I slept with her. I would tend to think there is something wrong with you if you fall in love without ever being intimate. Just my opinion, of course. YMMV


Stray_Cat:
I would never lie and say I love her just to speed things along.
Generally..when I date...things speed along on their own.

Thumbs up to that one. Just say “No” to lying, and “Yes” to women who are on the same page as you are.


whytwater:
I'll cop to being a slut, but I don't require anyone else to live the way I do.

Yet another Thumbs Up.


sweetblue62:
Women who are looking for a commitment, true love, will not have sex, I won't.

I spent 27 good years married to a woman with whom I had mad, passionate sex on the first day we met. Speak for yourself, NOT for everyone.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Posted: 11/10/2011 9:22:12 AM

You lie and get what you can then have a buddy call her and tell her that you had a bad car crash and that your no longer with us. Works everytime.


LOLOLOLOLOLOL
LMAO I am DEFINATELY gonna try that one very drunk in a bar with a couple friends having a wager LOL. I wonder how long it'll take her to track me down and KILL ME
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 11/10/2011 1:05:29 PM
I had one one night stand, with a woman that, well loved sex, all kinds of it,the one night stand did last 8 years, she was my wife, she never cheated on me and was one of the most wonderful people I have had the good fortune to know... not to even bring up how great the sex was
 WinstonDoubtfire
Joined: 7/29/2009
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Posted: 11/10/2011 1:10:29 PM
I never really cared for easy...I like challenges.
 Arteest1650
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 70
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Posted: 11/11/2011 2:46:39 PM
Easy leaves just as fast... pick your poisons carefully..
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/11/2011 3:05:26 PM
The chocolate cake analogy still isnt a good one, as it only shows one side having any active influence in the activity

So in that respect the newspaper analogy is actually better as the paper boy does have the ability to make the task easier OR harder at their whim.


Maybe a better analogy than the two might be something like a two person canoe

Both people can either MUTUALLY paddle from one end of a lake to the other, or one can choose to paddle in the oppsite direction to make it a "challenge"

If both people mutually want to reach the other side then niether will be deliberately trying to make the journey more difficult or awkward (more of a challenge) so it wont seem nor feel like a challenge in the slightest

But if one doesnt want to reach the other side of the lake and does deliberately try to make it harder for the other by paddling backwards then that IS a challenge

In the first scenario both people are wanting and actively heading towards the same destination

For it to become a "challenge" one of them doesnt, or just wants to make the other work harder for it. Which is (IMO) being manipulative and/or a sign of then not "really" being that keen on reaching that destination with "that" person, otherwise they WOULD be paddling in unison with them
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 72
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Posted: 11/11/2011 4:16:24 PM

Maybe a better analogy than the two might be something like a two person canoe

Both people can either MUTUALLY paddle from one end of a lake to the other, or one can choose to paddle in the oppsite direction to make it a "challenge"

If both people mutually want to reach the other side then niether will be deliberately trying to make the journey more difficult or awkward (more of a challenge) so it wont seem nor feel like a challenge in the slightest

But if one doesnt want to reach the other side of the lake and does deliberately try to make it harder for the other by paddling backwards then that IS a challenge

In the first scenario both people are wanting and actively heading towards the same destination

For it to become a "challenge" one of them doesnt, or just wants to make the other work harder for it. Which is (IMO) being manipulative and/or a sign of then not "really" being that keen on reaching that destination with "that" person, otherwise they WOULD be paddling in unison with them That analogy doesn't work either, because it's based on the assumption that one of them doesn't want to head towards the same destination.


Here's an even better analogy: A man and a woman want to work out together to get in shape, but when they jog together, the woman can't keep up with the man, and he has to slow down his pace for her. Unfortunately for him, his workout suffers because in slowing down his pace, his heart rate drops below an optimal level.

The answer is for each of them to seek out other partners that can match them in pace.
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 11/11/2011 4:42:26 PM

Maybe a better analogy than the two might be something like a two person canoe

Both people can either MUTUALLY paddle from one end of a lake to the other, or one can choose to paddle in the oppsite direction to make it a "challenge"

Or how about, both people can take a canoe or a speedboat from one end of the lake to the other...
With a speedboat, they reach the other end of the lake in a short time...
One drove the boat, the other was along for the ride...
With a canoe, they can enjoy the time spent together before they get to the other end... both of them had to work together to get there... and learned a lot more about the other....
 Coyotefeller
Joined: 8/1/2005
Msg: 74
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:12:11 PM
Boy, I wish I knew more about canoeing .....!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
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Posted: 11/11/2011 5:20:57 PM
some of the responses are interesting. sounds like a lot of men are pretty jaded and don't want to bother getting to know a woman. that being said, i couldn't sleep with someone unless i had feelings for him.
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