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 9035768
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 76
Just got laidPage 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
For the love of all that is holy, tell us it was the checkout girl!!!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 77
Just got laid
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:01:09 AM

I just got laid.

Half the people in this thread probably just got laid, myself included and I'm guessing not from a cashier - what does that have to do with buying pizza and the employees at the register at Whole Foods?

Did I miss something?
 Sardonis
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 78
Sunshine Happy Day!!!
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:18:09 AM
Half the people in this thread probably just got laid, myself included and I'm guessing not from a cashier - what does that have to do with buying pizza and the employees at the register at Whole Foods?

Did I miss something?


Yeah, you missed what it is like from a guy's perspective.

It means everything is cool in my world. It means all the predictable negativity from those females who never have anything nice to say to a guy is just a bunch of BS that I could care less about.

God bless you.
 Luvztotravel
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 79
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:24:28 PM
Dude you're chasing young immature girls. What do you expect them to do...say thank you old man. Maybe look at the ladies in your own age group for starters. This isn't ment to be mean just a reality check. I get hit on by older guys all the time....in my case they are in their 50s or 60s my reaction is dude I already got a great father.... Oh and my sister works in retail too and complains about all the 30something dudes that make a pass at her. She's about 24.
 jadegreen
Joined: 2/3/2006
Msg: 80
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Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:07:57 PM
Her job is just to check you out....what you view as her giving you orders is just her doing her job....she needed you to do those things so she can get to the next customer...do you think she is checking people out for the fun of it? What planet are you from? It happens all the time to alot of people ( when a checker treats you impersonally). They are tired and underpaid alot of the time....what you see as a "****shield" may simply just be her being "tired and grumpy"....from work....you shouldn't take it impersonally....
 Blargal
Joined: 11/4/2006
Msg: 81
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Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:38:47 PM
There are lots of rude and strange people out there...I work in a gas station....enough said on that one.....see I got a little list in my head and what to do about them at least where I work.

Person on cell phone-either two things here, one be loud and annoying to them or don't even talk to them and see if they do anything about it. If option two happens and they hang up the phone GOOD FOR THEM you can now ring them up and get them out.

person who complains about gas- oh belive me we hear about it day in day out we don't need to hear it anymore, YES gas is high NO I don't get a discount YES gas is only going to get more expensive..ahem anyways if they complain just say "its the gas company sir/miss not me." and no more.

Person who is rude for no reason-don't talk to them don't lash back just get what you have to get done and get them out but make sure for what ever reason they got mad at you for which is 9 times out of 10 not your fault say "thank you sir/miss have a GREAT day" makes them even more mad.

The chitchater- yes folks we do know some of you out there love to chat it up but do realise that even if your content and trying to make our day or whatnot that we are at WORK and need to keep the line moving, the longer you stay, the longer the line gets, the more stress that gets put on us working there.

The underaged teen- look dude i've been there done that but there is NO way i'm EVER going to sell you cigs and lose my job I don't CARE if you have a your fricken highschool id that just dosen't cut it (actually had a girl try that one morning lol) you gotta be born on or before the date of --/--/1990 to get em.

Anyway hope that made some of you laugh I got tons more but it would make this way to long lol. Yes us people who work as a cashier at any kind of store like myself create a kind of "I don't care" sheild i'll ring you up say is that it and have a nice day and thats about it and move on to the next customer, i'll try not to be rude about it but darn it when I hear all day about gas prices being to high or someone being an ass because THEY think THEY are right (customer is always right my ass lol) all day long wears me down like it would anyone else, working a job like that makes you know how many people are rude and inconsiderate towards others. IF you do have that big a problem about it call up the place and report her its very likely what I would of done.
 GreenLass1968
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 82
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:08:00 AM
Having worked in retail I have found that a lot of younger people haven't been taught proper customer service skills (such as handing you your bags of food, etc.). It's not so much that they are rude to you as it is a lack of training.

As far as the girl being friendly to the gay guy in front of you, she probably knew him. The other thing is because she was really friendly with the guy in front of you anything less friendly than that has more of a chance of seeming rude by comparison.

