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 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 166
Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?Page 3 of 17    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17)
I am a 50 year old woman and so what if we have put on weight, that does not mean we hate sex, are unattractive or feel as if we hate men. Maybe some women have met so many men having mid life crises who are looking for a young princess that they do have bad attitudes, but it is understandable at times.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 175
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Posted: 6/18/2008 1:00:03 PM

Most over about 35 don't, but they will never admit that because it would mean admitting that they are getting old and nature has taken them out of the dating pool. If these women are turning down men by the hundreds (which is what women get on dating sites like this and Craigslist), then you know that they'be passed the dating age and are in denial.


^^Really? You have to be kidding me? Sorry but I simply have to disagree with what you say here. My g/f's don't just talk about it for the sake of preserving their sexual image! If men truly were aware of what travelled inside the female mind when looking at a handsome man they very well could be shocked!!
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 6/18/2008 1:55:45 PM

Most over about 35 don't, but they will never admit that because it would mean admitting that they are getting old and nature has taken them out of the dating pool. If these women are turning down men by the hundreds (which is what women get on dating sites like this and Craigslist), then you know that they'be passed the dating age and are in denial


^^^There Mr. Fin! I highlighted that again for you. That is the part you wrote that I was not in agreement with. Perhaps from your experience, ladies around my age simply "talk" about it, but that is not my experience. I have a lot of g/fs and I can tell you that when we get together, we don't sip on tea, eat cucumber sandwiches and talk about the latest knitting contest! Women can and are as sexual as you fellows are where I come from. Maybe it is our drinking water?
And yes, I do agree, "thinking" is definately not the same as "doing". By my ripe old age, I have definately figured out that difference!
 chromeh1
Joined: 11/10/2007
Msg: 180
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:38:50 PM
Take out your reading glasses sweetheart and read the post again. I am sure you will find that nowhere in there did I insinuate that I needed the little blue pill, however after looking at your profile I may have to change that.
 Moonchild51
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Msg: 181
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:01:24 PM
^^^I am sorry Sir but that was just a low blow! Anyone who cannot defend their thoughts without insults shows a fellow that most don't want to know. You posted that you expected flack, you got it and now you insult? Too much!!!

OT: Yes there really are so many components to this dating over 40, heck even over 50. I guess as Mr. Fin says, why not just throw caution to the winds? One never knows when opportunity is there.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:05:54 PM

I don't don't mean to sound harsh but this is dating whe you are a 40+ year old man..
It's reality.. That is why there is such a high percenatge of single men over 40...

There are? Could you please show me where they are hiding then my good man???

 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/18/2008 6:26:05 PM
^^^They are? And whose mental teenage years darlin? Their kids or themselves???

Oh the answers sometimes just seem too easy do they not?
 chromeh1
Joined: 11/10/2007
Msg: 186
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Posted: 6/18/2008 7:21:39 PM
No worries there, sweetheart.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/18/2008 8:02:23 PM
Phew! I was really worried that my friend Ageless would have lost her good sense and entertained the thought!!!

I don't get why things escalade into insults. Perhaps that is the very reason why "some" of us are single!
 chromeh1
Joined: 11/10/2007
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Posted: 6/19/2008 5:01:08 AM
My apologies to Ageless. In reading your reply, I took it as an insult and was replying in kind. I now see where it could have been meant as nothing more than a humourous comeback. Sorry!
 donnafuntimes09
Joined: 5/25/2008
Msg: 192
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Posted: 6/21/2008 12:43:27 AM
Its a sad fact that in this age of politicol correctness that aproaching a women may ne misconscrued as harrasmrnt & by jung I'm afrued you may be correct in your
assumption
 Varon 47
Joined: 6/13/2006
Msg: 193
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Posted: 6/21/2008 11:34:20 AM
yes we are becouse we now know woman at this time in the game and they are not easy and you get hurt if not afraid belive me I seen what they can do but I like them but dont trust any of them .so do what you have to couse we r going to die one day game over after that so all this is bs no budy loves no body is just something we like to belive in our early days but after 40 everything changes and you find out that all is b.s this is like a trip thats all and if your over 40 and you dont have money forget woman they want money and plenty be carfull out there dont be a full for an ass
 Banker21
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 194
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Posted: 6/21/2008 5:27:42 PM
I think that men need some kind of signal before they approach. That is what makes internet dating so tough on men over 40. They never get the signal.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 196
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Posted: 6/22/2008 11:55:03 AM

I think that men need some kind of signal before they approach. That is what makes internet dating so tough on men over 40. They never get the signal.



...Maybe POF should install signal lights, red means no thanks, green means go and yellow....proceed, but with caution.

