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 Elena1962
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 89
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Deacon I like your honesty
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 90
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:52:11 PM
If you take out the word "older" it doesn't sounds so bad. Men are men. I suspect that it's a function of the fact that we are all getting older. If they are on this website and "starting over" with a woman, perhaps they are just hoping that there will be some "last hoopla" in their future.

Sex isn't the main topic, but at 50+ you can bet that it's becoming a concern as part of a relationship. And it's not unusual for women (and sometimes men) to have such bad feelings about sexual intimacy that many of us are just worried that we might get someone "like that". Perhaps it's important to get some of the deal breakers out of the way quickly. Fact is there are a million reasons why people do what they do. And if someone does not want a sexual relationship with a new significant other they ought to just say so in their profile. Sadly, it's a pretty common thing... So maybe "men" just ask because they don't want to waste a lot of time and effort on someone that already has problems with sex.

Well, that's what I think anyway...
 Nicky2Tone
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 91
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:53:32 PM
OP, having been on this site for far too long and having seen the discussions and conversations I have about this....a lot of people in this thread are making it out to be way more complex than it is.

Whether the guy is 90 years old or 19 years old, there's guys on here looking for sex.
(There are also women doing this, but they are fewer in number)

There are also guys looking for relationships, but that's not what this thread is about.

For a lot of people, Plenty of Fish is much like going to a Casino.

You head into a casino and toss a couple dollars in one slot machine.
Odds you'll score? Slim to none.

You drive around town, playing only one slot machine in each casino.
Odds you'll score? Slim to none.

You eventually learn what you have to do to score...

You head into one casino and toss a dollar into about 40 different machines.
Odds you'll score? They increase exponentially.
...because it's a numbers game.

For a lot of people, whether it's only sex their seeking or an actual relationship, dating sites are Casinos and they play the odds. i.e., they "mass contact" people.

Eventually, they'll hit the jackpot and score.
For them, that makes it all worth it.

Unfortunately, you and the rest of the women (And men) on here looking for a relationship not based simply on sex...or one that starts off drunk and naked in a hot tub, have to be one of the unfortunate slot machines they come into contact with.

I assure you, I mean no offense in calling you or any other woman a slot machine.
It's just an analogy...lol
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 92
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:49:05 AM
If older men are acting like teens then older women are acting like a bunch of damn nuns. Prudish, stuck up, but with minds so overdue for a bath that they see phalic symbols in everything from bananas to motorcycles.
 jameshillman63
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 93
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:17:11 AM

Well, first off, it` not all older men, but its the jerky older men.
I have a theory about this. I think alot of them have just started on ED meds and they have not been able to perform for a long time. Now they have their pills and they are like a kid with a new pony to ride. I`m not being snotty. I`m being serious. I do think that this is what is happening. They are only thinking with one head. As long as they are getting their famished appetite fed, what do they care about who it is. They`re getting it------FINALLY!!!!!!. Like a starved rat.

omg thanks that is funny
 amo-vida
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 95
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:08:52 PM
HaHaHa ... great one wooby!

edit: BTW guys, you prolly don't have to ask: according to another site, if the ring finger of the left hand is longer than the forefinger, she does.

So ... if I ever get around to posting pics on my profile, I should put up a photo of my hand and bing bang boom, question answered

These over-generalized threads (all men are pigs, all women are gold diggers) are so done to death. They also make me wonder why the proponents of these theories even bother to date. If certain topics do come up (and I have heard from men that certain pof female dates were much too eager and forward on first dates) you have a choice to say, "Thanks for meeting me. I wish you well."
 clambroth
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 96
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 4:01:54 PM
Here we go. More gender bashing
 cajunalesia
Joined: 1/3/2008
Msg: 97
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:37:14 PM
i believe that alot of men want to make sure that a particular woman is a healthy sexual being....there are alot of women who just don't feel that sex is an important part of life...i feel it's a primary part and worthy of early discussion.....tactfully of course.....that might be the difficult part for some
 Elena1962
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 98
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:34:05 PM
I think some men feel they need to know if women feel or have a healthy attitude towards sex and intimacy, but others are looking to get some, same with women, no bashing here, just being honest. I would want to know if a guy is really interested in sex eventually, but not to cyber or talk dirty to each other after just meeting, it comes naturally in a relationship, don't need to put the carriage before the horse. Women and men feel differently about sex, some reach their peaks at different levels of age groups, others are like that all the time. Asking some intelligent sex questions is a healthy thing, but to actually make it the only topic of discussion is a horny person looking to get a rise.
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 100
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:06:14 AM
Why do older men think that older women are just looking for sex ? Although I guess there are a few out there. The thing that make me mad is that within the first couple of transctions between a couple trying to see if there is anything there , the men always throw in the sex topic, which makes me think they are only looking for SEX.
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And pray tell me what ELSE actually transpires in these first few "transactions" before the men mention sex. Can you even remember? Well! Thats natural. Natural for the following reasons.

