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 Sam R.
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 192
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"LIES"

Performed and written by The Knickebockers 1965



Lies, lies, you're tellin' me that you'll be true

Lies, lies

That's all I ever hear from you

Tears, tears

I shed a million tears for you

Tears, tears

And now you're lovin' someone new

Someday I'm gonna be happy

But I don't know when just now

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

You think that you're such a smart girl

And I'll believe what you say

But who do you think you are, girl

To lead me on this way hey

Lies, lies

I can't believe a word you say

Lies, lies

Are gonna make you sad someday

Some day you're gonna be lonely

But you won't find me around

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

Someday I'm gonna be happy

But I don't know when just now

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

You think that you're such a smart girl

And I'll believe what you say

But who do you think you are, girl

To lead me on this way hey

Lies (ah!), lies (yeah baby)

I can't believe a word you say

Lies, lies

Are gonna make you sad someday

Some day you're gonna be lonely

But you won't find me around

Lies, lie-ies

A-breakin' my heart

I said, baby, now (breakin' my heart)

Oh, yeah, you're still breakin' my heart (breakin' my heart
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 193
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:58:24 PM
Wow! this topic has gone on for 19 pages. LOL Just thought I'd throw in my .2 pesos. Since the OP has decided to continue his relationship with that woman says something, that being that he has gotten over it. But what I have a problem with are the posters here who seem to view what she did as some kind of high crime. LOL C'mon people there are far worst things that she could've hidden from him like being a fugitive felon, not being divorced, or worst. Those are issues that have far more devastating consequences than lying about her age. Since we don't have her side of the story, we don't know why she didn't tell him her "true" age. But I'm willing to play devil's advocate here and say that maybe the men in her age category are not what she's looking for (obviously) or maybe it's because men are always looking for younger (which is all relative I guess) than themselves. Sixties and 70s years olds can be healthy, but maybe she's not ready to be a nurse to someone and wants to be able to spend far more time having fun with her man than being his nurse.

Some men in their 40s and 50s are looking for the 20-30 somethings and would not even entertain the thought of a woman who is in her 60's even if she does take care of herself. The fact that the OP couldn't tell the difference is an indication that this woman looked much younger than 62. Believe me, if you really love someone the fact that she's 8 or even 10 years older shouldn't matter. The only time that should hurt the relationship is if the guy was looking to have children and obviously both of them are out of the baby-making years (well, a guy can always father kids if he has lots of swimmers LOL). Lying about health, marital status, financial status, criminal past or whatever is far worst, folks.
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 194
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Posted: 6/14/2008 1:16:52 PM
hmm I know there is a difference between...body age and real age. Perhaps in body age you are older then her...

she did fess up and tell you at the expense of possibly the relationship, give her that.

the rest is up to you and how much you love her.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 196
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Posted: 6/21/2008 11:06:11 AM
Wow, what a kick-ass liar.

I didn't see where you said how long you'd been together, but hey.. after all the time you spent together.. considering you've proposed... it's amazing to me that she never once slipped up in conversation with regards to her age.

That there is a talent for lying, I think.
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 197
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Posted: 6/21/2008 1:30:50 PM
If one lies about age, maybe one lies about smoking. Or using drugs. Or being married. Or having a disease. Or...whatever.

Would I tell a dying person that "everything will be okay" to help soothe? Sure. Not here, though. Telling lies is not okay in matters of the heart. Trust is needed.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 198
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Posted: 6/21/2008 4:31:06 PM

98% of women lie about their age and weight. Its expected.


Being common doesn't make it right. And in all honesty, those who think it's expected probably deserve to be lied to. More often than not, people only get away with what you let 'em.

If it's so easy to lie about something silly like age.. you can bet they'd have no trouble lyin about other more vital things.


Be happy you have someone socially functional.


Lying does not make one socially functional.. the need to lie in and of itself makes them obviously unable to socially function without fibbing.
 truly_sweet_guy
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 199
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Posted: 11/29/2010 4:51:09 PM
Dave4754,

I am dealing with a very similar situation as Dave4754.

