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 VeganCat
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 49
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You really want to brush stroke everyone like that? Wow, you're even more cynical than I am; and that's incredibly sad.


Look who's calling the kettle black. lol

Assumptions are made but I talk from experience. I maybe cynical but it is based on, again, on experience. I ALWAYS give a person a benefit of the doubt, but I've been let down time and time again; its just the way it has been going.

I don't disagree that there are great people out there, ones that don't lie and I am certainly not painting everyone with the same brush as I've been accused of, yet you make assumptions, hence my statement "Look who's calling the kettle black".

Really good people are few and far between.

Life makes you less gullable.



Why is your opinion in this situation as such? Why do you believe that people are liars, and to what capacity?


Life.

As far as to 'what capacity' .... lol .... to the capacity of what is ever presented to me.
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 50
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Posted: 3/4/2010 10:58:42 AM
Are you saying then, espavo, that everything in your profile is a lie?

You call it life experience, I call it cynicism. You know, if you look for the bad in people you will surely find it. Call me naive, but personally, I'd rather look for the good.
 VeganCat
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 3/4/2010 1:25:25 PM
I don't know kitten, maybe everything in my profile is a lie...then again, maybe it isn't. How would you know? How would I know if everything you say in your profile is true or not? Proof is in the pudding...isn't it?

LOL!!!! How does a person get cynical? By living a few years on this planet. Thats called life experience. You go from not knowing about life and people to having some life experiences that would rattle your very core. It will change you from being trusting and gullable to cynical and cautious. Meet a few real evil people on this planet and your outlook becomes changed.... forever. Do I really have to explain it? LOL!!!!!

Did I say I was looking for bad? No........ I can spot it much easier than I did when I was in my 20's and 30's. Yes, naivety seems to be true about you; I don't mean that in a derogatory way. Some days I wish I was that innocent naive girl of my 20's and 30's...but I'm not anymore; just more wiser. Maybe that is what I am, not so much a cynic, just wiser. I always look for the good but you know, you can't be blind to the bad. It can bite you real hard.

A person can be a wise and a positive person at the same time.

Frankly, I find much of the comments very funny and defensive when it need not be. Its just my opinion, if you don't like it, thats OK. Im not going to rain on your parade because you take exception. I'll save arguments for something more worthy to argue about.
 white_flag
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 52
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Posted: 3/4/2010 1:51:18 PM
I feel sorry for you, Espavo. I feel sorry that life has handed you such a bad hand that you are forced to be on the look out for the bad eggs. It must be very exhausting to do so. I won't waste any more time on this because clearly, your mind has been made up as to the reasons behind many things, whether your logic is sound or not, and I have no desire to argue with someone who believes that no matter what, they are right and have earned that 'rightness' by being older.

Best wishes.
 Gourmand123
Joined: 10/20/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:15:42 PM

I think you speak for many of us.

Please don't speak for me. Yes, I know you aren't BE, but it sounds like
it. My silence then can be taken for my agreement with anyone's statement, and I would rather that was not the case. After all, we All only have one opinion...unless there are multiple personalities involved
And to be fair, you are not the only one who has made this suggestion to someone in a thread, so this is not just directed at you personally.
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:20:03 PM
Espavo, you are assuming an awful lot about people. Just because I'm younger than you doesn't mean I haven't experienced many bad things in life. I have, I just choose to look for the positive. It's not a matter of being gullible or necessarily even naive, it's a matter of choosing not to let the bad things run your life. It's a matter of choosing not to see oneself as a victim and instead as a survivor. Yep, bad things happen to good people. However, I learn from the bad things and let them go so I can go on with my life.

Of course some people are going to be more cautious if they've been burned. But just because one person does something doesn't mean all do. Painting all people as inherently bad is quite prejudiced. Look up the word: It means PRE-judging. I don't judge a person's character until I know the person and only then, base my view of them on their actions. If you choose to be so negative in your viewpoints, that's your choice, but I feel very sorry for you.
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 55
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Posted: 3/5/2010 8:44:19 AM
You don't have to be naive to look for and expect good things to happen - just optimistic. I believe that people usually get what they expect and what they are looking for - so why not look for the good - the worst thing that can happen is people will think you are naive. Smile and the whole world wonders what you are up to!!

