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Msg: 42
Help- i think the rules have changed !Page 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
This is very depressing:
Posted By: bella4you on 7/5/2008 1227 PM
Subject: Help- i think the rules have changed !
Message: .... I guess i am old fashioned but I don't think a lady should keep calling the guy. I think the guy should be the pursuer. There is nothing wrong with reciprocating, but if he likes you he will call. If he doesn't like you he won't. ...

Anybody who pursues or expects to be pursued is living in the past. I wonder if Bella expects me to arrive at her doorstep in my Stanley Steamer and gallantly bow with a sweeping wave of my top hat, kiss her hand, then chat about President Teddy Roosevelt's latest war with the Spanish. I will be sitting in the chair with the antimacassar where she was sitting to sew her "Home Sweet Home" embroidery, while the maid fixes the chamomile tea and if we mention "the war" it means the Civil War and we will play some music on the Edison gramophone, and she will ask me whether I think those awful suffrage women who want the vote should be thrown in jail.

I think modern women are much more fun. They know they are my equal and I know it too and we respect each other. There is no patronizing and no acting out of pre-set gender roles.

If she likes me she may call or I may call her. Either way is fine. I certainly will not accept the role of the one who is "supposed" to do the calling just because she and I happen to have different kinds of hormones.

This is 2008 the last time I checked a calendar, and it's way better than the Victorian era when gender roles were dictated to you by society. "Rules have changed?" I hope so. I don't want to go back to Grannie's time.
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