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 fuzzface
Joined: 6/30/2004
Msg: 145
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.Page 6 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)
Wow!!

Just read thru this forum, and may I say that the OP doesnt say she wants a relationship in her profile, she puts friendship.

She sent someone her picture, so what, maybe she wanted a compliment to feel good about herself, that isn't a sin, nor does it constitute cheating.

OP - I hope you can make the choice on your life that is right for you and that the remainder of your life is happy and healthy.

I am a bit saddened by the ferocity of some of the replies here, I know we can all have an opinion, but it seems to have got a little personal - on all sides, before I get flamed!

Hope everyone stays happy and healthy.

Peace
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 149
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:37:13 PM
Twisted Envy....
And...there you are, too. Still here.
At least I defend something that is all about honor and integrity. I expressed my opinion in a clear and concise way about married women who want to have it all.
And....my goodness...listen to youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu...
Here is what you said to me....
"Ugh, I defended your self-righteous ass and here you are doing the same damn thing. INCREDIBLE how the story goes. BACK OFF!"
You have the right to yell at me me? And..in that tone? For what?
Funny thing about being forthright.
A person is on here being forthright because she is not buying into the P/C attitude that we are supposed to have while someone (self-proclaimed bomb) moans a pity party about her terrible marriage and horrible kids. This "bomb" wants to hook up with men without leaving her marriage. She has since proven that is exactly what she is doing. Read the entire post instead of judging and yelling at how a person nails the problem on the head.
I expressed myself about it. I am not an enabler. You are that type.
Of note: I am still that person who came onto POF...with COMMON SENSE and DECENCY.
I have participated in enough posts that I show my genuine concern for people who really need it. People who intend to use do not have my sympathy. Like I said before, we all have our war stories in why we have divorced. Why is hers so special? NOT!
Cheating is cheating.
Edit: Reference to POF and dating sites.
What I have noticed is that it is rife with women and men who all have trust issues. They have been through the hurts of divorce and then with the attitude of seeking something wonderful and new they come on here or on another dating site. They are like innocent babies and in many ways so vulnerable to the cheesy, charming, double-talking predators on here. Predators meaning females and males who only need to seek/ hunt prey so they can feast. These hunters suit themselves up with the ability to "talk the talk and walk the walk". Look at these naive warriors all through this thread going to rescue the fair maiden..(who, we know doean't need rescuing at all).
I have had hurt men who believed in her e-mail me and tell me what she really is like after they had attempted to console her. Nasty work.
What do you think of a married man (or man in long term) who is shopping on here and uses the same tactics to woo some naive woman who has a warm and giving heart? Let me tell you, there are many threads about that on here. The hurt that these non-committal people cause is incredible. They just want to use people as a band aid for their own selfish needs.
That is what I will bare my teeth at.
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 154
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:01:08 PM
lustfullOve...
Old school?...
Your post is just a repeat of what she has been told numerously on here.
No idea what we are talking about? Obviously you haven't read all of the thread.
On thing about being young, blonde and having a name like lustfull on POF you won't have worry about the intelligence factor.
Please...do yourself a favour and don't turn into an aging Britney Spears who uses sex (in it's many baiting forms) to get attention. Look at all the "old school" attractive and beautiful women in the public eye today. They have ennui, they have class, they have style, substance, intelligence and wholesomeness. That is sexy.
OP??....a "bomb"...using this as a way to get a man at her age?
(Excuse me while I retch)....
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 155
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:09:37 PM
Twisted...
This post is about OP. Not me. Stay on topic and bring in something new, please...or get off. Coming late into a thread and throwing your weight around is silly. Trying to flame is Velvet's program and I see you are a good pupil. He would be happy with you.
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 157
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:35:12 PM
supertacu...
Some of the men that this thread attracts...I just read FlexApr's profile.
Now...he could be what you are looking for. Keep us updated after you contact him or he contacts you. Do you have any roses left?
This should be interesting.