Far from being ONLY interested in sex men are interested in the following in order of priority.

Sport 50% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

Cars 20% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

politics 10% --- Female brain turns off when this is mentioned.

Fishing 10% --- Female brain turns RIGHT off when this is mentioned.

Home renovations 5% --- Female brain is vaguely aroused

Sex 5% --- Female brain goes ballastic.

This is why women think that men ONLY talk about sex. Their brains shut down when men talk about anything else.
 Dreamlife
Joined: 6/16/2005
Msg: 102
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Posted: 6/14/2008 10:49:57 AM
Most women are interested in mature men, most men are NOT interested in mature women. Teenage girls are every older man's fantasy. So, most older men behave like teenagers. If you are a woman looking for a man not just as friends, you should know what every man wants. SEX.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 103
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Posted: 6/14/2008 1:16:07 PM

I will only date a woman with whom I may want to have sex.
You might consider getting the divorce first ...


Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Because most older men ... especially those out of shape ... get their jollies talking about sex ... talking, talking, talking.

When it comes to keeping up with us older more mature ladies ... all you get is ...........................

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

talking ....

..... about how GOOD they were back in the day.

Teenage girls and immature women are happy with giving a man a little bit of sex and then the "sugar daddy" opens his wallet and gives them the card to go do some shopping while he rolls over and takes a nap so he can go again in a couple of days.

It's not easy to find an older man who can keep up. Many of them let themselves get out of shape ... develop heart problems and diabetes and circulatory problems ... which in turn causes them to become impotent. Many men with heart problems are not allowed to take the pills.

If they have a fat wallet ... they can get young immature women to "play" along with them as long as they have money.

Since they're more or less forced to hang out with the immature ladies ... they have to be able to act immature as well.
 NYinNM
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 104
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:35:39 PM
Maybe it's because it's what's important to them. They don't want to take the time to get to know a woman only to find out after months that they are not on the same page sexually. He likes it a certain way and often, she doesn't like it that way and prefers sex much less frequently.
Most woman I've known will ask me about what I do for a living almost as soon as we begin to talk, maybe it's just polite conversation, or maybe unconsciously she needs to know if I'm a good provider, stable and all that. Even if she makes more money than me, it does seem that women always want to know about my career and earning potential.
I don't have a problem with them knowing, I even find to be good thing. It means she has at least some interest in me.
This is just my theory on your question.
 WaywardSeeker
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 105
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:49:50 PM
OMG I have mentioned sex in a first meeting. So that's why I never had a second? Wait a minute ... she asked me a question and I answered! Guess I failed the test.
Gosh, at a second meeting we were sharing our limitations and did mention my need for a little blue pill and a 1 - 2 hour wait for anything spontaneous. Guess I failed again!

In the real world I am more concerned about intimacy than sex. Does the lady understand they are not the same thing? Does she know anything about how to establish it? Is she comfortable talking about it? Does she know what to do when it breaks down? If she knows that, or is willing to learn, the sex will mostly take care of itself. If not, time for
 jain
Joined: 2/3/2008
Msg: 106
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:09:28 PM
i agree with u totaly the problem of sexualy diseases are still real.it dosnt make u more of a man to get it up,more of a man to make a woman complete
 Stedeg57
Joined: 6/6/2008
Msg: 107
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Posted: 6/16/2008 11:02:05 AM
Oh candylilly, you got it right on the head.

There are some of us who might have only gotten it once a week if we were lucky, and do not want to get to a relationship like that again. On the other side, there is only so much free time when you have kids and house and the like to worry about. I personally am not as concerned about when the sex will happen as much as I am concerned about the frequency of it happening once I get into the relationship. Some people cut to the chase in order to get their questions answered early, and to find out if there is a compatibility issue in that area. It has been my experience on multiple relationships that women use sex to get a guy, then ration it out after there is committment. That creates different issues, trust being one of them.

