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 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?Page 14 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
I try to love older women, but then they escape the basement :)

"If people have been in the 3 ring circus known as marriage with disastrous results, what's the point of repeating the deed?"

>>>I was going to answer, "once past child bearing time, what is the need for marriage?" but then I remember the financial ties and as we get old and wither away, the ability to tell the hospital, "yes i'm family, now tell me WTF is going on" is a good one. I guess if two people are happy to get married, well, why not. of course, I already got my inheritance, so i'm biased :)
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/19/2017 2:34:34 PM

consider pre-nups this way, NG...how many people ask before sex, "can you get tested and show me the results?" Not everyone does, but we generally accept it as a rational request, rather than an insinuation that we're a skank with an STD.

I don't think that's a fitting analogy, though. In yours it'd be "let's get tested before sex" -- but it's so much not "oh, I'm a skank", but going out of the way to book an appt & showing up can be Embarassing where those in there would think so, and then paying for all that stuff, etc. Yeah, like a prenup, it's a concept avoided too often. Of course if we fast forward to the future, and we have universal little kit in our kitchen drawer that takes a pin prick on a finger + a little pee to test -- and you know your results in minutes in the privacy of your own home... then no, it wouldn't be a weird thing. It'd be The thing pretty much you'd do after porking around some.

The reason your analogy doesn't work is because it's Doing Something prior to the act. The prenup is an IF that doesn't do anything Unless you become Non-Married.

Here's an analogy that more fits: Before you have sex for the 1st time, they say IF I catch anything from ya, or vice versa, one has the right to break up and the other agrees and doesn't try to chase them down, beg, etc... and one has to pay for doctors costs to get that treated that their insurance won't cover. If there was a "contract" that everyone signed for "dating" -- and one wanted to put that in... no, that's not strange.

Again, it's an IF -- does nothing unless X happens. It's crazy to think a prenup in and of itself -- covering some bases IF you ever get a divorce -- is bad. :)
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 11/20/2017 4:39:04 PM
It seems there are a lot more old/older women that think they're teenagers these days. There are a ton of profiles in my area where the women look ancient and their age range goes from 18 to around 10 years younger than whatever their age is. They basically want to date guys in their kids age range. It's pretty bad when I can't email a woman 5 years older than me because I'm 10 years too old. lol
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 11/20/2017 11:10:54 PM
Cw, I skimmed your profile. Your extra reading was funny, though I know that wasn't your intention. I met a gal at a party years ago that told me about POF. She told me to join and sent me her profile to check it out. She had all that going on. There was the small out of focus pic, her listed age was much younger than her years, which was so obvious. I didn't have the nerve to question her about it, because the lie about her age was meant for everyone to believe.

I was surprised by how many men lie about their age, and their height and their physical description. As you state, what's the purpose? I don't know how someone can feel good about starting a relationship with a lie(s). Don't think for a minute that these women are actually dating those much younger men.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 11/21/2017 5:29:10 AM

Don't think for a minute that these women are actually dating those much younger men.


How would you know one way or another?
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 11/21/2017 5:20:05 PM
Life experience. Knowledge of men. Men will screw someone much older, but they're not lining up to have a relationship with them. I get the occasional message from guys in their 30s that I know are scouting around for sex. My ex-h is 7 years younger than me, but I was in my mid-30s when we met. He was in his latter 20s. Still, just 7 years. Anything over 10 years is a big difference when you get older. Being 59, I would not date someone 69 most likely.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/21/2017 8:30:10 PM

ThePigOfYourDreams


Don't think for a minute that these women are actually dating those much younger men.

How would you know one way or another?



NewYorker58
Life experience. Knowledge of men. Men will screw someone much older, but they're not lining up to have a relationship with them.

I’m going to have to respectfully disagree. When I was 25, I had a brief but intense affair with an older woman. How old, you say? I really don’t know. In those days, you did not ask a lady her age. Looking back, I would guess at around 45 or so.

She was attractive (not DDG, but attractive). Intelligent, a good conversationalist, and fun to be around. She was good in bed, not great, but good. And she had the knack for making me want more… and more …. And even more….

After a few months, she broke it off, I didn’t. She had a very active social life, her ex was a bit of a wheel in the Democratic party, and she still had all of those connections. I was her escort at a number of fund raisers, and dinner parties, and other social events. Mostly not a lot of fun for me, but she had a way of making the drive home “very interesting”.

I most definitely did not want the relationship to end, but I think she was a little embarrassed to be keeping company with a man roughly half her age. I still think very, very fondly of her.

Women who are at least mildly attractive, and know how to make a man feel like a man, can have pretty much any man they want. Including men half their age.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 11/21/2017 10:50:06 PM

Life experience. Knowledge of men. Men will screw someone much older, but they're not lining up to have a relationship with them. I get the occasional message from guys in their 30s that I know are scouting around for sex. My ex-h is 7 years younger than me, but I was in my mid-30s when we met. He was in his latter 20s. Still, just 7 years. Anything over 10 years is a big difference when you get older. Being 59, I would not date someone 69 most likely.


