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Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 61
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I am trying to delete my profile off this side and my software won't take. I have had it with dating sites. I agree with the person who wrote good man says goodbye. I have given up on women. I have meet some nice women on these sites but that is usually as far as it goes. They say they want a nice guy and money doesen't matter but they want a Donald Trump to pull up in a limousine with a bag full of money and take them out on the town. The worse date I had and I hope she sees this write up was with a banker that lived about forty minutes away from my house. We spoke off an on for a year and than started calling each other more. I thought we were getting along good. Finally we agreed to meet. It was a Saturday night and when we meet she said she had a long day and was tired and acted like she was doing me a favor by meeting me. It was a nice bar restaurant and we ordered drinks. From the moment we ordered drinks it was one cut down after another. I didn't know enough about mixed drinks she said. I should have been paying for the drinks and dinner with a bank card and not cash. I hadn't traveled enough like she did. Her EXHUSBAND was a swell guy. When I asked her why her hubby and her were divorced she basically told me to mind my own business. One cut down after another all night long. Of course no thanks that I paid for the expensive dinner and drinks. I followed her to some hunkey tong bar and when we walked in she hugged every male in the bar and basically ignored me. She had cut me down the whole evening and some of these guys she was hugging looked like escapees from a federal prison. What taste. We parted ways and the next day she send me an email telling me to go four letter word myself blaming me because it was a rotten evening. I told her lucks of luck finding a male she needed it. Another women I meet on internet dating I thought we were getting along good and she wrote to me telling me she had just gone out with me to make her current boyfriend jealous and not to take it personally. She was real religious and would pray for me even though she lived with alot of different guys. Other women I meet have had kids but the kids kept them like a puppet on a string. Mommy can't you get back with dad. Mommy I need this mommy I need that and these were grown kids. Please POF delete my profile. I can always masturbate.
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 62
Good man says goodbye
Posted: 9/26/2008 3:41:39 PM
A person that is your equal is very hard to find. All of us have our flaws----you can't make it to adulthood without them.

I am completely honest about myself to anyone that I communicate with. I weigh more than I should, have a hard time trusting, have a complicated work schedule that leaves me with less free time than I like, and it is hard to meet someone that is willing to overcome those things to get to know me. I'm not a prize by any means, but I don't need a man with money, and I tend to go for loyalty over looks anyday. BUT the guys that write me almost instantly start talking about sex. That's not the main reason I am here----if so, I would be posting on a sex site.

I'm fairly new to this and have talked with some nice guys, even met one and we seem to hit it off, but the sex talk just isn't going to make me want to meet a guy that writes me. When they write to you about sex almost immediately, it makes me think that I am just one of many.
Joined: 1/21/2008
Msg: 63
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Good man says goodbye
Posted: 9/26/2008 7:54:05 PM
I honestly did not read this entire thread. Just the replies from the cute women and the disgruntled man, because everyone was pointing to him.

I agree that alot of people (men and women) enjoy the attention, but most are sincerely looking for whatever they are advertising for.

I get enough attention here and on several other sites. I'm not sure why. I certainly think I am average looking and a little above average intelligence-wise.

There is something artificial about the entire "online" dating process. I think alot of women (at least at my age) are looking for Mr. Perfect and the guys are looking for a beautiful woman who gives good **** and doesn't complain about much.

Anyway, somewhere between those two extremes is where man and woman meet.

I met someone on a web site (Yahoo). I stayed with her for 2.3 years. It was a good relationship in most respects, and I met her online.

What I have found mostly in my life is that the women who want to spend time with me are always just a notch below what I'm looking for (and I'm not talking just looks) and the one's I like, are looking for guys one notch above what they can get (or keep).

So, it's a matter of adjusting expectations. If I lowered my expectations one notch, I'd have 20 women just dying to be with me. But this time around, I'm holding out, taking my time, and learning to be comfortable being alone. I'd rather be alone than settle.

Maybe I'll end up alone, but I'm OK with that. It's not my preferred situation, but it is OK if that's how I end up.
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 4/11/2009 7:53:01 AM
What a shame,. sorry to hear about your negativ experience. I have to disagree on some of it. Not all women are built like that way. Im very glad that you met somebody and wish you so much happiness. Good luck.
Joined: 10/13/2007
Msg: 66
Good man says goodbye
Posted: 4/12/2009 11:16:44 AM
POF is just ONE way to meet a person, if this is your one and only search place then you need to expand your horizons and use some imagination. I don't think internet dating really works in terms of the BIG picture but its an outlet and a means to 'feel' like you are doing something in terms of the 'search' for the right person. We can't all be out there in bars/the gym/grocery store/whatever/ all the time, its an easy way to market yourself from the comfort of your own home.

I have been on this site for a while and can't say that I've really had any success in meeting anyone...I have written/chatted and met up with women from this site but nothing has worked out and for me that is the basic sign of success. Does that mean that I'll give up? No, it does mean that I'll not take it as seriously.
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 68
Good man says goodbye
Posted: 6/10/2009 9:03:19 PM
Im glad i read this article. It explains exactly how i feel. Except i wouldent have been able to to express it as clearly at all. Everyones so picky. Or maybe they are used to being picky. heres a tip. stay single for a year or 2. youll know what you want when it happens.
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 69
Good man says goodbye
Posted: 6/11/2009 12:47:49 AM

heres a tip. stay single for a year or 2. youll know what you want when it happens

Ive know what I want for years..and been single for 33.

Everyones so picky. way.
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