Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Off Topic  > What is your real goal for dating?      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 1
What is your real goal for dating?Page 1 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
I wonder...do you have real goal for dating from dating site...and what is it?
Is it number of dates you have in month...every time...with different people...or nice companion for lunch...dinner...or...anything else?
 tinkerbellcgy
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 2
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:38:34 PM
Are you supposed to get dates from this site? Well, golly gee whiz, I've been on here for nearly three years and all I've been doing is living vicariously through other people and reading the forums. Go figger, eh?

Seriously, I couldn't care less if I ever had a date. I've discovered that I can't be bothered going through the motions of meeting, greeting and tossing all in the blink of an eye or in the time it takes to read an e-mail.

But, as Ageless Wonder says "I do enjoy the forums".

Tink
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 3
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:02:04 PM
^^^Agrees with *browser59* Boy, did we have high expectations or what? ~scratches head~ Still somewhat of a goal but I have no expectations. I don't search much anymore, I play on the forums and IF someone finds me then so be it, if not then ~shrugs~ What was it *WaterDoggin* said in another thread......."someone who comes along that trips my trigger* along with all the customary other things. hehehe

(sighs) I like the "pool" in Canada though..........
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 4
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:33:52 PM
...I don't know so much about goals but I did have a wish.......that my knight in shining armour would come along and sweep me off my feet....we would fall madly in love and live happily ever after....but alas, that has not happened.
Unfortunately I'm part of another fairytale....the one where the delusional princess keeps kissing those damn frogs.

...maeflowers
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 5
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:14:02 PM
My goal was to meet a nice man, become friends and spend time together. I met such a man 4 months ago and we are in an exclusive, loving relationship. So it's worked out even better than I'd hoped. Same for him. He, too, was just looking for a friend to spend time with. We both found that and so much more.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 6
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:41:14 PM

You do know that when you say about kissing frogs it's insulting to men and makes you sound stuck in a girlhood fantasy? Of course you do.


Payback for all the porn fantasies men have about women :P

I always thought the goal of dating was to find out about someone, see if you were compatible for a long term relationship. While I do enjoy the forums, I would prefer to find someone and never have to read another profile, I think some are lowering my IQ! I dont think you have to have someone in your life to be happy, move forward without them by having a happy life of your own...but to me having someone is like butter on your bread, or frosting on your cake...just makes life better!
 Celticmist
Joined: 2/1/2005
Msg: 7
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:38:33 PM
No matter what your profile reads beachbex - somebody will read something into it that you don't intend. Relax, be yourself, have fun, and ignore the people who tell what you should, or should not do.

I came here to make friends, meet people and socialize, and perhaps meet someone who would become more than a friend - so far, 2 out of 3 ain't bad.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 8
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:56:23 AM
...My real goal?..eventually, I want to meet someone nice, settle down, maybe have a couple of kids...oops scratch that last one haha...
In all honesty OP, I haven't set any goals, actually going on a "real date" has been an obstacle I need to overcome first.


...maeflowers
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 9
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:37:40 AM
It appears to me that the real goal of dating is to find a relationship which obviates the need to ever date again. Strangely, people generally do not like to date. Its fraught with stress, uncertainty, expense, rejection and is very time consuming. Most people would rather have the question of who they will be with next week settled so they can get on with doing stuff they really would prefer to do, like weeding the garden, sitting by the pool, watching TV and painting the laundry room.

Unfortunate that the process of getting rid of dating in one's life involves intensive dating!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 10
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:02:47 AM
VERY astute observation rearguard! I totally agree, my goal is to become comfortable enough with someone that it doesn't matter if they stop by while I'm all sweaty from mowing the grass, that I have green feet and hat hair underneath by baseball cap...they'll still find me gorgeous even without makeup and heels!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 11
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:57:02 AM
I agree with "gem"........it is the overall social aspect of this site, and meeting others to do things with..........

If one stands out and the attraction is there to create much chemistry, that becomes an added benefit, but overall, the point of dating is to have another or others to do things with, and not have to do them alone.

Meeting and greeting is awesome when it works and the potential is there for more, but if not, then you need a base of friends to enjoy doing things with and creating a network that expands your opportunities for fun and adventure.

Just my opinion.......
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 12
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:43:36 AM
My goal from a dating site? Has anyone answered 'Get a date' yet?
 deeya0309
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 13
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:53:11 AM
my hope/wish is to find someone special that i really click with and it grows from there. i hate dating. but i have made some really neat friends along the way.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 14
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:54:49 AM

My goal from a dating site? Has anyone answered 'Get a date' yet?



