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 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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This is like asking a woman if a "bob" can replace the real thing?

We all know ourselves and how to take care of that side of us, but nothing, I repeat, nothing replaces the real thing......and when the chemistry is just right......nothing else will be desired either.......

Just my opinion........
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:28:50 PM
With a group of friends? WTF? A circle jerk? What does "on the down low" mean again????
 ~blue eyes~
Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:42:22 PM
^^^^^ I know guys can sit around and watch porn together but I don't thing I have actually ever heard a real story of them all wacking off in the same room while doing so. Does that happen?

Laughinglibra said it perfectly for me.

I have never taken offence to it, its a natural thing to do and if the mood strikes then go for it.

I haven't ever had a problem with the porn issue before either. Its all airbrushed and so on but there is nothing wrong with a little fantacy every now and then. Sure beats the hell out a guy or lady for that matter to be using pictures of real women or an ex.
 Lacquered
Joined: 10/10/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:44:48 PM
I bought my ex his own TV, VCR, beer fridge, and kept it stocked just for those moments, he needed to be alone......... and some of the porn to go in it, to boot!!!!!
Problem was, he was so comfy in his little man nest, he often forgot that I existed or could be called on to assist in matters......
Damn shame, cause I always thought a little help in matters, was always preferable than D.I.Y. sex. I just got left out of the loop, dealing with kids, dinner, house work and such.
Ah well life goes on.



but i hear a lot of men say no woman can give a good hand job like they can.

This is cause our angle is different, the only way a woman going to match that or closely simulate what a man can do for himself is to sit behind him!!!!
Goes the same for women, masterbating..... we have the better angle for reaching ours in the right places, the right way.
JMO
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 AdrianEsquire
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:53:44 PM
Why are you asking this?
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:57:45 PM
^^^"are you kidding me? you actually know of men who watch pornos together? if you had a boyfriend who goes over to friends houses to watch porn, I think him jerking off is the least of your worries. I would be more concerned that he was banging one of his friends."

No, this is hypothetical....read the OP's profile....she doesn't have a 'boyfriend'.


~ds~
 Lixiette
Joined: 5/27/2007
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Posted: 4/1/2008 2:48:22 PM
VARIETY.

A man's own hand is invariably different from another person's hand, vagina, mouth, or ass.
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 4/1/2008 4:44:39 PM
hmm, weak creatures arent they
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2008 4:48:49 PM

does this make you feel like you're just the next best thing?

No

for most men, that no matter how good you sex a man, he's still going to watch porn and occasionally rub one out?

Ok???

Do you not care? Does it bother you?

Nope. Not at all. Provided that he doesn't ONLY do those things. I understand his need to watch and masterbate. Hell, I think the majority of us are guilty of those things at some point. Once the porn becomes MORE important then his relationship with me, that's when it becomes a problem for me. My ex used to stay up late at night watching porn online instead of being with me, despite my making the required advances (he requested I initiate things more often, so I did.. and he rejected me, so eventually I stopped making them.. can only hear the word "no" so many times before you just don't bother trying anymore, right?)... just one of many of the contributing factors to the end of our marriage.

Do you disagree with me?

What am I supposed to agree or disagree with?? I'm confused.. having a blond moment I think...
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 4/3/2008 4:31:21 PM
Really????......And just how can you tell this?????

I would always prefer to have a female take care of my needs and I theirs, and the only time that is not happening would be if there are none around, and the need arises.....so to speak.......

The whole point is to be comfortable with each other and your own sexuality........

Just my opinion........
 Lacquered
Joined: 10/10/2006
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Posted: 4/3/2008 8:36:00 PM

Also, what man watches porn with his friends....

I figured this one out for all of you LMAO,
Military men on the ship, only have a central TV, to watch, therefor men are watching porn together
It is though my understanding that they are not masterbating together, I think I heard the term "shower babies", and would think it more aptly applied.

Dreams
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 4/5/2008 8:49:39 AM
as long as it isn't interfering in our sex life.....have at it....