...maeflowers
 chromeh1
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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:54:39 PM
Those are my sentiments excactly. I have to assume that women over 40 really don't know what they want or they are satisfied with just internet romance. At this point, I won't waste my time or energy trying to pursue a woman close to my age.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/22/2008 8:54:00 PM
GotFin? Perhaps said lady was afraid to hurt your feelings? Then again, whoever she is, there is no excuse for not replying to someone. Interested or not.
I see this from both sides to be honest. Men and women alike say that they are tired of the rejection so they do not make the first approach. However shall the two meet? Mr. Fin, if you find dating younger ladies more your cuppa, good for you. However, I wish you wouldn't generalize as much as you do. I don't think it is fair to those of us gals who are actively dating, or do respond to emails, be it a thanks or no thanks! And you think for one minute that it has not been done to us as well? But again, if one doesn't try, one will never succeed. jmho
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:44:46 PM

Do I think most woman here have contacted a man, gotten a positive response, and set up a specific date then had the man simply not respond? No, I don't think many (if any) women have done that.


Mr. Fin? You never mentioned that you had already set up and agreed to a date with the lady in question? Either that or I missed it. If this is the case, then I in fact agree that the lady is rude. Plain and simple. And for the record? It does in fact happen to women too hun. Not an issue owned primarily by men.


although occasionally I go on a mailing jag and send perhaps 30 or 40 emails in a two-three day period.

^^Now that kind of approach is sure to make a gal feel special! By your very posts,(and ladies can read a person's history here) I am not in any way surprised that you get such a low response. jmho
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/23/2008 1:42:43 PM
^^Hey buddy?
Whatever floats "your" boat, but a man who approaches 30 to 40 women via email thinks with only one thing in mind. Then again, I can/could see that from your posts. Good for you if ya score 1 out of 40 emails!!! Maybe you should try going to the casino with those odds!!!
 MacKevinized
Joined: 2/15/2006
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Posted: 6/23/2008 1:53:25 PM
It's not that men are afraid to approach as fear implies a bit of the unknown.
When it's obvious that a woman has a certain attitude of simultaneously dominating a relationship while jealously destroying that same relationship, men will not approach, no matter what the age.
It just seems after becoming single in midlife there's plenty of women stuck in this modality and remain forever confused about approachability.
Women that are approachable are getting dates.
 chromeh1
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Posted: 6/23/2008 3:34:19 PM
OR: "are men over 40 afraid to approach emasculating shrews"
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 215
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Posted: 6/23/2008 3:49:36 PM
I have met my share of dysfunctional men, who might be afraid to approach women, since we can see their dysfunctionality and want no part of it. There is a huge difference between an emasculating shrew and a wise, perceptive woman who values a relationship of equality where both man and woman have a lot to bring to the table.
 chromeh1
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Posted: 6/23/2008 4:52:05 PM
You are the exception to what we are refering to. You actually met these dysfunctional men. We are referring to the women who don't even bother to reply to an email or in Fin's case replied and didn't bother to follow up. I have even seen on a profile of a 43 year old woman "if you email and I am interested I will reply". I ask you, what self respecting man would even bother to write to this woman. And how is it possible to find out about a man or a woman from a little paragraph or a first email. Online dating is ridiculous, but these forums are fun!
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 218
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Posted: 6/23/2008 5:46:08 PM
A dysfuntional man seems to be still in love with his ex wife even though when he was married to her she did not like sex but had affairs. This was usually marriage number 2 or 3 for him, and he adopted her children that she had with another man, one or both of them have drug and alcohol problems, she ran up all of his credit cards, she "made" him file bankruptcy, then she had the affairs and left him. He still seems to think she is all that and a bag of chips, because she is so hot looking and all these other men want her so even though they are divorced he is still having sex with her when she throws him this crumb every now and then. He usually paid for her boob job, and now he is working at least 2 jobs to pay alimony and/or child support to provide said ex wife and children with the current fashion trends and/or car and buys his clothes at thrift stores and drives a falling apart car since he has nothing for himself. I have met this man again and again, and they do not seem to have much to bring to the relationship table.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 6/23/2008 7:10:37 PM
Shimbo and chromeh1's last 2 posts are among the best I've seen in the POF forums. I'm wondering if any woman is going to answer them?


Here is an answer for you should you want it. I am damned sick and tired of hearing the female bashing that goes on in these forums that are done by males that have been done wrong by "ONE" woman. Your ex's have just been real biotches that never gave you sex and now you are on the hunt for those who will jump at the opportunity to assist you with sex on a first date .And you all jump on the bandwagon to condemn ladies that do not conform with your new method of dating! How simply pathetic you men are! Mature is the man who treats us with respect, treats us as a human being with true thoughts! They get way more sex should they want it than you immature b-tards who think with only one head. I am so tired of seeing posts here that belittle women and must say a lot of the ladies here are as well. If a certain few of you men are all that is left of what is available to us single gals, I will gladly hang my dating hat up now and be damned happy for it. Having said that? Hell, I date on a regular basis, do not "screw" on the first date, and do enjoy "mature" men. Some of you "boys" should read up on the definition of....
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 222
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Posted: 6/23/2008 7:12:28 PM

I'm curious about how you detect that dysfunctionality.

Are you using the mystical "woman's intuition"??
Is it based on keen observation of the missing button from his shirt?
Or does it involve psychic powers?



....Oh nothing clever is needed, one just needs to read your posts.

...maeflowers
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