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 Elena1962
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 98
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?Page 3 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
I think some men feel they need to know if women feel or have a healthy attitude towards sex and intimacy, but others are looking to get some, same with women, no bashing here, just being honest. I would want to know if a guy is really interested in sex eventually, but not to cyber or talk dirty to each other after just meeting, it comes naturally in a relationship, don't need to put the carriage before the horse. Women and men feel differently about sex, some reach their peaks at different levels of age groups, others are like that all the time. Asking some intelligent sex questions is a healthy thing, but to actually make it the only topic of discussion is a horny person looking to get a rise.
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 100
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:06:14 AM
Why do older men think that older women are just looking for sex ? Although I guess there are a few out there. The thing that make me mad is that within the first couple of transctions between a couple trying to see if there is anything there , the men always throw in the sex topic, which makes me think they are only looking for SEX.
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And pray tell me what ELSE actually transpires in these first few "transactions" before the men mention sex. Can you even remember? Well! Thats natural. Natural for the following reasons.

Far from being ONLY interested in sex men are interested in the following in order of priority.

Sport 50% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

Cars 20% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

politics 10% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

Fishing 10% --- Female brain turns RIGHT off when this is mentioned.

Home renovations 5% --- Female brain is vaguely aroused

Sex 5% --- Female brain goes ballastic.

This is why women think that men ONLY talk about sex. Their brains shut down when men talk about anything else.
 Dreamlife
Joined: 6/16/2005
Msg: 102
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Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:49:57 AM
Most women are interested in mature men, most men are NOT interested in mature women. Teenage girls are every older man's fantasy. So, most older men behave like teenagers. If you are a woman looking for a man not just as friends, you should know what every man wants. SEX.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 103
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Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:16:07 PM

I will only date a woman with whom I may want to have sex.
You might consider getting the divorce first ...


Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Because most older men ... especially those out of shape ... get their jollies talking about sex ... talking, talking, talking.

When it comes to keeping up with us older more mature ladies ... all you get is ...........................

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

..... about how GOOD they were back in the day.

Teenage girls and immature women are happy with giving a man a little bit of sex and then the "sugar daddy" opens his wallet and gives them the card to go do some shopping while he rolls over and takes a nap so he can go again in a couple of days.

It's not easy to find an older man who can keep up. Many of them let themselves get out of shape ... develop heart problems and diabetes and circulatory problems ... which in turn causes them to become impotent. Many men with heart problems are not allowed to take the pills.

If they have a fat wallet ... they can get young immature women to "play" along with them as long as they have money.

Since they're more or less forced to hang out with the immature ladies ... they have to be able to act immature as well.
 Stedeg57
Joined: 6/6/2008
Msg: 107
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Posted: 6/16/2008 11:02:05 AM
Oh candylilly, you got it right on the head.

There are some of us who might have only gotten it once a week if we were lucky, and do not want to get to a relationship like that again. On the other side, there is only so much free time when you have kids and house and the like to worry about. I personally am not as concerned about when the sex will happen as much as I am concerned about the frequency of it happening once I get into the relationship. Some people cut to the chase in order to get their questions answered early, and to find out if there is a compatibility issue in that area. It has been my experience on multiple relationships that women use sex to get a guy, then ration it out after there is committment. That creates different issues, trust being one of them.

Showing restraint in questioning that area is something that most guys should learn though, as nobody wants to feel like a piece of meat. I don't, and I know most ladies don't. I figure if you give it time, it is going to come up. Why? Because both sides want to know what they will get in that area. Should it be the main topic of conversation before you have known each other for longer than a couple of weeks? No way.
 Springfield9
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 109
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:13:54 PM
It's not a matter of the frontal lobe of men's brains being defective. Sex means something completely different to men. At first, sex verifies the bond between a man and a woman. After that intial phase, it takes on the role of communication. Men are not, by nature, vocal. That means there must be a way to say "I love you " in a profound, non-verbal way. Thoughtful and tender sex is how it is accomplished. I grant you that many men are prone to having a "roll in the hay". That is not sex ....it's just a sport screw. The way a man touches you, looks at you, and seeks your scent all tell you what's up. Crude jokes about sex ae a red flag. On the other hand, if you have a man who stays with you and is never passionately kissed - he is the loving sort and deserves some respect.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 110
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:21:58 PM
I met a guy last year who told me on his first wife was a sports car with no engine...they had a very limited sex life. He says now if the woman doesnt put out on the first date...she never gets a second opportunity at him. (No, I didnt date him:P and those who do put out are just going to be one of many until he works thru this in his own mind.)

