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 esteban91075
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 25
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I did notice something that seems to allude to my preference when it comes to dating single mothers. I've found that its typically a lot easier dating a single mother if they have a good relationship with ex husband/boyfriend and if they have a good support system. Without those things in place it seems very difficult for them to break away.
With those things you have a better opportunity to share time alone on a consistent basis.

For an unattached single guy like myself, its easier to deal with woman that have less time constraints be it kids or other commitments.
 Fried Chicken
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 26
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:15:16 AM

Single mothers taking care of their children, especially those doing it full time while holding a job or (gasp!!) tryong to also get back to school are horrible and should be avoided at all costs by every single man.

Oh they're not horrible, just not worth the time. They make great friends though, but as a dating partner? No. They just don't have time to take off on random adventures.
 Fried Chicken
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 27
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:56:20 AM
Single moms aren't bad people. Just that some of us guys really don't want to have to deal with the extra baggage they refer to lovingly as 'kids.'
 esteban91075
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 28
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 8/9/2008 3:02:28 AM
Ok, my experience having dated and married a single mother is this. If your a single unattached guy you better be very giving because this relationship requires a lot of sacrafice. Make sure she's worth it. Especially if she doesn't have a support system in place. No friends, family, or supportive kids dad = no alone time or fun trips.

Its not worth it for me. No more single moms until there are no unattached women left.
 Fried Chicken
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 29
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:15:44 AM

Exactly, being a mother is YOUR situation. Just because a young-childless man doesn't want to be involved in your SITUATION, doesn't make him an idiot ,moron nor makes him close minded.
We can smell the anger and desperation from your posts. You have to realize that NOT everybody thinks or feels the same way you do.

Perfectly said!
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 30
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:45:29 AM
I think that closing yourself off to anything like "has children" is shallow and foolish. It's not like every woman (or man) with children is the same. Find the person that makes you feel special and fortunate to have them in your life. Accept the other factors in their life (like children or the lack of children) as a part of who they are.
 the_write_stuff
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 31
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 9/16/2008 9:11:46 PM
A few years ago I would have preferred dating a woman without children in hopes of the two of us having our own together. However, given the fact that I'm now nearly 40, have diabetes and have never fathered a child, I think the chances of that are pretty remote or at least far less likely. So, in light of that, and seeing as how I love kids, I have absolutely no qualms about dating a woman with children.

I suppose my only reservation would be those who have unruly teenagers or adult children who continue to cause problems for their mothers. You know the types....juvenile delinquents (literally) or those who never leave the nest or get a job (they just suck off the familial teet until its dry), those who are just otherwise incorrigible and make their mother's lives a living hell. Other than those type scenarios, I have no problems as I stated (although I'd prefer the children to be younger just for the fact I'd enjoy helping raise them and watching them grow).
 good
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 32
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:16:43 PM


Single mothers taking care of their child(ren), especially those doing it full time while holding a full time job or (gasp!!) trying to also get through full time school while supporting their small family are horrible and should be avoided at all costs.

Just say no!!

I mean, look at the values those horrible women display on a daily basis!
Who in his right mind would want a strong, responsible for her choices woman, who's (can u believe the nerve) willing and capable of stepping up to the plate in place of some small-time loser crook deadbeat daddy!

Pfft!

Those women are totally evil.


I said it before, I'll say it again.
Some women (who happen to have had a child) just want a man for themselves, not a "daddy" of any kind.
I'd personally avoid anyone who has more than two "baby daddy" or "baby mamas" or the long-term welfare crew though.

 mcfly762
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 33
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 11/9/2008 9:10:58 AM
That's a pretty bad thing to say. I'm not judging anybody and people have to deal with with their own decisions in life the best they can. Not you. Get off your moral BS."

The truth hurts, but the dude was right.
 mcfly762
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 34
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 11/9/2008 9:22:37 AM
"That goes for guys too, after all it takes a man and woman to make a baby.
I'm just uterly sickened with all these stupid comments from stupid men.
Asian women stay away!!!!"


