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 python69
Joined: 6/22/2006
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society does have its inbalances or tend to be hypocritical.if a guy sleeps with 6 girls in a week hes a player or a baller or a real romeo .but if a woman sleeps around shes a whore which is sooooo wrong .your sexual appetite is not measured by gender .as long as you are safe in choosing partners .........
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:44:23 AM
First off it is absolutely no ones business how many people you have slept with! As for women not telling - who would want to put themselves out there to be held up to judgemental attitudes and Innuendo. A smart person never asks - it helps with the trust factor in a relationship!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:46:38 AM
im with you trish i cant see what relevance how many sex partners anyone has had ...has on anything ive went through many stages in my life ....some chaste... some promiscuous ...some by choice ....some by force ...and now all im interested in is being someones current only one.... I will never ask about past lovers ....If you share info about past lovers itwill be because you wanted to ....and then i will never judge
 cayote136
Joined: 4/30/2008
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 9:57:58 AM
It's EGO pure and simple, And takink that into account they are more than likely not tell ing the truth anyway!!!!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 10:35:57 AM
Uh Deerdog are you saying you've been raped?


ha ha yea it did look like i was saying that ...no t ment i have been forced to be chaste...aka couldnt get laid


If she's slept with every walking stick out there, obviously she wouldnt be


and why would that be ...do you not believe in change ...do you not believe in redemption ...have you never done anything you were ashamed of ...if i was promiscuous in my teens am i damaged goods now ... if i slept around in the past can i not be faithful now ......do we not learn from our mistakes????? or is there a statute of limitations om promiscuity.....if you truley believe this way ...so be it ...I believe with every moment we have the power to change if we have the will ....how can we judge what kind of person someone is by their past acts ? no mater how bad how can we say that we would have done any better if in their shoes at that time in their life ....its fine if you refuse to forgive someone that wrongs you ...thats your loss ....but how can any act done before she /he knew you be done against you

what is the limit on sexual partners ...when do i arive at the point where one more makes me a slut/ satar .....for the most part all the people i have slept with were one at a time ...and most of them were the one at that time ...why then do i owe you or anyone a count or a reason ...take me as i am or take your ass elsewhere
 SheKnowsWhatSheNeeds
Joined: 4/21/2007
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 1:44:46 PM
It's that retarded double standard. Men go around sleeping with a bunch of women, and sometimes are encouraged to do so to be viewed as studly and experienced, and when a woman tries to do the exact same thing, she's then viewed as a slut, a whore, nasty, dirty and immoral.
It's about time women turned this around. I enjoy sex as much as any man, and if someone wants to call me a name because of it, I'd just view them as jealous and intimidated and completely ignore what they have to say on the matter.
 SheKnowsWhatSheNeeds
Joined: 4/21/2007
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/23/2008 1:49:51 PM
You know, sometimes my reason is a good as any other - just a good, well needed physical release.
 FrndlyStrgr
Joined: 12/6/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2008 6:49:02 PM
OP, you made that assertion and everybody seems to have just accepted it as true. As for myself, I find that women just can't resist talking about at least their last (last few) relationships, including the sex. I really don't care to hear about it. And I don't feel that the girl currently in my life needs all kinds of lurid details about my past sexual escapades, either. Unfortunately, my unwillingness to listen to the last girlfriend exorcise her demons re. her last ex, has made ME her last ex. I guess we live and learn.
 vaxplant
Joined: 6/19/2007
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:38:35 AM
Ya know here's a real simple and basic concept folks:

Don't ask questions you really don't want to know the answer to.

It's just that simple, and sometimes a little selective ignorance is a good thing.

For those of you arguing that sex to you is a "selective and sacred bond" or "trust" when you DO ask that question of your partner, you're really asking them to violate that bond/trust with every other person they've ever shared it with.

How can you possibly ask someone to violate a trust with another person, and then demand they don't violate it with you, and then pat them on the back for the hipocricy? Serioulsy, wtf is your head at?

The lady that I am currently seeing and I both know we've been around the block a few times, and neither of us is the lowest mileage car on the lot. Neither of us really wants to check the odometer, we've more concered with the body work, wiring and if the engines are still in good working order.

