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 Inicia
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Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?Page 6 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
Women do the same thing, it is not relegated to older, younger, men or women..Certain strategies may be more prevalent but not all utilize strategies.i rarely vacuum- heels and clothes optional- i am retired could care less what occupation men or women have-as occupation is rarely related to EQ- or IQ- it is related to luck and garnered skills or experience-

for me objectification or stereotyping, in anyway, is a big turn off and unattractive- for me to do it or partner to do it-i have very little dating success, since i began to honor my personal boundaries, oh well.
I do not care for myself when i look at a person for what they will provide me. yet to share, be of equal value and reciprocity are extremely important to me. my own paradoxical thinking.

Sometimes, people claim sexual virility or nature early in a relationship as an unsupported advertisement to get one to buy product, then fail to produce. (lol) The old saying "still waters run deep" comes to mind when sexual innuendos or blunt representations are presented immediately in communications.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 9/11/2017 11:48:04 AM
Walt, pig says that's what men want, no matter what their approach is. Are you saying he's wrong?

I don't think it's all a man wants. I do believe a lot of men want a true companion in addition to that, because they enjoy women. If you don't enjoy and appreciate women, then I can see how only sex would matter.

I don't have a problem with OLD. I choose not to go on requests for dates here, because I find a lot of the men are lacking. If I accepted every offer, I would be dating someone different every day of the week.
 Inicia
Joined: 4/12/2015
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Posted: 9/11/2017 5:09:53 PM
New Yorker- i might be tempted to agree with your lacking comment? I have found those that express interest tend to run away, when i posit substantial topics- even asking "what do you talk about over dinner or on long drives?" As an attempt to stop the teeth pulling scenario in communications. yeah i think i just have old syndrome.. lol what is OLD?? is it the computer app as opposed to the phone app?? It is referred to so frequently i am a bit embarrassed to ask..but bravery prevailed.. hope it will be courage recognized and not fool exposed. lol
 _GypSea_
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 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 9/11/2017 8:09:12 PM

Hey, if a guy wants to know about sex first, then on the flip side of the coin, I'm gonna ask him about money Great minds think alike.

So -- you just cut to the chase, eh? :)

Bob: So, you like having sex? What do you like to do?
Sally: How much money you got?
Bob: I got $50 in my wallet... and a coup-- do you take competitor's coupons?
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 9/12/2017 12:06:06 AM
Inicia, if I just wanted to date or serial date, then quality wouldn't be as important. At the moment, my thought is to be in a long-term relationship which may last forever, so I take dating seriously.

About the question, I love when men state in their profiles that they're still sexually active, or they say they don't need the little blue pill☺ It's men from 55 and up. I didn't know that they had to state that, so is there potential that some men aren't sexually active between 55 and 65 years old?
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 9/12/2017 3:59:48 AM

Walt, pig says that's what men want, no matter what their approach is. Are you saying he's wrong?


Is that what Pig says?
If it's true that's what he said, I'm not saying he's wrong, I'm just saying he's not right.

Think about this for one second. Does every man you encounter in your lifetime want to get into your pants? When interacting with one of many guys you will interact with in your lifetime, do you actually have in the back of your mind that this is the ONE thing every guy has on his mind????? Are you going to argue that we men are still just looking at every female out there as just another female individual in our species to breed with????

Now, if so, this could one of the problems with some of you ladies(and some men). With this belief, knowingly or unknowingly, you have, or will, eliminate the possibility of actually carrying on a relationship with one of those "good" ones. Maybe it will come as a surprise to some of you that some guys don't just have the need for sex with a female to satisfy their "needs". When you get all dolled up, wear that slinky dress, and dab the stinky stuff on, and then come to the table with nothing else, who do you think you will eliminate? Do you, or have you, ever considered that possibility????

One of MY biggest problems (notice I'm NOT pointing the finger at ANYONE else), is the ability to connect with another. And I am not talking the physical connection here either. That physical connection is "easy" in comparison to what I am looking for. Those physical "needs" easy to satisfy, with, or without another. In fact, I shouldn't have you tell you ladies that, when you have more than enough "toys" that have been created for your gender's physical pleasure. Slowly, but, surely, the toys for men, are starting to gain ground, though, I highly doubt it that those numbers will ever be the same. Ever wonder or question why your gender was first targeted in the creation of these toys?

