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 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 11
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to cheat is not the act of merely....doing the deed. cheating encompasses that which is of a divided heart and attentions........there that is my zen moment of the day.
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 12
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/21/2008 8:31:41 AM
js104 sounds like you have had experiance with this....hmm
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 14
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:36:23 AM
anything your ashamed to do in front of your partner is cheating.
 heaight
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 4/21/2008 11:16:47 AM
of course its cheating, unless ur partner excepts u doing that
 rentahusband
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/21/2008 12:26:56 PM
Austin: something that you are missing in your analysis is the fact that porn is a fantasy, and cyber is reality.

If you talk to any therapist or shrink they will tell you that fantasy is a perfectly normal activity even when you're in a relationship. To think that one must only and ever think of their partner and their partner alone is ludicrous.

So I guess you also feel that looking at models on billboards, magazines, watching movie stars in mainstream movies is wrong too?
 Mikeyz6
Joined: 10/31/2007
Msg: 18
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:15:03 PM
i think cybersex would only be cheating... to your other online bf/gf.. cmon now this is retarted
 nameunknown
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 19
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:35:11 PM
Yes because physically or not your intent is to share an intimate moment with someone that is not your partner and without their knowledge. A good rule of thumb is if you're doing something you feel you have to keep a secret from your partner means that you are doing something wrong.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 4/22/2008 1:25:33 AM
Dr. Joy Brown says no. Her opinion is it isn't cheating if bodily fluids aren't exchanged.

I tend to agree.

As far as someone you're seeing or even married to knowing everying you do in private or it's cheating? May there never be a day in my life when I owe sharing every moment of solitude with another.
 rentahusband
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 4/22/2008 5:54:36 AM

.. cmon now this is retarted


What's retarded is your spelling lol dude, it is R E T A R D E D

or are you trying to say this thread needs some more tarts? (not a bad thing, I like pecan tarts myself)
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/22/2008 6:00:10 AM

cmon now this is retarted


OMG! One of my kids spelled it that way and it's a running joke in the house now! lol
 nameunknown
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 23
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/22/2008 9:25:10 AM
It's not cheating unless body fluids are exchanged? does that mean that if you're sitting across the room from someone talking dirty, being intimate and touching yourself that doesn't count either? To me it sure would!
 wbishop
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/22/2008 12:19:13 PM
my feelings on this are that anything, sexually or emotionally, that you would not be happy to tell your partner about is cheating
 rentahusband
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:10:21 PM
I have to say: who the heck is Dr Joy Brown anyways?

Seriously, that name sounds like a fetish queen to me.....

Ok, from now on y'all can call me Dr Heywood Jablomy.....lol...
 SandyB1957
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 26
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 4/22/2008 7:13:52 PM
I guess it depends on what you and your partner have agreed on. I just dont understand the whole process myself. But hey if your single not in any type of a relationship and it make ya happy go for....Heck go find a FWB and both of you do it together would make it alot more fun........Maybe i could unserstand it all But I dont.........lol
 floridianfun
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:00:00 PM
Good rule of thumb, if you are saying or doing something with someone that you wouldn't say or do infront of your significant other, then I would have to say its cheating.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 28
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/20/2009 11:34:10 PM
Cyber sex is kind of like a Choose Your Own Adventure book. I don't see it as cheating, but then again I don't see porn as cheating, or masturbation as cheating either. Whereas some people do., so if your SO views it as cheating, and has already told you that, then yeah, you are cheating.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 29
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 1:03:19 AM
Since you are paying for the pornstars, I don't think they would give a rats arse if you did cheat on them.
 djrdx
Joined: 7/22/2004
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/21/2009 9:14:00 AM
actus non facit reum nisi mens sit rea

The act is not guilty unless the mind is also guilty

I guess it depends on personal thoughts then as to whether its cheating or not, everyone has different views on the subject.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 32
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 1:46:41 PM
I would be totally offended, if the man that I gave my heart to was off banging himself in another room with someone on the other end of a computer. I'd kick his ass so fast out the door...definately NOT for me.

Sex is the greatest feeling in the world. If I want to partake by myselff, so be it. However, if there is someone watching me (that is not my SO), or me watching someone else (that is not my SO)...live in the moment. That is cheating.

I don't condone cheating.
 lonelyman154
Joined: 12/30/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/21/2009 2:09:15 PM
I would call it cheating. What I don't understand is why someone would want to talk nasty and kinky to someone on the computer when you would have someone in the other room to make love too and get NASTY with???? I'm I missing something here???
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 34
Cheating for sure
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:15:42 PM
Right on Bazley!
 gigglebox08
Joined: 7/4/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/21/2009 10:30:03 PM
I personally think that cyber sex is cheating. And I also take issue with porn after a relationship gets serious. I mean if I'm the one he wants-I'm the one he should fantasize about. And if he doesn't want me then the relationship can't continue when it comes to sex.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 37
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/22/2009 4:44:31 AM
That's where I have to differ. I seem to notice that many women have a problem with their guy (regardless if they have only known him 1 or 30 years) reading or enjoying porn. They think of it as cheating because he is not thinking of them at every single moment of his life. OMG if a guy thought of me every waking moment, I would have to shoot him! A guy has to have a hole he can crawl in, and enjoy himself, too. As a woman, we have many things we can do to stimlate ourselves, and I know MANY women who fantasize of other men while with their SO, and it only seems to make the love life much more satisfying.

JIMHO I do not care if a guy is wanking off to Tila Tequila, although I rather it be to Nicolette Sheridan or Vannessa Williams. As long as he remembers which bed he shares, and practices what he has learned with me. LMAO
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 38
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/22/2009 6:15:54 AM
Wikipedia definition of Cybersex:

Cybersex, computer sex, internet sex or net sex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via a computer network send one another sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience. It is a form of role-playing in which the participants pretend they are having actual sexual relations. In one iteration, this fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. Cybersex may also be accomplished through the use of avatars in a multiuser software environment.

Cybersex sometimes includes real life masturbation. The quality of a cybersex encounter typically depends upon the participants' abilities to evoke a vivid, visceral mental picture in the minds of their partners. Imagination and suspension of disbelief are also critically important. Cybersex can occur either within the context of existing or intimate relationships, e.g. among lovers who are geographically separated, or among individuals who have no prior knowledge of one another and meet in virtual spaces or cyberspaces and may even remain anonymous to one another. In some contexts cybersex is enhanced by the use of webcams to transmit real-time video of the partners.

Therefore, I understand it NOT to be porn (which has been created and is now in the past tense). Cybersex is LIVE, happening NOW. (<===THAT IS THE KEY WORD HERE, LIVE). So you are in your living room watching TV, and your SO is in the bedroom, signed on with SOMEONE ELSE, focusing on SOMEONE ELSE. To me that is CHEATING! Makes no difference if there is a physical being in the bedroom with him or not, he is still engaging with another woman, and it is not me.

A relationship is not just physical, it is emotional, and if my SO is not willing to be there for me emotionally...."there's the door, don't slam you ass on the way out!"
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 39
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/22/2009 8:11:38 AM
Cybersex can be live. Phone sex can be live, real sex can be live. The truth is that unless there is PHYSICAL PENETRATION, there has been no sex at all. You can touch yourself until your blue inthe face, but no penetration means no sex has been involved. Now if you find that your SO has text messages from another person of a sexual nature, you can bet it will probably go to cheating (someone is going to have sex), but the typical person getting off on cyber sex already is expressing sexual issues anyway. If is bothers some, leave. Why bother questioning it, you already know the answer.
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