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Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 33
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Yes, I do believe autoerotic activity may be construed as "cheating" if the hand or hands belong to a body OTHER than the.... ahem "subject" individual.

Emotional cheating can also occur even if the person is alone.

For example, if the behavior goes BEYOND the usual garden variety self-abuse or "flogging" and entails "setting the stage" for romance with mood music, a favorite meal, dim lights, and a couple of chilled wine glasses on the nightstand (one glass for each hand) and accompanying conversation with oneself ("You look particularly lovely tonight, Dearest"...or coyly murmuring "C'mon, Honey, for me?"), then I suppose this behavior could invoke a modicum of resentment or insecurity in the other person, especially if she should happen to "walk in on" or "catch" the guilty party "red-handed."

Cheekily submitted,

 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 34
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:39:23 AM
Funny thread, masturbation is cheating, thats a good one
Joined: 4/26/2008
Msg: 35
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:38:32 PM
damn your sister got some serious issues,,she is gonna end up like my ex all alone and wishin she had taken care of her man, if that is cheating i cheated on my ex every day until i found a real girlfriend to do it for me..and guess what ladies that means yessssss i F'in cheated on my ex wife get the F over it .. women that deny there spouse will all eventually get what they deserve and i'm probably the only guy on here willing to admit it...
Joined: 6/8/2007
Msg: 36
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:26:50 AM
Wow, was my post deleted for being too harsh? I stand by my statement. It's not opinion - it's FACT. Masturbation is not cheating, despite how any woman might try to twist it.
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 37
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:52:42 AM
[/In my book cheating is someone who is in a relationship or married that chooses to carry on an online relationship with a member of the opposite sex or goes out and physically sleeps with someone. Masterbating is healthy, natural, and normal whether in a relationship or not. No it's not cheating.]

So its not cheating if its a member of the same sex? What constitutes as same sex? A woman who is a woman, A man who's a man, a woman who used to be a man, and a man that used to be a woman?

So if your married, and/or in a relationship, two bananas can dance, to kitties can purr, but a banana and a kitty cant play?

I think its in the way you said it, I dont think thats what you ment, but I am just pickin on ya! lol
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/5/2008 9:39:35 AM
--Masturbation is sex with someone I love (stolen from Woody Allen)

oh thas funny.
that girl is crazy, and her bf, sounds like some lame guy, who should never disgrace the rest of the male population, if he calls himself a man... id probly break it off with anyone sooo quick if they ever told me not to do it, lol thas hilarious.... if that is cheating, then that explains why ever girl keeps smashing my car and burning my clothes
Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 39
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:47:07 AM
Jersey girl, you are so beautiful and I am into woman in your age range but hit me back some how...I feel a positive vibe..
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 40
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:35:03 PM
Normally, I'd say No, it's not. BUT, if s/he's masturbating *instead* of making love to the partner, it's something like cheating. But then, the relationship's already gone South, hasn't it?

Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 2/5/2009 7:18:13 PM
Will wet dreams, morning woodys = cheating then?
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 2/7/2009 1:14:11 PM
A)Your sister definitely has issues
B)Masturbation is not cheating
C)Your sister's boyfriend should grow some balls
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 2/7/2009 1:19:32 PM

Secondly, I was just having a self sex session and I nearly knocked over my lamp, rearranged my furniture as in the mattress nearly came off the bed, sheets came off, drink fell on the floor, I would say that masturbation is room even smells like sex, and I even broke a sweat and now I'm tired...I love having sex with least I know what I like, want, and need...

Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 3/18/2009 3:35:59 AM

I was resently talking to my sister and she told me she "does not let" her man masturbate, she also tells me how she is really never in the mood for sex. Even when I am a relationship and the sex is great I still feel the need to take care of things for myself from time to time, I even find it a turn on to watch a guy "take care" of his needs. I just want to know are there other people out there who think like my sister, do you agree that masturbation is cheating?

My ex tried that attitude on me once. Geez. Thats the ultimate in jealousy and control if you ask me.
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/23/2009 4:38:47 PM
I masturbate but I do not feel it's cheating.I have no problem with my lady masturbating either.
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/16/2009 10:04:11 PM
If I am in a relationship I don't like to get myself off, that is for when we are together. If I am having to take care of it my self I will be leaving soon to find someone I am compatible with but will give her a chance first. As for the OP's sister that does not put out and tells him he can't she is controlling and needs to stop or let him go.
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 47
Posted: 11/17/2009 2:51:15 PM

an yes i masturbate - i beat that thang like it owes me money sometimes

Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:02:29 PM
So she does not let her man masturbate when she's not around.

What does she do, keep weighing his balls or something?

She's pretty fcuked up.
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 11/26/2009 12:39:57 AM
This is a funny question actually. I personally don't think so, but don't shove it in your partners face. My brother's GF knows he does it, but she really doesn't want to see his bugs her, but other wise she doesn't care.
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 50
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Posted: 11/26/2009 8:55:24 PM
No.I don't think masturbating is cheating and I wouldn't have any woman telling me not to do it.I had ex-girlfriends that masturbated and I was cool with it.
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 51
Posted: 9/2/2013 5:55:23 AM
Masturbation is cheating? That's absurd. She sounds overly jealous. She sounds like she is pushing this poor guy to cheat for real.
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 9/2/2013 2:24:53 PM
The only person that's getting cheated here, is the therapist that should be collecting your sisters money.
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 53
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Posted: 9/6/2013 8:56:58 AM
My first wife was like your sister. It didn't end well.
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 54
Posted: 12/30/2016 5:27:10 AM
Some have a stronger drive...even during a relationship or marriage.....its self satisfying and needed sometimes....lets say a pressure relief....on both sides and as long as BOTH sides give into each other when they need from each other its all good!....its when it gets into the way that's not good because intimacy is the glue for a relationship and a melting pot for lack of better words during that time!
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 55
Posted: 12/30/2016 8:27:20 AM
If you have feelings for someone other than your partner and you fantasize about making love to them I'd question why you're with the one you're with.

Otherwise, have at it !
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 56
Posted: 12/30/2016 10:28:47 AM

IMO there's a grand canyon dif between attraction and FEELINGS

Capice ?

Kaploosh ?
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 57
Posted: 12/31/2016 4:28:25 AM
Sounds like they have a FLR that may include male chastity. Which begs the questions, "How does she control his ability to masturbate?" and, "Does she have him locked in a male chastity device?"
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