Maybe, it's time to start.
 Inicia
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Posted: 9/12/2017 8:39:51 AM
Yes toy's target women because climaxes are much more difficult for women to accomplish, a much larger demand is present for women, but indeed as most people we do enjoy such- both sexes, usually enjoy climax. Needless to say frequent toy usages for women desensitizes them to other manual, stimulation as humans are not physically capable of providing speed, controlled vibrations. Consistent arousal techniques can often impede relationships- be it dependence on porn(targeted big business for Male audience)-toys-costume-certain drugs ecstasy-cocaine- booze-marijuana, some fetishes, some kinks etc. It is often good to learn manual self pleasure and many women, due to social gender roles, are uncomfortable learning about the art of touching oneself as it is definitely a skill.. I know a woman who learned of female masturbation, later in life, from male sibling- she tried it for a bit- told him yeah i do not see the big deal- he said you aren't doing it long enough- so successive attempts did reveal the big o to her. they laughed..Learning this allows a female to self stimulate to happy endings of intimate encounters, knowing her own arousal techniques, or can teach her partner how to arouse and provide happy ending.

What is there to wonder about?? The idea of females with sexual needs and desires equal to men's is a very new idea, relatively speaking, and the advent of accepting female sexuality, came during the capital drive "demand and supply." Often toys designed for women are shared, in intimacy, to enhance pleasure and success rates in many couplings- heterosexual and LGBTQ relations. Can be purchased or encouraged, by a partner, when they decide they are limited in pleasure delivery and may not want to work to develop a manual/oral skill set.

An idea i would not entertain but a definite possibility, males are not patient and curious or interested enough in or with their female sex partners and decided a bob would remove their responsibility and make tons of money in the process. lol just an out of the A88 response, for fun!!
I know a few times i finished first rolled over , and ignored my partner- their frustration was palpable! so after years of partners, behaving in such a manner, you know BOB's become a real option and solution. Here is to active, assertive women- independently meeting and supporting their pleasure goals and the big business willing to provide.. as the availability of climaxes with women shrink for men, i imagine more BOG's will be created for men.
 fullmoonguy2
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Posted: 9/12/2017 2:11:40 PM

I choose not to go on requests for dates here, because I find a lot of the men are lacking.


Yes, lacking cooperative women.


I choose not to go on requests for dates here, because I find a lot of the men are lacking.


So, how did those real life options work out?
 BlackLady1953
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Posted: 9/17/2017 8:03:28 PM
Browneyes boo: Your comments were perfect. I couldn't have said it better.
 Peppermint_Petunias
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Posted: 9/19/2017 3:17:10 AM
I agree boo hit it on the head.

Man A brings up sex..Hmmm interesting.
Man B brings up sex. OMG, how dare he.

Don't really see how age has anything to do with it.
Most teenage boys were afraid to ask me anything.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/9/2017 2:40:29 AM
At over 70 men do not want any tyre kickers anymore.
I am 73 young and of course I ask if the woman is still sexual active, remember most of us were married and we know what it is like to be married to a woman who thinks sex is something you have with Christmas or a birthday.
If you do not want sex to be part of the conversation what the F@&K are you doing in POF.
I stopped buying green bananas as soon as I hit 65 years, for I never know if I be around to see the Bananas become ripe.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/9/2017 8:16:12 AM
Baron, what is sexually active to a 70+ year old? How many times a week or month? I know there can be erectile issues. Not every woman wants to deal with that.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/9/2017 8:32:54 AM
"remember most of us were married and we know what it is like to be married to a woman who thinks sex is something you have with Christmas or a birthday."

Good God! You call that a marriage! Hate to tell you, but there are women who had husbands who couldn't/wouldn't have sex. Why in the world anyone would stay in a sexless marriage is beyond me. I say both parties are to blame for not leaving the marriage.

" I know there can be erectile issues. Not every woman wants to deal with that."

