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Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 17
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Put your stuff in storage now and go sleep on a friend's couch. Some people make everything about race and you cannot talk to them nor will anything anyone says make any difference unless the top dog among them decides they want it to stop. And that is the general "them" whether it is a bunch of whites, blacks, Asians, Hispanics, any group that is basically being led by a loudmouth that won't listen and wants to make all issues about race.

There is no reason to put yourself through that so get out and be safe. Some people answer what they think is prejudice with discrimination of their own. You know who and what you are and staying to prove a point would be foolish and could be deadly.
Joined: 9/24/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:42:19 PM
Just curious, But Im wondering why you introduced Richard to the Cops. Or felt you needed to.
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/28/2008 3:27:26 PM

I DO plan to move, Funny Girl. Am going back to college in May. It's still going to be an awfully long month, though.

How do you reason with people like this?
You DON'T. You put your head down, do your time (the month), and never look back. I've had some nasty neighbours. All they wanted was for me to move out.
Joined: 3/25/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/28/2008 3:29:00 PM
MOVE!!!!! NOW!!!!!


Hanging around hiding in your apartment is not living. Just get away from the lowlifes and start again.
Joined: 1/14/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/28/2008 4:24:55 PM
I don't get it...but time to move.
Just be really careful, your words, your body language....and protect your stuff.
You might be seen as a good target now to be harassed and run out of town since they probably know that you have given your notice to move.

stay strong... remove your valuables to a friends place if you can and be well.

I guess the good old days of neighbours being there for each other are gone, that kinship and support is fading. People are looking after themselves and the Us versus Them attitude happens when you racial tensions between groups.

I don't get it.... best to get out. Be well.
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/29/2008 8:12:42 AM
it really doesn't sound like these are your kind of people. i took a peek at your profile and i can't imagine you living in this kind of environment. can't you move? you can always fluff your hair and give the tulip a toss before you drive away for the last time. in an unmarked car
Joined: 3/27/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/1/2008 7:21:23 PM
You don't reason with them.

You move away and count your blessings you got your purse back (minus the money.)

You're in scumville, and living with self entitled victim mindset losers. Get out fast.
Joined: 9/11/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 4/2/2008 10:34:06 AM
From what I make of this situation is possibly a misunderstanding. Your purse was taken and a black couple assumed that you snitched them out to the police. Now the "Richard" guy probably has something to hide or is paranoid because they are selling dope or he's on parole, whatever., can't judge the situation totally because I don't live where you do, or wasn't there when it happened but however I smell racism on not their part but yours as well as you opened your dilemma post with racial statistics. Typically "most" white people automatically gets paranoid and racially defensive when they end up living somewhere where they are not the majority. I've seen this deeply ingrained behavior so many times it isn't funny. I'm just laughing at all the panicky and over reactive responses from other readers. I'm sure the whole apartment complex isn't ready to lynch you, at least not right now

Now you know how it feels when the bigot equation is on the other foot eh? Doesn't feel good does it?
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:58:24 AM
it's good that you notified the manager but i'm not so sure you should trust him with your personal safety. seems like they already slipped...and slipped...and slipped.....
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 70
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Posted: 4/9/2008 5:17:22 PM
Still time to move me thinks my dear......Head on back towards this direction, and be at peace and happy again.......and I bet you son will follow.....

Just my opinion........
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 74
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Posted: 4/10/2008 9:24:01 AM
Sorry I'm coming off so tough, but this feels like another thread looking for validation
instead of help.-------
Well the lady makes a point, and it could have been worse.

OP: I understand this IS A DAILY DRAMA for you. Every day these loosers live and breath, with not much else to do except cash their disability check and use the food stamps. Tomorrow you could be in the hospital. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF STREET SMARTS? I don't mean the proper way to stab someone, or how to have "beat 'em up" (do you by any chance live near those 6 girls who assaulted the other future Miss America?), or where's a good dry place to sleep at nite. But I do wish I woulda known how to fill out the food stamps application a few years ago, (since I got denied because I had an untouchable retirement account I saved)

YOU DON'T GIVE NOTICE WHEN "FLEEING". (unless of course the situation isn't as bad as you say it is). Did we give notice to Hitler we were on the way? Are we gonna give notice to Iraq when we plan to pull out?

What you do is, you spend your free time looking for A NICE PLACE, and DO SOME RESEARCH. Call the police department for info, etc. Interview the neighbors, hang out like casual and ask questions, sit in the landlords / mgr's office and watch who comes and goes before dark...(and after dark if possible). Then "BAM!" you move one day soon. No notice needed if you live in a danger zone. (get your deposit back at small claims court, capechee?)

Is that a bit over the top, well yes. I hope you get the drift, since we gave it to you 2 weeks ago.
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 78
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Posted: 4/10/2008 5:53:58 PM
i would move asap, but if your going to saty, i would get a "spy" camera installed to watch over your apt and to video record everything incase something happens again..
Joined: 9/24/2006
Msg: 79
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Posted: 4/10/2008 5:56:03 PM

morphed into a blowhard in a circlejerk of pomposity

I gotta remember that one..!
Seems to be a LOT of threads that do that around here....
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 4/12/2008 9:48:14 AM
Move here to Sebring and be my neighbor in my apartment complex. I'll protect you.

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