Edit: Hmmmm...now where did that guy go to? He must have deleted his post....
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 158
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:51:15 PM
Wallflower.. you tell Twisted to stay on topic, that the thread isn't about you, yet the post right above, of yours is doing exactly what you tell Twisted not to do.

The Opening Poster was looking to hear from anyone that is experiencing the same thing she is.. She DID NOT ask if what she was doing on here was right or wrong.
It is understood that you don't agree with her being on here while being married... It would appear that your need to control and your need for validation in your opinion is boarding on obsessive.
By being married and on a dating site, it would appear that cheating would be premeditated. Not many condone this... I respectfully suggest you Let It Go... You (and one other poster who has obviously not come to terms with her two husbands having cheated on her) are beginning to sound desperate in your attempts for validation of your opinions... Being gleeful over someone elses confusion about what is the best thing for themselves is, at the very least ugly to witness.

@OP: Truthfully, to me ~ after reading some of your latter comments, it seems you are not as confused/feeling lost, as I thought you were.. but rather more lazy than anything. Afterall it is easier to sweep one's sh*t under the rug and not deal.
I hope you get proactive in making a better life for yourself and your young daughter and that you direct some motherly strength and energy towards her and a happier, more fullfiling life ~ wheather that be confronting your husbad about your unhappiness and asking for his help to change your situation, or by getting out of the marriage and starting new.
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 159
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:34:33 PM
To tiresome....wishes granted..
Right or wrong...my opinion is mine about married people going on dating sites.
You should learn to respect that right, madam.
Read the American Constitution and the Canadian one.....
Can't handle forums? Then do something else.
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 161
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Posted: 5/18/2008 11:31:26 PM
^^ No... not any of us who have stuck up for op have condoned her cheating.. We have given her advice about that and about her dismal home life as well.
I don't have sympathy for the fact she is cheating (btw, nowhere is it confirmed that she has cheated only that she is married and has a profile here) Also; it was not a "snide" remark.. it was an observation based on the many posts on the same subject that I've read from this person. Interesting that you immediately jumped to your own defense when no names were ever mentioned!
Those who have "vehemently" taken the Op's side, (at least me anyway) are not condoning her putting herself in a position to cheat.. we are taking her side because we have experience with an alcoholic or with the mind-fvcking decisions that need to be made when we realize that it isn't going to get any better and we need to take action, we also come to her defense because we are horrified with the way some of you treat others with your verbal abuse

To supertacu... you will not be imposing, please feel free to email me anytime.
 ther_mal
Joined: 12/3/2007
Msg: 162
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:33:01 PM
wutznot2love my busines is just that my business. i asked a question something you people obviously have no concept of what the meaning is. a question. not can you give us all the meaning of life because your god who knows eveything as some of you think you are. wallflower question<----- whats with the pickle up your ass about who comes to this site. you didn't create it, you don't pay for it and you don't have the right to dictate who comes here for whatever reason they chose to. married or single. i've seen poeple with not single not looking here who are married. so what ? its none of yours or mine or anybodies busines who comes here. when you become the owner of the site , change what you want. you don't have to live with them or bother with them.
and *cough* *cough* some 19 year olds have more common sense and integrity than some 40 year olds and plus who act like 3 year olds. as to the op. to each their own. are you ladies that jealous that you aren't her. old saying *don't hate me cause you ain't me* . applies here.lol
and there you have it. said so eliquintly by jnh456*** All of us OLD women did not know what we were talking about, just jealous, sure we are.*** quite the mouthfull. and what a mouth.... why do i keep thinking of that movie Hocus Pocus with those e three sisters in everytime i see a post by you ladies hmmmmmm don't know . there is a striking resemblance. lol
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 163
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 1:20:56 AM
ther-mal....
....
my reply to a man who creeps me out by his vitrolic anger at women who are intelligent and have the right to express their opinions....
You and others of your moral fibre can legally be anywhere you want, just can't take the heat, eh?? Usually bottom feeders of the pond like it the darkest and the coldest.

