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 WeAre1
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 16
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dear male/female op (and i truly have no problem with cross dressers, so i mean no disrespect) - perhaps you should have checked out just what you were getting yourself into when you decided to start this thread. you need to realize no matter what you wish to receive from forum posting, you are always opening yourself up to the opinions of others, who probably are not gonna stroke your ego.....or other parts of you either when you are having a truly schizophrenic moment.
was it the 'good girl' side of you that wrote this thread, but the 'bad girl' side of you that wrote your profile?
as was already mentioned, your interests included "bdsm, s&m, femdom, dominant women, body worship, erotic massage, submission, and servitude ".
and the line pasted above is so graphic and detailed and horrific that i can't imagine the innocent and horrified 'decent female' you claim to be with your original post here is the 'real you'.
you got really nasty, you know, and there's no need for it.
don't get so angry with us when it's your own demons you seem to be fighting here.

and for the record, no, porn is not and has not ruined real intimacy in my relationships. has it for you ???? cuz when you write these lines, "i have never watched porn or bought a porn video or magazine.why? its just like a topless bar to me.i ain't going if i ain't participating"..... i wonder because it seems to me most of your interests are prime for porn filmmaking....really.
 sweetazeyes
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:23:48 PM
i'm not fighting any "demons"
and i'm not looking for any answers about my profile or my likes or dislikes.i posed a question to start this thread and gave some of my thoughts on the subject.

i didn't browse the profiles of others making comments in this thread or other threads just so i could judge,analyze,berate,
belittle or attack them and/or their fantasies,lifestyle choices,etc.

i'll comment on your postings either in agreement or not in agreement.but i have not ever read a forum posters profile and proceeded to use that as a basis to assume why they have made comments and/or opinions in any thread they either started or replyed to.

my question was narrow in scope and was looking at the bigger picture of internet porn and how this has changed our views as a society on intimacy with our partners and expectations of loyalty an respect for those we choose to love and have intimate relationships with.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:23:47 PM
The Internet is for Porn!
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:28:50 PM
well I think it lessens or cheapens sex; it make it like a toy; it desensitizes you and if you get too much into it, its all you think about; its like a drug and you have to keep pushing the envelope to be pleased.

Sex is awesome I think but porn all the time isn't good.
 opnmydm
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/5/2008 5:47:44 AM
wow, you don't know what your missing, i do agree porn can be addictive to some, but so can alcohol, drugs, smoking, washing your hands, cleaning..anything can be addictive, but if treated right, it is such a great thing
 cutepoet
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/29/2008 3:05:38 AM
Suzy, I must confess to everyone who have contributed to this thread since i have been reading every comment by everyone, on this particular subject, i have not seen anyone who gave a straight ANSWER than SUZY. SUZY, you are the best, you deserve an AWARD for your straight and honest thread. THANK YOU. I WANT TO KNOW YOU BETTER.

OP you shouldn't have said you never bought any porn magazine, or watched any porn movie. because if you say that you havn't watched or bought any porn magazine, then how do you know what they do, and what it is all about? i love people who are honest with themselves, not just some lady seeking attention. You could have just told us you wanted attention, instead of writing and saying what even a deaf person knows is not true. Common, there's no way we can stop porn movies? Because they use it to make money. Ok we all know tobacco smoking is dangerous to health, they always warn smokers to stop smoking, but why don't they go to the companies producing tobacco and shut them down???????????
So as far as we are in the computer age, there's no how we can stop a man or a woman from watching porn movies. Even those who say they don't watch porn that much, they are the ones who are addicted to watching it. Be real, come out as you are, no one is going to kill you if you say you watch porn,and it doesn't make any lady onthis site, not write you, or get to know you. It's just your mind.
And now, this is a very interesting topic here,bcos alot of people say they don't watch porn movies cos it's not good, and in their profiles, these same people say they are very honest, and sincere. How can you say you are honest, when you come here to post a thread lying about what you do and what you don't??????????? Common people.

OK I HAVE A QUESTION TO ASK? IF YOU KNOW YOU LOVE SEX LET ME HEAR YOU SAY YES I DO. IF YOU DON'T SAY NO I DON'T.
THEN FOR THOSE WHO DON'T, I'LL MAKE SURE I GO THROUGH THEIR PROFILES,AND SEE IF THEY SAY THEY ARE HONEST AND SINCERE.
NOW START::::: DO YOU LOVE SEX.
YES I DO!
 Sweet J-me Baby
Joined: 10/14/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:22:08 AM
There is no problem with porn, whether it's coming via the Internet, movies or magazines. I think it can actually for a relationship provided the guy is not addicted to it and replacing intimacy with his partner with the fantasy porn provides. I was in a very good, healthy relationship where he would share his porn with me. We had a wonderful sex life, filled with passion and desire for each other.

The problem arose when just Internet porn was no longer enough for him, but was having cyber sex with other women...having a connection and conversation while enjoying sex with somebody via the webcam was a line he crossed and I found unacceptable.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 6/5/2008 2:25:19 AM
Lusting after another woman so you get aroused to screw the woman you are with is not enhancing relationships. Porn will make you hornier but it will not make you closer to your mate.

I have NEVER had problems with my sex life; and I've never been into porn. I think its pretty sick too.

The divorce rate is the highest in history; the break up rate of those that live together is about 85%; read many of the posts; they start out, "I was living with......".

Cheating is at an all time high; 25% of teens in the U.S. have an STD; 40% of African Americans do. Its out of control. There are some people; including 2 posters on this site and many that have agreed; that having sex with a child is ok; Porn and sex is like a toy.

Porn desensitizes you to sex; If you see a breast, you want to see it all; you see 2 girls kiss, then you want to see them do a 3 some; after that toys, etc..... Many of my friends are into porn and they talk some pretty crazy stuff. Many are also divorced. Not saying thats the reason but it doesnt' help.

I'm never needed to get aroused by using porn. I've been lucky I guess and had passionate people to date. When I get married, porn is not going to be involved. Never has never will. Seeing sleazy men and women having sex in a video is not a turn on for me. I'm also an American though and I think everyone should have a right to do with they want. just not my thing.
 sweetazeyes
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 6/15/2008 1:12:40 AM
people are to blame but theres so much porn and sexual info being put in our our lifes everyday anymore that i thought this was a relevent topic.thank s to everyone who posted.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 5/3/2010 9:36:49 AM
what are your souces, jaemaeg? i'm interested to learn more. especially about how porn outearns petroleum.

Porn ... accounts for 64% of divorce in this country.

Porn is EXTREMELY addictive and it's why it's the biggest money making industry in the world.
 valleyguyaz
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 26
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Posted: 6/7/2010 10:48:46 AM
i think there are alot of people that are overexposed to porn and sexual content.i think that most who have an addiction to pornography will deny it and
equal porn addiction to other addictions or say its not as bad as other addictions.it can be alot more harmful other addictions because todays soceity does not frown on this abuse like its does drugs,alcohol,tobacco or obesity.i think that i'm safe in saying this(there are individual exceptions of course).

i'm a person who places the upmost importance personal freedoms and privacy.personal responsibility and self control of the porn user is the best way to keep this from becoming abusive.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 6/7/2010 4:13:17 PM
Hahaha I read the entire OP and couldn't find a substantive, clear point. As a writing teacher would say, you lack a thesis.

And your rambling is filled with non-sequitors and generally lacks any cohesive train of thought.

Don't mind me. Just ranting because I wasted however long it took me to read that and I'm bitter.
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