Young women do not have the market cornered as far as rude behavior goes. I have had older men & women practically throw their credit card or money at me and *sigh* loudly when they are picking up their prescriptions - and I am ALWAYS complimented on how pleasant, friendly and helpful I am , so it's not because I was rude. I will admit I don't tend to be AS friendly with them the next time around. Maybe you reminded her of someone who was rude once?
 CanadianBeef
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 83
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:14:41 AM
This thread is retarded and because i'm still drunk from last night, I'm going to add my own retarded comment.

Unfortunately, I seem to have forgotten what it was I was going to say...it was really good in a retarded way too...
 CanadianBeef
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 84
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:17:33 AM

Oh blah blah you just wanted the cute cashier girl to like you and she picked up on that before you got to the till and made sure you wont stay long enough to ask her out.


Hahaha...
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 85
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:58:29 AM
I think the culture and parenting beliefs that have become prevalent here during the last several decades have created far too many habitually rude, repugnant people. "Brought up in a barn," to use an old description. They are the unpleasant types a normal person wouldn't want as a brother, sister, lover, spouse, or even as a co-worker or acquaintance. And yet their upbringing has given them a highly inflated view of their importance.

These people may appear in many forms, of which the sour specimen in Whole Foods is just one. They may also appear as the woman in an upscale bar who asks your income within the first minute of conversation; the guy who takes for granted that he's wonderful (on what grounds he alone knows) and never hesitates to trumpet his delusion to anyone who will listen; or the guy who knows almost nothing about a subject, but seldom lets that stop him from feigning expertise. He hopes his audience is as dim as he is, and that if he argues with enough heat, they won't notice that he's shed no light.
 Immortal_Technique
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 86
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Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:43:32 AM
It's because she wanted the gay guy but the gay guy was into you so she was jealous and rude to you.
 LukeNineteen80
Joined: 4/1/2008
Msg: 87
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:48:31 AM

Oh blah blah you just wanted the cute cashier girl to like you and she picked up on that before you got to the till and made sure you wont stay long enough to ask her out.


Probably what happened.
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 88
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:57:39 AM
Probably. Some younger women act rude when they sense a guy is attracted to them just because they're rude in general. But even the ones who are usually nice may act rude in that situation to discourage him from asking her out. Maybe she has a boyfriend, or, for whatever reason, she's not attracted to the guy. I think women tend to get more skillful at handling unwelcome attention--most of them at forty probably use a lot more finesse than they did at twenty.
 missdolly
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 89
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:13:02 PM
You are not a Reject
just because she doesn't respond to you.

Feel better?


mistressdolly
 LukeNineteen80
Joined: 4/1/2008
Msg: 90
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:15:38 PM
I beg to differ.
 chapter1
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 91
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:29:15 PM
WHY do you really care or for that matter care at all ? If you have to madnate your world on who is kind or unkind to you,,, you need some self assurance !
 GreenOlivesYum
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 92
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:22:52 PM
She was doing her job, she doesnt get paid to coddle your ego. As far as giving you orders, she was telling you what you needed to do in order to make the transaction so that the line can speed up. You already sound like an ass to think that the gay guy was "checking you out", I doubt he was...turning around and glancing at the person behind you does not constitute "checking them out". It's presumptuous self entitled men with big egos that turn women off, maybe thats why she was sour to you, sounds like a perceptive woman.
 chapter1
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 93
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:50:01 PM
Oh i forgot to add before on my last post,,,,
a gay guy checkin u out ,,, hmmm,,,, maybe u really do need attention,,, at any rate,, u r pathetic grow up ,, no one owes you anything !
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 94
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:23:41 PM
GreenOlivesYum,

I'm not going to bat for the OP, but I have no reason to believe his description of what happened wasn't accurate. I wonder why you do. The clerk obviously doesn't get paid to "coddle" the customers' "egos," but no retail salesperson is "doing her job" if she's rude. Why do you doubt that the guy in front of him was doing what he described, and how do you know he only turned around and glanced? You sound very sure about how everything happened, for someone who wasn't there. I hope you apply the same severe standards to yourself that you're applying to the OP. You sound pretty bitter.
 9035768
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 95
Why some people doubt the story
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:13:23 PM

Why do you doubt that the guy in front of him was doing what he described, and how do you know he only turned around and glanced?