As for Mounties being caught abusing the priviledges of thier position I think they should be held accountable just like the rest us.
 ritawayward
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 3/5/2010 10:11:03 AM

That is a lot of weight to carry Espavo. I have met a lot of ‘evil’ people as well as evil police officers with wrongful intentions – I don’t give myself permission to condemn all human beings based on my age and wisdom.


Ditto! To literally every word of that and well put, RWW!
 rockondon
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 3/5/2010 11:43:04 AM

Ummm, do you believe every ad on a website for some form or other for a relationship is really that persons truth? He 'may' have said he's looking for LT but, even with my slip of the 'pen' believe he was looking for sex. Thats my truth of the matter. I don't believe he was looking for LT at all.

Your profile also says that you are looking for long term.
But apparently, the truth of the matter is that you are not looking for LT at all, you are merely looking for sex.

Don't bother denying it because if you do, I'll just make irrelevant comments about my age, how 'other' people are gullible, how I've been around the block, and so on. Then I'll demand that you prove me wrong and since that's impossible, I win.

Love your aguing tactic btw. Hope you didn't mind that I took it out for a spin.

I ALWAYS give a person a benefit of the doubt, but I've been let down time and time again; its just the way it has been going.
This is laughable after you immediately assumed the worst about someone you've never met.
Presenting opinion as fact is foolish, but trying to justify it by saying how old you are is even more so.
 gitty--UP
Joined: 1/9/2010
Msg: 58
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Posted: 3/5/2010 12:16:19 PM
If this mounty was promoting the RCMP by simply wearing his uniform in a public domain not sanctioned by the mounties, then yes he should be fired right away, stripped of his retirement and any bonuses. That unlikely to happen, it is normal for them to hold a hearing years down the line, while these punks get paid leave, then the punk delays it as long as possible. Its the RED CODE, for rc's sticking together.

Fire him
Dont pay him
Say bye bye to any cushy government job in the future, or any company that gets government bids.

This punk should have known better. Let him hang out to dry.
 rockondon
Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 3/5/2010 2:31:09 PM
OMG a mountie wanted a relationship just like everyone else - that's MADNESS! And that's just the first step - next thing you know there'll be things like cats and dogs living under the same roof and the world will be in chaos.

Seriously, so what if the guy took a pic of himself in uniform and made a profile. I see profiles filled with people using their occupations and possessions to sell themselves to others and nobody says anything about them. I don't see why this guy is the exception.
 Mountain Lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 3/5/2010 3:56:29 PM
Oh my people????????????

A Mountie looking for some action...if it is a real person (Mountie)

everybody pooh-pooh on the poor thing....


Seems Y'All have forgotten the four Mounties who in plain view and in front of a video camera jumped on and in cold blood murdered the exhausted and disorientated but otherwise harmless Polish immigrant at YVR

I don't think any of them has been discharged, convicted and sentenced for murder

but I hear they are now suing the province for the embarrassment and slander they suffered
 VeganCat
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 61
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Posted: 3/5/2010 5:23:12 PM
LOL!!!!!! Sanctimonious tripe is so funny from people that call the kettle black. I guess people are that gullible and are proud of it.

Do you really think I'm going to buy into the condescending drival you spout? LOL!!!!!!! You really crack me up!!!!!!!
 Mountain Lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 3/5/2010 7:58:56 PM

Do you really think I'm going to buy into the condescending drival you spout? LOL!!!!!!!



You really do believe the world turns around you, don't you?

The way S/B phrased herself I take it that is a very general written opinion based on a personal experience.
Nothing there to justify your thinly veiled attempt to sarcasm, your words aren't even funny, they reek of narcissism if anything.
 Daisey Duke ..
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 3/5/2010 9:21:02 PM
isnt this thread suppost to be about what an RCMP member may or may not have done ?

lady youve twised and turned it into a pissing match !

this is why i dont post much any more .... but i do enjoy reading what uneducated , self centered ppl have to say , makes for a good laugh

now back to our reg program
 Gourmand123
Joined: 10/20/2009
Msg: 64
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Posted: 3/6/2010 3:10:59 PM
Seems fairly simple...don't do it on company time, and don't wear your dress clothes while doing it :) Some jobs require more discretion than others, and your employer is well within their rights to insist that you adhere to those rules....don't like it....shouldn't have signed the paperwork.