I have met several other men who were married for years but *suffered with an unwilling wife. When they got divorce, most lost what they had worked a lifetime to build, she got the home etc and he got the alimony payments cause the kids were grown. Her reason for not having sex dont matter now cause they are divorced but I can understand a man's need to make sure the woman is willing to be in an intimate relationship, otherwise he might as well just buy a woman another home and save himself the frustration.

I really think there is nothing wrong with making sure everyone is on the same page but when someone starts out a conversation in a sexual matter it is harder to find out if the sexual chemistry works if there is any other compatibility down the road. Do you have similiar interest, etc. Women want to know who they will be sleeping with, men want to know they will be getting some. We need to stop judging and being negative. Try to understand why someone is asking the question before you jump to the conclusion someone is a perv. or a cold fish.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:51:44 AM
Krys...Perverts for life?

If men are interested in sex for life, I think that would make us normal...not perverts.

A pervert would be the guy that pretends to be interested in you, but when he gets the chance messes with your minor daughter which is not what most men do.

Why do some men bring up or discuss sex at the wrong times...who knows, but that doesn't make them perverts. If men didn't have the sex drive our species was suppose to have, most of us on this forum would simply not exist.
 Singlemale1962
Joined: 9/21/2006
Msg: 113
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:19:47 PM
Eh dont put us all in that same catagory.

Myself personally I love to talk to women about any subject and I enjoy making friends. Every single relationship I have been in started out as a good freindship.

Thats why I dont Im or email anyone first. Im much more comfortable just talking to a freind than going up to someone I dont know and just talking to them.

Of course that is the main reason why Im still single because Im not that outgoing. But cant change who I am that much.
 Sturdavint
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 114
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Posted: 6/20/2008 12:51:13 PM
I'm more interested if women can cook and clean.
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 115
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/20/2008 2:59:42 PM
I have no need for a woman other than sex. My house is clean, I've had all the kids I want and I already have plenty of friends. If a woman isn't interested in having sex with me, I have no interest in her.

However, I've found it unnessary to bring the subject up on a date. I know when she's "feeling it." All I have to do is come up with an excuse for her to come back to my place so I can make things "just happen."
 Dreamlife
Joined: 6/16/2005
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:55:50 AM
"She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes. She wants to look deep into his eyes, but he's looking down at her chest. She imagines dinner with candles, and he imagines them writhing in bed. She is ruled by her heart, and he is ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart. She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act. In the end--if he plays his part well--he gets what he's after. And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different. What is it that women don't seem to get? Or are they, too, just playing a part?"
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 120
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 8/2/2008 3:03:43 PM
^^^^ Disrespected? I man asks you if you have a healthy sex life and you think it's disrespectful? Sex is the only reason men and women have to come together. I'm am assuming you don't have issues with co-dependamce.

Do you need a man to pay your bills? Or, to fix things around the house? Maybe you feel you need him around for protection? To keep the boogie man away?

I know, it's all about that "connection with another person." Right? Well, why do you think that connection happens? So, men and women will get together and have sex!

Sex is a biological need like eating or going to the bathroom for men. When a man doesn't ejaculate for a while his body will take over and do it for him while he sleeps.

Yes, we want sex. It is what we were born to do. Asking a woman for it is not disrespectful. It is the highest complement he can offer her.
 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 8/2/2008 4:07:11 PM
THERE IS NO GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE AGAIN
AND GREAT SEX IS ABOUT AS CLOSE TO THE FEELINGS THAT I HAD WHEN I WAS IN LOVE as i have been able to come
i think alot of men are willing to trade great sex for love since love is so hard to find
they settle for a relationhship where the sex is good
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 124
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Posted: 8/2/2008 10:30:29 PM

Apparently you've never had really good bbq.


Oh wow I guess that is further proof the way to a man's heart is thru his stomach...dang that soooooooo leaves me out!!!!!!!!!
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 125
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Posted: 8/2/2008 10:45:28 PM
If I ask a woman about sex it's because I LIKE SEX!!! And I'm looking for a woman that likes it to. Yes, there are women out there that don't like sex. In fact, this thread seems to be filled with them.
 Mizz Demeanor
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 126
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Posted: 8/2/2008 10:56:56 PM

Just keep pluggin along until you meet a like-minded man.


amen to that !
Don't stress about the ones that don't fit your own personal parameters...it only takes 1 that does fit to make the search worthwhile.

