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 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 426
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The trend is a younger guy with an older women.
Some people aren't influenced by trends. This isn't a "trend" anyway; it's sort of being promoted by the entertainment industry, it's basically a distorted feel-good story to sell to older women.

If you were less than honest did you want to be forgiven? If not, toss her out the next man will love her too.
I can't see any guy "loving" a woman who lied when answering basic fundamental questions. At best a guy will "tolerate" her.
 sam-spade
Joined: 12/2/2007
Msg: 427
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Posted: 6/12/2008 5:59:08 PM

A woman who lies about her age is misrepresenting a material fact. She is perpetrating a fraud. If she lies about her age she can and will lie about other serious facts about herself.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with a liar wondering whether she is telling the truth about being "out with the girls", how much she is spending, and so on?
Oh lighten up guys.

I wouldn't give two shits if a woman lies about her age unless it's warped.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 428
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:08:36 PM

t is extremely rare for a person to lie about one subject, and one subject only, and to be completely truthful about everything else.


So how about if a guy lies about his height? What if he says he is 5' 9" and you are 5' 6"--when you meet him, you wear three inch heels and tower over him like an Amazon.

Once a liar, always a liar?
 lucela
Joined: 5/23/2008
Msg: 429
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:09:20 PM
u honestly have to ask yourself do you love her any less because of this? The lying is a major deal breaker but in my eyes it is over something petty, eight years is nothing in the grand scheme of things. She possibly felt she had to lie, maybe she liked you that much that she was scared to tell the truth in case you werent interested or she felt insecure about her age. At the end of the day she loves you and you love her and that should be enough x
 sunspots457
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 430
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:18:40 PM
It depends on how entertaining it will be to listen to more of her BS during the rest of the date...... but these days mostly... if someone from online has misrepresented themselves... I will just say never mind and split.
 ausjen
Joined: 4/29/2008
Msg: 431
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Posted: 6/12/2008 6:21:03 PM
After looking at your profile "the fact that you miss having someone in your life " then maybe your not that honest either . Wonder how your fiance would feel about your profile on POF ?
 irishmckenna
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 432
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:24:07 PM
If she lied about her age she is most likely telling you lies about a lot of things! I would run if I were you.
 sunshinenrain12005
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 433
what if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:27:35 PM
I would say.....do not continue. If she felt she had to lie about her age, what else is she lying about? Sorry. to me it would be a deal breaker. But....You have to do what you feel is best.
 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 434
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Posted: 6/12/2008 6:49:01 PM

So how about if a guy lies about his height? What if he says he is 5' 9" and you are 5' 6"--when you meet him, you wear three inch heels and tower over him like an Amazon.
That's a different scenario than what was presented here in this thread. The OP's lady misrepresented her age for 1 1/2 years, six months of which were during engagement. Of course a lady can exercise height prejudice if a guy lies about his height and she notes upon meeting that he is shorter than her "requirements". One professed early white lie is one thing--perpetuated lie is different issue.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 435
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Posted: 6/12/2008 7:03:37 PM

One professed early white lie is one thing--perpetuated lie is different issue.