Not every women wants to be with a man who uses the little blue pill either. I wouldn't want to be partially responsible for the man having a heart attack/stroke. A friend of mine died a few month ago from using viagra. Married a younger women, and was stupid enough to die trying to have sex.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 10/10/2017 12:46:06 PM


Baron, what is sexually active to a 70+ year old? How many times a week or month? I know there can be erectile issues. Not every woman wants to deal with that.

Well, I’m not Baron, and I’m not 70+ (but getting closer every day!)

To me, sexually active is every other day. Or if you only get together on weekends, then Saturday and Sunday.

YMMV



Not every women wants to be with a man who uses the little blue pill either. I wouldn't want to be partially responsible for the man having a heart attack/stroke. A friend of mine died a few month ago from using viagra. Married a younger women, and was stupid enough to die trying to have sex.

At least you don’t seem to think that the desire comes from the pill. And we have seen, here in these very forums, women who do have that mistaken belief.

And as to :: “stupid enough to die trying to have sex” – more power to him! That is not about dying, that is about trying to live while you are still alive.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/10/2017 1:05:12 PM
"And as to :: “stupid enough to die trying to have sex” – more power to him! That is not about dying, that is about trying to live while you are still alive."

Your opinion. Dying of viagra at age 60 is just stupid imo. Just as stupid as dying from drunk drinking because you want to live it up.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 10/10/2017 6:54:43 PM

I know there can be erectile issues.

Do you know that first-Hand? Right hand or left hand? ;)

I am 73 young and of course I ask if the woman is still sexual active

I don't think that's a first question to ask though, before you meet them. Possibly on even on a 1st date... unless you find an opening for it to smoothly embed into a conversation that is bleeding into that topic (no pun intended). Yeah, you could look at it as wasting your time to wait for the "right time", but it doesn't have to be too long IF you do it smoothly (as opposed to saying "Yeah, yeah, you like going to the salon. Listen babe, are you sexually active or what? I gotta know.").

If you do not want sex to be part of the conversation what the F@&K are you doing in POF.

True. But some want companionship as their main thing. Heck, even some non-older folks, if single too long and don't have active social lifestyles and don't have much of a sex drive do too. But a gal could turn around and say "What the fvck are you asking me that question? I'm on a dating site," as there are still many older women who are into/open to sex. Could be a turn off, that's the point. :)

IMO, you assume she very well may be. You go out on a date -- or the 2nd or 3rd if you seem to hit it off with her -- and within conversation you motion to exchange what each other likes/dislikes when it comes to men/women, about compatibility. You mention one or two things, and you also throw out something like "One of the things that I found that isn't compatible is women who aren't open or very reluctant to sexual relations when we become an item. I respect that given our age, but that's 100% incompatible with me when I'm with a gal."

Dying of viagra at age 60 is just stupid imo. Just as stupid as dying from drunk drinking because you want to live it up.

Actually Viagra was invented to help the heart. It lowers your blood pressure and opens up the valves to allow flow to open up quite well, and in research they found the older men were getting boners in the trial run, they decided to go for Jackpot for insta-hardons. I think guys ODing on it, like anything that affects your blood pressure, or takes medication that already lowers it -- that's his fault. Not just merely taking it.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/10/2017 8:09:43 PM
Thanks for the input, Henry. Every other day sounds a little too ambitious. Found this online. Of course an older guy is gonna say he can still do the deed, but that doesn't mean it's going to come easily, so to speak.

AGE 60-70
This is not a good decade for male sexual function. Your testosterone level has plummeted over the decades, probably accounting for your diminished desire. Erections are still obtainable but often require a good amount of coaxing and coercion. They are less reliable, and at times your penis suffers with attention deficit disorder, unable to focus and losing its mojo prematurely, unable to complete the task at hand. Spontaneous erections, nighttime, and early morning erections become rare occurrences. Climax is, well, not so climactic and explosive ejaculations are a matter of history.

AGE 70-80
You may still have some remaining sexual desire left in you, but it’s a far cry from the fire in your groin you had when you were a younger man. The quality of your erections has noticeably dropped. At times, the best that you can do is to obtain a partially inflated erection that cannot penetrate, despite pushing, shoving and manipulating every which way. Spontaneous erections are all but gone.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 10/10/2017 10:14:41 PM
One of my cousins is a year younger than I am and has been with his wife since he was 16. She got drunk last New Year's Eve at a party and revealed to everyone she and my cousin had not had sex in two years because he no longer has any interest. She said "I have tried everything".