I have known a few men that will masturbate before.....so the act w/ a woman will last longer.
 Midwesterngal
Joined: 3/29/2008
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Posted: 4/5/2008 9:31:54 PM
Well, it's better than having him cheat on you with another woman. When I was married to my ex-husband, he'd masturbate sometimes in his sleep right next to me and yes, it bothered me at first. You deal with it and move on with your life. Trust me, it's more common than you think. If he were out cheating on you with someone else, you'd have to worry about diseases...look at it that way.

Now, if he's "twisting one off" while he's hanging out with his buddies, then you have to confront him about that.
 jpfinch
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 4/12/2008 8:31:16 PM


hell let me walk in on it.. I'll watch him for a bit n then help out.


WILL YOU MARRY ME???!!!!
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 56
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Posted: 4/13/2008 10:24:14 AM
The question that should also follow: Guys, doesn't it piss you off when your girlfriend doesn't let you masturbate in peace?
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 4/14/2008 9:34:39 AM

Once again the questions amaze me...There are so many things that bother people in this world.. I would not care..


Exactly! Women (and some men I'm sure) have to stop taking this personally! Everyone owns their OWN sexuality and we only ALLOW someone else to experience it with us. The only caveat is that if you are in a sexual relationship and masturbating is altering your intimate time with your partner, then yes, some dialog is needed to work things out. But if one person is too tired or not horny that night, does the other party have to go to bed frustrated? Thats ridiculous.

The best is when both people are free and open with their own sexuality, and there is genuine enjoyment at seeing the other person receiving pleasure - whether I am watching, participating or just leaving her alone for a while. You can't be selfish - its THEIR body!
 WesternRose
Joined: 1/14/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 4/14/2008 9:50:08 AM
Are we that insecure that we need to overthink things and sit down with our girlfriends and talk about men who masturbate to porn?
Some women get all hot n bothered and wet when they see a great pair of Jimmy Choos, so what is the difference?

we do things that make us feel good, things that give us a bit of a high and stimulate our senses.

why would I be obsessed with what a man does, he is releasing some energy, and I would rather he do it to visual stimuli of porn than to go find another woman.


does this make you feel like you're just the next best thing?


only YOU can make yourself feel like second or next best. This is YOUR insecurity.
This is YOUR comparison, not his.
 xMichelleXx
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 65
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Posted: 4/17/2008 12:16:13 AM
Not at all. I think its normal, I would do the same. Its one thing hes looking at naked chicks, but he isnt having sex with them. And your the only who can give him what he needs. Unless he cheats. But hopefully he isnt a dirtbag!
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 12/27/2008 8:19:07 PM
OK - this is one of the most stupid posts I've read.

If you're that insecure you need to take a look at your own issues.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 12/28/2008 6:38:15 PM

ladies, does it piss you off


Only if it is affecting our sex life in a negative way.
 BiffGiggity
Joined: 4/27/2008
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Posted: 12/29/2008 12:38:54 PM
Look, it is mine and I will wash it as fast as I want to......
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 1/29/2009 12:57:56 PM
Masterbation is healthy! Masterbation is pleasurable..( Especially if he lets me watch!)
Watching porn is fun..and educational..( I have learned some really good stuff watching porn)

As long as he doesnt mind me doing it......I certianly wont mind if he does!

I would never think of myself as "the next best thing" and either should my man..but I tell the truth when I say.." NO ONE DOES ME LIKE I CAN!""

 TheyCallMeMrAwesome
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 105
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Posted: 1/30/2009 9:27:58 PM
when I'm teaching mini dan who's daddy, well, he likes it. and if mommy comes around to see, he likes it even more.

I'm not much of a ummmmmmmmm, porn watcher, doesn't get me off, i just have to close my eyes and let little dan do the talking for me
 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 106
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Posted: 1/31/2009 2:33:20 AM
I don't think sex can replace masturbation or vice-versa.

Guys want different things at different times. Of course masturbation is easier to come by than sex, but that doesn't mean guys always want sex or always want masturbation.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 118
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Posted: 2/25/2009 4:55:07 AM
I could care less. I have been involved with someone who did porn as a side job and felt no jealousy or issue with it.

I occasionally do the same, so its kinda like the pot kettle black thing.
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