Ahhh...Supertac...if you only knew what men wrote to me and what was said. You have thought about your reply very carefully and you slid over that line of being a liar.
Have fun with your men and life. Just do yourself and your family a favour. Go and talk openly and frankly about your actions to your church's minister or reverend. It might be worth seeing a path that is good for everyone. For every person that gets hurt by your actions ten more feel the brunt of it.

I applaud all of those who have morals and a code of ethics to say something about married people on dating sites. They are there. Parasitic and opportunistic....with their "cry me a river" stories. They were in bars for the last hundred years trying to find their solution.
Remember the local dirty old married man trying to use his Cary Grant style on you? His "my wife doesn't understand me" stories? How the women used to go "eeewww!"
Remember when the old bleached hair hag with no teeth would come sashaying up to your man and try her "bombness" on him?? And he looked at her in disgust? That was old married women in bars back then. It has just moved onto dating sites.
Sadly, because of the P/C that has eroded our codes of decent behaviour, we are pushed into believing that it is ok to be married and cheat. I have read so many threads on here regarding an attitude about marriage that is so very sad.

Our soldiers have lost lives in past wars to defend our right to free speech. That is one of our rights that we can cherish. To denigrate that and to insult someone when they are excercising their right to express an opinion is at best an insult to our soldiers.
If more people took advantage of the fact that we have the right to express our opinions about the questionable moral fibre that exists in our lifestyle, the decaying of our value system that once made us strong and secure, and the lacking of a code of ethical behaviour then we would not be facing horrid people like ther-mal and their ilk.
It is very politically correct to speak up. Do so!
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 164
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:19:18 AM
Those who have "vehemently" taken the Op's side, (at least me anyway) are not condoning her putting herself in a position to cheat.. we are taking her side because we have experience with an alcoholic or with the mind-fvcking decisions that need to be made when we realize that it isn't going to get any better and we need to take action, we also come to her defense because we are horrified with the way some of you treat others with your verbal abuse


Very well-said wishes.

Despite her youth, the 19-year-old that was villified for not having been on the planet longer also hit the nail on the head with respect to what this thread has turned into; childish, petty, flat-out mean crap. The OP knows, for those that feel the need to repeat it over, and over, and over, again, that you feel she is a worthless piece of shit. She also knows that Sherlock Holmes is afoot and has seen through her subterfuge. For those that felt the need to return and tell people that their illusions about the OP were dispelled, that was accomplished and then you too chose to stoop to the level of people you criticize by making a comment with the depth of ninny, ninny, ha ha.

It may be antiquated, but my grandmother always told me that if you do not have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. My translation of that would be we already heard you now you can stfu. And again in case anyone is listening, you attract more bees with honey than vinegar. Realistically, those that continue to make reposts as champions for the children et al, what exactly are you accomplishing by failing to stand by and do nothing? Reminds me of that chick in Memphis that has been sitting on a couch outside the Civil Rights Museum since it opened, protesting it's commercialism. She appears to park her rear on a lot nicer couch than 10 years ago, sells t-shirts (which are obviously not commercial) and I always wonder who the hell is supporting her.

And here's the thing, when you continue to attack someone whether they deserve it or not, eventually you begin to look ignorant and stupid, even if generally speaking you are not. Saying it one more time is not going to make a difference. Continuing to argue about a subject that is essentially without resolution is equally ridiculous and pointless. Even if you are right, people get tired of hearing it and will distance themselves from you and yet again, what have you changed, absofukinglutely not one thing.
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 166
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:51:19 AM
I always suspected that when an OP is getting bashed, and the chronic bashers outweight those with compassion... then the thread never gets deleted. However; when the chronic bashers don't seem to 'win' or, get the majority to agree with them, then 'this thread should get deleted' is voiced. Funny how you don't want it to remain now.. Where was you concern before? I understand this (though find it rather pathetic) afterall, regardless of what your opinion is why would you want decent men seeing via your posts how mean and unyielding you are. There are decent ways to give an opinion that does not agree with an opening post... Thanks for showing (I hope) most of us the way NOT to do it.
*acknowledges galonthemt's post and does not include her in my synopsis*

The OP could have just came on this site and did whatever it is that she wanted to do as far as meeting or dating. She didnt do that.
I agree, the fact that she posted indicates to me that she is indeed looking for clarity, otherwise she could have just joined one of the thousand married folks on here and gone ahead and cheated, not worrying or, giving a sh*t about what any of us people thought about it.