In a nutshell, I am almost 52 have been seeing a gal for going on the 4 th month. In her profile she said she was 53 and to be honest with you, when I met her I couldn't believe how hot she was and many people including some of my friends who met her say she could easily pass as being in her 40's. She also is very young at heart, dresses very sharply and quite active...loves golf like me too. We recently told each other we love the other one. At a Thanksgiving dinner her sister recently mentioned something that when I did the math would make my gal older than she said. When I confropnted her she said she was 59 and knew she needed to tell me. Her reason for saying she was 53 is that she hates being how old she is and tends to hide her age whenever possible. Ireally feel strongly about her and want to continue but am struggling alot with coming to terms with it...I think the same two things you were struggling with:

1. Trying to accept being with a woman that much older than me.
2. The lying part also concerns me but not as much cause I think she has been true to me about other thing.

Any suggestions....I really want to stay with her.......................David

Posted By: dave4754 on 5/6/2008 1228 AM

Subject: wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway?

Message: I met someone, fell in love, and proposed marriage to her. She accepted, and then after six months of engagement tells me she is actually 8yrs older than me. I am 53 she is now 61(she had told me she was 53).

We had talked about all kinds of goals, expectations, work life and she never saw fit to tell me..... Now I have an issue or issues...

am I shallow for saying that I am uncomfortable with marrying a woman that much older than me?

What about the lying part, does anybody feel this should be an issue or flag?? interested in comments.
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 200
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Posted: 11/29/2010 6:54:12 PM
a_good_heart2
Any suggestions, thoughts, etc....I really want to stay with her.......................David

So what's your problem? Stay! ... Sit!

In my view, since you are both past your 'best by' date, and you are not about to start breeding and stuff, you might consider enjoying each other's company for as long as it lasts.

I am really annoyed when someone lies about their age, because age is public domain for the most part, you can Google someone and figure it out for Pete's sake!
I did have some young looking 69 (! ) year old trying to pass for 55, and honestly I didn't mind the age difference, but he also lied about some other things, and I had to call the BS collectively on all of them...


 *topchef*
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 204
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Posted: 12/5/2010 1:18:41 PM
I would be extremely disappointed that someone perpetuated such a deception. A relationship with a foundation of lies cannot survive. I would wonder what other lies have been told or what may come in the future. Continuing in the relationship would be very difficult as it would be an indication of the lack of faith he put in our love to begin with.
 newstart1949
Joined: 6/16/2010
Msg: 206
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Posted: 12/5/2010 5:07:05 PM
just recently I had a new contact slip in some numbers and realized that they had lied about their age. It was like "by the way how old were you when you had your first child?"
They had shaved like 5 or so years off their profile...Why do people feel the need to do this? Like they even said when they realized I had caught them "A lie is not a good way to start a good relationship is it"
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 209
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Posted: 12/6/2010 10:09:55 AM
Geeze,.. look, I tell everyone here,. I lied about my age,..if you don't like it,. sue me, and quit frikkin talkin' to me..Now,. if it's THAT much of an issue for you,..Fine,. go away, & let her find someone who likes her for her,. women have been lying about their ages FOR-EVER! umm GET OVER it,. My Mom (who was actually my Grandmother... Mom ditched me when I was a month old),. God rest her soul was 39 till she died @ 67 .. So..I say again.. get frikkin' over it.. if you're that shallow that a few years is a deal breaker,. I believe the other person is better off if you DO leave.
And No,. it's none of your business just how much I lied about MY age either,.. now,. if I was Dating someone and it got serious I'd have to come clean.. till then.. it's NOBODY's business.. My photos are current,. what you see is what you get,. no promises oon anything, and I have no idea where My "expires by XX/XX/XXXX Date is located at,. so,. I guess I'm still pretty fresh,.Now,. leave me be,.. I'm outta here.. >grabs onto wheeled walker & moseys out the door<........
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 210
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Posted: 12/6/2010 12:28:00 PM
If I find her appealing enough to bed her, then age of no issue.