Showing restraint in questioning that area is something that most guys should learn though, as nobody wants to feel like a piece of meat. I don't, and I know most ladies don't. I figure if you give it time, it is going to come up. Why? Because both sides want to know what they will get in that area. Should it be the main topic of conversation before you have known each other for longer than a couple of weeks? No way.
 Springfield9
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 109
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:13:54 PM
It's not a matter of the frontal lobe of men's brains being defective. Sex means something completely different to men. At first, sex verifies the bond between a man and a woman. After that intial phase, it takes on the role of communication. Men are not, by nature, vocal. That means there must be a way to say "I love you " in a profound, non-verbal way. Thoughtful and tender sex is how it is accomplished. I grant you that many men are prone to having a "roll in the hay". That is not sex ....it's just a sport screw. The way a man touches you, looks at you, and seeks your scent all tell you what's up. Crude jokes about sex ae a red flag. On the other hand, if you have a man who stays with you and is never passionately kissed - he is the loving sort and deserves some respect.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 110
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:21:58 PM
I met a guy last year who told me on his first wife was a sports car with no engine...they had a very limited sex life. He says now if the woman doesnt put out on the first date...she never gets a second opportunity at him. (No, I didnt date him:P and those who do put out are just going to be one of many until he works thru this in his own mind.)

I have met several other men who were married for years but *suffered with an unwilling wife. When they got divorce, most lost what they had worked a lifetime to build, she got the home etc and he got the alimony payments cause the kids were grown. Her reason for not having sex dont matter now cause they are divorced but I can understand a man's need to make sure the woman is willing to be in an intimate relationship, otherwise he might as well just buy a woman another home and save himself the frustration.

I really think there is nothing wrong with making sure everyone is on the same page but when someone starts out a conversation in a sexual matter it is harder to find out if the sexual chemistry works if there is any other compatibility down the road. Do you have similiar interest, etc. Women want to know who they will be sleeping with, men want to know they will be getting some. We need to stop judging and being negative. Try to understand why someone is asking the question before you jump to the conclusion someone is a perv. or a cold fish.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 111
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:51:44 AM
Krys...Perverts for life?

If men are interested in sex for life, I think that would make us normal...not perverts.

A pervert would be the guy that pretends to be interested in you, but when he gets the chance messes with your minor daughter which is not what most men do.

Why do some men bring up or discuss sex at the wrong times...who knows, but that doesn't make them perverts. If men didn't have the sex drive our species was suppose to have, most of us on this forum would simply not exist.
 MeereKat
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 112
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Posted: 6/17/2008 7:59:38 AM
I was a Lousy Teen-ager..!!
Shy .. Geeky .. Awkward .. Wall-flower..etc..etc..etc.....
That's why I only celebrate Anniversaries.....of my 35th Birthday..!!
I've learned how to be a Gentleman .. and let the Lady bring up the subject... :
'We've been talking for H o u r s .. and you haven't brought up Sex, Once...!! What gives..??'
....for what it's worth...!!
... ...
 Singlemale1962
Joined: 9/21/2006
Msg: 113
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:19:47 PM
Eh dont put us all in that same catagory.

Myself personally I love to talk to women about any subject and I enjoy making friends. Every single relationship I have been in started out as a good freindship.

Thats why I dont Im or email anyone first. Im much more comfortable just talking to a freind than going up to someone I dont know and just talking to them.

Of course that is the main reason why Im still single because Im not that outgoing. But cant change who I am that much.
 Sturdavint
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 114
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:51:13 PM
I'm more interested if women can cook and clean.
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 6/20/2008 2:59:42 PM
I have no need for a woman other than sex. My house is clean, I've had all the kids I want and I already have plenty of friends. If a woman isn't interested in having sex with me, I have no interest in her.

However, I've found it unnessary to bring the subject up on a date. I know when she's "feeling it." All I have to do is come up with an excuse for her to come back to my place so I can make things "just happen."
 Dreamlife
Joined: 6/16/2005
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:55:50 AM
"She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes. She wants to look deep into his eyes, but he's looking down at her chest. She imagines dinner with candles, and he imagines them writhing in bed. She is ruled by her heart, and he is ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart. She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act. In the end--if he plays his part well--he gets what he's after. And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different. What is it that women don't seem to get? Or are they, too, just playing a part?"
 chelsea_hou
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 118
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 7/11/2008 2:10:11 PM
I'm just guessing, but I think it's because too many men have been is sexless marriages.
I could be wrong.....
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