Seriously guys, get over it. Read a few books, learn a few cool things in the bedroom, rely less on her inexperience to make your inexperience acceptable, and rely more on your education and ability to bring the "A" game to the bedroom any and everytime.
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:08:11 PM
As other posters have already noted, double standards STILL exist!
I don't "show off" anything about my dating. Then again, I am not as young as some of the posters here.
I have nothing to prove to my little friends in the school locker room--jesus. . .what a question. . .
See if this shocks any of you barely old enough to be online by yourselves. . .Not only do I NOT show off. . .I don't go around sticking my c0ck into every pu$$y i am offered either!
It is a lot less awkward if you keep things quiet and can manage to wake up to and at least LIKE every woman you just had sex with/made love to, you know?
I have DATED a number of women BUT I have NOT shared my c0ck with all of them.
 InstantKarma620
Joined: 1/11/2008
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/6/2008 2:32:20 PM
This thread brings up another question (and if anyone has already asked it on this thread I apologize...I haven't read all of the posts).

When in a serious relationship, and if brought up in conversation, should a couple share with each other how many partners they've had? If in love why would it be so bad to share this?

As far as why women lie about it...well that's obvious. And I can't really blame them. I think many men on the other hand include how many times they've masterbated along with the amount of women they've slept with just to get the number higher. LOL However, I can see a man who has slept with MANY MANY women telling his significant other or a woman he's interested otherwise if he feels it may scare her off.
 InstantKarma620
Joined: 1/11/2008
Msg: 30
Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:57:19 AM

Being paid would mean they were a gigolo or escort! LOL


How does one get a job like that? I may want to supplement my income someday. Would I need to print out business cards? Would I have to sleep with ugly women?
 InstantKarma620
Joined: 1/11/2008
Msg: 31
Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/8/2008 7:37:55 PM

Not really sure! Business cards would help but what would you print on them? Perhaps Studly Doright? LOL Best suggestion though would be a billboard! Yes you would probably have a few unsavorable clients, but hey make them buy you lots of liquor beforehand! Good luck with your new business venture!


Hmmmm...A billboard. Not very discreet but I'm sure it would be very effective. LOL This also might save me a lot of time networking. OK, I'll do it! LOL Can I borrow the Studly Doright name? Now all I need to do is figure out how much to charge. How much can a gigalo in his mid 40's charge for his services. I guess at my age I should charge by the minute.
 exiss
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 32
Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:29:21 PM
Personally, I don't think it should be an issue at all, but I do understand the reasons why it is. I, myself have little interest in dating someone that hasn't been around the block as it were......
 CoyotePrince
Joined: 11/2/2007
Msg: 33
Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:52:23 PM
Its funny cause every serious partner i've had has always brought up how many women i've been with. Yet when I ask them its usually a response of "its in the past, it doesn't matter"...I don't brag about how many women i've been with. Its not important. But it does make me wonder when a women's elusive after asking me this question. My SO bugged me for a week, until I finally told her, give or take a few I forgot or don't remember. I let it drop, and thankfully its never been brought up again. As for why guys brag... Never really understood it tbh...And well never really understood why women hide it. I suppose some would think a high number would signify them as a slut or something. As a guy...well I guess that tells other guys and women that they are a sexual lion. To me it just means more experience coming my way. I'm not a jealous type though. So ya...Should not really be an issue.
 blacksword404
Joined: 7/4/2007
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Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:15:33 AM
Well it's a double standard. And it's womens fault. A slut is a slut whether male or female. But when men for a woman for marriage he doesn't look for the biggest slut around. Why? Because you can't turn a hoe into a housewife. We look for a woman that is as close to pure as we can find. Children tend to not respect mothers that sleep with everything around.Women look for the opposite. They want a man who knows his way around a womans body. Has experience. Just ask yourself a simple question ladies. When you look at qualities in a man Is virginity something you look? If he was a very good match in most other ways but had only been with one woman and then decided he wanted to wait for marriage how many of you would like him more because of it and how many of you would discard him because of it? Be honest. About 3%-5% of you might stick with him. The rest of you would drop him like an elbow. A man that's good in bed can choose any woman he want's because his talents are in demand. So the woman that gets to keeps him for herself is the envy of all the other women. A woman that captures a man like that gains respect. A man that captures a woman like that loses respect.
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 35
Why do girls usually tend to hide and Guys want to show off how many people they have slept with?
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:50:37 AM
I think that society's views are changing. Fifty years ago when STD's could be fixed by a shot or a pill, "sleeping around" didn't have the negative connotations (for men) that it has today. I can't speak for the women, but I wouldn't think that they meet a man that has had sex with hundreds of women, and figure "lucky me, I found an experienced stud". Plus, now that I'm in my mid-forties, it's just a given that the women I date have been having sex for over half their life. I never ask "how many", and as I've only been asked once or twice, I don't think it's a common question.
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