Fantastic. This tells us all about YOU, not other women. There are women who have sex with younger men. Just because you don't hear about it or the women you know don't necessarily own up to it, I can tell you it does happen.
 Profile_Cliche_Gurl
Joined: 10/9/2017
Msg: 450
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Posted: 11/21/2017 11:10:18 PM
Slap, slap, slap.

Oops, sorry, damn autocorrect again.

Clap, clap, clap.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 11/23/2017 12:37:23 AM
Henry, Pig, are we talking about older women having sex or having a relationship with younger guys? I don't think it's difficult to find a younger guy for sex, for a real relationship is something different.
 daynadaze
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Posted: 11/23/2017 9:30:05 AM
Tell that to my late mother who left my father, after 30+ years of marriage, for a married guy who was 25 years younger than her and they were married for 26 years. It's not anything I would want, but it isn't all that uncommon either. It is more common for an older man to have a younger wife, but there are plenty of older women getting younger men. I don't men rich people buying younger, I mean average people.

As for people saying things you don't want to hear, move on.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 453
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Posted: 11/23/2017 10:03:39 AM

Women who are at least mildly attractive, and know how to make a man feel like a man, can have pretty much any man they want. Including men half their age.


I'm in agreement with Henry on this one. And by "have", I'm referring to younger men who desire a long-term relationship---not just casual sex.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/23/2017 10:31:51 AM

Life experience. Knowledge of men. Men will screw someone much older, but they're not lining up to have a relationship with them.

Yeah, but they will go on dates with them. So yes, they will in fact be dating, as far as the collective's concerned. And as far as a cute older woman, they will be open to Dating an individual (repetitive Dates), as I have in my 20s, but no, the Relationship concept they'll heed, sure. But there's a stark difference between dating & BF/GF. And the most important part is: Older women scouting notably Younger guys aren't so inclined to be in a Relationship (BF/GF) so much either.

My ex-h is 7 years younger than me, but I was in my mid-30s when we met. He was in his latter 20s. Still, just 7 years.

That's not a "just" 7 years, that's a significant age difference, notably in that direction of older woman, she being mid-30s, and he still in his 20s. Obvious for mere Dating, not even BF/GF, yes, over 10 years is definitely an option if there's sexual attraction and they jive well. When you're just dating someone, you're not meshing lives. The difference in aims in life doesn't play a role. If both like going out, both can date. The Relationship part, BF/GF, where you mesh lives -- that's where it becomes an issue, because there's the possibility to settle down almost forever.

The GOOD part of a significant age difference -- older woman, young guy -- there's less drama for "just dating". From my experience of dating older women -- they knew what was up, and the big age difference was an elephant in the room as far as why not things turning into a significant relationship. One thing can lead to another of course and feelings can rise of course -- but the setting is always understood and it wasn't Aimed to be a BF/GF thing to ride off in the sunset in the first place for both parties, so it's less complicated, less emotional issues about it. Don't think it's some "Oh, the younger guys want just sex, and the older women want to ride off in the sunset with the kid a generation younger from the get-go!" No. It's usually pretty mutual not to ride off in the sunset. :)
 LetitiaLeGrande
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Posted: 12/10/2017 7:21:35 PM
men thinking that older women just want sex are in a fantasy world. It is they that want the sex first up.
Once we are mature we want more than just a quick roll in the hay and honestly most older men dont appeal to me and as I am older too, I guess I will always be alone lol!!
 Stackwoofen
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Posted: 12/20/2017 7:18:57 PM
I agree with you that Sex is a temporary fulfillment that is always exciting, powerful, vulnerable, honest, questionable etc
 An80sRocker
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Posted: 12/21/2017 3:03:17 AM
I am 50 years old and I don't ask about sex ever. I love sex as much as anyone but it is way down on my list of what I'm looking for. I want to get to know the woman I'm talking to, who she is, what she likes and doesn't like. Not all me are after sex. There are some decent men out there you just have to keep looking. And don't blow off anyone. I have been on here for a long long time and I never talk to anyone because women don't respond to me.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/21/2017 8:17:27 AM
^^^^ There is so much wrong with this I barely know where to start.

Let’s do it in this order



Not all me [sic] are after sex

I have to take exception to this. It’s pretty much in the definition of “man” that he is interested in sex, that he is after sex. You may say, “not only sex”, but that is not what you said.


There are some decent men out there

Now here you are implying, strongly, that a “decent man” is not interested in sex. I beg to differ.


I have been on here for a long long time and I never talk to anyone because women don't respond to me.

