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 Baron1644
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moraima >>>Read carefully >>>>>>>>>>>> Viagra was created to save lives, get it out of your head that Viagra was the cause of his death,

1989: British Pfizer scientists Peter Dunn and Albert Wood create a drug called sildenafil citrate that they believe will be useful in treating high blood pressure and angina, a chest pain associated with coronary heart disease.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/13/2017 2:43:11 AM
My motto is if you not use it you loose it.
That is why many men looses it for the woman he was married to would not let him use it.
Again I use the word many, of course not all.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 10/13/2017 3:09:41 AM
My motto is - why make 4 posts when you can put it all in one?
 Baron1644
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 spot4username
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Posted: 10/13/2017 6:08:27 AM
^^^^^^
That makes one of you.

In my circle of friends I am the youngest. Every post menopause friend of mine is sexually active. They all think about sex, want sex, have sex. If it is your contention that
For there are 99 other women who are now divorced for not wanting sex after menopause.
Please stop thinking, because you are a unique woman that all other women are the same.
is the norm might I point out that you are the common denominator in your experiences.
 gtomustang
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Posted: 10/13/2017 6:36:43 AM
"I doubt either of them wants the hassle of divorce"

>>>not that its my biz, but I hope every other aspect of the marriage works fine--no complaints about how the other handles finances, etc. Seems like a few couples settle into a roommate situation. if the rest of the marriage was hell, one would wonder why he doesn't just pull the plug, instead of being jealous of others. Some accept the glass, half full, and I think sometimes that's b/c they know if they want to go out and look for a full glass, they better up their act and have something to offer. Don't go for the birds in the bush when you already have one in the hand, and all that.

as for WC positions, yes, there is something unnatural about it, I felt it as a kid so i'd curl up like a question mark. some can replicate it just with a box under their feet. And hopefully that's as much as we'll talk about the subject :) a better subject is menopausal women, and the simple solution as always is...every partner is different, and if one wishes to be remembered fondle-ly, listen to your partner and what they like and learn to give it to them, rather than let your ego use your "patented move" that worked decades ago on prom night.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/13/2017 7:18:11 AM
"For sex in or out of bed to appear to be natural and enjoyable, both parties have to perform."

per·for·mance
p?r'fôrm?ns/Submit
noun
1.
an act of staging or presenting a play, concert, or other form of entertainment.
"Don Giovanni had its first performance in 1787"
synonyms: show, production, showing, presentation, staging; More
2.
the action or process of carrying out or accomplishing an action, task, or function.
"the continual performance of a single task reduces a man to the level of a machine"
synonyms: carrying out, execution, discharge, accomplishment, completion, fulfillment, dispatch, implementation; formaleffectuation
"the continual performance of a single task"

"you are the common denominator in your experiences."

Exactly!
 NewYorker58
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Viagra - sexual or ego enhancer
Posted: 10/13/2017 9:15:02 AM
It's not really a surprise that drug companies are drug pushers. Whether they're street drug pushers, or "legitimate" corporate drug pushers, they're one in the same. Bottom line is sales $$$, not a person's well-being. We've all heard the commercials on tv. Take a pill, feel better, but.......it may kill you.

https://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/news/20000314/viagra-linked-to-522-deaths

Viagra may be mostly for a man and his ego that drug companies are playing on. Savvy men know its not all about a penis when it comes to satisfying a woman, but Viagra ads never mention that most important fact. For men that think their penis is the end all and be all in satisfying sex for a woman, they must have very unhappy sex partners that would rather say, it's me, not you, as a way to cease and desist sex with them.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 10/13/2017 2:40:59 PM

I will quit having sex if I ever have to think of it as being something I must perform. IMO, if is it isn't natural and enjoyable I'll pass.

Well, if you're ever in a position in a relationship where you think of sex as something you have to perform -- then you're likely the cause of the issue at hand (not liking having sex with him). I agree with your second sentence. Goes both ways, though. If he or she is not wanting to "do it", but, sigh, ok-ok-alright -- then that ruins the mood/feelings, unless it's been forever since they had sex, due to the elongated wait.