However, there are a number of emergency response people on this site. I have seen pictures with uniforms and firetrucks etc..... said professionals do have those lovely calendars as well

The article suggests that the last police person reprimanded was engaging in social site acitivity during work hours. How much this reprimand had to do with Transgender bias is not possible to tell, as not posting in the red serge seems a valid request.

What exactly is the discussion? He made an error in judgement, he has been reprimanded. That was two years ago.....

Perhaps someone thinks the RCMP were not sufficiently punitive in their reaction??
I think it was all handled appropriately as far as we can see ....sitting on the outside.

The taZer story ...... yes, what they sometimes do in public, on duty is cause for far greater concern. Yes, I know there are probably many amazing police, fire and ambulance....unfortunately, we don't reward with media attention all the good that is done in society.
 Wind Doe
Joined: 8/29/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 3/6/2010 4:27:02 PM
To heck with the uniform! Personally I prefer a man in leathers and on a harley...
 freedomagn
Joined: 2/17/2009
Msg: 66
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Posted: 3/6/2010 5:05:42 PM
^^^^ There is the ticket! Everybody on site strip and pose naked! Who would actually do this? Not many I think. To many self image problems!

None the less he's looking to meet and it's all good as far as I am concerned.

As for the pros what are they supposed to wear they are in uniform! lol
 mis~fit
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 67
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Posted: 3/8/2010 3:29:31 AM
The point being?
There is a police officer who is lonely and is looking for a mate?! GASP!
Totally shocking....how dare he be human!
OMG there are thousands of lonely people on this site alone whoa re looking for a mate...any of you expect to be reprimanded at work because of your decision to find a mate/lover on a web site?

^^ not just any mate. and yes, the text of the officer's ad can still be
'shocking' to many.
not only is (presenting himself in uniform) in question,
there is also associating his professional image with
admission of what may be called an adverse sexuality.
there are many people who favour a more moral and upright public figure to
serve and protect us.

This officer has received his informal discipline from within the force.
Discipline for his personal lifechoices may well yet be forthcoming.
 VeganCat
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 68
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Posted: 3/13/2010 8:34:16 AM

You really do believe the world turns around you, don't you?

The way S/B phrased herself I take it that is a very general written opinion based on a personal experience.
Nothing there to justify your thinly veiled attempt to sarcasm, your words aren't even funny, they reek of narcissism if anything


Here's another calling the kettle black. "Nothing there to justify your thinly veiled attempt at sarcasm" Yep, you too buddy!!!!

Give it a rest. The attempts at charming me are failing miserably. LMAO!!!!
 white_flag
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 3/13/2010 1:04:43 PM

there are many people who favour a more moral and upright public figure to
serve and protect us.


I don't really see how this man is "immoral" or not "upright" aside from he made the unwise decision of having a photo with him in uniform on his profile. But then again, morals are purely subjective.
 zyx33
Joined: 12/23/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 3/14/2010 12:56:23 PM
The papers should look at themselves for destroying the personal lives of people who are being honest. If it was something of danger or hurtful to others I can understand. Personal and professional issues are 2 different things.
 gitty--UP
Joined: 1/9/2010
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Posted: 3/14/2010 2:34:55 PM
Its all about making cash for newspapers.

News reports are a one-sided view.

They are the same thing, not different.

You cannot become a lawyer, get busted and keep your license.
You cannot become a nurse, steal and keep your job.
You cannot be a truck driver, get a DUI and still drive.
Doctor, fraud keep practicing.



You can be a politician, do what you want, when you want and get off. Just open your mouth and close yor eyes judge and take it the way I give it to you.

This mounty should be followed by csis.
 soicat
Joined: 3/3/2010
Msg: 72
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Posted: 3/14/2010 11:47:35 PM
Anybody - not just police officers - caught using an online dating service should be immediately fired from whatever job they have.

Seriously, what did he do that was wrong? He wore his uniform? What if he was a fireman, or cowboy? He's supposed to be proud of his uniform, the red serge, although admittedly these days that's getting harder.
 MsFreedomFinderrr
Joined: 1/11/2010
Msg: 73
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Posted: 3/15/2010 12:08:43 AM
I agree with other posts in having the people's uniforms out of internet dating sites. It is inappropriate and could become a security or safety issue. Otherwise, it is all right for them to be on a dating site.
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