A long time? Your signup date is 8/13/2017. It took me 3 months of effort, trying different things, before I started getting replies to my messages, never mind getting dates. And speaking of making an effort, you have a picture in your profile of you in a jail cell. I mean, seriously? What kind of woman are you trying to attract?
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/21/2017 11:55:40 AM

Once we are mature we want more than just a quick roll in the hay

Dunno about that. I've always gone after MILFs, even at a younger age. Post-divorce, they're up for a roll in the hey-hey-hey! I think older women are better equipped at separating sex from emotional attachment VS when they were 22. But that's assuming they're actually Into said guy. But in the end, both gals And guys will want more, when they Really Like the other person. It's just that guys are more socially comfortable porking a gal who he's merely semi-attracted to.

I agree with you that Sex is a temporary fulfillment that is always exciting, powerful, vulnerable, honest, questionable etc

Well, sure it's temporary. One doesn't have to be a two-pump-chump for it to not last forever. :) But I disagree with the notion that it's some temporary "patch" for emotional voids. Try telling that to a couple. :)
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 12/21/2017 12:21:28 PM

I am 50 years old and I don't ask about sex ever. I love sex as much as anyone but it is way down on my list of what I'm looking for.


Dude, come on. That shit isn't going to work here.
 forumzfishonly
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 461
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Posted: 12/21/2017 5:53:31 PM
Personally for me I alsways brought the subject up close to the beginning to save time, if a woman isn’t interested in sex, what’s the point?? That’s what makes all the boring sh1t you have to endure with them worth it....and even sometimes that’s not enough to stick around
 Dragracer428
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Posted: 12/21/2017 7:37:33 PM
^^^^^^^^

Personally I never bring it up, somehow or other I make it clear I am interested in sex but it is rarely discussed.
After dating several women in my age range I now just assume they are as interested in sex as I am and probably more so. Have not been wrong about that for the most part. I do not push, wait for the woman to be comfortable with me and it happens interestingly usually about date 3.
 ThroatLozenge
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Posted: 12/21/2017 8:04:07 PM
^^^
Same experience here

I wait for the proverbial ‘green light’
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/21/2017 10:38:39 PM
NG, I knew a guy that was 20, and his gf was 45. They were together until she died when she was 75. He was heartbroken. I've dated a little younger, but it's not my preference. I like a more mature guy in looks and for compatibility. I wouldn't date too older now, because the men look too old if they're much older than me.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/22/2017 2:58:27 PM

Personally I never bring it up, somehow or other I make it clear I am interested in sex but it is rarely discussed.

Why would one have to make it clear, even implicitly, that they have interest in the act of sex? It's not like trying to reveal one has interest in collecting stamps. By default, it's assumed to be the case, otherwise, ya wouldn't be going out on a Date. :)

After dating several women in my age range I now just assume they are as interested in sex as I am and probably more so. Have not been wrong about that for the most part. I do not push, wait for the woman to be comfortable with me and it happens interestingly usually about date 3.

Yes, women want their stocking stuffed just as much as guys want to go around stuffing stockings. I think women just want to be more selective about it, since bad reps can more easily result + it's Much easier for an average Jane to just-have-sex-thats-it VS an average Joe.

NG, I knew a guy that was 20, and his gf was 45. They were together until she died when she was 75.

Yeah, that's a super-rarity that's for all practical purposes, not happening out there. Much like, what are the chances the next car you see on the road have "SEX" on it's plate? It'll take a LOT of cars passing to find one, but over time, sure, you can find one. That said, it's MUCH easier now to find a gal with a guy who's a little younger.

I've dated a little younger, but it's not my preference.

Yeah, that's known, but the question is Why it's your preference not to date guys whose age is even a little younger...

I like a more mature guy in looks and for compatibility.

You can look significantly younger than yourself to find a guy who has a mature look. That part's not really the case. It's that he looks at least your age or older. Why? Because what's compatible to your preferences -- is the guy be a little older than you. When you were 35, 45, and 55. Were you some immature gal @45? Were guys immature @45 when you were 40? No, Not at all. It's just a "aura" -- not the actual, as far as true maturity's concerned.

Much like some gals at, say, 45 who make it more clear: Some will say they don't want to date immature guys, and guys more than a couple years younger than them are immature men, and guys 5-10 years older are ideally Mature Men. But they kept that mindset when they were 25, 30, 35, and 40. What were those 50 year old men when they were 25? OLD. What were the 30-35 year old guys, when they were 25? Mature. "Oh, scrap that -- they're immature, because I'm now 35." ;) It's just a Taste issue, not actually based on true maturity once one's at or near 40.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/23/2017 12:27:57 AM
NG, someone who is my age at whatever age I'm at should be smarter than they were when they were younger. The other thing is having more to relate to by being closer in age. Next are looks. I don't like a baby face, so no cougaring for me. I don't mind going down a little in age.

The funny thing about dating after a long marriage is that I'm making a big leap in looks from what I was used to while dating 20 years ago. Men are so jacked out of shape at my age, some women too. People are riding around grocery stores using those motorized carts. People are so overweight they can barely walk.
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