...Yeah...if you go back and read my last post I think I mentioned my # 1 obstacle was to actually go on a "real" date haha

One of the above posters made the same assumption that I did when first joining POF...that this process (joining a dating site) should be relatively easy with regards to getting out there and dating....I mean how hard could it be right? .....Wake -up call.

....maeflowers
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 15
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:15:18 PM

What is your real goal for dating?

Regardless of the "source" of the date(s), be it this site, some other site or IRL, my goal is to keep my integrity and what's left of my sanity intact.

Here of late I often find myself wondering WTH is WRONG with me; I actually have it pretty good,despite the limitations imposed by health and modest finances, I DO live my life on my own terms! So why do I want to keep dating and risk screwing that up?
Beats the hell outa me.
Cindy O
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 16
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:06:09 PM
browser...
I love your post!

I would like to say opposite...my initial goal was to meet a wonderful man...and sweep him off his feet...and the rest is the same...as yours...
 MacKevinized
Joined: 2/15/2006
Msg: 17
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:20:28 PM
I have no goals. I don't want to lose so I'm not going to play. Football players risk bad knee joints and have short carreers, hockey players get their teeth knocked out and with my martial arts background I'd rather chop up those sticks with my knuckles or break them over my head. I'm not built for basketball so that's out.
I'm just content to hang out and question absurd assumptions.
 recall
Joined: 6/1/2005
Msg: 18
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:22:31 PM
To find sex,companionship,heir, and my biggest fan (I'm an actor.).xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 19
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:28:24 PM
Are you sure...you are all right?
Even in sports...sitting on the reserve bunch...you can find good friendship...if the game is fair...
 TxSippiGal
Joined: 9/30/2007
Msg: 20
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:45:11 PM
My original goal when I joined POF was to have one decent date a month.. For me that was dinner out with a man who was polite, who could carry on a conversation, and who was clean and used deoderant.

I can report that I have far exceeded my goal and have met some fabulous men.

I am not necessarily expecting to meet the love of my life on here.. I am open to it though and I am open also to meeting nice men for the purpose of having some plesant conversation and even make a new friend.

I have made a couple of new friends through this site.. one.. was a man I dated in December and he dumped me for someone else.. hahaha.. turned out she is THE ONE!!! I have met her and think she is wonderful.. I am continuing my friendship with the both of them.. so I have gotten two for one now!!!
 Beaugrand®™©
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 21
view profile
History
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:05:35 PM
There is a spot in the middle of my back I can't reach.
Naturally, that spot develops an itch, and I need a SO willing to scratch it.
Seriously.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 22
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/23/2008 1:18:13 PM

There is a spot in the middle of my back I can't reach. Naturally, that spot develops an itch, and I need a SO willing to scratch it. Seriously.


My father always backed into the doorframe and would see-sawed back and forth against it if my Mom was busy cooking etc. (Just trying to be helpful!)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 23
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:03:42 AM

OK, I will do the honorable thing and give you a straight, direct open and honest answer....,

It's to get the hell out of the dating scene!

I don't want it, don't like it, or look forward to it. But I realize it is part of the process to find a match for a committed relationship.



...Light bulb moment.... I think that about sums it up for most of us....geez, why didn't I say that?

...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 24
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:30:46 AM

Hi Mae,

Hmm? Maybe you did'nt say it because your profile says DATING!

Wanna fess up now? lol



....Ah ha, you caught me...but in all honesty I prefer to just date for now, someday yes.... As I said many times in other posts, the next committed relationship I enter will probably be my last, I don't want to jump into anything... I want to take my time, I want to be sure.

Hopefully, I will be fortunate enough to meet "the guy" BEFORE I enter the retirement home haha

...maeflowers
 Celticmist
Joined: 2/1/2005
Msg: 25
What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/25/2008 12:23:04 AM

I don't call it "dating" any more after a discussion of whether or not saying it is a date means you are going to have sex. Geeze Louise, I must be gettin' old. So I have already stopped "dating" completely until I figure out what the heck that means.


Continue "dating" Wayward - it stills mean just dating LOL You just can't help what others read into things and a simple "no" fixes any misconceptions.
Show ALL Forums  > Off Topic  > What is your real goal for dating?