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Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 127
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If I am in a relationship I don't like to get myself off, that is for when we are together. If I am having to take care of it my self I will be leaving soon to find someone I am compatible with but will give her a chance first. As for the OP's sister that does not put out and tells him he can't she is controlling and needs to stop or let him go.
 sweet lady Lori
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 128
Posted: 11/17/2009 9:28:07 AM
Cheating is having sex with someone other than the person you are commited to...while masterbation can be considered a form of sex, it's with yourself, so not sure how that could even be clasified as cheating.

As for your sister ~ does she really think her husband DOESN'T do this because she "does not let" him? LOL!! She must be quite naive!
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 129
Posted: 11/17/2009 2:51:15 PM

an yes i masturbate - i beat that thang like it owes me money sometimes

Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 130
Posted: 11/23/2009 6:59:07 PM
Your sis is definitely paving the grounds for her husband to cheat or even leave her.

I know someone in this scenario, minus the can't masturbate.
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:02:29 PM
So she does not let her man masturbate when she's not around.

What does she do, keep weighing his balls or something?

She's pretty fcuked up.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 132
Posted: 11/24/2009 3:39:09 PM
LOL!! You must know how absurd your sister's take on his masturbation is. I mean, quite aside from the philosophical stance, how does she enforce her rule?
btw- why did those goats faint on ya?
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 133
Posted: 11/24/2009 4:07:57 PM
It's not cheating at all to me. Go ahead. Go nuts!
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 134
Posted: 11/25/2009 10:10:26 AM

That is absurd. How can you cheat with yourself?

If you are single and a right handed masturbator, are you cheating on yourself if you use your left?
 Wild DNA
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 135
Posted: 11/25/2009 12:19:35 PM
Well.. when sister wakes up single one day because her man got sick and tired of her "not letting him" be a man. She may want to learn the art of masturbation! lol

Oh this should be fun!

Ya...she's off the wall!
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 136
Posted: 11/25/2009 6:26:44 PM
I'm about to cheat...
Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 137
Posted: 11/26/2009 12:03:10 AM
Quite frankly. I think masturbating strangely teaches learn how to pull back and prolong things for when it's the time for the real deal. Your sister's old man must be a one-pump chump because he has a lot of anxiety and tension built's healthy to let if fly once in awhile.
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 138
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Posted: 11/26/2009 12:39:57 AM
This is a funny question actually. I personally don't think so, but don't shove it in your partners face. My brother's GF knows he does it, but she really doesn't want to see his bugs her, but other wise she doesn't care.
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 139
Posted: 11/26/2009 7:13:29 PM
I think there is more than meets the eye here. IMHO, it sounds like they have a Domme/sub relationship., based on the fact that she says she "does not let" him masturbate. I believe he is what is known in the BDSM community as a "Cuckhold".
Male chastity is a bonnafide fetish.
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 140
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Posted: 11/26/2009 8:55:24 PM
No.I don't think masturbating is cheating and I wouldn't have any woman telling me not to do it.I had ex-girlfriends that masturbated and I was cool with it.
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 141
Posted: 11/26/2009 8:59:07 PM
im suprised at how many pages this thread has accumulated..obviously touching oneself in a sexual manner isn't cheating. that kind of thought makes no logical sense at all.
Joined: 2/12/2008
Msg: 142
Posted: 11/27/2009 4:47:30 PM
Your sisters husband thinks about other women in a sexual way my point is is that cheating as well lo l

Tell your sister not to be so demanding as she was when you were kids time for her to set her selve free and let hubby have a wank lol He does anyway and if she believes he doesnt shes more backward than i thought .
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 143
Posted: 11/27/2009 6:46:28 PM

I'm about to cheat...

.... and if you tell on yourself before you actually do it.... it is especially not cheating.
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 144
Posted: 11/27/2009 7:02:53 PM
Absolutely not. I have no reason to believe that masturbating is cheating. I think your sister is setting herself up for failure. I have never heard of anything so ridiculous..."she won't LET him masturbate". She appears to be very controlling...if I were him, I'd run away, as fast as I could.
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 145
Posted: 12/9/2009 12:49:03 PM
Amen to that Gman :-)
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 146
Posted: 12/9/2009 2:23:27 PM

I was resently talking to my sister and she told me she "does not let" her man masturbate, she also tells me how she is really never in the mood for sex. Even when I am a relationship and the sex is great I still feel the need to take care of things for myself from time to time, I even find it a turn on to watch a guy "take care" of his needs. I just want to know are there other people out there who think like my sister, do you agree that masturbation is cheating?

Nope, not cheating. Super healthy IMO actually.
Your sister sounds like a real gem. Lucky guy he is. I don't think my eyes can roll any further into the back of my head. I would actually encourage this guy to cheat on her.
Joined: 10/22/2009
Msg: 147
Posted: 12/9/2009 2:52:24 PM
Nope. It may not be the prettiest thing to do, but it's not at all the worst either. Especially if you are masterbating while thinking of your special other, there is no harm in that.
Joined: 2/16/2008
Msg: 148
Posted: 1/2/2010 4:16:09 AM
Absolutely ridiculous. The only possible way that it could be seen as cheating, in my book, is if he was CONSTANTLY using porn (not his imagination, etc) in aide to come or he was using webcam girls/cybersex. If it's just in the shower/some porn/imagination/a magazine, etc then that's just his way of taking care of any extra tension if I am not available or he wants 'me time'.... She can't entirely watch him 24/7- he's going to do it behind her back, ESPECIALLY if she isn't having sex with him to make up for her ban on his masturbation!! Good Lord! Poor guy.... He will go elsewhere for sure, if she keeps that up!!
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 149
Posted: 9/2/2013 5:55:23 AM
Masturbation is cheating? That's absurd. She sounds overly jealous. She sounds like she is pushing this poor guy to cheat for real.
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 150
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Posted: 9/2/2013 2:24:53 PM
The only person that's getting cheated here, is the therapist that should be collecting your sisters money.
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 151
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Posted: 9/6/2013 8:56:58 AM
My first wife was like your sister. It didn't end well.
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