It's much easier and, if you don't take e-dating too seriously.
It's not the questions that are so annoying...but the delivery ....oy !


~mizz
 Twisted Sister
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 128
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 8/3/2008 5:25:45 AM
In the past few years, I am finding that the tide is turning somewhat with respect to asking about sex. With so many men suffering from varying degrees of ED, it's gotten to the point where many women are wondering if they should be initiating the subject of sex and quizzing him about whether he still can or if he has difficulties. After all, we sexually interested ladies don't want to end up with someone who can't walk the walk.

I think the OP is giving teenagers a bad rap. They are much more polite than some older men and, these days, many teenage guys seem to have a lot more self confidence than many older men. My 16 yr old grandson would NEVER consider asking a girl sexual questions - because he'd probably get his face slapped.

So, men, if you think that broaching the subject of sex to women is a delicate situation, how to you think you'd react if a woman started asking you very pointed questions about your prowess in the bedroom? I've seen grown men blanch when put in that kind of situation, even when the woman is being tactful. I've heard the word "biatch" applied to women who would DARE do such a thing.

I agree that BOTH parties should be aware of any incompatibilities, but finding out about those is all in the APPROACH. People who are tactful don't get slapped up the side of the head (verbally or physically) for asking tactful questions. If one comes on like a goon, one is going to be rebuffed - it's that simple. If one can manage to ask some intelligent questions instead of the "do ya give head, baby", then one might be surprised at how amenable people are in their replies. Crudity, rudeness and aggressive/defensive behaviour is NEVER acceptable and, in fact, is a total turn off and affects one much like a slap in the face.

I'm perfectly willing to answer questions if they asked with some degree of intelligence and don't come across as being asked just for titillation purposes. Boorish questions are not conducive to eliciting positive replies from most people. Besides, if I'm interested in YOU, you will have no doubt in your mind as to whether I'm sexual or not (and I think most women fall into this category).
 blueberry_kisses
Joined: 9/21/2007
Msg: 130
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:58:30 PM
Did you not know April they want to talk about sex because most of them have no idea what it really is or how to do it they are looking for us older woman trying to get us to teach then something they should have learned years before l and they need to experience it before they die ........ Why do they give old men in nursing homes Viagra?..................S o the poor old dears will not fall aout of bed
 Twisted Sister
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 131
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Posted: 8/3/2008 2:09:38 PM
^^^^^ Now there's a thought. The ones who keep whining they've had sexless marriages for years and years could have no idea how it's done anymore. Or maybe they had sexless marriages because the women got tired of Mr. One-Shot-And-I'm-Good-For-The-Whole Day.
 blondago56
Joined: 8/21/2004
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Posted: 8/3/2008 2:52:12 PM
i read through most of the posts here, since this thread was started by th OP in april...and i have to say , 'Of Course, Men are going to (eventually) bring up 'the sex topic'.... its in their nature & requirements...some just do it in a more diplomatic way than others... i want to have a companion for Life, in due time, However, i wouldn't want to waste time with endless emails, texts, messages, expensive dates, more messages,emails, etc... with someone i wouldn't be compatable with... in ALL aspects...
 rogerrabbitrr
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 133
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Posted: 8/3/2008 6:52:34 PM
OP
Where have you been for the past 40 years, in a cloistered convent?
Take a look at a calendar it's the year 2008 might give you a clue as to why aren't men behaving like it was 1958.
 vrb1955
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 134
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Posted: 8/15/2008 7:01:58 AM
To quote a great line from a great movie

" People in hell want ice water .. That doesn't mean they are going get it "
 GEOSCH
Joined: 8/9/2008
Msg: 141
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 8/15/2008 5:16:50 PM
I am going to take a shot at it. It might be because they did not have a normal sex life. Once a month is not normal. So yes I am looking for a women who likes sex as much as possible. And anywhere possible. But I am respectfull and dont bring it up till she does.
 Suzette351
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 143
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Posted: 8/15/2008 6:01:29 PM
Oh thanks for that laugh!
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