We know there are three sides to a story, the op sounds a bit selfish and self-centered and he's blaming poor customer service on one gender.

Customer service is not valued everywhere, some cashiers are really just protecting the store from dishonest shrink they might get from self checkout.
Whole Foods, in my experience doesn't give two flax seeds about customer service. If you can't find what you want, you shouldn't be there. If you have any questions, you should take them up with someone else. If you'd like to know what the chalkboard used to say about this fruit, you should have been here before someone rubbed up against it. This behavior is from male, female and unknown gender employees.

If you're shocked that minimum wagers aren't all gung ho about customer service and work ethics you could very likily be a drama queen. So, that's where our distrust of the op's objective evaluation of the situation comes.

No one will know what happened but the four people involved(him, her, gay guy and the person viewing the security cam) and witness statements are always different, anyway.

I STILL want to know if he got laid by the cashier or not.
That would make a full romantic comedy plot: Guy is rude to girl, girl is rude to guy, guy thinks about her a lot, girl softens, they sleep together, they fight, they make up, they do something stupid and romantic like a wedding or a trip.
 jczapper
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 96
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:25:34 PM
she could have been nice to him because she knew him...obviously tell he was gay........
 GreenOlivesYum
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 97
Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/19/2008 2:59:39 PM
Dude, I tell it like it is and its stupid hetero's who think that every homosexual is checking them out. He said nothing in his post to make me think that the gay guy was doing anything out of the ordinary other than looking in his direction and we arent even sure about THAT , now are we? So, I'd be more inclined to assume that it wasnt much of a "check out" on the gay guy's part.
 Daninsandiego
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 98
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Why do some girls have to be so rude?
Posted: 5/19/2008 6:19:08 PM
I'm with greenolives on this:

The Hetero Fear Factor (tm) is, we're hoping, dwindling as the aging population dies off.

And for those of you who, like me, have never worked retail, or a cash register, know that I go out of my way to engage them, say something funny, take them out of what must be, given the sad level of discourse here, be a terribly frustrating job. Every imagined slight by a clueless homophobe, or simply a long line of disgruntled, angry, fearful, resentful, hurried, harried, hopeless Americans forced to live under the grindingly abusive Bush junta would try the patience of saints.

They're young, they don't make much money, and what would it hurt for you to smile, say something goofy and friendly, because you know:

YOU GET TO WALK AWAY

They have to continue to stand there and take it from whoever is at bat next. I've never had a terrible cashier at Whole Foods. Get OVER it...

cheers,
dan
 Sardonis
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 99
Why do some forum members have to be so angry?
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:36:58 AM
You already sound like an ass to think that the gay guy was "checking you out", I doubt he was...turning around and glancing at the person behind you does not constitute "checking them out". It's presumptuous self entitled men with big egos that turn women off, maybe thats why she was sour to you, sounds like a perceptive woman.


Who are you to tell me what I experienced?

Your opinion reeks of hypocrisy.

How do I know when a gay man is checking me out?
How do you know when a straight guy is checking you out? Maybe they are just glancing in your direction and not at you. How presumptuous of you!

What makes you think you are so "hot, cute, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous" that you have to warn potential admirers in your profile to dare not compliment you or else you will ignore them? WOW! Talk about a girl being rude. And you think I have an ego?

At least I don't take it for granted. I was flattered by the gay man checking me out. I don't take it for granted that some people will notice me.

I would not be rude to him, like the cashier girl who was rude to me, even though his glances were much more obvious than mine.

Anyways cashier girl is just water under the bridge now.
 GreenOlivesYum
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 100
Why do some forum members have to be so angry?
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:57:50 PM
I dont go around thinking that every guy is checking me out just because he looks in my direction, I seldom even notice..unless the guy is TELLING me he's interested or thinks im hot..which is what happens HERE, when I get stupid emails telling me how HOT I am. Yes, I know Im attractive, I have a healthy self esteem..I dont need mindless emails telling me so, I like intelligent men who have more to say than a comment on my looks. I dont think that is so unrealistic to expect. So, you still havent told us how this gay man was "checking you out"....and what that has to do with anything even if he was. You sound homophobic.
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