I sat there thinking "have you tried being someone else?"
 gtomustang
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Posted: 10/11/2017 5:55:03 AM
"Hate to tell you, but there are women who had husbands who couldn't/wouldn't have sex. Why in the world anyone would stay in a sexless marriage is beyond me. I say both parties are to blame for not leaving the marriage."

>>knew an attractive woman who married a man who thought sex was for having kids (no kidding, he was a plumber not laying pipe at home). She stayed b/c she had accepted she was a mom rather than a woman, dressing in comfortable loose fitting clothing etc. She was young, and once she had a fellow flirting with her, she realized she was still attractive with her stretch marks etc and eventually left him...and his paycheck :)

"I sat there listening, thinking, "have you tried being someone else?"

>>>its true, both parties are to blame, 90% of the time. Some people will marry a bully, but...why did they?
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 10/11/2017 6:42:02 AM
My thought was that she would literally have to become someone else to get his fire going again, which of course isn't possible. My cousin's wife is actually very good looking, but the problem is, it probably means nothing after you've been banging it for 30 years.
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Posted: 10/11/2017 2:36:00 PM

NewYorker58
Thanks for the input, Henry. Every other day sounds a little too ambitious. Found this online. Of course an older guy is gonna say he can still do the deed, but that doesn't mean it's going to come easily, so to speak.

AGE 60-70
This is not a good decade for male sexual function.

It would help a lot if you gave a reference. I would give a lot more weight to a quote from the Mayo Clinic than to something snipped from the National Enquirer.

Wherever you did find that information, I’m going to have to disagree. It is, at best a generalization.


ThePigOfYourDreams
My thought was that she would literally have to become someone else to get his fire going again, which of course isn't possible. My cousin's wife is actually very good looking, but the problem is, it probably means nothing after you've been banging it for 30 years.

Yes and no. “Very good looking” does matter. It matters a lot. Even if you have been with the same woman for many years, if she has taken the trouble, made the effort to maintain her appearance, then yes, it does matter, quite a bit. The opposite point, and I do agree with you here, being with someone new is going to “light your fire” a lot more than the “same old same old”. Even if the “same old” is quite attractive, something new is going to light your fire much better.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/11/2017 3:58:30 PM
Pig, that was awful that she revealed your cousin's personal issue to everyone. She needed to speak to him and work something out. What she did was beyond disgraceful. Did he find out what she said? I don't know how a person would ever go about forgiving someone for saying that.

Henry, I tried to find the article, but I can't. Here is an excerpt from the Mayo clinic article. One percent a year decline in testosterone would be 40% by age 70:

Aging and men's sexual health

Testosterone plays an important role in a man's sexual experience. Testosterone levels vary greatly among men. In general, however, older men tend to have lower testosterone levels than do younger men. Testosterone levels gradually decline throughout adulthood — about 1 percent each year after age 30 on average.

As a man ages, the penis may take longer to become erect, and erections may not be as firm. It may take longer to achieve full arousal and to have orgasmic and ejaculatory experiences. Erectile dysfunction also becomes more common. Several medications are available to help men achieve or sustain an adequate erection for sexual activity.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 10/11/2017 4:45:53 PM

Pig, that was awful that she revealed your cousin's personal issue to everyone. She needed to speak to him and work something out. What she did was beyond disgraceful. Did he find out what she said? I don't know how a person would ever go about forgiving someone for saying that.


Well, two things - if he weren't such a shithead I might actually feel bad. Secondly, I don't think he cares if anyone knows. He's a crotchety 46 year old going on 80 who has tuned out the entire world. The fact she was at the party alone speaks volumes. I jokingly told his younger brother to make a move on her.

She is actually one of the very few women in this world I respect.
 sun___flower
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Posted: 10/11/2017 4:53:24 PM

Henry, I tried to find the article, but I can't.

http://www.privategym.com/blog/what-to-expect-from-your-penis-as-you-age
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