The guys who are making these comments are not the same type of guys that are getting these women pregnant.
 mcfly762
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 35
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 11/9/2008 9:34:11 AM
"yeah your right hun.. let the morons stay away from us and our children thats what i say.. so yeah avoid us at all costs.. cause we dont have the time to deal with idiots like these men.. small minded****eads.... go find your single girls with no attachments men!!!! and "

Funny how the guy calls you on your irresponsible, immoral behavior (if there were no truth in it, why would you be so insulted?)....and then you band together and attack him like a pack of wolves.
 mcfly762
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 36
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 11/9/2008 9:34:45 AM
"Excuse me kush..but why is it that women only are responsible for birth control, especially when it fails and produces a child..It takes two to tango here..Men do the impregnating so lets hold BOTH of them responsible for birth control, not just her..All those American women didnt have kids by themselves"

No, but when they sleep with dirtbags, what do they expect?
 mcfly762
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 37
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 11/23/2008 12:11:40 PM
Here's a youtube video some dude made that discusses this topic:

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=gn2toLBHJa8
 kusho50
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 38
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 1/9/2009 1:42:48 PM
QUOTE--- "Excuse me kush..but why is it that women only are responsible for birth control, especially when it fails and produces a child..It takes two to tango here..Men do the impregnating so lets hold BOTH of them responsible for birth control, not just her..All those American women didnt have kids by themselves"
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Do you remember the part about "I DON"T HAVE KIDS!!!"

So yes, Shame on the boys that did it as well.

That said, I can't begin to tell you how many women that on first or second time are all like, you don't need that, I don't like condoms... I'm on the pill... Hell I've been shown a thing of pills, to find out that was her moms pills... Oh please cum in me, I love the feeling... etc.. etc..

Now theres not a quicker way to turn me off than saying that line.

Had a chick that said that because she was on her period and it KILLED the mood for me.
 kusho50
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 39
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:18:49 PM
Rolling laughing at the post. I've had this discussion with friends who are also women, asking about this... and normal I hear is women like to date guys they feel like will protect them. So are attracted to as*holes....

His is with more anger than my post. WOW. Lol.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=gn2toLBHJa8

And yes, I have gotten hate mail since I started this forum. 1 year later, and I have basically figured out the online odds tend to be 20/1 (guys to girls) and even of that it tends to be more the single moms online as they don't go out... etc... etc...

Was being hopeful for the non club scene... but tend to meet better people at church, college, orchestra, friends, etc... etc...

Wow on this link. His rant is just too much. There's something to be said about this as well though.

So the women let the stupid as*holes have their offspring, and us smart nice guys who know how to protect themselves get stuck raising the kids of the guys that run. Thus breeding the traits of those types of guys into the gene pool.
 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 40
Date women with or without kids
Posted: 1/22/2009 5:59:26 AM
I am 38 with no kids. And that has been by choice. I realized during my marriage, he was not the one to get knocked up by and have to deal with the rest of my life. I did not want to end up a single mom or a "statistic". I am finding however, some men will not date me because I do not have any kids. And that is fine, really. Dating someone with kids means if it becomes serious, they become part of your life. And also, you have to be prepared to be dealing with an "x", past in laws and a lot of things come into play that some people do not really think about. The one probelm I have found when meeting men with kids is they sometimes act like their new "mate" comes "second". Here is the deal. If you want a relationship, sex, housework, all that happy horse shit, treat the other person as an "equal". Sure, your children need to be taken care of but so does your new mate. When you married your x, I am sure he or she was not chopped liver!! If people want a new family scenario, then everyone needs to be treated as such. I think you can date someone with kids, just be prepared for a lot of added things. Sometimes I think I am pretty fortunate I do not have any. I see more people going through more bullshit these days over kids and "x's". Like life is not hard enough as it is. I have even seen relationships end over kids. We are supposed to enjoy life, not complicate it. I would date someone with children as long as it is an under control situation. Meaning, they have mutual agreements on the children and how they dicipline/ raise, child support is being paid, ...basically an under control situation. If there is constant fighting, disagreements and drama, I want NOTHING to do with it. Not only does this affect the people starting the relationship, the kids are normally pretty messed up as well, and it just is not a good thing.
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