"For sex in or out of bed to appear to be natural and enjoyable, both parties have to perform *[as if it's natural and enjoyable]."

 moraima
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Posted: 10/13/2017 3:16:51 PM
"Goes both ways, though. If he or she is not wanting to "do it", but, sigh, ok-ok-alright -- then that ruins the mood/feelings, unless it's been forever since they had sex, due to the elongated wait."

Reminds me of a guy who invited me for dinner, who I agreed to meet at a local restaurant. (We lived in a small town where everyone know almost everyone so he knew where I lived.) About an hour before date time, he shows up at my house. I offered him a drink while he waited for me to get ready. If I got within a foot of him he tried to grab my breast. I said WTF do you think you are doing? He replied that his ex wife would say no to him grabbing her sexually until he had done it enough so that she gave in to him and had sex. Sorry folks It isn't the job of people who have had normal sex lives to fix you nutters who have lived in nonfunctioning unsuccessful sexual relationships. Men and women can blame the opposite sex as much as they want. Reality is that people with messed up sex lives need therapy after their partner has refuse to engage in a sexual relationship with them for years. Just finding another partner who likes sex isn't the quick fix they are expecting. They need (if possible) to learn to be sexual beings again.

Shades of Harvey Weinstein come to mind. He obviously doesn't have a clue how to appeal to the opposite sex.

"both parties have to perform *[as if it's natural and enjoyable].""

The as if is very telling.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/13/2017 5:05:59 PM
You left one word from your search, you should of added Sexual before you typed in the word performance.
Here is the answer you are looking for >>>
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110218063548AA8ZjhF
http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Sexual+Performance+Score
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/263917958_Meaning_of_Sexual_Performance_Among_Men_With_and_Without_Erectile_Dysfunction
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 10/13/2017 5:09:50 PM
Holy shit. We've got the senior citizen Battle Royale going on here.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/13/2017 5:43:54 PM
"https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110218063548AA8ZjhF"

What does sexual performance mean?
i hear this term but im not sure exactly what people mean. Is it the time a guy can last before he cums or what?
Update: hmm two different answers already! so looks like others dont know either!
if its how good a guy is in bed, surely that is objective? Some girls like different things that a guy might not do with one but another likes?
Update 2: LOL! this IS amusing! seems no one really knows what the term means! Or at least it seems to mean different things to different people.

"/medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Sexual+Performance+Score"

Sexual Performance Score
A measure that evaluates components of sexual activity—e.g., erection, orgasm, enjoyment, interactions with partner, spontaneity, satisfactory duration, intercourse, ejaculation, masturbation

etc.

WTF?

This is not sex education class. It is supposed to be around loving human relationships.

Baron don't you understand how remove you are from what goes on in a loving relationship.

You are proving sexual relations to you have nothing to do with being in a marriage and/or a loving relationship.

At the minimum, what comes to mind is total selfish sex as being your goal.

You seem to figure a women is just s sperm vessel. No wonder you are having problems with the women you are married to wanting to have sex with you.

Women are not prepared to be punished for your the bad sex in your marriage. Attitude adjustment is your friend.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 6:29:36 AM
[You are proving sexual relations to you have nothing to do with being in a marriage and/or a loving relationship.]
Of course not, Sex in the last 60 odd years has all to do with. Man give love to get SEX. Women give sex to get love, it is a vicious circle.

[At the minimum, what comes to mind is total selfish sex as being your goal.] <<<< Sex is a total act of selfishness.

[You seem to figure a women is just s sperm vessel. No wonder you are having problems with the women you are married to wanting to have sex with you.] You know nothing about me, how dare you make personal comments about my sex life and draw a conclusion of how I think or act.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/14/2017 7:12:52 AM
"Man give love to get SEX. Women give sex to get love, it is a vicious circle. "

May be true of your relationships. For the majority of us, both men and women love to love, and have a real intimate sexual relationship.
Sorry you have never been able to enjoy this type of relationship.

" Sex is a total act of selfishness"

So sad that you believe this. Most of the rest of us love to give/share in intimate sexual relationship(s).