HOWEVER, **LYING** is a SEVERE issue. That would back me into a corner regarding TRUST. If she lied to me about one thing, it would convince me that she would lie about ANYTHING.

AGE is of NO concern. DECEPTION, however, presents itself as the most DESTRUCTIVE influence in ANY relationship.

My relationships have TWO rules.

Rule 1: Deceive me and you lose ALL, **REGARDLESS** of the circumstances.

Rule 2: Tell me the truth, and you have a 50/50 chance of maintaining the relationship, PROVIDED that you dance by MY rules.

Few men will provide women will "manifestos" filled with their personal desires. I DEFY that convention. MY woman will be the ESSENCE of my desires, REGARDLESS of her physical appearance. She WILL obey my every command WITHOUT hesitation. She WILL be my willing slave.

Note that through this presentation I force NO ONE to comply with my wishes. I have simply expressed my desires. NOTE, however, that my demands regarding some future relationship ARE BINDING. If you want me, you WILL accept my demands. If you choose another, please accept my blessing. I have NO desire for one who truly has no desire for me.
 iamthstuff
Joined: 10/13/2004
Msg: 211
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Posted: 12/6/2010 12:47:18 PM
Well, at your age 8 years does not seem that big, but if you wanted to retire at the same time, etc, I could kind of understand.

The lying part is a big deal though. I mean if she lied initially, but fessed up sooner, rather than later, it is forgivable, but to wait until a proposal seems a bit much.

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 DeliveryRN
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 212
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Posted: 12/6/2010 11:34:15 PM
The age reduction thing that goes on around here has been the most stunning event I have encountered. I was out of the game for 30 years so, just when did men start altering their age?
The first thing that comes to mind when I entertain the thought is "how would I explain my children?". I would rather someone think I was too old for them, before pretending I gave birth to my children when I was age 12 and 14.
Some people can get over it, some just lose respect and move on.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 213
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Posted: 12/7/2010 9:26:28 AM
there are many reasons for being untruthful.other than just malicious deception ..we lie to ourselves as often as we lie to others ..I do however think it a deal breaker if she lied about being a woman .other than that I row with the flow
 tchofclas
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 214
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Posted: 12/11/2010 7:55:43 PM
One of my best friend's aunt was 15 years older than her husband, and NO one knew until after she died. They were married for more than 40 years, and I believe she survived her husband. So was she a habitual liar? No! Seems to me it shows that a lot of things people have roared from their soap boxes are just that, hot air. Seems a lot of people have trust issues when they do searches on people they are involved with, too. Maybe they should be dropped like a hot potato too, when found out? And my "Auntie", not a real aunt, but a title I was allowed to use as a child, went to her grave with no one knowing her true age. And I don't mean she lied, just never divulged it. Personally, I agree once you are past the age of having children, age really is just a number. Where all the paperwork in the world to just disappear, after a few years, how old would everyone be? And how much would it matter?
 tchofclas
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 215
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Posted: 12/11/2010 10:20:33 PM
I also meant to mention, my father was 16 years older than my mum. When he got diabetes 2 years after insulin was discovered, the doctors told my grandmother he wouldn't live to be an old man. My mother had her first coronary at 50, and died at 68. My dad was doing most f the housework, and cooking. He died 4 months before his 83rd birthday, and had my mum been alive, he'd probably lived longer. he lost all interest in life after she was gone. So just someone is older, even a significant amount, is no guarantee they will need a caregiver, or die first!
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 219
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Posted: 3/7/2013 2:14:29 PM
I had a meet and greet the other night and this gal lied about her age. Never did tell me her actual age. She looked nice enough but I could tell she was creeping up a bit. She said on her profile she was 57 and then went on to tell me everyone lies about their age. Not me... what's the point?
 holaPOFxo
Joined: 11/23/2012
Msg: 220
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Posted: 3/7/2013 7:55:43 PM
She lied and that is NOT OK.
Once a cheater, always a cheater and once a lier always a lier.
I just have no respect for dishonesty.
 Aura1shine
Joined: 3/2/2011
Msg: 221
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Posted: 3/7/2013 11:03:14 PM
Age different is not an issue for me but the honesty. What else that she will lie to gain her own benefit. A red flag for me. If you can overcome the issue either she is older or she is not being honesty, no one can make decision for you. Just remember that you have to be comfortable with your own decision.
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 222
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Posted: 3/7/2013 11:09:49 PM
Thats not really much of an age difference. But its the fact she lied to you about it.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 223
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Posted: 3/8/2013 4:12:08 AM
If you are in love what does it matter. Okay she has confessed to you about her age, there is so much prejudice against ageing women that I dont really blame her. Has she changed because she told you the truth? Love is about acceptance and tolerance. Why you want to marry at your age, is beyond me, anyway.
 JGirlSD
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 224
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Posted: 3/8/2013 6:31:20 AM