Ah, I see--there are graduations of lies. Gotcha. If a man lies about his height, OF COURSE he wouldn't lie about anything else.
 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 436
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Posted: 6/12/2008 7:38:02 PM
When I was 30, I dated a woman who stated she was single when she really was divorced. That's a white lie. She was concerned a 30 year old guy didn't want to get involved with a divorcee. She told me this on our 2nd date. I dismissed it and requested that she need not hide facts like this from me, I liked her for who she was right now. It's not a graduation of lies, it's a matter of effectively communicating what one's dealbreakers are, and giving someone an opportunity to change, looking for a different behavior pattern. I was flattered that after that 2nd date, we shared lots of great thoughts and great times with each other on subsequent dates. The guy who lies about his height likely does that because he experiences lots of knee-jerk rejection; still that's not a great strategy for a shorter than average guy. He likely isn't going to get much further than a 1st date with that misrepresentation. Without somebody doing a background check or rifling through one's personal belongings, it's lots easier for a person to deceive their partner about their age well past a first date, in this instance for 1 1/2 years and six months of engagement.
 lisafine
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 437
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Posted: 6/12/2008 8:07:03 PM
Her real age in itself doesn't change her as the person you fell in love with, what's changed is your perception or image of who you think she is.
Or maybe who you wanted her to be.
She found herself trapped in her lie about her age. She sensed early on your potential disapproval of her white lie, as time went by the truth became harder to admit to.
No doubt many hints were dropped which showed her what your reaction to her lie would be when it came to light, which prevented her from admitting she'd knocked several years off her age.
Your reaction when she finally did confess is predictable. She knew and expected to be dumped and she was.
So why post on here, you obviously got the result you were hoping for.
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 438
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Posted: 6/12/2008 8:38:59 PM
Why are all the old...sorry, older women on here so defensive about this topic. The poster above makes a lot of ASSumptions. Perhaps, like many women, she is insecure about her age and chose to lie right off the bat and then got stuck in a lie because she lacks moral character.
 texastigress
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 439
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Posted: 6/12/2008 8:57:12 PM
I have a big issue with lying all together. I met a jerk on here in March who claimed to be 51 years old - I'm 46. We "dated" for just over 2 months and I found out that he lied about his age via the Internet. Ah, the Internet...such a marvelous invention. We haven't been seeing one another since the end of March - he dumped me for someone he met on here who dumped him before he started seeing me. I was the "rebound" girlfriend. While he was dumping me, I confronted him about his age and he said that he did it because he looked and felt younger - feel younger I can see, look younger, I don't think so. He had that crepey, elderly skin - he shouldn't have that type of skin at the age of 51 - I know plenty of men around that age and their skin isn't like that. I'm pretty sure that he was over the age of 60 or almost 60 - this is per the site I found his information on. He didn't tell me what his true age was. I really didn't have an issue with his age - it was the lying. (He calls them "white lies".) So the point is that, once they lie about one thing, it makes you wonder what else they lied or will lie to you about. BTW, he's a part-time actor and NO ONE trusts them!
 plebayo
Joined: 7/28/2007
Msg: 440
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:35:02 PM
The issue I have would not be the fact she fibbed about her age, because obviously the age thing doesn't matter because you didn't realize how old she really was.

What bothers me is the lie.

It's one thing to lie about it... like maybe for a week or something, testing the waters and what not and then come clean. But she waited a long time [till your proposal or marriage?] that's too dang long.

If she lied about that, was else has she lied about? What else is she waiting to tell you?
 fly0nthewall
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 441
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Posted: 6/13/2008 12:04:02 AM
Yikes. I've learned that if a person lies about one issue, especially a major one like that, it calls everything they say or have said into question. I'd be walking away from that one.
 ROSE AMONGST THORNS
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 442
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:06:01 AM
Age is literally a number EXAMPLE: girl meets a guy who is 25 she adores him and he adores her she is only say 19 she says she is 22 I MEAN C'MON IF LYING ABOUT AGE IS THE ONLY THING YOU GOTTA WORRY ABOUT DON'T STRESS!!!.... could be alot worse it's when they lie about where they have been who they been with that is the concern so if it is only a lil few years she/he probably only lied to be with you as they knew you may think different it doesn't change how people feel towards one another as long as it aint no pedofile type shiet then go for it if it is only like 5 years who knows you could be with your future wife/husband YOU WILLING TO LOSE THAT?????? go for it sus it all out make sure that's the only thing they lied about and if the feelings strong make it work and make it official when the time is right thats just how I would act in this situation don't take my advice personally as my advice has only landed me with immature silly cheating girls do what you want

I truly hope all of our advices are usefull and you choose a result that bests suits you both....

OBSENE.....
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 443
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Posted: 6/13/2008 9:50:44 AM
Lies---people have different viewpoints but the bottom line is if someone feels the need to lie to you before they met you...then they have issues they should resolve.

Met a man on here who said he was in his early 50's. His yahoo profile had him at 61 when I asked all at once I became the bad guy..the usual POF had messed up his age and then he couldnt change it.

Then he said that some people wont consider you if you are in your sixties, Well isnt that their right? If someone wants to limit their possibility to finding someone by age....then to me it is their right to be shallow. Sometimes you can forget you are a year older etc...but this guy was 8 years older, we spend 20 min one night after he brought up the subject of people being older than their pictures..he was telling me how the pictures were within the last year. He is a good example about how if they lie about age then they will keep lying to you. He said he was new to the site and wasnt sure he liked it, that he hadnt met anyone. A few days after the age thing this woman posted a testimonial about what a great kisser he was.

I met another man, outdated picture who said he was 57, but the more I talked to him the older he sound, his taste in music, age of his son (43) etc. then he made up a myspace profile and listed his age as 55, when I asked him he said it was just age and didnt matter..if someone will lie about a FACT, age, height, maritial status...they will lie about anything, imagine what they will say about how they feel!

I just dont understand the concept of trying to rope someone in with lies...if you met the person and like them you will always be torn about their honesty. I cant imagine how it would feel to met someone and then have them not like you based not on what you lied about but the fact you lied, lies would seem to be counterproductive.
 Stajieenikkie
Joined: 4/29/2004
Msg: 444
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Posted: 6/13/2008 10:50:18 AM
Age is just a number!!!