" how dare you make personal comments about my sex life and draw a conclusion of how I think or act."

You write about your sex life and tell us how you think and act. If you don't want people to know what you are like, don't tell them.
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Posted: 10/14/2017 9:34:24 AM

NewYorker58
Savvy men know its not all about a penis when it comes to satisfying a woman, but Viagra ads never mention that most important fact. For men that think their penis is the end all and be all in satisfying sex for a woman, they must have very unhappy sex partners that would rather say, it's me, not you, as a way to cease and desist sex with them


http://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289



About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone -- that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue.

Knowing this, and having known it for a very long time, I am always ready to provide whatever extra help might be required. But (you knew there was a “but”, right?)

Over the course of my long life, I have had many conversations with many women on this subject. These conversations have led me to believe that most women do want a man who can “perform”, and by perform they mean achieve an erection and maintain that erection. This may or may not be a matter of brain washing, but women tend to believe (just as men do) that the ability to penetrate, to carry out normal intercourse, is a part of being a man.

I’m not saying that women believe it as strongly as men do, or in as high a percentage, but it IS out there. And I know full well that women can be much more accepting of our weaknesses than we are of theirs (just another reason why I like women).

And by the way, the proper quote is


Men give relationships to get sex. Women give sex to get relationships.”

If you’re going to run around saying these things, please try to get it right.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 8:04:20 PM
moraima Please note, no where have I used your name or the word you in a derogatory way.

When I make a remark I do a search first and see what many men and women want in their sex lives.

By time you get to 73 and have had many women and you get to read, listen, understand women much better than when you were 21.

I presume you do have a computer!
Please use your computer before you start to assume that it is my sex life, I am referring.
It is a very old saying. since Adam met Eve. Or maybe it was since Sampson met Delilah.
MEN ONLY GIVE LOVE TO GET SEX AND WOMEN ONLY GIVE SEX TO GET LOVE?

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Read and you shall learn >> https://www.google.com.au/search?
q=Women+give+sex+to+get+love&rlz=1C1PRFI_enAU736AU737&oq=Women+give+sex+to+get+love&aqs=chrome..69i57.9612j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8


Sex is a total act of selfishness"

So sad that you believe this. Most of the rest of us love to give/share in intimate sexual relationship(s).


The following is the selfish man >>>
I can guarantee you that many women are aware of this >>> After the has finished and reach an orgasm, he rolls over and goes to sleep, unconcerned about whether you finished or not. Or worse: he sends you packing and on your way.

Or He prefers sexual positions where he doesn't have to do any work, most commonly you on top of him. If he is really selfish, he will pull out just before he comes and point his penis toward your face, or put it in your mouth and make you swallow.

Many men will be aware of the selfish woman.
Now for the selfish woman.
Did you ever find yourself getting mad at your female partner for not initiating sex when you wanted it? This is a prime example of a selfish act that can have complicated roots. Heterosexual women are typically socialized to take a backseat when it comes to sex. Many women sit back, waiting for their partners to initiate sex.

Let’s be honest —How often does this ever happened to you >>> Women sometimes just lay back and letting your partner do everything can sometimes be really enjoyable. But making your partner take the reigns all the time is selfish (unless you have an established agreement in place, of course!).

What can be more selfish than >>> one way oral sex >>> The main selfish way this one happening is with oral sex. Do you expect your male partner to perform oral sex, but you refuse to return the favor? Receiving but not giving is a classic example of selfishness. Everyone gets to decide their own boundaries when it comes to sex and intimacy, but it’s not fair to expect something you’re not willing to give in return.
 Kj521
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Posted: 10/14/2017 8:19:53 PM
"MEN ONLY GIVE LOVE TO GET SEX AND WOMEN ONLY GIVE SEX TO GET LOVE? "


Yeah. I would take the word "only" out of that statement. Unless your "Google research".....has somehow managed to survey every single human being that has ever existed.

Overgeneralizing and oversimplifying human behavior does such a disservice to our individual uniqueness. :)
 moraima
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Posted: 10/14/2017 8:28:01 PM
"By time you get to 73 and have had many women and you get to read, listen, understand women much better than when you were 21."

