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Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 2
Sensuality in your 50's.....Page 1 of 14    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14)
It is funny...that we want men at our age...but they are chasing younger women...
We are not looking for younger men...but they are chasing us...
So...who is who?
Joined: 5/23/2008
Msg: 3
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:15:54 AM
OMG! Are they missing out! Sure, there are some, a few women in their 50's who just aren't "sexual" or want to be sexual anylonger, but you cannot catagorize ALL women 50 and up that way! I know I don't fall into that one...
I more sensual, sexual(not as in active mind you) than I was when I was younger. Good grief....THEN..I didn't really know anything! Today, I know what I want, what I do and do not like, and I'm not afraid to ask for it. Age is but a number....MEN...get over it! "WOMAN" is way better than "GIRL"
Try it, you just may be very pleasantly surprised! Here's to us more mature, sensual women, may we continue all the way till the day of eternal slumber!!!!
Joined: 9/26/2006
Msg: 6
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:41:23 AM
OP - you just have to chalk it up to the variety of personalities here.

There are many men my age want younger women. As well as woman who want younger men. It's all about preference. I prefer to meet someone who can relate to my life as it is now, and hopefully that is someone relatively close in age.

Personally, I have earned every gray hair, every scar and every laugh line that I have. I know how old I am and am perfectly content with this phase of my life.

Greatday1000 pinned it - sensuality is a mindset.

Don't let this discourage you in the least.
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 8
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:15:29 PM

The guy who wrote that email is full of cow excrement. He merely likes younger women, but for some reason, feels as if he must justify his likes.

Don't let it bother you--there are LOADS of young men who like older women because of our sensuality and experience.
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 9
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:38:03 PM
OP, you're not being too sensitive, IMO. Obviously, this man doesn't have a clue that women can be sensual at ages other than in their 40s, and that while we do want a companion, we want all that goes with that, also. You don't say how old this guy is, but from his comment it sounds like he's past his 40s...I'd have asked him if he had a huge supply of viagra, since it's generally men who have issues with performing as they get older; heck, even guys in their 30s are having problems nowadays, whether from too much alcohol, something as common as bike riding too much, and just not having the knowledge or caring enough to make it pleasurable for their partner along with themselves. Too bad most of these types of guys don't realize that when a woman finds a man who really knows and enjoys what they're doing, and who cares about his partner, then the woman is likely to become even more sensual, leading to a heck of a lot more of it happening ;) And that makes it pretty tough for other men to compete with.
Joined: 9/20/2006
Msg: 10
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:42:11 PM
Ah, Romance Lover, his loss.....purrrrrrrr! Maybe you should have written back and said, "Well, I usually don't date men over XY years, but it seemed like you might have been able to keep up with me." Yeah, he is missing out on a LOT!
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 11
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:19:38 PM

sentimental...big choice to find something between...
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 12
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:06:33 PM
"To be honest I usually only date ladies in their 40's, not because I like them younger, but older ladies my age don't like the activity and are not as sensual, they want companions more than a sensual partner." Wow is he missing out on a whole bunch of sexy ...sensual ladies in their fifties....just had to say that....I don't exactly feel like I am ready for a nursing home yet...Am I being too sensitive?
In my humble opinion this man knows not what sensuality truly is. Sounds to me, he is confused about the mechanical act of sex and the subtle sensualness a partner can bestow upon their partner.
I for one think you are lucky to not have wasted any effort..

 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 13
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:49:22 PM
...He obviously does not know the difference between sensuality and sexuality. Sensuality is more about the senses, when we were younger we were not truly "aware" or thought too much about the senses, we only knew what made our bodies feel good. But as we age we have learned to appreciate, enjoy and embrace those sensations. We are far more confident, self-assured and we have experience ( and not just in the bedroom)....we know what we want and what we don't want.... we are more aware of our bodies than we have ever been.

Try having a glass of white wine and then biting into a sweet juicy strawberry, how it stimulates your taste buds....or how pleasurable silk feels aginst the skin, so cool as it caresses the body....those are all sensual. When you learn to become more in tune with your sensuality, naturally it will enhance what happens in the bedroom.

I suggest to some to watch 9 1/2 weeks. It was much more than a movie based upon eroticism, it was about two people enjoying the pleasures that come by taste, smell, touch....and being in touch.

Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 14
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:07:30 PM
I disagree with you...
When I was was time for discovering my senses...touch...and taste...
Now...I know what works for me...

Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 15
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:09:21 AM
Well I know that my sex drive is wonderful at this age....better than when I was in my twenties! I would like both though....a companion long term with a very good sex life!
Joined: 2/15/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 6/1/2008 5:35:33 AM

I don't usually respond to items in the Forum let alone start a thread ....not very brave I guess but I just had to put this out there because it made me mad....

So far on POF I have only been responding to men who wrote to me but this morning I decided to pick a few myself and send an email. Most of the responses I received were very nice but I also recieved this from one man.