Geeze,.. look, I tell everyone here,. I lied about my age,..if you don't like it,. sue me, and quit frikkin talkin' to me..Now,. if it's THAT much of an issue for you,..Fine,. go away, & let her find someone who likes her for her,. women have been lying about their ages FOR-EVER! umm GET OVER it,. My Mom (who was actually my Grandmother... Mom ditched me when I was a month old),. God rest her soul was 39 till she died @ 67 .. So..I say again.. get frikkin' over it.. if you're that shallow that a few years is a deal breaker,. I believe the other person is better off if you DO leave.
And No,. it's none of your business just how much I lied about MY age either,.. now,. if I was Dating someone and it got serious I'd have to come clean.. till then.. it's NOBODY's business.. My photos are current,. what you see is what you get,. no promises oon anything, and I have no idea where My "expires by XX/XX/XXXX Date is located at,. so,. I guess I'm still pretty fresh,.Now,. leave me be,.. I'm outta here.. >grabs onto wheeled walker & moseys out the door<........


YEP. So true .. the sad part of this whole debate is that a woman feels the need to lie at all! If our society accepted aging women the way they do aging men, there would be no need for anyone to shave a few years off of their age. If these same men met a woman in real life where age isn't announced .. they wouldn't care. Yet on line, they limit their search for women 'under a certain age'.

To get rid of this problem, society needs to rid itself of the stigma of aging.

LOL..yep. My Mom just turned 84..but don't tell anyone, to the world she's 39. HAHA...
 All2rosie
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 225
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Posted: 3/8/2013 8:26:34 AM
For some of us age is really important. Why? I have no idea - it just is.

You have already made the age thing an issue....maybe she lied because she liked you and in the beginning you madae it clear that you were age specific. What else concerns you? Is this going to be the straw that breaks the camels back?

In my humble opinion I find that a woman over 45 often matches better with a younger man. When I was younger I could not tolerate guys my own age - I always seemed to date up (at least a few yrs). Now at over 50 it is a challenge finding a guy in this age group that:
-Doesnot want just eye candy
-Who can keep up (I'm not dead yet!)
- Only want you for sex and maid skills (yawning - ho hum)

I admit to having that age issue thing -BUT I'll be damn if I'm going to let the potential of a great relationship go because of age (older or younger).

Sounds like you want it to be a deal breaker - - - I hope you can get past it if it is the only issue you have with her (I'm not saying she is right or that you are wrong). I'm saying you seem to love each other and this is an issue you both will have to work through.
 Treasured_Smiles
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 226
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Posted: 3/8/2013 8:45:49 AM
The only time I'd really tolerate lies is prior to meeting from online, once we meet face to face any lies I figure out I'd have a problem. My perspective is if the person is lying about one thing, what else are they lying to me about? If I was the OP I would consider if the age bothered me, if not I would focus on the lying as a red flag. Certainly much communication is needed.
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