Seriously pumpkin?

You understand women the least of most of the men I have met in my life.

I am only a few years younger than you. Fortunately, I have lived a kinder, gentler less selfish life than you claim to have lived.
I don't have to put up nasty bites of nonsense on websites to prove to myself how bad women/men are. I am not mad at the opposite sex. I am quite satisfied with the relationships I have had. The only people I dislike (male and female) are a*sholes. You obviously feel cheated of a satisfactory sex life now that you are looking back over your life. I wish there was an easy answer to fix your frustration with how you have lived your life. Sorry but we are all responsible for the life we have lived. No one had control of our lives except ourselves.

You seem unwilling/unable to see the majority of the opposite sex as enjoying sex just as much as men do. Your loss.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 8:31:23 PM
When I did a search in google https://www.google.com.au/search?rlz=1C1PRFI_enAU736AU737&biw=911&bih=441&q=++Men+give+relationships+to+get+sex.+Women+give+sex+to+get+relationships.%E2%80%9D&oq=++Men+give+relationships+to+get+sex.+Women+give+sex+to+get+relationships.%E2%80%9D&gs_l=psy-ab.12...50996.52308.0.54903.29.7.0.0.0.0.313.704.0j2j0j1.3.0....0...1.1.64.psy-ab..28.0.0....0.6tP4vH3-ZF4

I get this as number 1 on the list. Search Results
[PDF]if Men Give Love to Get Sex - CBE International
https://www.cbeinternational.org/sites/default/files/if_murray_1.pdf
and marriage advice: “Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex.” ... relationship with my wife. ... marketplace for genuine, fulfilling relationships.

I’ve always wanted to get it right the first time. I don’t like to make mistakes.
I don’t like to learn from experience; I’d rather learn from books.
So when I was getting ready to propose to the girl who would become my wife.
I read everything I could about how to have a good marriage.
One phrase emerged as a consistent theme,
a thread of folk wisdom running across a spectrum of dating and marriage advice:
“Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex.”
It seemed reasonable enough.
And it fit neatly with the gender stereotypes,
I’d heard all my life: Men think about sex every seven seconds. Women aren’t visual.
Men are like microwaves; women are like crockpots.
But, as a newly married man, I soon discovered that these ideas were both inaccurate and damaging in our relationship.

By no means: I am saying you are wrong, I have never heard the saying >>> Men give relationships to get sex.
Women give sex to get relationships.”
I went ahead and used my trusted google search and found this only, in the search bar I typed in " Men give relationships to get sex. Women give sex to get relationships.”>>> and I got this >>> “Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex.” .
Mea culpa I am willing to accept that your quote is right,and my quote is wrong.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/14/2017 9:33:21 PM
"I don’t like to learn from experience; I’d rather learn from books.
So when I was getting ready to propose to the girl who would become my wife.
I read everything I could about how to have a good marriage.
One phrase emerged as a consistent theme,
a thread of folk wisdom running across a spectrum of dating and marriage advice:
“Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex.”
It seemed reasonable enough.
And it fit neatly with the gender stereotypes,
I’d heard all my life: Men think about sex every seven seconds. Women aren’t visual.
Men are like microwaves; women are like crockpots.
But, as a newly married man, I soon discovered that these ideas were both inaccurate and damaging in our relationship. "

J E S U S !

You have my sympathy.
(I hope you are posting tongue in cheek.)

Me thinks one of the scariest myths is " Women aren’t visual. "

My father was a weightlifter. Many men in my life have been weightlifters/athletic people. If you think that I don't appreciate a well defined muscular male (sans body hair), you are missing one of the biggest turn ons in my life.

"Men are like microwaves; women are like crockpots."

Polese = please = you sound like a robot. People are not machines. Non f*cked up people are passionate. Hello, both men and women are passionate.

Seriously Baron, if what you post is the truth, you have missed out on so much. 73 ? I hope you can enjoy soon what most people enjoy naturally.


ps Burn those f*ng books and forget those website links. Go naturally passionate while you still can.