U must love her to propose to her.

I think u can love and embrace that shes older than you are.

When I was 14 I told a guy I was 18 it really blew up in my face but we stayed together for 3 years.

Now looking back Im going to be 22 and hes going to be 29 this year it doesnt seem to matter as much.

Im usually with guys 7-10 years older it doesnt affect much.
 Joe33647
Joined: 5/22/2007
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Posted: 6/13/2008 2:20:03 PM
I married my x in 1980 thinking she was one year older then I was. As time went on questions would come up, drivers license, passports, etc. Finally she admitted being eight years older. For me, the actual number wasn't nearly as important as the lie. If a person would lie about something so trivial, do you really want to hitch your wagon to them for life not knowing what other lies might come?
 easyoneverything
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 446
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Posted: 6/13/2008 4:40:41 PM
How long were you married? What else did she lie about? Was it important?
 ScruffyDude
Joined: 1/14/2007
Msg: 447
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Posted: 6/13/2008 4:45:37 PM

I am 53 she is now 61(she had told me she was 53).



I could see if it was a few years ..like say She said she was 58 or somthin...........but that's stretching it a bit pumpkin.
 easyoneverything
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 448
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Posted: 6/13/2008 4:47:20 PM
Hey Bikeman I am confused:

"Of course a lady can exercise height prejudice if a guy lies about his height and she notes upon meeting that he is shorter than her "requirements". One professed early white lie is one thing--perpetuated lie is different issue."

Just because the height thing is no biggie to you doesn't mean it isn't exactly the same thing here. The only difference that I can see is that once you meet him you're pretty sure he's not 5'9" for obvious reasons! Not so if a woman is 8 years older and looks 10 years younger.

So when men are caught in a blatant lie that they cannot hide, women are exercising 'height prejudice" but when women admit a lie they told out of some sense of integrity (eventually at least) she's a damn liar and never to be trusted again? Hmmm, seems a bit of a double standard to me.
 Sam R.
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 449
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Posted: 6/13/2008 5:08:48 PM
"LIES"

Performed and written by The Knickebockers 1965



Lies, lies, you're tellin' me that you'll be true

Lies, lies

That's all I ever hear from you

Tears, tears

I shed a million tears for you

Tears, tears

And now you're lovin' someone new

Someday I'm gonna be happy

But I don't know when just now

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

You think that you're such a smart girl

And I'll believe what you say

But who do you think you are, girl

To lead me on this way hey

Lies, lies

I can't believe a word you say

Lies, lies

Are gonna make you sad someday

Some day you're gonna be lonely

But you won't find me around

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

Someday I'm gonna be happy

But I don't know when just now

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

You think that you're such a smart girl

And I'll believe what you say

But who do you think you are, girl

To lead me on this way hey

Lies (ah!), lies (yeah baby)

I can't believe a word you say

Lies, lies

Are gonna make you sad someday

Some day you're gonna be lonely

But you won't find me around

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

I said, baby, now (breakin' my heart)

Oh, yeah, you're still breakin' my heart (breakin' my heart
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 450
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Posted: 6/14/2008 12:58:24 PM
Wow! this topic has gone on for 19 pages. LOL Just thought I'd throw in my .2 pesos. Since the OP has decided to continue his relationship with that woman says something, that being that he has gotten over it. But what I have a problem with are the posters here who seem to view what she did as some kind of high crime. LOL C'mon people there are far worst things that she could've hidden from him like being a fugitive felon, not being divorced, or worst. Those are issues that have far more devastating consequences than lying about her age. Since we don't have her side of the story, we don't know why she didn't tell him her "true" age. But I'm willing to play devil's advocate here and say that maybe the men in her age category are not what she's looking for (obviously) or maybe it's because men are always looking for younger (which is all relative I guess) than themselves. Sixties and 70s years olds can be healthy, but maybe she's not ready to be a nurse to someone and wants to be able to spend far more time having fun with her man than being his nurse.

Some men in their 40s and 50s are looking for the 20-30 somethings and would not even entertain the thought of a woman who is in her 60's even if she does take care of herself. The fact that the OP couldn't tell the difference is an indication that this woman looked much younger than 62. Believe me, if you really love someone the fact that she's 8 or even 10 years older shouldn't matter. The only time that should hurt the relationship is if the guy was looking to have children and obviously both of them are out of the baby-making years (well, a guy can always father kids if he has lots of swimmers LOL). Lying about health, marital status, financial status, criminal past or whatever is far worst, folks.
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