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 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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From now on I am sticking to the basics.
Is he heterosexual?
Does he like/want kids?
Does he have a job? Or better yet, does he have health insurance?
He is alive? Right? Somewhere on this planet?

There have been times I would have settled for warm with a pulse.
 MELANIE1953
Joined: 7/3/2012
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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/16/2013 10:43:15 AM
Personally, I find that those that don't get snapped up, both men and women, are those for whom it is not their highest priority in life, and has nothing to do with their appeal. They usually are quite successful at being single, and need to meet someone that really attracts their attention to cause them to relinquish a comfortable, evolved and full life.
Most people keep changing things until they get to where they are comfortable, then they stay there. While it is true that a perfect match is not simple to find, perfectly good matches are all over the place if you are open to them.

This is true.. as it is for me.. I am successful at single.. I didn't intend to be.. didn't want ot be, but the male pool is quite shallow and narrow of late... Also, I really have to "feel it" with the person I am meeting.. I really dont compromise on the Chemistry thing.. there has to be a connection.. a spark. We can work from there.
Also, there are no " strict rules" to love or to apprecate another's life or self..such as, "they must be this and they must be that in order to win my attention, and be worthy."
Everyone has a gift or two.. some will mesh with my gifts and others will not.. I am willing to wait on the right combination.. although it is hard at times to be patient.
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 487
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/16/2013 11:11:55 PM
Good old fashioned communication. After all these years, I still never quite got the mind reading thing down.

Presuming we have chemistry, I'd just like to know straight answers about how she feels, what she likes, and to speak up if there's a better idea.

If she says "fine", I know for sure things are NOT fine, but NO clue what it is, or if was even something in the last day or month... If she says "nothing", then I know something is up.

Honestly, at this stage I'd just like to make every moment the best it can be and I'm looking for a partner that feels the same and communicates. The rest only gets better...
 batcher
Joined: 8/24/2010
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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:53:24 AM
Well what I want is someone to scratch my back.....lol
 califgirl47
Joined: 7/4/2010
Msg: 489
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/17/2013 1:21:03 PM
Let me add to this....
Let us ask, what a woman at 50 is looking for?

I've just about thrown in the towel. I get the fact that we all have a baggage over time. Mine is just a small carry on, most men I've met either on POF or otherwise have huge sets of Luggage. I mean a full set of louie V. Married muliple times, drinking problems, lives with their family, or basically is out to get laid.

I shake my head at it all. Is this supposed to be this difficult? I am all of the above that he has posted and more but cannot find a decent man. Last man I spoke with had been married 5 times last one he said was a drug addict/drunk.

{head shaking}
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 490
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/17/2013 2:57:04 PM
^^^ funny how everyone thinks they have the least amount of baggage. While everyone else has too much baggage. Diffrent people have diffrent idea what baggage is.. If you have no baggage that anyone can point at. Then they say your baggage is that you don't have any baggage by the time you are 45 lol.. I heard that a few times before.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 491
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/17/2013 3:39:26 PM

funny how everyone thinks they have the least amount of baggage. While everyone else has too much baggage. Diffrent people have diffrent idea what baggage is.. If you have no baggage that anyone can point at. Then they say your baggage is that you don't have any baggage by the time you are 45 lol.. I heard that a few times before.


Not that strange. If out of 100 people in an area there are 5 that have no baggage and 95 have a lot of baggage, then the 5 will more frequently encounter the 1 of the 95. And consider that those with no baggage are frequently taken out of the dating pool not to return for a long time.

It's Gresham's law applied to dating .
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 492
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 3/17/2013 5:52:38 PM
As a woman over 45 I look for


I want a man that I fancy and want in bed and he is sexperienced first up.

Then a reasonable level of education and financial success as I dont want a meal ticket or to be one. Just equal give and take.

A man who is communicative about his emotions, not afraid to show them.

Treats me and all others with respect.

An animal lover and a concern for the plight of humanity and our planet.

His voice needs to be attractive for me to be even slightly interested.

His way of dressing has style and taste.

He has travelled and is well read.

No ex wife he has not quite gotten over or is overly involved with, still.
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