Only one man was able to get you so angry?
Such passion can only come from a such a sensual woman. Maybe you ought to write about the depth of your sensuality and prove your ready for the relationship of a lifetime.
I know there's plenty of men that will overlook your complaining and accept having 'sensuality' with you but for some men all they want is sensuality so make sure they want all of you and not just sensuality.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 19
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:01:43 AM
I honestly don't know why any man would want to have sex with me if a younger version, in the same general body build and health, were available and willing.

All the same, some men do. And some men keep coming back for more. Beats me.

They obviously see something in you that they haven't seen in a younger woman. Sometimes we are not even aware of our redeeming qualities, we tend to be our own worst crtitics.

Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 20
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:43:47 AM
First looks...the last and lasting...personality...
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 22
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:32:03 PM
RP ~~ lots of different senses besides vision. . . . And for all that "guys" are supposed to be only visual, it's just not true.

Besides, the dood in the OP wasn't talking sensuality: he was coding for sexuality. Which goes to show what *some* peeps know about anything, lol! I say, let him infest the young ladies, and leave the rest of us alone. . . . I, for one, have better thangs to worry about than fellas with fetishes.

Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 24
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:38:15 PM
Mae and Wooby are proof enough for this old duffer..

Sometimes its a look, sometimes it's as simple as a smile..a soft touch..

Some just reak with sensualality..
lucky in the man that realizes the true value an experieced woman posesses.


still fishin withe same pole and bait

Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 25
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:15:02 PM
Sometimes is only with me tonight...
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 27
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:14:47 PM
Dancing is always senses competition...

It is mine...
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 29
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:49:39 AM
guesswhoo's last line not only makes a lot of sense, but speaks to me of the value I put in my sensuality.

As far as sensuality....some of us got it...and some don't and the special people who come into our life will find that out when we let them

I, for one, find myself more in tune with my body, and far more sensual now in my 50s, than ever before. My sensual side is revealed only to those who have my heart and respect.

As much as I enjoy ice cream...a little cheesecake before or a nice addition!!!
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 6/3/2008 8:05:19 AM

As for objects of beauty, there is very little that can rival the ripe, but never-pregnant, female nude

What a load of hooey! Give me a voluptuous 45+ female who has known childbirth any day. Are telling me a naked 18 year old will beat out Nicollete Sheridan? Any of the Bond girls would get my attention quicker than a 20 year old, and they were all reasonably ripened. Honor Blackman? Give me a break!

Not only that, there is positively nothing more physically appealing to a man than a seriously pregnant woman.
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 31
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:15:19 AM
I was unable to "date" while in my 50's, I was married. Sensuality is a message telegraphed from one partner to another, if one or the other is unsure of what it is they want, then both will lose out.

Back into the dating scene for a little over 4 years now, and have met some very sensual women in their 50's, but they were not, at least as of yet, willing to risk being with someone in their 60's. On the other hand tho, some of the ladies in their 40's have been quite willing to extrapolate on a positive and transformed those unknown feelings into a cataclysmic aura of sheer delight for both of us!!

Each person will have a different outlook as to what they are anticipating from a relationship, we just have to be able to get up and apply ourselves. The majority of my "new friends" are in their 40's, so I have this age to draw upon for the extracurricular suppliments that we all need. There are some people who do not even know their own sensuality, let alone be able to express it!! Sensuality will eventually lead to sex, and d*mn good sex at that!!

Dancing is a great way to bring sensuality to a relationship, and the more capable you are at dancing with a good routine and proper movement, the more chances there are of each "letting loose". Watch Dancing with the Stars, and tell me there is no sensuality in dancing!! The better the dancer, the more sensual they are, that is one of the reasons I have taken dance lessons for the last 4 years!!
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/3/2008 9:57:49 AM
Another way of looking at this: men do not live as long as women, so women beyond childbearing years who are looking for a long term relationship might want to consider guys who are a few years younger. ..

I think men who only want women younger than themselves have ego issues, a need to feel superior.
Joined: 12/14/2007
Msg: 33
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:33:38 AM
Wow. This fellow is off base. And here I am on a quest to be photographed nude at 60 and I'm only 52! So that leave me a few years of being extremely active. I also love stilettos, sensuous men, and anything that doesn't bore me to tears. Obviously this guy has been picking up his women when the local "Women who don't want to live life anymore" meeting was let out. lol
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 34
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:05:30 PM
Bring you stilettos, I have TWO cameras!!
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 35
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/3/2008 8:55:03 PM
No. This fellow is mixing up sexual with sensual or you are. Sensual is about the five sesences. Sight, sound, taste, touch and hearing It is a compliment to sex. In my experience wimen in their fifties are very sensual and they are selective about their sexual behavior . I imagine he is saying " I like younger women because I feel like a hot fellow when I can get one in bed."
His loss. This fellow just wanted to "get laid" Give him a pass and take his comment with a big box of salt. He is not worth the energy. There are so many wonderfull men out there. Keep fishing.
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