Someone save this guy from him self!
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 9:46:28 PM

You understand women the least of most of the men I have met in my life.

Here you go again spruiken what you know nothing of me.

Here you go again using me in your derogatory manner in your narcissistic way to satisfy your self that you are right and everyone else is wrong.


I am only a few years younger than you. Fortunately, I have lived a kinder, gentler less selfish life than you claim to have lived.
I don't have to put up nasty bites of nonsense on websites to prove to myself how bad women/men are. I am not mad at the opposite sex. I am quite satisfied with the relationships I have had. The only people I dislike (male and female) are a*sholes



I am only a few years younger than you.
When you were playing games with the boy next door, >> I show you mine if you show me yours, I was already using hers. ( ****) for my satisfaction. Do not misunderstand me! For the facts of life is a 15 years old boy could not care less if the girl enjoyed it or not. Hence the comment is the boy gives love to get as many F#@ks as possible and the girl gives F$@ks to get more love.

Here you go again using me in your derogatory manner in your narcissistic way to satisfy your self that you are right and everyone else is wrong.
Your misandrous character is showing.

Here you go again with your misandrous reply >>>
You obviously feel cheated of a satisfactory sex life now that you are looking back over your life. I wish there was an easy answer to fix your frustration with how you have lived your life. Sorry but we are all responsible for the life we have lived. No one had control of our lives except ourselves.


You know nothing about my sex life, refrain from using me for you dislike (hate) towards men.


You seem unwilling/unable to see the majority of the opposite sex as enjoying sex just as much as men do.


Of course I see many women enjoying sex, a few to the extend where many men who have sex with these women will mention that they are nymphos.

I will never use such word as a nympho for a woman, in my opinion these women are enjoying their life and their sex life, and you can meet them in nomads caravan parks and in many of the clubs (RSL) and casinos in Australia spending their children inheritance and are always on the lookout for a F#@K.
For those who do not live in Australia an RSL club is >> The Club with cheap meals, alcohol, beer and one armed bandits ( pokies machines) and lots of widows and divorcees, looking for a one night stand. RSL does no longer focuses on the war.

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/getting-on-and-still-getting-it-on-a-guide-to-older-singles-dating-and-sex-20150609-ghjn9k.html <<< I am so happy to be living in Australia.

The stats

915,000 unattached women aged 55-74
528,000 unattached men in the same age group
The older I become the luckier I am.
The older I become the more women are available for me.
103 men for every 100 women currently this means there are 3 more women available for me.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 9:54:38 PM

"MEN ONLY GIVE LOVE TO GET SEX AND WOMEN ONLY GIVE SEX TO GET LOVE? "
Yeah. I would take the word "only" out of that statement. Unless your "Google research"


I agree with you it should read Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.
Leave the word ONLY out of the quotation.
 moraima
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Posted: 10/14/2017 10:08:00 PM
Baron. Congratulations! You are the craziest man I have ever seen posting on POF.

"Of course I see many women enjoying sex, a few to the extend where many men who have sex with these women will mention that they are nymphos."

Baron, you have lost the plot.

Normally I would say enjoy, but I know you don't/won't.

Hope you survive the divorce, learn and move forward. (But you won't.)

God bless Mrs. Baron. Ms. Baron, You might want to copy this to divorce court. Hand down your would get the lot.

Sorry, but this is becoming too amusing.
 Baron1644
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Posted: 10/14/2017 11:37:46 PM

God bless Mrs. Baron. Ms. Baron, You might want to copy this to divorce court. Hand down your would get the lot.

Hence I use the word separated and not divorced or single.
There is no Miss, or Ms or Mrs, Baron in my life. By the way there is also no God.
There is only one of me and so many of you, for me to ever have any Misses MSsss or Mrssss.
I was placed here on earth to see how many women who were or are willing to give sex for exchange of love.
There are 196 countries in the world today. So far I have been able to exchange love for sex many women from more than 100 countries
Of course some countries more women and some countries less women, so far women coming from Canada the total is 4 women who were willing to exchange love for sex.
Your "misandristic" hem is showing. Stop hating men.
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