~ Wishes ~
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 170
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 6:52:09 PM
About kids??
My 2 are very productive grownups who are very together, very loving, in stable and functioning relationships. In fact, my daughter is going to be a beautiful bride this year. She is marrying every mother's dream for a son-in-law. He adores my daughter.
My son is with a woman who thinks he is perfection. I am adored and respected by my kids and they spoil me any chance they get. All my friends and acquaintances have always said "How on earth did you get such beautiful children?" I said.."It's because I loved them enough to treat them with decency, love, respect and taught them good values and a decent code of behaviour."
I enjoyed them! I had fun with them. I put them in sports, music and other things so that they could develop self-esteem and learn to challenge themselves in a productive way. They did well at school and college. They never smoked or did drugs. They partied with their peers but not so that it ever became a problem.
I never called them brats and ran them down. How horrible for those kids that this happens to.
This comes from someone who also taught her kids to speak up about peer pressure to do bad things. I taught my kids to have opinions and not be scared to be leaders instead of following a pack of sheep being led by wolves.
I can be proud.
Now I am off the forum. so..if you want to rip me apart...go and do so. I have the last smile and laugh because I have respect.
 ther_mal
Joined: 12/3/2007
Msg: 172
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:05:31 PM
you ladies who seem very bitter from past hurts, keep post sarcastic remarks to anyone who doesn't agree with you. everybody has a right to freedom of speach. and
jnh456 **mean and disgusting no ***. i don't know you , never met you nor ever talked with you before now. but your own words and sarcasm is what forms ones opinion of you. i'm sure to those who know you think very highly of you and you may in fact be a very nice person, but the way in which you replied to my post gave me my impression of you . we all have had people who hurt us in life. and will probably happen again. thing is some of us know to heal and move on taking with us a lesson learned. what the op does is not anybodies business but hers. we get what we give. she will in the end get what she gives. if it be lies and deceit then a measure is reserved for her. what i didn't like was the ignorant remarks slung at others. how some tried to make themselves look so much more inteligent and better than others. trying to dumb down anything said counter to what your views were. we get what we give! while mine may not have been any better i will be big enough to apoligize for anything i said that offended anybody.
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 176
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:46:15 PM
^^^From wutznot2love's msg #234\/\/\/

