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Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 3
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I work with a guy that had that problem due to meds. Turned out it can be an uncommon side effect of some meds and he was one of the unlucky ones affected. On the plus side he thought his wife enjoyed the super-extended sessions, but he had to see his doc about an Rx switch before it got to be a big problem for him.
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 6/18/2008 9:35:47 AM
Maybe he needs more mental stimulation then he is getting. I am not saying you are doing something wrong, but maybe HE hasn't communicated to YOU those freaky little things that he NEEDS to be able to have an orgasm. I used to have the same problem until I began to be honest with myself and my partner that I NEEDED something a whole lot more then just regular sex. Vanilla sex doesn't cut it for me, and my imagination/interest has to be involved in what I am doing or I can have a hard on all night and not be able to cum.
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:09:44 AM

try slamming it in a door if it's such a hassel......

Nooooooooooooo .... that hurt way too much last time!

she did everything but do chin ups off of it.

Who's bragging now? Tent pole anyone?
Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:08:52 PM
Normally its a non atraction thing in most cases. Speaking from my own sex. If i dont get hard its because im not attracted to the women. Put porn on that helps alot
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 6/21/2008 3:17:18 AM
If it's not a new problem it might just be that he doesn't respond well to penile stimulation. Some men respond better to stimulation of the prostate or scrotum. It's not unheard of for this to be the case. There's also the more basic issue of less... let's call it fine motor control during intercourse. During oral or manual stimulation there is a much greater potential for higher motor control skills simply based on the musculature.

Additionally, it's also possible that it's a prostate issue or retrograde-ejaculation. Seeing a doctor is probably a good idea since things like cancer or inflamation tend to be bad. Alternatively, most antidepressants mess with it (except for one I remember reading about that actually may have the opposite effect) come with a risk of lowering ejaculate produced and making arousal more difficult (or just making climax more difficult).

Again, I'd suggest seeing a doctor, they tend to know more about this sort of thing than people on dating sites as 5 AM.
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:27:51 AM
Pain Meds? There is your culrpit !!

Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 6/21/2008 12:28:31 PM

Maybe very low sperm production? The man needs to have sperm to come.

I don't know where you got your information from... but boy is *that* wrong!
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 6/21/2008 3:38:08 PM
Umm, sperm only makes up for less than 5% of the ejaculate. The rest of it is there to help the sperm survive in their preferred hostile environment (including protection, aiding in motion, and nutrition). People with vasectomies can still ejaculate they're just "shooting blanks."

Also, the refractory period has nothing to do with sperm. It's because of increased oxytocin in the blood stream causes desires to be protective and nonsexual (after climax, before it makes you want to mate) and prolactin which counters the dopamine neccesary for arousal.
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/21/2008 8:01:44 PM
Actually the seminal vessel produces around 50% of the ejaculate and the prostate 25% or so (thank you wiki), but wayward is absolutely right. See a urologist. Or a general practicioner. Or somebody. Doctors tend to be pretty good at the whole "medical" thing. It can be embarrasing, but think of it this way: over half of all ED cases aren't reported, most fatal complications in prostate or testicular cancer happen because thy were too embarrased to go to the doctor until too late, and many guys are scared of problems with their penis because they feel it underminds their masculinity. Do yourself a favor, be different: see a doctor.
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:00:42 AM

If he is not having orgasms at all, it could be something that he needs to see a doctor about. Can he ejaculate through masturbation?

I completely agree
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/8/2008 2:53:19 PM
Back in the 1980s, if memory serves, ED was demonstrated to be more than just a psychological problem. Since then, the primary focus for both treatment and research has actually been in Urology. I don't mean to underscore the psychological component (it is in fact almost always the first treatment a urologist recommends) but not looking into physical causes can be a very bad thing. I know it's probably more fun to talk to a doctor about your penis than it is to have one palpate the region, hook up electrodes, do an overnight study, or whatever they do to test for ED. However, this testing can help not only you, but also your therapist.

Also, think of it this way: which is worse an hour in the doc's office and a $15 copay or months of stress?
Joined: 1/12/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/5/2012 9:25:06 PM
#1 : Stress
#2 : Physical fitness - lack thereof
#3 : Physical over-stimulation
#4 : Mental under-stimulation
#5 : Depression
#6 : Medical - see a Urologist

Why does a man have cum every time he has sex? Do women always orgasm when having sex? What I've learnt in LTRs is if one has a good partner, s/he sometimes caters to your sexual needs, even if you can't be 100% mentally present, preoccupied, stressed.

I had an office job, sitting behind a desk for 10-12 hrs x 6 days, slowly my fitness declined, to a point where climbing 2 sets of stairs had me huffing and puffing. No probs getting it up, but no fireworks.

When having sex for the first time with a woman, I'm so preoccupied about pleasing her that I cannot orgasm.

Each time I couldn't cum, I still fully enjoyed the experience, the feeling of intercourse and knowing that you gave someone an orgasm. There would be moments where I was about to explode, but couldn't, but I can't deny that the feeling of orgasm wasn't there.
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/8/2012 7:43:37 PM
Too much jacking off can be the cause, vagina has a different feel than a death grip. I went for about 8 years without dating and multiple times getting myself off every day and when I met my next girlfriend it took me over a month of not getting myself off and to get to the point where I could get off inside her. I have went for 90 minutes and still not been able to get off because of this. I no longer masturbate at all and my girlfriend and I have sex every night even if it is only oral and now I can get off in about ten minutes from receiving oral and about 20-30 minutes from intercourse.
Joined: 8/10/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/9/2012 6:29:18 AM
i know for a fact if i masterbate just before i have sex i ejaculate but after that i can go for hours. Some times i can ejaculate a second time sometimes i cant I have dry orgasms during this time cause my body hasnt replentished my ejaculation. It still feels amazing for me and i havent got any complaints from woman yet.
Joined: 7/13/2010
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/9/2012 7:23:54 AM
I had the same issue with a chick I just wasn't that into. She was hot an all but I didn't really see a future so it took forever and sometimes not at all.
Joined: 6/21/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/9/2012 4:46:37 PM
this may be harsh to say but sometimes when a guy can get it hard but cant ejaculate the women tends to be a little loose for the guy and it takes awhile or maybe not at all.The man your dealing with might like the sensation so he does not admit he is not fully enjoying it or he wants to spare your feelings.
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/9/2012 4:54:18 PM
Diabetic medications or prozac,etc. can have this effect.
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/14/2012 3:23:13 AM
Could be that he's just into you and enjoys how much you get into it. He can cum if he wants too he just don't.
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