Why beat a dead horse, is all I'm saying? both sides have strong opinions. Nobody is going to change the minds of 'the other side' and the OP clearly finds this all very amusing so what is the point in continuing? There's people on these forums who are genuinely lost and looking for help. Time would be better spent trying to help them than help someone who never really wanted help to begin with, that's all I'm saying.
I never said delete the thread......I just don't understand why it goes on and on, like the song that never ends. *shrug
From packagedeal:
And here's the thing, when you continue to attack someone whether they deserve it or not, eventually you begin to look ignorant and stupid, even if generally speaking you are not. Saying it one more time is not going to make a difference. Continuing to argue about a subject that is essentially without resolution is equally ridiculous and pointless. Even if you are right, people get tired of hearing it and will distance themselves from you and yet again, what have you changed, absofukinglutely not one thing.
 lenore alexes
Joined: 8/24/2007
Msg: 177
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/19/2008 11:38:20 PM
Hello, listen..i am going through the exact situation you are, and you are not doing anything wrong, i know what it feels like to be lonely and empty inside...be you Chritian,Catholic or whatever. You have given 20 years of your life to a man who sounds like he just doesn't care and who is selfish..My husband also drinks and whever else he is doing,he has een stolen my pain medicine so he could get higher when he drinks beer. I feel your pain, honestly.....it does not matter what anyone on here thinks...why are they on here?...But what i can tell is that you need to meet that one person who will make you feel alive again...and you will!...it does happen, so please don't give up..ok?....everyone has something to say, but only you and you alone know what you need and deserve...Really, as far as i'm concerned i'm only married on a piece of paper,but i don't have a real marriage, and neither do you...So hang in there...i bet anything that you will meet a really nice guy......take one step at a time and honestly, don't listen to these other people....how can anyone be so judgemental...you may be legally married but that's it...I felt the emptiness for many years and now have found a wonderful guy...like i said...one step at a time...you'll do fine...keep your self esteem high and that's it....When i read your messeage,it sounded exactly like me!...so don't give up..ok......you take care
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 180
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:45:53 PM
But what i can tell is that you need to meet that one person who will make you feel alive again...and you will!...it does happen, so please don't give up..ok?....everyone has something to say, but only you and you alone know what you need and deserve...Really, as far as i'm concerned i'm only married on a piece of paper,but i don't have a real marriage, and neither do you...So hang in there...i bet anything that you will meet a really nice guy......take one step at a time and honestly, don't listen to these other people....how can anyone be so judgemental...you may be legally married but that's it...I felt the emptiness for many years and now have found a wonderful guy...


Sometimes people change, and not for the better. I for one have no quarrel with the OP wanting more out of life, but she seems to be seeking support for a "strategy" of finding that "more out of life" by pursuing extramarital romantic relationships,citing finances,concern for breaking up her family and her somewhat faded Christianity as reasons to remain married to this man, whom she claims to love as a parent loves a child rather than as a woman loves her man.
I GET that she hopes to find a man who will help her escape from this sad shell of a marriage. I say she is headed down the wrong path because all she is doing is shifting the responsibility for her own happiness from one man to another.

FORGET all the dogma about cheating, setting a bad example for her kids,whatever! She's just repeating the same damn mistake;looking for a man to provide her with happiness.
We are each responsible for creating our own happiness,and finding someone else who has also created his or her own happiness. And then you SHARE it. If there is a circumstance in your life that puts you out there on your own for a time, you can get through it with equanamity. You may not LIKE not having someone to share your happiness,but you will be able to make your choices about love and relationships with a little bit of good judgement and wisdom.
you need to meet that one person who will make you feel alive again...
and that one person is HERSELF, not a man who's willing to enter into a relationship with another man's wife.

You don't get true happiness from another person, true happiness is something you create for yourself, and you grow that happiness by sharing it. As long as the OP sees her happiness as being dependent upon having male attention, she's gonna screw herself over again, and again. That's what bothers me.

But it sounds like the post from which I've quoted will give the OP what she THINKS she needs...a way to rationalize cheating, by telling herself other people are doing it,too. Sure they are, and for every one that actually leverages themselves into something POSITIVE, there's probably 10 who end up with their *ss in a sling...
Cindy O
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 183
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/20/2008 5:31:11 PM
^^^^^From msg 231
Frankly, I'm not sure why this thread continues.
*sees irony*
 wallflower1
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 184
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/20/2008 5:58:01 PM
Hey...wutznot2luv....
Don't you feel like a mouse in the field... and all of those crows are sitting on the powerlines, beady eyes alert, waiting for you to surface....to make a squeak!
SQUEAK!!!!
They descend on you and try to rip you to pieces....but...we do run fast when we see the black hordes coming.
Ahhhh...that's their life, eh?

To all of super's homies....
This thread is becoming a hamster wheel....

You will argue until the pigs come home....ooops...the cows.
Just know that the silent majority is for honesty, integrity, honour, strength and
justice will prevail. I will not stop with the way that I express myself. If people don't like it, well...get some spine.
When your mother or father had enough of your whininess, I will bet dollars to doughnuts that they were sharp with their words to you and you cleaned up your act fast! Some adults who never grow up still need that kick in the ass*.
Get over it...
 ther_mal
Joined: 12/3/2007
Msg: 190
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:56:26 AM
WALLFLOWER
lol you have the nerve to post this hypocritical crap after all you posted on here to others and ripped them? omg oh poor you
try using your own advice:
Some adults who never grow up still need that kick in the ass*.
Get over it... and yourself.

Don't you feel like a mouse in the field... and all of those crows are sitting on the powerlines, beady eyes alert, waiting for you to surface....to make a squeak!
SQUEAK!!!!
They descend on you and try to rip you to pieces....but...we do run fast when we see the black hordes coming.
Ahhhh...that's their life, eh?

To all of super's homies....
This thread is becoming a hamster wheel....

You will argue until the pigs come home....ooops...the cows.
Just know that the silent majority is for honesty, integrity, honour, strength and
justice will prevail. I will not stop with the way that I express myself. If people don't like it, well...get some spine.
When your mother or father had enough of your whininess, I will bet dollars to doughnuts that they were sharp with their words to you and you cleaned up your act fast! Some adults who never grow up still need that kick in the ass*.
Get over it...
 janedoexyz
Joined: 1/1/2007
Msg: 198
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 7/24/2008 9:00:36 PM
You said it yourself. Your with a child of a man. I believe that kids get a bad lesson when they live through a dead marriage. Better to come from a broken home than to live in one.

I was married for over 10 years to a grown man that acted like a child. He always had money to spend at the bar and denied the family the basic needs, because he needed the money for the bar. I was the only adult around. He would break my rules for the kids as fast as I set them. He didn't believe that kids should have chores, because his sister didn't give her kids chores. I was a servant in my own home. He would raise his fist to me. It was the drinking/ and his ego that got him mad at me.

I don't see you as thinking yourself as better than him. Your crying for help and guidance. A dating site is not the place for it. Yet, I hear you.

Well, you don't have child care issues. A child of 11 is legally allowed to be home alone. I wouldn't recommend it for long periods of time, but it's ok until you get home from work. you need a plan to break away. I know what your going through, it's misery.

There are better sites to contact than this one: It's called hidden hurt dot com. It's a site for anyone that were damaged by their other half.

J.
 ladyinup2013
Joined: 8/22/2009
Msg: 203
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 2/12/2013 1:32:42 PM
I have been single most of my life and refused to live in a relationship where I was unhappy~~but i got tortured for leaving my divorce 25 yrs ago and that pain and abuse is now finally settling~i had one descent relationship in that time but it never went down the aisle~but your youngest one is turning 11, that's a very challenging time already for him/her, as long as you move on, free yourself from all of this, and get your kid in therapy to help deal~but if your ex is/was drinking depression, oh my, you may set off rejection that could turn ugly~~if he wants to separate and divorce too, that's a good sign, go for it, but i tell you, depending on where you are, good luck~your age is still good to hook up and find what you want~i just see some red flags on deep emotions, men don't like it if women leave them~but there is an adult way to do this~hoping you the best~sounds like you are lonely~
 lovefun99
Joined: 6/14/2010
Msg: 204
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 2/14/2013 11:46:50 AM
Oh surprise!
Another 5 year old post that you dredged up to answer when the OP is long gone and everything in this post is now irrelevant.....
 zombiehuntress
Joined: 4/10/2011
Msg: 205
Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 2/27/2013 6:07:22 AM
I was married for twenty years. If you're not happy then end it with divorce. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. My children. And the ex....Staying with someone because of religion or family values is sometimes a very bad idea. None of us are regretting my decision. It's up to you to make yours.
 altosong
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 206
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Been married for 20 years, feel empty.
Posted: 2/27/2013 8:24:17 PM
Drinking behavior..and emotional abuse ...go hand in hand...I just got out...of a nine year relationship...with the man feeling so sorry for himself..It kept bringing me down,No solutions...just lies and deceit..and other women..Sad..Sad..
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